Should I be worried...?

I'm cap, and Ive been dating aqua guy for 4 months only...and things began to get really serious. Been introduced to his family, and everything...and then one day, he proposed. I mean like he popped the question. And my first thought was RUN...but I got it together,and told him how crazy that was. He didn't even want to wait a week, he wanted to head to the magistrate court and sign some papers. I mean its insane. He said he hates the fact that we have to put a time-clause for our happiness to begin...after trying to convince him, he finally accepted that we should take our time. He finally accepted that taking things slow wouldn't be bad. This man is ready for a lifetime commitment,and its been four months. He means what he says,and when he has a plan,he makes it happen. And he has been throwing around little hints of 'our future together' discussions here and there...but I didn't know he meant IT.

But nw....he is acting strange. As in strange. We went from talking everyday to a single good night text. He stopped calling me baby. He got the flu bug around this time so I thought maybe it was because of that...but now that he's better...nothing has improved. He's so distant...it scares me.

As an aqua, would you decide to break up with someone if you decided on a major step and that person just wasn't ready?? Even though you're both really young...
I know I hurt him,even though he denies it...but im just really scared that all this distance might mean he wants to let go.
We've both been busy with exams,so we won't get to see each other until monday.I just cant wait that long to get a clue as to what could be going on with him... :-/

did I ruin it?

"This man is ready for a lifetime commitment, and its been four months."

Wow! 0___0

I can't give you an Aqua perspective, but I can give you a general one. You absolutely didn't ruin anything. It wouldn't be fair for him to expect you to go through with that if you aren't ready (I thought Aquas were pretty good at understanding fairness). If he really loves you, he'll stay and wait for a time when you are ready. He's probably a bit hurt because it's rejection in a way. I would think if you give him some time and let him know you still love him, it should be okay. Don't feel bad or guilty about it.

did I ruin it?

Nope, he ruined it with his nonsensical behavior, no one can expect to marry a stranger, trust me, you don't want to deal with his bipolar behavior not now not ever, just be glad you had enough sense not to allow him to rush you into something you would have later regretted. If he's freezing you out to punish you then that's enough for you to know you absolutely did the right thing because who wants to be married to such an emotionally immature man, love doesn't hurt, give the silent treatment and if he truly loved you he would not treat you this way.

"...just be glad you had enough sense not to allow him to rush you into something you would have later regretted. If he's freezing you out to punish you then that's enough for you to know you absolutely did the right thing..."

^ I agree 100%

Wow, 4 months? He ruined it by acting like it was all or nothing. Assuming that he is hurt by what he sees as rejection. Maybe he would have treated you this way even after accepting his proposal. I have known a few Aqua men who run hot and cold; they get close then they back off or disappear...either way, hes just given you a glimpse into what life with will be like. RUN.

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"This man is ready for a lifetime commitment, and its been four months."

Wow! 0___0

I can't give you an Aqua perspective, but I can give you a general one. You absolutely didn't ruin anything. It wouldn't be fair for him to expect you to go through with that if you aren't ready (I thought Aquas were pretty good at understanding fairness). If he really loves you, he'll stay and wait for a time when you are ready. He's probably a bit hurt because it's rejection in a way. I would think if you give him some time and let him know you still love him, it should be okay. Don't feel bad or guilty about it.

Thanks alot guys. I really did feel guilty...and now I realise I did not have a reason to at all. but yeah,I gave him some time and so on, been a few days since we've talked for real. Met up for a chat today,and he's back to his old lovey dovey self 🙂...

My BF aqua said he knows we're meant to be after 1 month. We are 6 months together now and he says that still. however the first time he said it I told him he's rushing, that we don't know each other well etc. He stopped being pushy about - we're meant to be, but shows it to me everyday, he's more cautious with his enthusiasm because of me 🙂 So, no, you were right. Now he's sulky like a baby who didn't get his candy. He'll either get over it and return to being himself or... you don't need someone like that, who gives up easily 🙂

He just got carried away and now realized what an idiot he was so he toned it down. My Aqua hubby did the same thing. After three months , he proposed marriage, elope, all the plans in the future till I laughed and said "let's go with the flow" then it all dropped. He did all of that after a year and half and we both knew it was finally the right time. Not just a moment of passion ( his!). Another Aqua I dated asked me to be his girlfriend after meeting me for 30 minutes on the bus! After I said no , he was chasing after me for a year and then vanished from the earth after I rejected him again even though I asked to remain friends. Any way, I don't think you need to worry much because marriage needs two people so if you don't feel right then it isn't your fault. It's more likely that his "little weird head" got too many things at once any way and Aqua men are usually very excited about new things. They just want to "study" it immidiately or get it quickly. Only time will tell it will last or not. Now sit tight and have fun! 🙂

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He just got carried away and now realized what an idiot he was so he toned it down. My Aqua hubby did the same thing. After three months , he proposed marriage, elope, all the plans in the future till I laughed and said "let's go with the flow" then it all dropped. He did all of that after a year and half and we both knew it was finally the right time. Not just a moment of passion ( his!). Another Aqua I dated asked me to be his girlfriend after meeting me for 30 minutes on the bus! After I said no , he was chasing after me for a year and then vanished from the earth after I rejected him again even though I asked to remain friends. Any way, I don't think you need to worry much because marriage needs two people so if you don't feel right then it isn't your fault. It's more likely that his "little weird head" got too many things at once any way and Aqua men are usually very excited about new things. They just want to "study" it immidiately or get it quickly. Only time will tell it will last or not. Now sit tight and have fun! 🙂

hahahaha...30min on the bus. hahaha well,he's fast.lol
Thanks exam...exam??why is ur username exam??is it after the movie...cz it rocked! Anyways, ur right...only time will tell! Deep down...i miss my single free self...terribly. I know its been four months only,it feels like a year. I miss when i could just go off and do something without having to consider someone else...

How would an aqua react if I proposed a break...? For like a week...a dating hallpass? would it be such a bad thing...?

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He just got carried away and now realized what an idiot he was so he toned it down. My Aqua hubby did the same thing. After three months , he proposed marriage, elope, all the plans in the future till I laughed and said "let's go with the flow" then it all dropped. He did all of that after a year and half and we both knew it was finally the right time. Not just a moment of passion ( his!). Another Aqua I dated asked me to be his girlfriend after meeting me for 30 minutes on the bus! After I said no , he was chasing after me for a year and then vanished from the earth after I rejected him again even though I asked to remain friends. Any way, I don't think you need to worry much because marriage needs two people so if you don't feel right then it isn't your fault. It's more likely that his "little weird head" got too many things at once any way and Aqua men are usually very excited about new things. They just want to "study" it immidiately or get it quickly. Only time will tell it will last or not. Now sit tight and have fun! 🙂

hahahaha...30min on the bus. hahaha well,he's fast.lol
Thanks exam...exam??why is ur username exam??is it after the movie...cz it rocked! Anyways, ur right...only time will tell! Deep down...i miss my single free self...terribly. I know its been four months only,it feels like a year. I miss when i could just go off and do something without having to consider someone else...

How would an aqua react if I proposed a break...? For like a week...a dating hallpass? would it be such a bad thing...?

Do you want a hallpass to date other people? Or do you need space to think and contemplate?

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No,not to date other people...just,to flirt a little.lol

Yes you can but if you do get back together, he won't take you seriously and starts to do the these things to you. If you can let him "get back" at you then that should be fine. Maybe an open relationship? Fixed signs don't like to change so if they ever do, they stick with that "routine" for quite awhile.

PS: I joined the forum when I was having an exam 😄

Let him get back at me...?? No wayz...what? are u being serious...? and i'm a fixed sign...or is it cardinal?okay im lost. The last thing I want is an open relationship...

oh,okay.

i think wut's going on in his mind is that he's hurt n can't get over it. not saying he's right & not defending him, but i just think that's proly y he's acting like that. aquas r stubborn n can forgive situations but it's hard to forget n resume on like nothing happened. so yeah, i think he's still upset n will never get over it lol