Can anyone give me advice regarding this Aqua guy?

Posted by ra3ch80
from the inside out.

So... starting with myself?

bump?

This is why I can't stand Librans, they are excruciating for aquas to deal with unless the aqua is a brain dead moron, sorry if I come off triggered it's just that my last ex is a Libran and what you mentioned is pretty much along the lines of what I find intolerable in future life partners.

The chemistry between the two of you, there doesn't seem to be any fire that's erupting your passion, no earth to build a future on or water to have an emotional bond.....You both seem like a bunch of airheads waiting for each other to make a move because neither of you have enough emotional connection between the two of you to know what the other person is feeling.

And this is what I find intolerable about Librans and I'm gonna tell you just like I told my ex a thousand times......Listen to what I tell you!!! don't just hear it but understand the concept, the bigger picture, everything!!!

He asked you a simple fucking request sweetheart just initiate!!! You said so yourself you only did it last year 6 times and only as a last resort....fast forward to 2017 we are in march now and you finally decided to initiate oh but wait! 9:30pm surprise surprise last resort yet again.....why don't you actually put some thought into spending quality time with him instead of expecting him to wine and dine you....Why not instead of feeling sorry for yourself (because he turned down your inconvenient last resort booty call) maybe actually realise "hey maybe I need to put more thought into planning a date with the man I love" is it really that hard to deduct? Is it not plain to see that yeh maybe he has grown cold from you and isn't making you a priority because he actually has some self respect and self worth and knows that if a woman he has known for 6 years can't even ask him out on a fucking date then maybe it's time to move on!

He's only human for fucks sake!

Are you seriously going to wait around for him to ask you to initiate again before you actually make a real attempt to??. It's like taking crazy pills with you people.

9:30pm? Because it suits you! Pitiful! At least have some decency to feel sorry for him instead of yourself...

If you were still hoping there was a chance you better pull your shit together and get with the program.

@The_eleventh_sign_11

Thank you so much for your response. Seriously, I needed to hear that. I've been a dumbass, getting in my head too much and just soooo scared of potential rejection that it prevents me from even sending a simple text message. I'm just constantly second-guessing like... even though he invited me over and we went out for a fancy dinner, does that really mean he likes me or was he just bored? Was he attracted to me? Etc. etc. Honestly, I think I am insecure but who isn't? I just allow my insecurities to dictate my actions.. and that is a major problem.

Yeah, now I really regret texting him last minute at 930 at night. I wish I didn't and had texted him early in the day asking if he wants to meet up sometime this week. Sigh. Usually when I ask him out last minute and he can't he will text me within a week or so.... So if I don't hear from him this week I'll ask him out again, and not last minute.

Thank you again for not holding back -- I mean it sincerely! I need a kick in the ass because I'm delusional for thinking I can sit back and put in zero effort and he will still keep coming around.

I'm not an Aqua so I'm just talking based on my little experience with one lol.... Sometimes I wish I can be a little bit like a libra.. just go with the flowwww but there's always a stop button... if you want him you need to take action.. based on my experience, even though they r stubborn nature they do like a woman that knows what she wants... say what you want. If you love him tell him.... whatever u r feeling communicate.... communication is everything to a relationship.... also vulneribility is strength !!!! Believed it or not my Aqua taught me that .. lol... he likes true honesty and bluntness he says.. almost like a nice bitch.... my libra girlfriend dating an Aqua is having similar problem, he's continuing dining and wining her but I truly doubt she's done much for him to make him invest in more from her.. sometimes I feel like she's only there to take from him... paying for all her nice meals and stuff ... she's my friend but I think it's a bit much as love shud b a two way street always !! also, Aqua don't normally chase for long I heard so it is time you do the work. Maybe he moved closer to be with you so here you go! This is your chance, you only live once..😉

@libragirl122

Please check the inbox that is attached to your profile. I have sent you a PM.

@saweetz1988 -- Thank you for commenting! I agree communication is important and that is my biggest flaw it seems. Same goes for vulnerability! And it definitely seems like Aquas do like bluntness and honesty... I guess I haven't been very honest about my feelings. I agree that I need to put in effort if I want to have a chance with him.

@compy -- thanks, I sent you one back!

@aquarius_beauty -- sorry I did not mean to offend. But if you look up the characteristics of an aqua male that's how people sometimes describe them. In my experience, it is true; but obviously it's not the case for everyone.

We don't have "bad history" per say -- the only bad thing that happened between us was when he asked me out and I said no... but that was about 12 years ago. I was a stupid 13 year old girl. And honestly I'm glad I said no because, had I said yes, we would have dated for a few months as typical high school relationships last and probably would have broken up for some dumb reason and never spoke again. I'm basing this off our maturity levels as 13 year olds and our ability to handle emotions and relationships. My maturity and ability levels were very low and I am in a much better position today as a 25 year old.

You're right -- I am not forthcoming with my feelings; but I don't think I am passive aggressive. I admit I have been cold in a sense towards him -- i.e. not showing interest. I do respond to any contact from him with enthusiasm and I always say yes if he asks me to hang out. I am not cold in person, I'm usually very friendly although I can be somewhat shy.

The truth is I was hurt by him in the past. That is why I am scared to be vulnerable. It was not a big deal, but I am a really sensitive person. It was stupid and I had no right to be mad -- basically he started dating someone at school about 4 years ago and I was a little hurt, although I had no right. We met and talked non-confrontationally. I basically told him I did have feelings for him, and I was admittedly sad he was dating someone else, but I also understood considering we couldn't date long distance and I of course had not previously been very forthcoming about my feelings. Anyway, that was over 4 years ago. His girlfriend turned out to be dangerous and abusive and they were only together for a few months. We started becoming friends again and have been for all these years now, but I am still nervous although I do trust him and I want to get over my fear of vulnerability.

Honestly though, if he wants nothing to do with me at this point I understand. If he is indifferent towards me, then I might as well cut my losses. Thanks for putting things into perspective. I think I will let him go.

U need to tell him how u feel .. u say u love him so tell him u love him .. u may not realize it but you're playing games