Capricorn Men

I met this guy from an online dating site and he was too sexy to me. He has been a dream come true and a potential for me to talk to. I texted him the other night and at first he didn't text me back but he eventually he text back. So when text e back he ask me to tell him about myself and I asked him what do you want to know about me and he said everything. I said you asked me a question and I will answer so then he never responded back. So then I texted him again and asked him what happened he said I'm at the gym. I said okay. Then he asked me to send him some pics because he need to see who is talking to. I said the picture in my profile should be enough of a idea of who I am. He says sounds like a catfish to me. I said Ummm no catfish here sorry. I said How do I know if your catfishing me? He said because I sent you two pics to you already and I was like them can be photo shopped. He said you sound ifffy to me. I said honestly I don't like taking pics without my hair being done so if you can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. I asked him tell me what are you looking for? He said I'm not looking I'm living. Moral of the story is In just a one day text conversation it went from alot of anticipation to a huge let down for me. What advice or opinions can you guys provide base on this situation?

Over analyzing this

How about you two quit dickin around with the texts and photos and go on a harmless lunch date to see if you like each other. Be adults.

That was awkward.

When he said he was at the gym, that waa the hint he wasnt interested me thinks

Posted by Foreverloveme
Imo it seems you're being hesitant and not naturally taking the time to get to know him without expectation.

If someone not texting you back right away will be an issue then a cap isn't for you.

You should be able to tell someone new something about you without it being a specific question...idk just sounds like or comes off as uncertainty or insecurity.

Not saying this to be harse or sound judgemental. I just want to give my honest opinion as directly as possible hope you understand what I'm saying.

I thought that 2. Maybe she wanted him to take more charge of things but he was already not into it.

Capricorn men like confident women. Your texts sounded a little timid.

why don't you just PROVE to him then, jeeezzz....just go on web cam or go MEET UP. this baloney business with online dating only goes so far, when the FOCUS is to MEET up and then he will see with his own EYES that you are in the flesh what you look like, the good the bad the ugly.

all this diffulty baloney this and baloney that, just MEET!! problem solved. =D

Posted by Bsmurray
How about you two quit dickin around with the texts and photos and go on a harmless lunch date to see if you like each other. Be adults.

you were thinking the same thing!!!!

That was the reason why I flirted with him online in the first place. He then sent me his number to either text or call him I choose to text him first. I texted him thinking we are going to get to know each other but out the gate he wanted me to send him pics of how I looked and I told him the picture in my profile on the dating site is a real accurate picture of how I look. I told him that I didn't have anymore pictures to send to him at that moment and he said sounds like I'm catfishing him because I didn't have a right now picture to send to him. I then said that I wasn't catfishing him and I just didn't have any other pictures to send to him so then he was like I was iffy whatever that means. I then said and told him. Honestly! I don't like taking pictures when my hair isn't done and if he can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. Whatever that means. It seems that he wasn't or is not interested in me because I didn't send him any right now pics. That sucks! All in just a one day text conversation. Which is sad to me! Smh! I asked him what are you looking for? He replied he's not looking he's living. Whatever that means. I'm still willing to get to know more about him but if he's not interested in getting myself then I'm going to keep it moving. I texted him yesterday and said to him if he's not interested in getting to know me any further that I won't text him anymore or waste him his time. He never replied back so that pretty much sum ii up for me since I didn't get a response back. I just needed to get some feedback and opinions on this particular situation

Posted by mscoolchick36
That was the reason why I flirted with him online in the first place. He then sent me his number to either text or call him I choose to text him first. I texted him thinking we are going to get to know each other but out the gate he wanted me to send him pics of how I looked and I told him the picture in my profile on the dating site is a real accurate picture of how I look. I told him that I didn't have anymore pictures to send to him at that moment and he said sounds like I'm catfishing him because I didn't have a right now picture to send to him. I then said that I wasn't catfishing him and I just didn't have any other pictures to send to him so then he was like I was iffy whatever that means. I then said and told him. Honestly! I don't like taking pictures when my hair isn't done and if he can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. Whatever that means. It seems that he wasn't or is not interested in me because I didn't send him any right now pics. That sucks! All in just a one day text conversation. Which is sad to me! Smh! I asked him what are you looking for? He replied he's not looking he's living. Whatever that means. I'm still willing to get to know more about him but if he's not interested in getting myself then I'm going to keep it moving. I texted him yesterday and said to him if he's not interested in getting to know me any further that I won't text him anymore or waste him his time. He never replied back so that pretty much sum ii up for me since I didn't get a response back. I just needed to get some feedback and opinions on this particular situation

you keep talking and talking and NO SHOWY, just SHOW him your face in MEETING. id get annoyed at your no walk and all talk to be very honest.

Millenial first world problems

I'm not going to keep texting him and he's not responding back to me. That's just being desperate and I'm not desperate at all. They should clearly means he's not interested in me. Don't you think?!!?

I felt like despite me not having a right now picture to him that doesn't mean I was catfishing him. How was the second text message unnecessary?

Posted by mscoolchick36
That was the reason why I flirted with him online in the first place. He then sent me his number to either text or call him I choose to text him first. I texted him thinking we are going to get to know each other but out the gate he wanted me to send him pics of how I looked and I told him the picture in my profile on the dating site is a real accurate picture of how I look. I told him that I didn't have anymore pictures to send to him at that moment and he said sounds like I'm catfishing him because I didn't have a right now picture to send to him. I then said that I wasn't catfishing him and I just didn't have any other pictures to send to him so then he was like I was iffy whatever that means. I then said and told him. Honestly! I don't like taking pictures when my hair isn't done and if he can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. Whatever that means. It seems that he wasn't or is not interested in me because I didn't send him any right now pics. That sucks! All in just a one day text conversation. Which is sad to me! Smh! I asked him what are you looking for? He replied he's not looking he's living. Whatever that means. I'm still willing to get to know more about him but if he's not interested in getting myself then I'm going to keep it moving. I texted him yesterday and said to him if he's not interested in getting to know me any further that I won't text him anymore or waste him his time. He never replied back so that pretty much sum ii up for me since I didn't get a response back. I just needed to get some feedback and opinions on this particular situation

Actually you did sound like a catfish. Most people have tons of pictures in their phone, so your excuse is hard to buy.

what's wrong with...

"Hey, whatcha doing tomorrow?? or this coming weekend if you're not working?"

"let's MEET UP!" ASAP!!

"I don't want to waste any more time okay?? I want to see for myself if our chemistry is TOPS. cause if not, I 'm gonna go on the next dating spree on that dating site cause I paid GOOD money for that dating site, and my profile to be up so I can meet the TOP guys there, who are looking for MARRIAGE"

"Yes. I am looking for LONG term marriage, and I want to get married in a CHURCH. I'm religious see?? And I want to meet your family FIRST and we can plan our marriage and then plan what your INCOME is like, and mine and we shall POOL together what we can to get a place of our own to live together AFTER we marry okay? I plan on sleeping together and I want you to be with me all the time, and don't have many friends ok?? This is MARRIAGE."

.....

*click*

somehow the guy on the other side has left the building when they heard marriage. lol

"OH and I want to see DICK pics.

😆


cause what if his dick is small and tiny.

"Well if your dick is small, but your INCOME Is HUGE...we can work something out."

😆 😆



edit - im teasing. heehee.

in all honesty, it's better to SEE and FEEL for yourself the REAL stuff. 😄 😄 😄

if it's too crooked, it might be a problem

😆

I didn't think on the first day of texting each other that he would make a big deal on pics —?? I have 3 different pics online on my profile so it's not like I didn't have any pics up at all. I specifically told him I don't like taking pics when my hair is not done and if he can't accept that then it is what it is. If I was to send a pic of myself with my hair looking crazy all over my head I highly doubt that he would want to talk nor would be interested in period. Why would he think I would catfish him —?? I wouldn't dare want somebody to catfish me.

He lives in another state so it is not easy just to meet in person right away. I ain't gone even lie he look too damn sexy for me to just easily move on to the next person. To me he seem very arrogant over just one text message conversation. I don't deal with arrogant men period. I feel just like this if he really want to get to know me and still interested in knowing more about me he know my number if not he missing out on a good person.

The reason why I texted him and said that to him about if he's not interested then I won't text him anymore is because to let him know I'm still interested to know more about him but all at the same time I'm not going to be chasing after you to keep his attention. If he wants to get to know more about me he has to let me know that he's interested in me also not just me texting him every time.

I do have confidence in myself no doubt about that. Yes he gave me his number in all but I don't think he was that interested in me because if he was then he would still be texting me right now. So he lost interest in me that quick in a one day text message —?? Really —? I could see if I waited to send him a picture weeks and weeks later then yeah I would definitely see him losing interest with the quickness. I absolutely thought he was being arrogant even through a text message because when I was ask him "What are you looking for"? He replied I'm not looking I'm living. What the hell that supposed to mean —? What kind of answer is that? That's being straight arrogant to me. He could of thought of any other answer than that. I'm trying to get to know him and he lightweight blowing me off.

I'm not insecure at all. It just I felt the need to text him to let him know that if he is not interested in getting to know me then I will be gladly not text you anymore just to put a bug in his ear that I'm not going to chase you by continuing to text you to keep your attention flat out. If he really wants to pursue me then he knows my number to text me. I have zero tolerance to be texting a guy and he is not interested in texting me back or even texting/calling me at all.

I'm not insecure at all. It just that I texted him to let him know if he's not interested in me just let me know and I won't text him ever again flat out. I just wanted to put a bug in his ear to let him know I'm not going to keep texting you and your not texting me back. I'm not going to chase after you either. If he really wants to pursue me then he would have texted me back by now. Some men's want a woman to chase after them and I'm not that woman. I don't want him chasing me either. All I want is for him to at least show interest that you really want to know more about me by texting or calling me everyday at least. He didn't do that.

You couldn't answer a question as simple as "tell me about yourself"

but yet you wanted him to answer your question about what he's looking for in a mate. Sounds a bit selfish.

You sound difficult. I probably wouldn't have continued talking to you either.

I never said that I didn't answer his question about tell me about yourself. He asked me tell me about yourself and I replied what do you want to know about me? He said everything" —? I replied asked me a specific a question and I'll answered it . How is that being difficult ——??

Wow Caps se

Posted by Foreverloveme
I'm not saying you did anything wrong as long as you're being true to yourself & who you are that's all that matters.

You asked for opinions so I'm trying to help you understand Capricorns in general better...we're not that sign that you want us to be. We don't call/text all day every day. That's why I said if that's what you want or are expecting, you won't get it from him. This is the 2nd or 3rd day we just don't interact & communicate like that & it seems like communication will be an issue with misunderstandings & frequency.

not a cap but I have cap...

and i'd rather see WALK the walk than all this talk.

it's so boring and ridiculous.

I never did any online dating in my entire life, all my ex's I've met in real life.

one was at work but we didn't work in the same department. he was actually just there to work on a project and then he moved to another company when he decided to go out with me.

my first husband was at school. lol

2rd ex was at work again, I was a teenaged waitress, my first husband was already in prison, and we broke up. so the 2nd ex came in to ORDER something. lol

so two at work, but they didn't work there... but it was STILL work on MY time (although I was on a break)

and the 1st one was at school. so funny!!!!


but seeing as this is online and so many dating sites, I bet it sucks for lots of people, cause they are playing too many games.

just go and meet them!!!

all these guys were all meeting at work, even though they didn't work there. soooooo interesting!!!

I should make a topic on how did you meet your ex's?? 😆 😄 😄

Posted by mscoolchick36
I met this guy from an online dating site and he was too sexy to me. He has been a dream come true and a potential for me to talk to. I texted him the other night and at first he didn't text me back but he eventually he text back. So when text e back he ask me to tell him about myself and I asked him what do you want to know about me and he said everything. I said you asked me a question and I will answer so then he never responded back. So then I texted him again and asked him what happened he said I'm at the gym. I said okay. Then he asked me to send him some pics because he need to see who is talking to. I said the picture in my profile should be enough of a idea of who I am. He says sounds like a catfish to me. I said Ummm no catfish here sorry. I said How do I know if your catfishing me? He said because I sent you two pics to you already and I was like them can be photo shopped. He said you sound ifffy to me. I said honestly I don't like taking pics without my hair being done so if you can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. I asked him tell me what are you looking for? He said I'm not looking I'm living. Moral of the story is In just a one day text conversation it went from alot of anticipation to a huge let down for me. What advice or opinions can you guys provide base on this situation?

Lots of people swap pics right away, lots are looking for physical impression through pics and conversations. If you don't send a pic you get nothing, if you have pics and aren't the type no matter what conversations you have in 2 days it stops. Everyone knows online what they want.

When people say I'm at the gym, that's awesome I need a guy in shape and he does to.

If he said swap pics because of catfishing it is so important you do. He must of been catfish ed and so have I.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Posted by mscoolchick36
I met this guy from an online dating site and he was too sexy to me. He has been a dream come true and a potential for me to talk to. I texted him the other night and at first he didn't text me back but he eventually he text back. So when text e back he ask me to tell him about myself and I asked him what do you want to know about me and he said everything. I said you asked me a question and I will answer so then he never responded back. So then I texted him again and asked him what happened he said I'm at the gym. I said okay. Then he asked me to send him some pics because he need to see who is talking to. I said the picture in my profile should be enough of a idea of who I am. He says sounds like a catfish to me. I said Ummm no catfish here sorry. I said How do I know if your catfishing me? He said because I sent you two pics to you already and I was like them can be photo shopped. He said you sound ifffy to me. I said honestly I don't like taking pics without my hair being done so if you can't accept that then it is what it is. He said I feel you. I asked him tell me what are you looking for? He said I'm not looking I'm living. Moral of the story is In just a one day text conversation it went from alot of anticipation to a huge let down for me. What advice or opinions can you guys provide base on this situation?

Lots of people swap pics right away, lots are looking for physical impression through pics and conversations. If you don't send a pic you get nothing, if you have pics and aren't the type no matter what conversations you have in 2 days it stops. Everyone knows online what they want.

When people say I'm at the gym, that's awesome I need a guy in shape and he does to.

If he said swap pics because of catfishing it is so important you do. He must of been catfish ed and so have I.

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that's another great way to meet a guy for single ladies, not always on the online dating site!!

go to the gym and if these guys are REGULARS, they are sure to make a planned work out session with you,

Posted by mscoolchick36
Yes he gave me his number in all but I don't think he was that interested i

That scenario is in the book and movie He's Just Not That Into You.

According to the book, if he gives you his number, he's not all that interested. Otherwise he would ask you for your number.

Posted by mscoolchick36
I didn't think on the first day of texting each other that he would make a big deal on pics —?? I have 3 different pics online on my profile so it's not like I didn't have any pics up at all. I specifically told him I don't like taking pics when my hair is not done and if he can't accept that then it is what it is. If I was to send a pic of myself with my hair looking crazy all over my head I highly doubt that he would want to talk nor would be interested in period. Why would he think I would catfish him —?? I wouldn't dare want somebody to catfish me.

Instead of refusing, you could have responded such as, "I'll send you some tomorrow" or tell him "give me a little time and I'll send you some" then you can get dressed and fix your hair. Voila! Pictures. flat out refusing was weird and gave bad vibes.

Okay yeah I could have said that. I just didn't want him to think that I was catfishing him because that wasn't the case at all. I just thought he made a big deal about me sending him pics on the first day of texting each other. I don't think that it was weird or gave bad vibes at all. I just think that if he thought that I was catfishing him why would he give me his number or even gave me the time of day —??

Even if I gave him my number it wouldn't have made a difference or mattered because he showed little interest in getting to know more about me he was so into me sending him pics over getting to know me. He never told me anything about him at all. That's suspicious to me. I was about to ask him tell me about hisself but he was so hung up on me sending pics so at the point I was kinda losing interest myself.

Yes your absolutely right and my point exactly. Yes he must of gotten catfish before or a few times to make him act like that. I never got catfish before and don't want to ever experience catfish.Just because he has gotten catfished a few times or once before doesn't mean every woman online is like that. I'm very cautions of who I meet offline. Prime example: I just talked to another guy on the same dating website last night matter of fact and he never once asked me to send him some pics of me at all. We were having a conversation and getting to know more about each other like we were supposed to and he never once asked me about sending pics because he was confident that I am the woman on that picture on my profile. That's how it is supposed to be. No pressure or nothing. What's the difference in that scenario ——

Why he couldn't he have said "I'm not interested "when I left him a message in his inbox online —? He had every chance to tell me instead of him giving me his number. Why would I give him my number if I know that I'm not interested in him or he is not my type —? That would be a waste of time and energy. Like I said he showed little interest through just 1 text message conversation. He never told me about him period. I'm starting to think he was jerking me around just because. Who does that ?!—?? I just talked to another guy through the same dating website and he never once asked me to send him any pics of me just to see if I'm actually a woman. We was talking getting to know each other like we was supposed to do. It was no pressure or anything. He said he believed and had confidence that I was actually a woman. It WS just that particular Cap guy who was playing head games. In my opinion.

Yup I will

Kids...there is no substance in op. 😢

There's nothing more I HATE than when people assume you are a catfish just because you met online. FUCK

Yes I most definitely want a man to lead only if he is interested in pursuing you more. Yes you took the words out ta my mouth. Why would someone think your a catfish just because you met online —?? I mean really —??