Decode this aqua

For many months of meeting him, he was friendly, communicative and always texted me, replied (well mostly) and was keen on meeting and actually went through with plans despite occasional cancellations, last minute delays etc...He even occasionally sent "thinking about you.." which i never responded to out of caution.

Then, after sleeping with him...

Everything changed. The 3 weeks after the deed, he became distant, less communicative, hardly replies and seems to be more reticent. So I assumed that I had been "used". I felt stupid but I didnt give up and continued to text him occasionally, he'd sometimes reply and we'd initiate some conversation but then it would die.
Then around the 4th week during the weekend he sent me a random text asking if i wanted to meet. I replied and..no response.
I then asked if he was busy to meet on the 5th week and he replied and said that he was "unfortunately very busy with work". 3 days later, on the spur of the moment I texted him and opened up abit "i miss you...". I didn't expect a reply and ofcourse....no response.
During the weekend I got the random text again "are you out, shall we meet?" and texted back and then...no response
Then the next week I texted him and asked whether he was busy and he said that he "would let me know". I reacted and texted him back "well let me know in advance as i might have other things to do". 2 days later he asked whether i wanted to meet on sunday. I responded but then there was no reply and my plans got thwarted beecause of expectations of meeting him.
By the 7th week it seems like hes been making up excuses not to meet me, but yet why does he continue to send me drunken or perhaps sober texts during the weekend and then simply not go through with these plans..?
A few days ago he texted me and asked "hey how are you doing. sorry i missed your call, yesterday. i fell asleep. what are you doing?". I honestly did not call him and when i actually did call him once (about 3 weeks ago he did not answer nor bother texting to apologise so i was confused..). "i didnt call you. i'll be busy these few days. ive got work to do". He immediately replied (which is strange for him since he usually takes a couple hours if its something thats not urgent). But the reply was unreadable so i didn't reply. I assume it was a drunken text. An hour later he texts again (Ive noticed that when I appear a little aggressive he responds straight away) and he apologises and says he hopes we can meet"..

I replied and told him the days i was free but he did not reply. So today i checked whether we were meeting and he said that he was "busy too". I replied with "if you're busy to meet this week, i understand. hopefully we'll be able to catch up next week. take care __ (insert name)"

I am confused...initially i thought he had used me, but if that was so why does he contineu talking to me. I assume hes just keeping me on his radar and is distancing himself but if thats the case why does he send me drunken texts asking me to meet, its a habitual weekend thing now....and why is it when im slightly aggessive he responds and apologises and almost seems like he cares...
and when i don't text him he texts me so see how i am...

Sounds like college dating...did I get it right?

The real question is, NOW WHAT? Ok, so you've already seen this guy's inconsistance & his unreliability so the answer to your question is to simply leave him alone. No, don't play hard-to-get or give him a taste of his own medicine by replying that you're busy too because in all reality, when he's busy he doesn't respond but when you're supposedly busy, you do. This guy is not at all that interested in you & unfortunately, this is the game alot of men play when they want to have a Plan B. You might be his Plan B, meaning he's only 15% interested in you while he might be interested in other women & on the days that those other women may not give him any time, he's going to immediately go to plan B, which is you. Plan Bs are always texted when the guy gets bored, when he gets in those "drunken" thoughts, or when (even you know) you attempt to officially let him go BEFORE he got to let you go. Just leave this guy alone. At this point, how he sees you is FIXED, meaning the problems he's having being reliable probably have nothing to do with you, but instead with him. And always remember, when a man can sense that you're not standing up to him, that gives him more amunition to take advantage of you or blow you off. The best game to play is no game. If he texts you & wants to see you & if deep down you have a craving to see him too, then let that be known...But don't play the same games he's playing by saying you're too busy because now the 2 of you are spending more time playing the games instead of actually getting to know eachother. Before this guy slept with you he wasn't THAT busy & wasn't that inconsistant with you. But what does that tell you when a man suddenly becomes "too busy" once the sex has already happend? We both know the answer to that question. You can like him all day until you're blue in the face but it will never work (relationship OR friendship) unless the 2 of you are on the same page. Don't ever chase after something that won't chase after you. And if they do decide to chase after you, make sure it's when everything FINE, not just when the friendship or relationship's well being becomes threatend

He's not into you. Move on.

Sounds like he's keeping his options open. I'd say move on. Even Aqua's don't play the distant thing to this degree.

Sounds like he's keeping his options open. I'd say move on. Even Aqua's don't play the distant thing to this degree.

I'd have to agree with everyone on this one. I had the same situation with an Aqua male just recently...Im just now at the point where I dont care if he calls or texts me...
I guess you'll get fed up too.
I personally dont even think about my former Aqua Beau...If I never see him again it will be TOO soon!

We should not look at this from a sun sign perspective. The two sound young...like I said it sounds more like a college dating type situation (give or take a few years).

I gave advice....maybe she didnt like it. Its all about respect...respect for yourself. You only get what you take. The more you take the foolishness the more you'll be given plain old foolishness. Know your worth and take nothing less.

If you want to make this an aqua issue...You could just be diplomatic about it and speak your peace with the guy.

just being blunt here he just wanted to hit now that you let him why should he chase you.

Sex is sex like everyone says it doesnt make someone fall in love with you.

Just take the "L" i hope it was good?

Everyone stop making her feel bad it's not like everyone hasnt experience this before.