Aquarius man lost interest...?

I started dating this Aquarius guy, born on 29th of January. We really connected on our first date (I slept with him, but it wasn't like that, you know? We really connected. We spent like 6 hours together before our first kiss and things just kind of escalated after that). We spent six hours TALKING. He told me about his growing up, how his parents were, asked me about mine, but it's kinda like he felt comfortable telling me those personal things, he doesn't seem like the type of person who shares a lot of personal stuff. I also reciprocated the information, but not too much. He was incredibly affectionate the next morning, showered me with kisses on my forehead, held me in my sleep, it was crazy.

He chased after me for 10 days after that to get me to go with him on a second date which I did. He's a doctor, so he doesn't have much time on his hands, but he would always text me throughout the day, fairly uninteresting things that I would respond to politely. Things about his day, mostly. For some reason I can't explain why, I started sexting him a while before our second date and he was very much into it.

(When I say we really connected I mean we like the same music, the same films, have the same sense of humor and basically the same background, btw)

Anyways, on our second date, I basically spent 400 bucks preparing for it. I bought this killer lingerie, lace blindfold, some massage oil, hot lube, flavored hot gel hahahah Anyway, I went totally freaky on him and I'm pretty sure I gave him the night of his life.

He was still very affectionate, very very very affectionate the next morning. Made me breakfast, held me, kissed me passionately, and all that jazz.
He went to the hospital to work and I went home.

The two dates I've gone with him were on the 21st of last month and on the 1st of this month, and he looks for reassurance before we part ways, he asks me "Did you like it?", when it's obvious I did.

I forgot one gstring at his house (I had brought some options with me) and once I realized it was missing, I texted him to see if he found it somewhere and he said he would look for it. Then he texted me he found it and put it away for me to pick up next time we saw each other again.

He messaged me considerably less the following week and I'd occasionally message him. Now I'm doing all the contacting, but he's not ignoring me he does respond to my messages right away, but I feel like he's avoiding seeing me. I get he is a doctor and his life is busy, but my intuition tells me he has been avoiding SEEING me, not talking to me.

So I took a trip to the beach with some friends and we are still contacting each other. I initiate conversation about random stuff, every 4 days or so, from some interesting thing I read, or some discussion about something I find interesting (and so does he), like religion, universe, etc and we talk, but he doesn't necessarily ask about me or how I've been or what I've been doing.

Anyway, he

*Anyway, he's like SUPER detached. I dropped in one conversation I'm going back to town, but I'm leaving at the end of the month again to travel, that if he wanted to meet me we could meet, and he told me that he was busy with the hospital and he had plans with friends for the next couple of weekends, that we could that we could perhaps meet during the week, but he couldn't tell me for sure when, until I got to town.

My question is: Why is he acting that way? Has he lost interest...?

I kind of thought we had something real going on, but I feel like he's pushing me away. He's not ignoring me, but he's definitely avoiding seeing me. There's always something going on with him and when he can meet me I'm travelling somewhere... It's confusing to say the least. But I'm sure he's pushing me away. What should I do?

*21st of august, *1st of september

He's been avoiding me for like a month, but talking to me whenever I talk to him and we talk for hours, but I'm the one doing all the contacting.

dont overthink it, he works at a hospital, don't listen to your female intuition because she's jaded and insecure he told you he will see you during the week, work with it if it's what you want!
try and remain secure and confident in yourself, go on your holiday and pay him no mind, when you get back all refreshed re establish but take it slowly for fucks sake,
Aquarian guys like chicks to fuck with them mentally, you need to build that shit up over time. Like sexting him dirty stuff at night and seeing him during the day like nothing happened kinda shit will drive him insane and he will Love it, we like multifaceted people, folk who have different sides to them....at this point you're showing him that you're a needy, cum hungry dick pig.....honestly lay off him and he'll wonder if you're using your sex toys on someone else and that might excite him more over time.

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I don't mean to come off as harsh it's just my opinion

Posted by oceanblue
*21st of august, *1st of september

He's been avoiding me for like a month, but talking to me whenever I talk to him and we talk for hours, but I'm the one doing all the contacting.

Ok what is your sign because you are really pushy, I have no concept of time, the Aquarin Vase should be pouring sand because time is always running out for Aquarians, a month for an Aquarian doctor would feel like a week.

Stop contacting as much. If you're doing all the contacting, then you're not giving him a chance to contact you.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
dont overthink it, he works at a hospital, don't listen to your female intuition because she's jaded and insecure he told you he will see you during the week, work with it if it's what you want!
try and remain secure and confident in yourself, go on your holiday and pay him no mind, when you get back all refreshed re establish but take it slowly for fucks sake,
Aquarian guys like chicks to fuck with them mentally, you need to build that shit up over time. Like sexting him dirty stuff at night and seeing him during the day like nothing happened kinda shit will drive him insane and he will Love it, we like multifaceted people, folk who have different sides to them....at this point you're showing him that you're a needy, cum hungry dick pig.....honestly lay off him and he'll wonder if you're using your sex toys on someone else and that might excite him more over time.

I

I don't mean to come off as harsh it's just my opinion

Being in a relationship with an aquarian, I agree. Be silly one day. Be serious the next. Be mysterious one day, open the next. Talk politics one day, celebrities the next. Be sexy one day, prudish the next. You get the drift. It's got to be sincere though, so if that is not your real personality, don't pretend - he'll see right through it.

Whatever you do, don't be clingy. Be independent. Be your own person. Have lots of fabulous activities going on. He needs to know you don't "need" him, but you want him.

And remember to seperate yourself from all the other women. Like Sugarfoot said, he's a doctor. Many women see that as a catch. Golddiggers chase him. So women are probably throwing themselves at him all the time. He'll want someone who's not the same as the rest. Someone who'd independent and can deal with his long hours and busy schedule, not someone who's sitting around waiting on him to make them happy.

Posted by AquaMermaid
What sign are you? Sleeping with him so soon is a bad idea!

My thoughts exactly ....

I just see aquas wanting something different any woman can pull their knickers down and shake their cakes and they see this ...

🙂

Posted by AquaMermaid

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by AquaMermaid
What sign are you? Sleeping with him so soon is a bad idea!

My thoughts exactly ....

I just see aquas wanting something different any woman can pull their knickers down and shake their cakes and they see this ...

🙂

Oh Tinxy, When will they learn? Smh

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Lol smh right back idk these women ey

Haha

10 years and he still hasn't seen my ankles

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Posted by MrMiyagi

Posted by AquaMermaid

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by AquaMermaid
What sign are you? Sleeping with him so soon is a bad idea!

My thoughts exactly ....

I just see aquas wanting something different any woman can pull their knickers down and shake their cakes and they see this ...

🙂

Oh Tinxy, When will they learn? Smh

Hey Hey hey !!! As a guy I disapprove 😉 !

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Of course you'd disapprove you're a man !!!!!

I doubt you'd marry a woman who is like that though

Be honest with yourself ....

Good Bye

Posted by MrMiyagi
And not all aqua guys believe in marriage. It depends . And no I m not going to judge you if i had sex with you on a first date. See there is another point of view as well like you were generous enough to have sex lol !!! Marriage for me is complex process. If i m going to spend rest of my life with then she needs to tick many check boxes. Yeah if she can make me happy and we are compatible then I m not going to judge some minor issues. See guys dont think about such details because I m not that perfect as well, I have got many flaws as well. See thats the good part of may be aqua bohemian nature

The situation with OP is that some Guys are lazy in a relationship.That aqua is used to getting so much for free that he assumes he doesnot have to reciprocate or initiate. And as a partner it feels worse to run the show alone.For women even more. The thing is may be he is not aware that a partner initiating every time sucks !!! But yes this topic has been brought frequently here

What Should you do ?

Educate that idiot in anyway possible. You can bring up about this topic subtly at least once in a conversation. If he still doesnot learn you have to be hard core and stop initiating him unless he does. If he takes like a month for you to contact then realize he may be like that in a relationship even in future . Then you can categorize that specimen as unevolved or player or user and move on to some guy with higher Emotional Intelligence .

I can see that.

My aqua has admitted he's lazy in relationships. I told him to imagine how he'd feel if he were the only one reaching out for hugs and affection and what would he think about that? Would he think I didn't care if I didn't reach out. He said he probably would and wouldn't like it. So, I said, well, that's how I feel sometimes. He's done much better.

It's not that AT ALL. I know he's not passing judgement, like some of you are. I just felt comfortable with him enough to have that sort of interaction with him. I can be prudish, but I wasn't prudish with him because I didn't feel like it. And what Truecap said is basically what I've been doing, but I haven't been giving much thought to doing it, like strategy, per se. For example: One message I sent him was an audio of "Instructions" by Neil Gaiman, because I really liked what I was reading and thought it was interesting enough that I shared it with him, he responded, but because I was travelling I only got to respond to the message about two days later and my response escalated to a discussion about atheism that lasted forever, then the next time we spoke I actually had a question about transsexualism, if it is mental health disorder as some would describe it and asked for his opinion and we debated for hours on the topic. It's just an example. I don't think I'm being needy at all. I go 4 to 7 days without contacting him and I only do it randomly and he acts receptive. I was wondering if he was over it and avoiding me because I like him, but I can totally move on, I just don't because I don't what's up with him to want to make this decision without giving much thought to it, because he's special to me.

I'm not losing sleep over it and it's definitely not stopping me from living my life! hahaha Neediness to me is asking about the person's day, what they have been up to, trying to talk to the person everyday, irrational displays of emotion.... I didn't think I was acting needy at all! haha but ok

Why are you guys talking about marriage? I don't want to marry him. I'm not even sure I want a relationship with the guy. I'm worried that he's pushing me away, because what I would really like to happen is to be friends with him and if he's pushing me away because of whatever, that would really suck because my only fear is of losing the chance of developing a friendship with someone I actually have many things in common with and get along so well.
And again, his parents are hippies, he doesn't really pass that judgement "because this chick is good in bed, she must be a ho". Other than that, I'm front South America, we roll differently than North America on the prudishness department hahahah

The thing that i am baffled is why wont he make time to spend with OP instead of accompanying his friends, this is not how the usual aqua male behavior is if he sincerely likes you. At this point its still too early to deduce, probably he is reassessing the relationship between you two (given that the pace is pretty quick...most that have a relationship with aquas take months or years to begin with because aqua male spend time analyzing the other half before making the move) & still have not arrived at a decision of what to do.

Actually sex is fine for aqua but remember what we are looking for are soul mates, who is willing to understand our world view & grow with us. In my opinion sex can be very intimate & great if done with great love without those fanciful stuff, just plain touch, gaze, affection or whisper really make us feel special.

I think everyone's just brainstorming here to help see what could be going on. Some comments/advice will fit, some won't. Take each comment with a grain of salt and apply what you think is appropriate for your situation.

And OP, Aqua men are sssslllllooooowwwwwwwww. So slow, that some women give up. It takes a lot of patience to be with an aqua and a lot of women don't have that. They like to build a solid base before moving on to the next level.

@truecap I have read many of your posts & enjoyed it throughly. Lol i actually want to award you a certificate for that because you understood us inside out! What you say is incredibly accurate, you have probably cracked the code of aqua males (arghhh we do love to remain mysterious its our hallmark of attraction so sometimes u gotta act dumb to let your man shine 😄)

Posted by Angmodurian
The thing that i am baffled is why wont he make time to spend with OP instead of accompanying his friends, this is not how the usual aqua male behavior is if he sincerely likes you. At this point its still too early to deduce, probably he is reassessing the relationship between you two (given that the pace is pretty quick...most that have a relationship with aquas take months or years to begin with because aqua male spend time analyzing the other half before making the move) & still have not arrived at a decision of what to do.

Actually sex is fine for aqua but remember what we are looking for are soul mates, who is willing to understand our world view & grow with us. In my opinion sex can be very intimate & great if done with great love without those fanciful stuff, just plain touch, gaze, affection or whisper really make us feel special.

The same thing that baffles you is the same thing that baffles me! haha If he didn't want me in his life, he would simply not even respond to my messages, right?

Posted by truecap
And OP, Aqua men are sssslllllooooowwwwwwwww. So slow, that some women give up. It takes a lot of patience to be with an aqua and a lot of women don't have that. They like to build a solid base before moving on to the next level.

Yeahh, I guess I'm patient enough, but if I like to be sure I'm being rejected, before I act on it. I don't spend that much energy on a person if I know they are not into it. I'd much rather channel it somewhere else. I just don't want to act that way not being sure and then have him thinking I don't give a sh*t.

Lol!!!

Thanks angmodurian. It helps that my aqua mars placement is strong. Plus, I paid attention on these boards when I first got with him and I'm actually one that took the advice to heart. Looking back, I realized the advice I got was extremely helpful.

And no, he doesn't know I've got him figured out. lol!

Posted by oceanblue

Posted by Angmodurian
The thing that i am baffled is why wont he make time to spend with OP instead of accompanying his friends, this is not how the usual aqua male behavior is if he sincerely likes you. At this point its still too early to deduce, probably he is reassessing the relationship between you two (given that the pace is pretty quick...most that have a relationship with aquas take months or years to begin with because aqua male spend time analyzing the other half before making the move) & still have not arrived at a decision of what to do.

Actually sex is fine for aqua but remember what we are looking for are soul mates, who is willing to understand our world view & grow with us. In my opinion sex can be very intimate & great if done with great love without those fanciful stuff, just plain touch, gaze, affection or whisper really make us feel special.

The same thing that baffles you is the same thing that baffles me! haha If he didn't want me in his life, he would simply not even respond to my messages, right?

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If they're coming around and they spend time with you, you're in like Flynn.

Posted by oceanblue

Posted by truecap
And OP, Aqua men are sssslllllooooowwwwwwwww. So slow, that some women give up. It takes a lot of patience to be with an aqua and a lot of women don't have that. They like to build a solid base before moving on to the next level.

Yeahh, I guess I'm patient enough, but if I like to be sure I'm being rejected, before I act on it. I don't spend that much energy on a person if I know they are not into it. I'd much rather channel it somewhere else. I just don't want to act that way not being sure and then have him thinking I don't give a sh*t.

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Stop analyzing and go with the flow. Let him set the pace. There is no way you can "push" or "direct" the relationship. If you push, they'll step back even further just to prove the point that they can't be pushed. I'm a cap and I had to learn this. lol!

Posted by truecap

Posted by oceanblue

Posted by truecap
And OP, Aqua men are sssslllllooooowwwwwwwww. So slow, that some women give up. It takes a lot of patience to be with an aqua and a lot of women don't have that. They like to build a solid base before moving on to the next level.

Yeahh, I guess I'm patient enough, but if I like to be sure I'm being rejected, before I act on it. I don't spend that much energy on a person if I know they are not into it. I'd much rather channel it somewhere else. I just don't want to act that way not being sure and then have him thinking I don't give a sh*t.

Stop analyzing and go with the flow. Let him set the pace. There is no way you can "push" or "direct" the relationship. If you push, they'll step back even further just to prove the point that they can't be pushed. I'm a cap and I had to learn this. lol!

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That's from one cardinal to another. 🙂

Posted by oceanblue
It's not that AT ALL. I know he's not passing judgement, like some of you are. I just felt comfortable with him enough to have that sort of interaction with him. I can be prudish, but I wasn't prudish with him because I didn't feel like it. And what Truecap said is basically what I've been doing, but I haven't been giving much thought to doing it, like strategy, per se. For example: One message I sent him was an audio of "Instructions" by Neil Gaiman, because I really liked what I was reading and thought it was interesting enough that I shared it with him, he responded, but because I was travelling I only got to respond to the message about two days later and my response escalated to a discussion about atheism that lasted forever, then the next time we spoke I actually had a question about transsexualism, if it is mental health disorder as some would describe it and asked for his opinion and we debated for hours on the topic. It's just an example. I don't think I'm being needy at all. I go 4 to 7 days without contacting him and I only do it randomly and he acts receptive. I was wondering if he was over it and avoiding me because I like him, but I can totally move on, I just don't because I don't what's up with him to want to make this decision without giving much thought to it, because he's special to me.

No ones passing judgement I was just doing the idiot humour thing.

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I don't think any aqua would answer to anyone's message if they didn't at least like them.

Aqua would just ignore and never answer a person they didn't like or wasn't interested in. And I know bc I've physically seen this with both male and female aquas

Look at the message pull a face and go about their day

😄

Posted by AquaMermaid

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by AquaMermaid

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by AquaMermaid
What sign are you? Sleeping with him so soon is a bad idea!

My thoughts exactly ....

I just see aquas wanting something different any woman can pull their knickers down and shake their cakes and they see this ...

🙂

Oh Tinxy, When will they learn? Smh

Lol smh right back idk these women ey

Haha

10 years and he still hasn't seen my ankles

😄

You guys were friends first right? It's understandable.

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I'm starting to see now that he never really saw me as a "friend" lol

Kinda angry about that it's kinda dishonest bc I treated him as my best friend
I even said "your like the sister I never had" lol
Never went down well

Hahaha

Posted by MrMiyagi
But truecap not all people are worth the advise. Remember pennystealer or.... who wanted to give rose to his guy and in the end send him picture of rose lol !

HAHAHAHAHA I just nearly choked on my tea


FFs u just killed it

Posted by MrMiyagi
But truecap not all people are worth the advise. Remember pennystealer or.... who wanted to give rose to his guy and in the end send him picture of rose lol !

Yeah, I remember. She wouldn't listen.

all of this on the 2nd date..im a woman and i would be dis-interested....lingerie on the 2nd date...? blasphemy?

avoiding you for a month..any man that has mind-blowing sex and though o fyou in a significant manner--- wouldn't avoid you for that long

There is no challenge here...your acting typical....so as a woman if a man did rose petals...wineeee....expensive dinner on the 2nd date massage oils..he would be "just a good time for me" like it wouldn't move me mentally....

he did everything the 2nd date....im not even interested in a 3rd date at this point...my mind would much rather someone a bit more mysterious and challenging..

initiating all communication...think about the way in which your serving yourself uo..its like your being super uber easy....he hasn't earned any of this let alone your time..

you think he earned $ 400 worth of items to prepare for sex...because what you had was just sex not love but just phucking.... due to you spending 6 hours together on the first date...

as a woman dealing with a man who had done this i would reply to the text just so i can keep said person around when and if I'm ready for that type of "date/session" again. I would then divert my attention to the man who is mysterious and is a bit more challenging mentally and physically...im not a jerk so i would reply to the text but I'm bored reading this and I'm a woman.

also 6 hours talking/engaging in communication is pretty standard on a date...your going about this all wrong...i hope it pans out of ryou but youdont start a relationship/friendship of any kind without the proper substance..there's no substance here..just a bunch of cumm and text messaging....



Anyways, on our second date, I basically spent 400 bucks preparing for it. I bought this killer lingerie, lace blindfold, some massage oil, hot lube, flavored hot gel hahahah Anyway, I went totally freaky on him and I'm pretty sure I gave him the night of his life.

Yeahhh, I'll take you guy's advice and just not worry about it. It actually does sound pretty logical I cease contact and if he doesn't come around to snoop why my attitude has changed, then he doesn't really care that much.
Though I feel kind of stupid for needing to hear that to actually convince myself that I should! hahaha

@ksamcancer My thoughts exactly! I thought it was Caitlyn Jenner too hahahah

Posted by Sugarfoot

Posted by oceanblue

Posted by truecap
And OP, Aqua men are sssslllllooooowwwwwwwww. So slow, that some women give up. It takes a lot of patience to be with an aqua and a lot of women don't have that. They like to build a solid base before moving on to the next level.

Yeahh, I guess I'm patient enough, but if I like to be sure I'm being rejected, before I act on it. I don't spend that much energy on a person if I know they are not into it. I'd much rather channel it somewhere else. I just don't want to act that way not being sure and then have him thinking I don't give a sh*t.

Truecap is right, give him some space. Wait and see if he contacts you. If he does or doesn't, you have your answer how he feels about you.

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As usual, I agree with Sugarfoot. 🙂

Posted by oceanblue
Yeahhh, I'll take you guy's advice and just not worry about it. It actually does sound pretty logical I cease contact and if he doesn't come around to snoop why my attitude has changed, then he doesn't really care that much.
Though I feel kind of stupid for needing to hear that to actually convince myself that I should! hahaha

@ksamcancer My thoughts exactly! I thought it was Caitlyn Jenner too hahahah

Eh well. Nothing to worry about really. Just chalk it up to a life lesson learned. We've all been there.

Posted by Tinxy

Posted by oceanblue
It's not that AT ALL. I know he's not passing judgement, like some of you are. I just felt comfortable with him enough to have that sort of interaction with him. I can be prudish, but I wasn't prudish with him because I didn't feel like it. And what Truecap said is basically what I've been doing, but I haven't been giving much thought to doing it, like strategy, per se. For example: One message I sent him was an audio of "Instructions" by Neil Gaiman, because I really liked what I was reading and thought it was interesting enough that I shared it with him, he responded, but because I was travelling I only got to respond to the message about two days later and my response escalated to a discussion about atheism that lasted forever, then the next time we spoke I actually had a question about transsexualism, if it is mental health disorder as some would describe it and asked for his opinion and we debated for hours on the topic. It's just an example. I don't think I'm being needy at all. I go 4 to 7 days without contacting him and I only do it randomly and he acts receptive. I was wondering if he was over it and avoiding me because I like him, but I can totally move on, I just don't because I don't what's up with him to want to make this decision without giving much thought to it, because he's special to me.

No ones passing judgement I was just doing the idiot humour thing.

🙂

I don't think any aqua would answer to anyone's message if they didn't at least like them.

Aqua would just ignore and never answer a person they didn't like or wasn't interested in. And I know bc I've physically seen this with both male and female aquas

Look at the message pull a face and go about their day

😄

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Yeah, my brother is an Aquarius (January 26th) and we have this very strong bond, but we hardly talk, but when I reach out it's like

"I miss youuuuu"

"I know you do, I'd miss myself too"

He's the sweetest jackass I know.

When my mom calls him, he's on the phone with her pretending to listen, but he's playing xbox while she complains about her life/pains, etc, and he just knows what to say, but he's not even paying attention, because he literally doesn't care enough to sympathize with her drama... I find it amusing haha

I can only imagine how he treats the people he actually doesn't like!

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Posted by MrMiyagi
imagine op cancer chick be like this !



Whose going slow on that one. Not me. I would do the same thing as Op aqua did.

Serious question: Is this caitlyn jenner?

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she has big bosoms.

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Posted by MrMiyagi
imagine op cancer chick be like this !



Whose going slow on that one. Not me. I would do the same thing as Op aqua did.

Serious question: Is this caitlyn jenner?

she has big bosoms.

In 2015, that is so deceptive lol

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thats why it's better to meet in person, face to face than photos. lol

😆 @ KSamCancer.