Aqua's and communication...

So, I'd like to know why Aqua's in the beginning are communication retards?? I remember mine hardly called unless he had something of value to say?

Then we get all serious and he is the one continously moaning that I never call him— Well, I'm not sure when I'm supposed to get the chance when he's the one who calls like 5-10 times a day!! I've hinted to him that I don't really takes calls when I'm at the office because I'm generally too busy but it goes in one ear and out the other.

I'm the type of person who will call, say what I have to and leave it at that. In fact I'd rather send an email, because then I can keep on doing what I have to do.
He on the other hand...in the year and some we've been together has emailed me all of about 5 times in total!!

Last night we never saw each other...he had a business thing at the office and I needed the time alone at home. Was actually looking forward to it....without any disturbance.
He called at 5pm, again at 6pm, again at 7pm, again at 8.30, again at 10.30 to say he's leaving the office and again at 11.15 to say that he was home safe. What could I possibly have to say since his last call an hour ago when I'm at home chilling—

Don't get me wrong I appreciate the constant "in-contact" thing, but don't understand how he goes from one extreme to the next?? Could it be that he actually misses me?? My heart, ahh, but how can it be that they go from being so aloof, so cold so distant to so in your face, warm and caring??

oh boy...I'm getting nervous! This is what I've noticed with my aqua, who went from one extreme to the next. Last week we saw eachother 4 times, at his insistence- but in the past I would hear from him maybe once or twice in a week if I was lucky. I rented a couple of movies with my aqua the other night, and when I left his place, I suggested he watch one of them and let me know how it was...(since we had just watched the other one together)...he said "no, I'll just wait for you so we can watch it together"...then the next day when I saw him at work, he mentioned that he was in the mood for a movie, but I wasn't planning on watching it with him because I had to get home after work to take care of my dog...so I texted him later that night, and said that if he was in a movie mood, not to feel bad and not to wait for me, and told him to please watch the movie...he texted me back "na, I think I'll just wait for you🙂" I know that doesn't seem like a big deal, but all of a sudden I caught this glimpse of neediness from him. I know it is mostly sweet and cute that he wants me there to watch this movie with him, but I also get the sense that when he wants me around, he wants me around- I could see that happening- especially after reading some of your posts LA. I know I'm probably over analyzing the future a bit- but it's not just from that one text message. I think these aqua males actually require a bit of attention though🙂

There are weeks you like attention and then there are weeks you dont. Simple.

hmm...makes sense LadyM

first of all, aquarians are total pyschos, i know because i am one. we like attention but only a certain kind, not too much of it and only at certain moments. we're hard to figure out because we tend to think that emotions are not as useful as reason even though we tend to be really emotional. what you're dealing with is someone who seems to be really into you. that's the other problem with us, the more we like you, the worse we are. i think you best bet is to let homeboy know that he's not making much sense, calling all the time and asking why you never call. let him know exactly what you need in terms of communication. "please don't stalk me at work. please give me a chance to call you." if you say it calmly and let him know exactly where you're coming from, that you're not angry but you are a little confused by his actions, it shouldn't be too hard for him to understand. it depends on other factors, moon and rising, but we can usually be perceptive...and be miss a lot at the same time. we're the ones that have to be told that our hair is on fire...but why? because we're watching a cute little bird. oh, cute birdy! we're nuts but we're fabulous and worth the effort if you're willing to put it out. if you're patient and honest, he will learn what you need and if he's really into you, he will do his best to give it to you.

"Be careful what you wish for...and what you criticize, because we never forget someone pointing out something to us that doesn't seem fair."



So true, he'll make it his mission never to come of needy again....as you know it would be extreme.

Not many people are always the same all the time, and if he's going through an attachment phase then there is probably a reason behind it. It seems you two have a push/pull relationship so you might want to look at yourself and try to understand why this show of intimacy is bothering you and why you want to pull away from it. Is it your natural inclination to bring balance to the relationship? As you two are opposites, this could be the case -

BIJOU - sometimes you makes serious sense....can I please have your number on speed dial??

It is a push/pull....I want him to do something, he does it I back off. I want him to want me, but the minute I sense neediness I get itchy. At the moment he's so needy it just isn't funny - but then again he lost a huge contract (millions involved) at work and has to retrench some of his staff, so perhaps he's just a little lost at the moment. I'm not nasty about it ever and would never humiliate him for being needy, I just...ah I don't know. Sometimes I like alone, quiet time. During this time even when my friends and family call I ignore it, but with him I can't because he starts freaking out if I haven't picked up by the second call or returned his call within 10 minutes. When my phone's off it's huge drama. So I take the calls so as not to upset him. But I do wish with him that I could just put my phone off every so often and that he'd understand.

"There are weeks you like attention and then there are weeks you dont. Simple."

That is sooo me, to the point i come off clingy sometimes but,. not in a negative way just more calling my scorp man sending more text and then he wonders if i'm okay because all of a sudden it stops for awhile. No love lost just the way it is for me.

Leoaqua, enjoy it while it last because he's going to change it up.

"Consistency is not our strong point."

haha def true, at times consistency is a bore.

umm, he loves you LOL. It's sooo obvious. That's the sorta thing I would do, don't ask questions about it.

Oh btw, you guys need to smoke pot together. xD bahaha

Oh, even if he DOES manage to explain why he's behaving a certain way, you're never gonna know the truth because in all probablity he may or may not know the truth himself. Words don't encompass what the mind feels completely, boo to za limitations 😢

So.....just enjoy 😉

Picture this: You're guy comes to you anddd......
*BUMP*- I need you, don't ignore me 😢 I'm just a child.

HUFF PUFF (running away) - IM GOOD, im happy, I need to see ze world.

BUMP- I need you more now that the shit outside scares me a bit

HUFF PUFF (panting)- OOH, THATS beautiful, i have to show leoaqua the stuff that i just found out or realized.

BUMP- I need you, check out what I found.... what? ur upset cuz I left? owwww *cuddle cuddle*

Huff PUFF etc. etc.

Get the frekin picture? This goes out to all the women, we need them so we can share 🙂

HUMPA HUMPAA HUMPAA HUMPAAA LETS ALL SING ZA HUMPAA SONG

HUMPA HUMPA HUMPA CHA LOOMPA
HUMPA HUMPA HOOOMPAAA CHA LOOMPA

LOLA LOLA LOLA LALALA lOLA LOLA LOLA LALALA
HOOMPA HOOMPA HOOOMPA CHA GRACHI LOOMPA

HOOCHAA HOOCHA CHOOOHAAAA
purrfect rhythm

Hmm, I spoke to my other aqua friend and explained to him what was happening and he said the same thing. We tried to analyze it a bit but couldn't (secret rule between 2 aquas- no self psycho analysis while ur with another aqua). So we were just like "hmmmm, oh well".

But its not just that leoaqua's friend, so I donno whats happening to us. I hate speaking in collective. But it might be a subtle planetary vibration and some people 'feel' it more than others. Just my 2 cents if that clears thing a bit.

PS: im not gonna edit the post but I just realized I typed "leoaqua's friend" instead of lover or whoever. hahaha friends FTW! Luuv my friends! saying the word "friend/s" and being with them is natural, love is unnatural but very special and distinct.

Aquadingdong— Are you stonned— Ha ha....tried it with him once but he falls asleep within seconds...literally. I get all the energy and he just falls asleep....the one time we did he almost drowned in the hot tub because he fell asleep and there I was holding his head above water whilst trying to get all 90kg's of him out! Needless to say I had no choice but to bring the dog basket over (they're large dogs) and drag him into there and put a blankie over him - ain't no way I was going to manage getting him up the stairs to bed! Or even onto the couch for that matter....we still laugh about it!

I do believe he's particularly needy at the moment with all the stress (business) going on. Sometimes he is just sooo emotional and sooo sensitive but doesnt' quite know how to be...so he does a little bit of attention seeking. Night before last I rubbed his hands and he fell asleep - slelpt right through till the morning (highly unusual for him to sleep a solid 6 hours!). So last night he says, see LA rubbing my hands made me sleep - all I need is some of your attention. Sometimes I do get carried away in my own world too busy worrying about MY job, MY friends, MY feelings that I forget about him and his LIFE. That's Leo for you.
He's just so bloody demanding about it....I love the childlike way in which he demands my attention (it's endearing) but still.
He called yesterday afternoon, asked if I was coming round after work. I said sure I finish at 3.30 (now he knows it's a good 30 minute drive from my office to his place). At 3.45 I got a call, are you coming or not because if you're not I'm going to go out and do my own thing. I said I'm on your road but do what you have to.
I pulled into the driveway and immediately he came out and apologised - said he didn't realise the time, it felt longer while he was waiting for me and he knows that usually I just leave him waiting, while I get carried away with other things. He made me mad but at least he apologised. He went shopping, had dinner and went back to his place. Couple of minutes later I stood up and said ok I need to go see to my dogs...he said but you're coming back— I said no it's a schlep, I'll see you tomorrow night and spend the night. He looked so rejected?? Was I wrong— 5 minutes after leaving his place I got a call, said he couldn't remember why he called...spoke some crap and then said oh yes now I remember I wanted to know if you got home safe (duh it takes a good 10 minutes!). So realising his mood, I sent him a lovely good night sms (not the usual night night sleep tight) and could tell by his reply that it had fixed any insecure feelings he was having....so the jist of what I'm trying to say is that this man, and perhaps many Aquas in general, do need attention from the ones they love. I suppose friends, casual flings etc. not so much but the ones they love are the ones they need.

We went shopping, had dinner etc.... sorry typo

I'm sitting here in some sort of weird and somewhat delighted shock to discover that this guy who works in my building, who I've been chatting up for awhile now (hey, he's been chatting me up!) is a LEO...and not a Scorpio, as I thought.

We went to lunch together today and talked about astrology (a little bit), and a bunch of other things. I had a great time!!

I thought he was a Scorpio because I misremembered a conversation we had...that, and he always seems to know when I'm upset or distracted and asks me if I'm okay.

Anyway, now i'm all "hmmmmm....leos"

It's a rather amazing duo Bijou....so much of everything...and so much learning!! oh and if you think the sex is good with the other signs...the Leo/Aqua match up...it's.....................sorry got a bit lost there....amazing!
Go for it! Keep us posted!

LeoAqua - you aren't going to believe this...

This Leo guy...has his moon in Aquarius.

Bijou - this sounds very promising...what's your moon—

My moon is in Aries.

Our charts are seriously compatible. Trines everywhere!!!

Bijou...sounds hot. I promise you...Leo with Aqua...you won't be sorry.

My Aqua is good...probably the best I've ever had. He's imaginative and generous and full of surprises....oh and kinky...in a way that makes you feel good not humiliated.

Well, back to the topic of Aquas and communication...I recently dated an Aquarius and when I would ask him something that required him delving into his feelings he said it felt like he was reaching into an unknown sea of ooze and he didn't quite know what he'd find when his hand came back up. It seems to me that he never could really tap into his feelings and communicate because he was so confused by it. Me being a gemini, I'm quick with words and expressing my feelings. In discussions, he said he at times felt like he was dealing with a well seasoned lawyer and he was this silly rooker who couldn't even get his notes together. To put it bluntly, he definitely felt inadequate in our discussions. It was strange, and it made him feel very uncomfortable. I never liked his lawyer analogies because I was just trying to open the lines of communication and he somehow saw it as a debate.

In the very distant past, I dated another Aquarius who didn't seem to have problems communicating. However, I don't know what the rest of his natal chart was like, so perhaps he had another aspect in his chart that allowed for better communication. He was also seriously crazy in other ways, and I don't lay that on him being an Aquarius...he just had issues.

Sometimes I just don't think he's well...in the head. I decided to do my own thing last night and told him to do his. He decided to call one of his mates over for a drink. I got carried away with what I was doing at home and never phone him...he also never phoned. Until 00.32 - a liddle plastered if you know what I'm saying.
Said that the dog (he's dogs are his children much like me) is upset because I'm not there (I have a special love for this dog as he has had many problems just like mine did and the dog seems to have mutual love for me - it's quite funny actually). Asked if I'd please sing to him (the dog has a party trick - he howls to the tune of Your Beuatiful by James Blunt). I ofcourse declined and told Aqua to sing to me....so he starts singing, I looooooooove you soooooooooo much but you don't love my dogs....ha ha I burst out laughing and hit record! He picked up that I was recording and the two of us laughed until we had no air left!
It's very inconsiderate calling me after midnight to tell me the dog misses me (my Aqua's indirect way of talking) and asking me to sing to the dog - but it warms the cockles of my soul too!
Either you have the sense of humour to deal with these people or you don't.