Aquarius and Ex's as friends

So my best friend is a Capricorn, and she thinks that it is ABSURD that I am still friends with any of my ex's, people I used to date, etc. I don't see the issue in it mainly because once I'm really done, I'm done for good.

I can understand her concern on the "what if's" if feelings develop again, or if I get in a new relationship. But for me, I don't see the issue. The ex's seem to take more issue with my cold, detached, but always cordial behavior than I ever do with anything they do or say. Also, I've always been upfront with anyone I date that I do have male friends of this nature, and it's never been an issue. I've actually became really good friends with a couple of ex's.

So am I a typical Aquarius in this way or is she right? Should I cut these people off out cold? I'm an Aqua Sun/Pisces moon. That may make a difference somewhere in there...

I'm exactly the same!! I like being friends with them... when its over its totally over but I still like having them in my life... guess it is weird lol! People do say they cant believe how well I get on with my daughters dad who is a Leo. I never feel jealous when they start dating again.. always genuinely happy for them. I'm not sure why it happens but I can defo relate to what you have said lol!

I'm a cap and I'm friends with some of my exes. From YEARS ago.

*shrugs*

All very interesting views. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has friends as ex's. But she's also very emotionally detached. Doesn't like to show emotions. At. All.

She also thinks I should cut people off the minute everything isn't perfect while dating too. Which we also don't agree with. Lol.

But I can relate to aquamermaid in holding grudges. I used to be really bad at that and plotting revenge. Not so much anymore. Just let karma take care of those bastards.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I'm a Cap and, unless one of us supremely fucked up, I'd much prefer to remain friends. That may be my Aqua Venus talking tho.

I'm like this too. Oddly enough I'm a Cap Venus Aqua sun. Lol

I have two exes one is like family to me the other is dust.

The one who is like family to me is a cancerian and he always talks nostalgically to me about our past relationships and I feel that he still wants me mainly because he invites me on holidays with him but I'm dead on the inside towards him....TBH I don't really see the point in us knowing each other anymore, sure when I'm around him I laugh and love being in his company but I want him to move on and get himself a BF....I don't think hes capable of being just friends with me.

Posted by AquaMermaid
I'm not friends with any of my ex bfs. Reasons : 1. Too much history and emotional baggage 2. I hold grudges 3. I am married to a Scorpio man so either I can have the Scorpio or the ex. I can't have both. But to each their own.

+110000000


it's like constant reguritating. lol


my husband is super possessive, there isn't going to be any room for anyone but him.

That's interesting... my aquarius ex holds onto me. We clash and argue but he really wants me in his life. He annoys me so much sometimes, I try/attempt to cut him from my life and he changes from his 'laid-back, I dont care, aloof' attitude to this really caring and sweet guy that try's to reason with me to keep me in his life. Truth be told, I'm a scorpio and I still feel deeply for him.. the fact that he could just want me in his life as a permanent friend sucks, I don't usually keep my ex's around because I see no point in it. I do believe I'm the only ex he still has in his life... But yeah I don't know! :/

Posted by Scorpio579
That's interesting... my aquarius ex holds onto me. We clash and argue but he really wants me in his life. He annoys me so much sometimes, I try/attempt to cut him from my life and he changes from his 'laid-back, I dont care, aloof' attitude to this really caring and sweet guy that try's to reason with me to keep me in his life. Truth be told, I'm a scorpio and I still feel deeply for him.. the fact that he could just want me in his life as a permanent friend sucks, I don't usually keep my ex's around because I see no point in it. I do believe I'm the only ex he still has in his life... But yeah I don't know! :/

It's funny because my Leo ex and I are almost exactly like that. He can't seem to handle my aloof attitude and gets all in his feelings. So when I distance myself because I just don't want to deal with it, he insists we have to stay in contact. Matter of fact, as I type this I'm thinking maybe he should be cut off completely. Lol. That friendship is a lot of work....

Posted by thisismylife2015

Posted by Scorpio579
That's interesting... my aquarius ex holds onto me. We clash and argue but he really wants me in his life. He annoys me so much sometimes, I try/attempt to cut him from my life and he changes from his 'laid-back, I dont care, aloof' attitude to this really caring and sweet guy that try's to reason with me to keep me in his life. Truth be told, I'm a scorpio and I still feel deeply for him.. the fact that he could just want me in his life as a permanent friend sucks, I don't usually keep my ex's around because I see no point in it. I do believe I'm the only ex he still has in his life... But yeah I don't know! :/

It's funny because my Leo ex and I are almost exactly like that. He can't seem to handle my aloof attitude and gets all in his feelings. So when I distance myself because I just don't want to deal with it, he insists we have to stay in contact. Matter of fact, as I type this I'm thinking maybe he should be cut off completely. Lol. That friendship is a lot of work....

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Oh I feel all kinds of deep emotions towards him and his aloof behaviour but I don't show him even half of it! haha I'll tell him if he's annoying me enough but Im just friendly towards him 90% of the time 😉

Posted by thisismylife2015
So my best friend is a Capricorn, and she thinks that it is ABSURD that I am still friends with any of my ex's, people I used to date, etc. I don't see the issue in it mainly because once I'm really done, I'm done for good.

I can understand her concern on the "what if's" if feelings develop again, or if I get in a new relationship. But for me, I don't see the issue. The ex's seem to take more issue with my cold, detached, but always cordial behavior than I ever do with anything they do or say. Also, I've always been upfront with anyone I date that I do have male friends of this nature, and it's never been an issue. I've actually became really good friends with a couple of ex's.

So am I a typical Aquarius in this way or is she right? Should I cut these people off out cold? I'm an Aqua Sun/Pisces moon. That may make a difference somewhere in there...

Same placements, venus/mars both in pisces too. I'm currently friends with majority of my exs. You win some you lose some. I generally like a person for who they are though so even if it never worked out, there's no point throwing the friendship away.

I now see how having ex's in my life is just not beneficial for anything except conversation. We don't add anything to each other's lives anymore so they are better in that storybook you just don't open on the shelf anymore but simply just admire.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
I now see how having ex's in my life is just not beneficial for anything except conversation. We don't add anything to each other's lives anymore so they are better in that storybook you just don't open on the shelf anymore but simply just admire.

I've had a couple that were actually helpful friends. But now that I think about it, I've only actually initiated a friendship once, but that was moreso based on feelings and didn't end up working out, Just because of that reason. Every other friendship has been initiated by the guys. I just kind've went with it *shrugs*.