Like even when your lover needs u
aquas.why youre so detached sometimes?
Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs u
Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs uclick to expand
it's USUALLY because he's dominant air! Read up on AIR element online. He/She will detach because they are up in the clouds.
http://fight4satan666.webs.com/Elements.htm
The ability to be objective and detached
Jack of ALL trades, master of none.
People who LACK air have a hard time detaching and finding themselves TOO involved in others, they can be overly emotional and have VIOLENT reactions, lash out and have difficult time being objective.
Like even when your lover needs u
Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs u
hey is this a bot? anyway you didnt read the first one I posted:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/aquas-why-youre-so-detached-sometimes-3648939/?sort=desc
guess you didnt understand. But, to understand air, dominant air most especially it will HELP you learn about people and why they act the way they do. If you can deal with the unemotional detached attitude, then you will be able to cope with it better since you have chosen to be with that person in your life. If you still understand it and can't deal, then...well..you know what to do.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs u
hey is this a bot? anyway you didnt read the first one I posted:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/aquas-why-youre-so-detached-sometimes-3648939/?sort=desc
guess you didnt understand. But, to understand air, dominant air most especially it will HELP you learn about people and why they act the way they do. If you can deal with the unemotional detached attitude, then you will be able to cope with it better since you have chosen to be with that person in your life. If you still understand it and can't deal, then...well..you know what to do.click to expand
I got it. Thank you. I'm an Aries and I just broke up with an aqua because of this.
Posted by phoboPosted by lisabethur8Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs u
hey is this a bot? anyway you didnt read the first one I posted:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/aquas-why-youre-so-detached-sometimes-3648939/?sort=desc
guess you didnt understand. But, to understand air, dominant air most especially it will HELP you learn about people and why they act the way they do. If you can deal with the unemotional detached attitude, then you will be able to cope with it better since you have chosen to be with that person in your life. If you still understand it and can't deal, then...well..you know what to do.
I got it. Thank you. I'm an Aries and I just broke up with an aqua because of this.click to expand
You're very welcome. You can research more and more for yourself if you have the concentration. Or find another Air Sun sign with more responsibilities, stability and attention to you, and focuses on you when you NEED him. It might not be an Aqua, but another Air sun sign but check out WHY he makes you ANNOYED, why he keeps detaching /running away from you, not paying attention to your needs. It's also, simply put, he doesn't give you YOUR needs. Or just stay SINGLE until you find your man someday. Being single is better than being with someone who doesn't provide you your needs/wants/desires/love.
I am an Aries dating an Aqua. I don't know what your situation is but, the best advice that I was given by an Aqua male friend is to "hold on loosely". As an Aries, I am so used to be the independent one in the relationship. Being with someone more independent than I am can be challenging at times.
However, being solid with who you are as a person and valuing yourself can go a long way in dating anyone regardless of their sign. It's also important to know how you give and receive love. There is a book entitled "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and it really helped me a lot. Hugs to you.
However, being solid with who you are as a person and valuing yourself can go a long way in dating anyone regardless of their sign. It's also important to know how you give and receive love. There is a book entitled "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and it really helped me a lot. Hugs to you.
I dont think you'll get a clear answer to your question simply because I dont think most of us are aware of the detachment thing. Its just "us" being us. He may not see himself as being detached that I promise you. Well, to try to answer your question... Personally im self-sufficient emotionally, i dont need nobody's elbow to cry on and I expect the same from people around me otherwise i dont know what to do hence the so called detachment. Also the other thing, some things (other people's problems) may seem petty to me and i may not get why they get so het-up over something so blah and therefore ill act indifferent because im not about to give fake pity or support over something so meaningless in my eyes. Tbh most of the time im really blind to others feelings and i can only understand/see feelings throu myself- if it can hurt me then it can hurt others. If it doesnt hurt me, well... I expect you to be fine too.
This goes hand in hand with the other thread lol.
Did you tell him your problems or that you needed him or were you expecting him to just sort of know. God there could be a lot of different things. Maybe he just didn't really see you needed him if you weren't being upfront about it all. It migh tbe this neediness that is draining him emotionally and he's too nice to confront you about it so he disappears.
As unfair as this will sound now we all become very selfish when our own emotions are at stake, I'm a prime example of that. It's easy to think the other person simply doesn't care when in fact they probably care a lot. Thing is in these situations I often expect them to react or behave the way I expect them to, this idea in my head of what is right, inversely there are things that may prove they don't 'like' or love me but that's just it.
I know that doesn't make sense or seems like I cut the explanation off short but truthfully sometimes it's how I feel, there's no explanation and I just need to do it.
Did you tell him your problems or that you needed him or were you expecting him to just sort of know. God there could be a lot of different things. Maybe he just didn't really see you needed him if you weren't being upfront about it all. It migh tbe this neediness that is draining him emotionally and he's too nice to confront you about it so he disappears.
As unfair as this will sound now we all become very selfish when our own emotions are at stake, I'm a prime example of that. It's easy to think the other person simply doesn't care when in fact they probably care a lot. Thing is in these situations I often expect them to react or behave the way I expect them to, this idea in my head of what is right, inversely there are things that may prove they don't 'like' or love me but that's just it.
I know that doesn't make sense or seems like I cut the explanation off short but truthfully sometimes it's how I feel, there's no explanation and I just need to do it.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by phoboPosted by lisabethur8Posted by phobo
Like even when your lover needs u
hey is this a bot? anyway you didnt read the first one I posted:
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/aquas-why-youre-so-detached-sometimes-3648939/?sort=desc
guess you didnt understand. But, to understand air, dominant air most especially it will HELP you learn about people and why they act the way they do. If you can deal with the unemotional detached attitude, then you will be able to cope with it better since you have chosen to be with that person in your life. If you still understand it and can't deal, then...well..you know what to do.
I got it. Thank you. I'm an Aries and I just broke up with an aqua because of this.
You're very welcome. You can research more and more for yourself if you have the concentration. Or find another Air Sun sign with more responsibilities, stability and attention to you, and focuses on you when you NEED him. It might not be an Aqua, but another Air sun sign but check out WHY he makes you ANNOYED, why he keeps detaching /running away from you, not paying attention to your needs. It's also, simply put, he doesn't give you YOUR needs. Or just stay SINGLE until you find your man someday. Being single is better than being with someone who doesn't provide you your needs/wants/desires/love.click to expand
U think air sun sign is better for me than the others?
you really cant rely on a bunch of strangers on the net to tell or advice you who to fall in love with. I just mention air general but im sure its your feelings not ours.
Aquas will always want their "space". I've been with one 11 months now and I'm still getting used to it. If they do not get their space, they will detach. The trick is to allow them the space they need so they come to you instead of you going to them. Otherwise, "neediness" will cause them to detach. The more space you naturally allow them, the less they will feel they need it.
Just my opinion and what I have learned in the past year.
Just my opinion and what I have learned in the past year.
It boils down to how much they care. If they don't care that much, they can detach more, if they care a lot-- they detach less.
I remember one time my aqua and I were arguing first time I've ever seen him upset and he said some things that hurt but I deserved it. I was so shocked to hear him of all people to say those things and I started to cry. He stopped being angry at that point but he just sat there which I was also shocked by but I just assumed he didnt care about me but months later he was talking to someone about me. He told her that one of the hardest moments for him was when I was so upset I cried. He said it was so hard for him because he didnt know what to do
Hope that story helps
Hope that story helps
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