Can Aqua (men) handle blunt honesty? &Not get butthurt....'cause this one is annoying me....

There's this Aqua guy that was interested in me and I was interested in him too but then I started being around him and he started showing more and more of his character and I didn't like it. He's just not for me.

One big thing for me is: He's pretty unreliable and that's a no for me.

He caught my one hint.

Since he'll volunteer to work with me then disappear he's done this multiple times - and only with me. At one point when I first seen him walk up, noting that he was the one to volunteer with me that day, I told him right there "You can leave." and I said it very nicely. I think he caught the hint then because he never volunteered with me again. He clearly sees helping me as a lower priority and he is taking the spot from someone who actually wants to help. It's like... just leave.



But then he'll still try to talk to me when I am with someone else....and say for instance if he overhears I need little odds and ends he'll try to mini-volunteer. He'll try to make it his personal mission to get me a pen...a sheet of paper,,,,a tablet...

I just want to tell him to "Go away" and just let it all out.

Is it possible for that to happen and him just go away?

Or does that make a new mess..

My upfront honesty has gotten me into trouble in the past but this whole being "polite" and biting my tongue is literally making me grind my teeth.

Aquarius' boys are always late for everything. And I have noticed they tend to overbook themselves. Or rather just ditch to play video games. Lol

......So do they get hurt easily or no?

Sorry for not replying the right way. I'm on an aqua tangent for some reason.

I think it partially depends on his moon sign. I do think they could get offended, depending on what you're planning to say?

I don't think I could do it. I think just keep giving your hints and act cold. Or straight out just say what you've said on here

@clippityclop Everything is Aqua in his chart except for his moon- Virgo. & I'm telling him to Go away & basically he volunteers just to leave and I rather work with someone from the beginning that plans on staying even if that means me by myself. So he can stop doing that. Also, we don't have to talk when we see each other.

(He comes across as rude and I would rather not)

But like in a nicer way.

Lol @clippityclop Why couldn't you? People should treat others how they want to be treated.

Posted by Pearls
Lol @clippityclop Why couldn't you? People should treat others how they want to be treated.

I'm just very bad at those types of things. I wish I was more like that.

I think, moon being in Virgo, he won't be sensitive or butthurt. Aqua mixed with Virgo is some cold concoction! Lol

I think I would just say, "you come here, do minimal work, don't stay til the end. I rather work with someone who pulls their weight." Or something? A Virgo moon should get it lol

From my experience... Aquas are sensentive just like everyone else they just hide it better...they hate being "committed" to something even if they said they would do it...

As a cancer this gets hard for me too understand ..if I gave you my word I would be there I will...(even if its out of obligation)

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Posted by Pearls
Lol @clippityclop Why couldn't you? People should treat others how they want to be treated.

I'm just very bad at those types of things. I wish I was more like that.

I think, moon being in Virgo, he won't be sensitive or butthurt. Aqua mixed with Virgo is some cold concoction! Lol

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Aww you're so cute.

Every choice comes with it's own consequence.

I tried being honest in a nice way but that just creates fear in people. I got tired of that myself,,,I'm a Cancer I don't want to be feared.

I'm hoping he won't turn vindictive. That's the most annoying thing to me. Something I'm trying to avoid.

Posted by brandyp
You have to work with this guy, just be decent or avoid him.

This is me being decent.

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Posted by Pearls
Lol @clippityclop Why couldn't you? People should treat others how they want to be treated.

I'm just very bad at those types of things. I wish I was more like that.

I think, moon being in Virgo, he won't be sensitive or butthurt. Aqua mixed with Virgo is some cold concoction! Lol

Aww you're so cute.

Every choice comes with it's own consequence.

I tried being honest in a nice way but that just creates fear in people. I got tired of that myself,,,I'm a Cancer I don't want to be feared.

I'm hoping he won't turn vindictive. That's the most annoying thing to me. Something I'm trying to avoid.

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I'm a cancer as well!

I would worry of him becoming vindictive as well. It's hard to know what to do in these things. He must know you're growing sick of it though? How could he not? I wonder if he's trying to make it up to you but keeps effing up? Lol aquas are really bad at puncuality. My aqua ex used to call in to sick at work aaaalll the time, has been fired twice for it. My one aqua friend keeps getting laid off because of her extended liquid lunches, and another one has become a lazy dealer to help support his "band". ermagerd. I really have some weird aqua resentment right now. So i feel your pain.

Not that any of that has to do with punctuality ^^^

Just saying they're never on time, and on top of it are kind of lazed out. Well the ones i know anyway.

Posted by Cancan26
From my experience... Aquas are sensentive just like everyone else they just hide it better...they hate being "committed" to something even if they said they would do it...

As a cancer this gets hard for me too understand ..if I gave you my word I would be there I will...(even if its out of obligation)

Right! I can tell you has little hints of sensitivity peaks out sometimes but it's like how can you be so disrespectful? Even if you're really that absent-minded then maybe this is the place for you?

That's not for me to say, but what I can is, I don't want to be a casualty of that mess. I don't want to deal with it.

It must be the wishywashyness of their sign that grates on us cancers lol

Posted by clippityclop
I'm a cancer as well!

I would worry of him becoming vindictive as well. It's hard to know what to do in these things. He must know you're growing sick of it though? How could he not? I wonder if he's trying to make it up to you but keeps effing up? Lol aquas are really bad at puncuality. My aqua ex used to call in to sick at work aaaalll the time, has been fired twice for it. My one aqua friend keeps getting laid off because of her extended liquid lunches, and another one has become a lazy dealer to help support his "band". ermagerd. I really have some weird aqua resentment right now. So i feel your pain.

Lol

Yeah I it crossed my mind that he's trying to make up for it but still I'm trying not to assume what he's thinking. Lol I've dealt with Aquas before and I didn't have this problem...then again they were all other women. Still. I'm not trying to change him in any way but I don't want to be treated that way. So I see the best solution is leaving each other alone; Which shouldn't be a big problem since we don't really get along anyways. So it's like...no harm right? That's how I see it.

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Posted by brandyp
You have to work with this guy, just be decent or avoid him.

This is me being decent.

Okay than just avoid him. It's not a good idea to start problems where you work. You could get a bad reputation amoung other employees or even higher ups. No beuno.

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He comes up to me and I do ignore him otherwise and show definite body language that I don't want to talk to him.....I don't turn to him when he speaks to me/don't look at him. I'm just getting irritated at this pointed. He keeps coming that's why I asked is it possible for me to be upfront.

Posted by bumboklatt
Virgo Moon would definitely get butthurt and would never forget.

Just be direct with him, were not like Aries that just keeps chasing and blatantly avoids feedback

We are more like Leo that gets offended when someone doesn't want them around but we can understand different viewpoints

Uggghhhhh noooo...

I was hoping he'd be kind of like me.

Someone tells me leave them alone and I leave them alone.

I'm not mad at them but speak only we literally have to talk to one another.

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Virgo Moon would definitely get butthurt and would never forget.

Just be direct with him, were not like Aries that just keeps chasing and blatantly avoids feedback

We are more like Leo that gets offended when someone doesn't want them around but we can understand different viewpoints

Uggghhhhh noooo...

I was hoping he'd be kind of like me.

Someone tells me leave them alone and I leave them alone.

I'm not mad at them but speak only we literally have to talk to one another.

Were not good at picking up hints thats why were so socially awkward lol

just tell him directly but nicely of course

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Lol yeahhh. Right, thank you.

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Posted by clippityclop
I'm a cancer as well!

I would worry of him becoming vindictive as well. It's hard to know what to do in these things. He must know you're growing sick of it though? How could he not? I wonder if he's trying to make it up to you but keeps effing up? Lol aquas are really bad at puncuality. My aqua ex used to call in to sick at work aaaalll the time, has been fired twice for it. My one aqua friend keeps getting laid off because of her extended liquid lunches, and another one has become a lazy dealer to help support his "band". ermagerd. I really have some weird aqua resentment right now. So i feel your pain.

Lol

Yeah I it crossed my mind that he's trying to make up for it but still I'm trying not to assume what he's thinking. Lol I've dealt with Aquas before and I didn't have this problem...then again they were all other women. Still. I'm not trying to change him in any way but I don't want to be treated that way. So I see the best solution is leaving each other alone; Which shouldn't be a big problem since we don't really get along anyways. So it's like...no harm right? That's how I see it.

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Yeah. Well sounds like you've made up your mind. Good luck and keep us posted! Hopefully this goes over better than you think 🙂