If I were him, I’d think you don’t like me. You’re the problem. The way you’re acting is cold. Get warmer. Show him you want him and sex.
Aquarius guy disappearing?
If your actions/attitude began to shift, why wouldn't his?
You've had opportunity to open up with him verbally about your take on that weekend. Why didn't you?
If you don't want him to get away, then you need to both talk about it. From where you were, where you are and where you want to be.
You've had opportunity to open up with him verbally about your take on that weekend. Why didn't you?
If you don't want him to get away, then you need to both talk about it. From where you were, where you are and where you want to be.
Posted by pinkbird03
If I were him, I’d think you don’t like me. You’re the problem. The way you’re acting is cold. Get warmer. Show him you want him and sex.
Well I’m thinking that’s part of the issue, I actually got annoyed at him bc HE doesn’t seem to want to have sex, but won’t give me a reason, which is frustrating.
Posted by sweetpea2977
If your actions/attitude began to shift, why wouldn't his?
You've had opportunity to open up with him verbally about your take on that weekend. Why didn't you?
If you don't want him to get away, then you need to both talk about it. From where you were, where you are and where you want to be.
Well I tried to open up the lines of communication and texted him after I hadn’t heard from him , and he seemed disinterested. I even invited him to something in my text and he declined saying he had work stuff . So I got discouraged from any discussions of the weekend or bringing up deeper issues .
Yea he’s backing off because he thinks you’re messing with his head. It’s like you’re mad because he’s not reading your mind...?
Aquas will walk away from games and BS, if he thinks youre acting cold or uninterested he will go away. Aquas will not be begging for anyone, esp not with a gemini moon lol
Aquarius think from the ground all the way to the tops of the mountains. By the time one sign tries to figure out the reason, aquarians have already surpassed that idea into a grander idea. Once they see the big picture, everything is inter connected and simplified. It requires every detail you had with him to give a good Aquarian answer.
As of now, with the post hidden. Id say what you think is the reason may not even be close to it at all. Its going to be a sum of events, feelings, situations. It could be part of it,but where is the rest? were the dates really that awesome? were the conversations stimulating? Have you been asking how his day is going or week? Is there anything in his personal life that is causing distance?
Aquarians, like myself, rarely ever think about other people for very long, what they did, said, meant etc. We are very reasonable, fair, but can be unreasonable with ourselves. As soon as an aquarian finds another person react unfairly to a situation inappropriately then we will see the sum of what you are made of and see if we will be okay with such a person. We will make our own decision and do what we want but without necessarily being rude about it to another. Of course, some people can aquarius or not.
For example: I went on 3 dates with a Capricorn, he of course got annoyed with me about certain mannerisms. However, HOW he handled himself is going to be gauged not by our values but by principles that govern us all (ethics) philosophy, etc. I understood and accepted that I made him feel a certain way, however I was only a trigger not the reason, not the cause. He got very short, very annoyed. My first thought is "No matter what, it shows his character, his core , his values, I'm never going to be okay with this indirect control, egotistic behavior, however I appreciate his honesty and see the value in a distant friendship" made that decision over the course of 2 months, being hot and cold through out as I was accessing him. Aquarians will be very stable with someone (friends, lovers, co workers , bosses) once we are out of the accessing phase . This phase is to see what others are made of without adding any of our own biases. We will see you for you. Over the course of 4 months, I've remained friendly with the guy, distant but friendly. I'll never ever forget what he said to me and I will NEVER give him any more of me. (not going into details). He said "why can't you be normal" when I jokingly said "after you" when he opened the door. He then said when I was trying to make things better , before I open my mouth, he said "Stop antagonizing me!!!", 1st date he held my arm so hard I had a bruise, he seemed controlling, but I asked him to clarify what he meant, he got all crazy on me. From all these examples of him, I can understand subjectively where we differ. However, at the end of the day, it is EVERYONE's duty to not project their shit onto others, to appropriately give the right response. If it was like 1 year of him telling me that these things bothers me, I can see the reaction and accept it. I cannot accept that he is controllling, dominating, blind to his own shit, and putting things on me. His inability to reason is the MAIN REASON he'll never get other parts of me.
Your quick annoyance for him wanting to have sex, assuming you guys dated awhile or if its first time he did this, will determine everything. If it was the first time, he mostly likely thinks you are overly reacting. Also, your reaction could set forth a deep thinking chain--> why would she get so annoyed? how did she become soo annoyed? what is she about? what did she go through in the past? or is it directly about me? if its about me, what have I done for her to think of me in this way?. Adding on his life situations, if he is stressed, now look at a bigger picture, he is thinking over and over and that IN ITSELF is stressful. He will conclude next thought---> "Is she worth my time? how well have we connected? is her annoyance just a fluke? or is it just ...fuck it. I'm actually quite annoyed at her, her ways, her stubborness, her unfairness. Nor are we at any phase to have a talk about these types of things"
Overall, by the time anyone realizes one thing, we have gone through several things to come to solution.
As of now, with the post hidden. Id say what you think is the reason may not even be close to it at all. Its going to be a sum of events, feelings, situations. It could be part of it,but where is the rest? were the dates really that awesome? were the conversations stimulating? Have you been asking how his day is going or week? Is there anything in his personal life that is causing distance?
Aquarians, like myself, rarely ever think about other people for very long, what they did, said, meant etc. We are very reasonable, fair, but can be unreasonable with ourselves. As soon as an aquarian finds another person react unfairly to a situation inappropriately then we will see the sum of what you are made of and see if we will be okay with such a person. We will make our own decision and do what we want but without necessarily being rude about it to another. Of course, some people can aquarius or not.
For example: I went on 3 dates with a Capricorn, he of course got annoyed with me about certain mannerisms. However, HOW he handled himself is going to be gauged not by our values but by principles that govern us all (ethics) philosophy, etc. I understood and accepted that I made him feel a certain way, however I was only a trigger not the reason, not the cause. He got very short, very annoyed. My first thought is "No matter what, it shows his character, his core , his values, I'm never going to be okay with this indirect control, egotistic behavior, however I appreciate his honesty and see the value in a distant friendship" made that decision over the course of 2 months, being hot and cold through out as I was accessing him. Aquarians will be very stable with someone (friends, lovers, co workers , bosses) once we are out of the accessing phase . This phase is to see what others are made of without adding any of our own biases. We will see you for you. Over the course of 4 months, I've remained friendly with the guy, distant but friendly. I'll never ever forget what he said to me and I will NEVER give him any more of me. (not going into details). He said "why can't you be normal" when I jokingly said "after you" when he opened the door. He then said when I was trying to make things better , before I open my mouth, he said "Stop antagonizing me!!!", 1st date he held my arm so hard I had a bruise, he seemed controlling, but I asked him to clarify what he meant, he got all crazy on me. From all these examples of him, I can understand subjectively where we differ. However, at the end of the day, it is EVERYONE's duty to not project their shit onto others, to appropriately give the right response. If it was like 1 year of him telling me that these things bothers me, I can see the reaction and accept it. I cannot accept that he is controllling, dominating, blind to his own shit, and putting things on me. His inability to reason is the MAIN REASON he'll never get other parts of me.
Your quick annoyance for him wanting to have sex, assuming you guys dated awhile or if its first time he did this, will determine everything. If it was the first time, he mostly likely thinks you are overly reacting. Also, your reaction could set forth a deep thinking chain--> why would she get so annoyed? how did she become soo annoyed? what is she about? what did she go through in the past? or is it directly about me? if its about me, what have I done for her to think of me in this way?. Adding on his life situations, if he is stressed, now look at a bigger picture, he is thinking over and over and that IN ITSELF is stressful. He will conclude next thought---> "Is she worth my time? how well have we connected? is her annoyance just a fluke? or is it just ...fuck it. I'm actually quite annoyed at her, her ways, her stubborness, her unfairness. Nor are we at any phase to have a talk about these types of things"
Overall, by the time anyone realizes one thing, we have gone through several things to come to solution.
You have to apologize and make amends completely.
a) tell a background that leads up to how you became so annoyed
b) assume the possibility, irregardless of intention, that you played a part in his distance. This validates his feelings.
c) express that you actually like him etc
Positive, negative, positive sentence structure.
We distance ourselves from people who are unable to accept us for us. Aquarians can accept everyone, still caring about them without losing ourselves in the process, we share a space with others. Others demand our space and demand that we be a certain way in their space. That in ITSELF doesn't follow in line with the philosophy/ spiritual ideologies. We aren't here to live up to others standards, we are here to live up to our own, to grow, to give and to push ourselves. Unfortunately, unless you make amends you will lose him forever.
a) tell a background that leads up to how you became so annoyed
b) assume the possibility, irregardless of intention, that you played a part in his distance. This validates his feelings.
c) express that you actually like him etc
Positive, negative, positive sentence structure.
We distance ourselves from people who are unable to accept us for us. Aquarians can accept everyone, still caring about them without losing ourselves in the process, we share a space with others. Others demand our space and demand that we be a certain way in their space. That in ITSELF doesn't follow in line with the philosophy/ spiritual ideologies. We aren't here to live up to others standards, we are here to live up to our own, to grow, to give and to push ourselves. Unfortunately, unless you make amends you will lose him forever.
Posted by candi3bb2
You have to apologize and make amends completely.
a) tell a background that leads up to how you became so annoyed
b) assume the possibility, irregardless of intention, that you played a part in his distance. This validates his feelings.
c) express that you actually like him etc
Positive, negative, positive sentence structure.
We distance ourselves from people who are unable to accept us for us. Aquarians can accept everyone, still caring about them without losing ourselves in the process, we share a space with others. Others demand our space and demand that we be a certain way in their space. That in ITSELF doesn't follow in line with the philosophy/ spiritual ideologies. We aren't here to live up to others standards, we are here to live up to our own, to grow, to give and to push ourselves. Unfortunately, unless you make amends you will lose him forever.
Thank you candi3bb2 for your response and thoughts. To give some more background we dated for 3 months, he seemed super interested and we had a good connection. He was avoiding getting intimate without giving me a reason, which was frustrating. And I think that contributed to me starting to act cold and disinterested. It was just a very overwhelming weekend as it was with his best friend and his best friend's entire family. I think I was expecting more one on one time but it ended up being 100% group setting entire time really. Then after the trip he texted me , I admit I was not very eager to respond as I was annoyed so I was a bit short. And then silence after, so I texted him and invited him out and he said he was busy with work etc. And so end of convo. And we haven't talked since.
Posted by candi3bb2
Aquarius think from the ground all the way to the tops of the mountains. By the time one sign tries to figure out the reason, aquarians have already surpassed that idea into a grander idea. Once they see the big picture, everything is inter connected and simplified. It requires every detail you had with him to give a good Aquarian answer.
As of now, with the post hidden. Id say what you think is the reason may not even be close to it at all. Its going to be a sum of events, feelings, situations. It could be part of it,but where is the rest? were the dates really that awesome? were the conversations stimulating? Have you been asking how his day is going or week? Is there anything in his personal life that is causing distance?
Aquarians, like myself, rarely ever think about other people for very long, what they did, said, meant etc. We are very reasonable, fair, but can be unreasonable with ourselves. As soon as an aquarian finds another person react unfairly to a situation inappropriately then we will see the sum of what you are made of and see if we will be okay with such a person. We will make our own decision and do what we want but without necessarily being rude about it to another. Of course, some people can aquarius or not.
For example: I went on 3 dates with a Capricorn, he of course got annoyed with me about certain mannerisms. However, HOW he handled himself is going to be gauged not by our values but by principles that govern us all (ethics) philosophy, etc. I understood and accepted that I made him feel a certain way, however I was only a trigger not the reason, not the cause. He got very short, very annoyed. My first thought is "No matter what, it shows his character, his core , his values, I'm never going to be okay with this indirect control, egotistic behavior, however I appreciate his honesty and see the value in a distant friendship" made that decision over the course of 2 months, being hot and cold through out as I was accessing him. Aquarians will be very stable with someone (friends, lovers, co workers , bosses) once we are out of the accessing phase . This phase is to see what others are made of without adding any of our own biases. We will see you for you. Over the course of 4 months, I've remained friendly with the guy, distant but friendly. I'll never ever forget what he said to me and I will NEVER give him any more of me. (not going into details). He said "why can't you be normal" when I jokingly said "after you" when he opened the door. He then said when I was trying to make things better , before I open my mouth, he said "Stop antagonizing me!!!", 1st date he held my arm so hard I had a bruise, he seemed controlling, but I asked him to clarify what he meant, he got all crazy on me. From all these examples of him, I can understand subjectively where we differ. However, at the end of the day, it is EVERYONE's duty to not project their shit onto others, to appropriately give the right response. If it was like 1 year of him telling me that these things bothers me, I can see the reaction and accept it. I cannot accept that he is controllling, dominating, blind to his own shit, and putting things on me. His inability to reason is the MAIN REASON he'll never get other parts of me.
Your quick annoyance for him wanting to have sex, assuming you guys dated awhile or if its first time he did this, will determine everything. If it was the first time, he mostly likely thinks you are overly reacting. Also, your reaction could set forth a deep thinking chain--> why would she get so annoyed? how did she become soo annoyed? what is she about? what did she go through in the past? or is it directly about me? if its about me, what have I done for her to think of me in this way?. Adding on his life situations, if he is stressed, now look at a bigger picture, he is thinking over and over and that IN ITSELF is stressful. He will conclude next thought---> "Is she worth my time? how well have we connected? is her annoyance just a fluke? or is it just ...fuck it. I'm actually quite annoyed at her, her ways, her stubborness, her unfairness. Nor are we at any phase to have a talk about these types of things"
Overall, by the time anyone realizes one thing, we have gone through several things to come to solution.
This is exactly process in which we analyze.
"It requires every detail you had with him to give a good Aquarian answer."
Exactly. This is something people need to realize in order for them to get a clear understanding.
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