Does Ignoring aquarius push them away?

So... I've known this aqua guy for going on 7 months...in the beginning it was all good now... we're kind of rocky....he disappeared on me the month of february then came back in march...when i was barely interested,telling me how he missed me,and he was just going through something....i feel like he plays tit for that and that's annoying to me.. I'm a cancer,but not the typical overly sensitive and emotional type..I bless him with a lot of space...I'm a virgin and i'm 23 he's not!! and he's 33... i stayed over one night with him which was a tuesday,and i jst randomly asked when was the last time he was intimate with someone..he hesitated to tell me....then he goes "If i tell you don't be mad" i'm like yeah whatever and he says "SATURDAY" hell no!! it instantly pissed me off but i showed no emotion...so lately i've been easing back because some things about him is turning me away even though i really care for him!! so i'm a cancer and when we go through things we retreat in our shells away from people,so i disappeared on him for a week than he calls me i was busy so i had to call him back i did so and here he goes acting like nothings wrong and he says "What made you call me"? i said you called earlier,and he didn't like my response..we started talking again on good term then out of the blew one day...i texted him saying "What do you like about me"? he never replied so i called him ...he didn't answer so i'm fed up!! i want to say a lot to him but i figured just ignore him and move on.It's been a week since i've contacted him,and i'm quite proud of myself sometimes i would give in.

It seem like i'm the one who's been doing all the contacting ...and i'm sick of it...maybe he will look else where..but idc...when you have something great in front of you ..you should embrace it at all cost..even if we don't speak again he will be the one to miss out..i last called him and no call back..so why should i continue to call and make myself look desperate.

Most of the time it makes us want to talk to you more. When someone is ignore me(like this pisces girl right now) it usually just makes me really curious on what I did to deserve to be ignored. It definitely works with aquas when you go from a lot of contact to a little from what I've seen. It just get's our minds reeling lol.

It's funny in a way because he told me all women he dated were cancers and they all disappeared on him...he says women leave him..The way i'm feeling i would do the same.lol

Oh i'm not sad at all sweetie..I actually love and appreciate every part of my body...enough to not let just any man touch it.=)so thank you.

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
It's funny in a way because he told me all women he dated were cancers and they all disappeared on him...he says women leave him..The way i'm feeling i would do the same.lol

Maybe its him and not the women!

You did ask a question and an Aqua will be honest. Its a risk of getting your feelings hurt, but, if you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask the question. He is probably confused as to why you got upset.

I think you should blow him off if he's not responding. If he wants to contact you, he will. I'm so sorry. You seem like a nice girl, and you deserve someone better.

I respect your decision to remain a virgin! Stick to it! That is the greatest gift you can give a man and you have EVERY right to be choosy as to who gets that gift!

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
Oh i'm not sad at all sweetie..I actually love and appreciate every part of my body...enough to not let just any man touch it.=)so thank you.

Cool-🙂

As for aqua men; they are their own masters, you can't, or anyone else for that matter, remote control them. They come and go as they please--no conditions, no negotiations, no ultimatums. Take them or leave them, you can't dictate them.

I am dealing with one who has Sun, Moon , Venus, Mars, juno, lilith in Aquarius-how does it sound ?

Ok, enlighten me. I'm always open to learn something new or have my POV swayed....if the greatest gift you can give a man is your virginity, what is the great gift he is giving you in return and please explain how love and fidelity equate to sex.

Posted by PiscesFebFish
Ok, enlighten me. I'm always open to learn something new or have my POV swayed....if the greatest gift you can give a man is your virginity, what is the great gift he is giving you in return and please explain how love and fidelity equate to sex.

gift thing aside, every girl has the right to consider herself precious. why should a girl feel pressure to have sex just because other women are doing it. it's her body,her decision.

Just because a woman is sleeping around does not mean she becomes some sort of idol for other girls to look up to.

So attach the feeling of being "precious" to either virginity or not sleeping around? So to you, feeling good about yourself is an extension of choosing to be or not to be physical with another human being?

Pisces - Whether you have sex freely or selectively is a personal choice. You choose your way, let everyone else choose theirs. It boils down to self respect and how you feel about sexual relations. Everyone is different. Personally, I would feel like a slut if I gave it freely to a lot of men and I wouldn't have much self respect. Not everyone would feel that way, some are more free spirited.

Besides, it's HER choice. Who cares what you think? And virginity is only given ONCE to ONE person. The first time should be special. The person who gets it should be loving, caring, respectful and worthy of it - not just some user jerk who is just after sex.

In the old days, a man had to marry you to get sex.

Its a different time and place now.

Posted by truecap


Its a different time and place now.

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In the old days men got married so their wives could take care of the children and keep house. Not for sex. Since the beginning of time a man NEVER had to get married just to have sex. Fact. So basically a female should only have sex with a guy if he is worthy, respectful, loving and caring. Thats cool, so if he is all of those things just to get sex and then turns into a user jerk, what exactly can I take from him to make it better?

Take whatever you want , give whatever you want to. Just don't belittle other girls who do not want to have sex just to score/prove a point to others or to themselves.

You said how sad it was that she was a virgin . why ?
You think you have the right to adopt such a condescending tone to a girl who considers sleeping around beneath her dignity?

Posted by ShahBano
Take whatever you want , give whatever you want to. Just don't belittle other girls who do not want to have sex just to score/prove a point to others or to themselves.

You said how sad it was that she was a virgin . why ?
You think you have the right to adopt such a condescending tone to a girl who considers sleeping around beneath her dignity?

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I didnt belittle her by saying it was sad. If I had said she was being naive-that would belittle. Its unfortunate that you feel I'm trying to insinuate she or anyone should sleep around. None of my posts have given that impression. I'm also not being condescending. What I would like is a mature exchange as to the logical reasons of why the stipulations put on sex have to do with love. How do you know I'm not a virgin? How do you know I wasnt a Virgin when I got married-if I'm married. You, ShaBano are becoming emotional and I really dont know why.

If you get to know him well enough, takes TIME (yes, its a Cap thing), then you will know whether he really is those things or just a user.

Ok, so lets say he's not a user and you have been together for 10 plus years but one day he decides that he doesnt want to be with you or in a relationship but you gave him your virginity because you gave it "time", he was respectful, loving, and caring. Then what.......

Posted by PiscesFebFish
I didnt belittle her by saying it was sad. If I had said she was being naive-that would belittle. Its unfortunate that you feel I'm trying to insinuate she or anyone should sleep around. None of my posts have given that impression. I'm also not being condescending. What I would like is a mature exchange as to the logical reasons of why the stipulations put on sex have to do with love. How do you know I'm not a virgin? How do you know I wasnt a Virgin when I got married-if I'm married. You, ShaBano are becoming emotional and I really dont know why.

I am sorry, it's just I don't think a girl should ever feel obliged to have sex. It should be her own and free decision. Society, peer pressure, social norms, current psychological / social trends---none of them has the right to make a girl feel cornered enough to have sex just to prove that she is desirable.
girls should realize that true strength and beauty of their feminine conduct lies in formulating their own principles, which are in sync with her own temperament and desire, and then sticking to these principles.
The worst thing is the other women's behaviour with such girls. they insinuate as if such girls are either stupid,unfeminine or undesirable .

In my opinion , real essence of femininity is not the ability to bag as many sexual partner as you can, but realizing that being more sexual does not mean being more of a woman.

I use to ignore the hell out of my ex Aqua and he would lose his mind. One time we were at a gym and I was ignoring him he followed me all around the gym I acted as if he was not even there. he ended up tripping up the bleachers..lol If only affects an Aqua man if he really cares for a lady. I rather ignored him then to cuss him out for what he had done, at which he knew he was wrong and cussing him out would have pushed him away for sure. I would not advise ignoring for a reaction, but if you are fed up with shit I would go that route..

Also nothing wrong with being a virgin at 23 its rare. Save yourself for a man that you think/know really deserves you, bump what anyone else is saying. I mean what grown person tells another person being a virgin is sad..Let them pop their coochy off thats all they should be worried about..

Posted by PiscesFebFish
Ok, so lets say he's not a user and you have been together for 10 plus years but one day he decides that he doesnt want to be with you or in a relationship but you gave him your virginity because you gave it "time", he was respectful, loving, and caring. Then what.......

Take half of what he's got when you DIVORCE him! hahahaha!

No, really. I'm just kidding. Pisces, you are being argumentative and its not helping the OP.

Sorry your thread got highjacked.

Thanks.. to those who gave positive feed back...I just feel that every woman should want to share closeness with someone she feels respect her...I'm not afraid of having sex,I just have a standard set for myself...every woman should!! Far as the aqua male...I'm not intentionally ignoring him...just that when i get turned off or sense i'm going to get hurt I DISAPPEAR AND BACK AWAY!! I was just curious to know that if he cares enough would it brings him close to me or if he didn't care would he back away as well.

I also asked him where do we stand and he says "Whatever you want it to be" like wth? so then he asked me if i wanted him to be my boyfriend i told him no,lets grow more....then he says "Well this isn't no "JUST FRIENDS" thing..and whatever happens, happens.no sure what he meant by that...but honestly i kind of miss the good person he once was....i'm not ignoring him on purpose i just tend to blow up on people and i'm not quite sure as to how i'd react if i made contact with him i could either be A. Too nice,and cool or B. just be a bitch and go off on him...so basically i'm protecting my feelings and just kind of cooling off giving myself some time to regroup.I was the one to last contact him before i stopped for a week,so i feel i shouldn't be the one to make contact.

I think he wants to be your boyfriend. Seems he expressed his feelings, then you gave him a different answer than what he wanted to hear. He might be hurt, embarrassed, upset? If you want him, do some damage control.

@ Truecap.. Lol this man is 33 years old he can tell me what he really wants.. he was layed off from his job and last week he called me telling me he got a new one..so maybe that plays a role in his distance,but it still doesn't make up for his behvaior....I just fear that if i let go i'll miss out but i also fear if i hold on i'll end up hurt...so i'm just confused and can't make a decision.

To the dumb piscean, what's sad is that you're a pisces, and you're clearly lost because you ended up in the respectful/independent/intellectual woman/man forum. So far from home for you, ain't it? Lol. I'll enlighten you as to why virginity is important.

Men by nature are a certain way. They are territorial and possessive. It's common knowledge that what is common commodity/public is never respected or treated right. For example, take a public washroom. Nobody uses that washroom with care because at the end of the day, it belongs to nobody nor are they the ones to clean it. However when it's your washroom and you are the one cleaning it, you take care of it. Now apply this analogy on a woman. Since when is opening your legs to every man admirable/respectable? No matter what times you live in, a man will call a woman who has slept with a lot (subjective) of men, a whore/slut. I wasn't gonna get bitchy but you asked for it by putting down her virginity. Mind you, I'm a virgin and no man has ever looked down on me for being a virgin!! Guess human nature will prevail no matter what era of skankiness you live in.

@ aquarius09 you couldn't have said it better...I guess being a virgin is sad and sleeping around is happy...lol i pay nonsense like this no mind...she didn't offend me in any type of way..because i make my own choices and i made a choice to be pure and i'm never sad about it...I love myself each day even more to know that i'm so beautiful and i'm holding onto something most guys want but will neve get.=)

wow I'm a guy, but I respect all of that ^
*slow clap*

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
@ aquarius09 you couldn't have said it better...I guess being a virgin is sad and sleeping around is happy...lol i pay nonsense like this no mind...she didn't offend me in any type of way..because i make my own choices and i made a choice to be pure and i'm never sad about it...I love myself each day even more to know that i'm so beautiful and i'm holding onto something most guys want but will neve get.=)

A strong woman right here^^^

hmm i understood where piscesfeb is coming from, and she or anyone else should be welcome to voice their questions if they want to understand things. sometimes communication is mixed and people side with what they know/understand anyway.
i get what she's saying though.
it'd be cool to start a new topic on it though if people want more structure.

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
@ aquarius09 you couldn't have said it better...I guess being a virgin is sad and sleeping around is happy...lol i pay nonsense like this no mind...she didn't offend me in any type of way..because i make my own choices and i made a choice to be pure and i'm never sad about it...I love myself each day even more to know that i'm so beautiful and i'm holding onto something most guys want but will neve get.=)

That's precisely how I feel and why I kept it. Well, I also kept it for after marriage, because whoever it is that I marry is truly special for to having gone through trials and tribulations with me and put up with my difficult aqua ways for me to marry him. His prize would be 1) the virginity (which outta make any guy feel special) 2) that his woman is exclusive to him. He's not gonna have to visualize his woman with her ex in bed or have to come across some man in the future who did sleep with his wife.

Posted by lisabethur8
hmm i understood where piscesfeb is coming from, and she or anyone else should be welcome to voice their questions if they want to understand things. sometimes communication is mixed and people side with what they know/understand anyway.
i get what she's saying though.
it'd be cool to start a new topic on it though if people want more structure.

Voicing your questions is perfectly fine and dandy. She was straight condescending with her " you're a 23 yr old virgin..that's sad". If she was interested in the missed of this aqua chick, she shouldve started with "hey I was wondering why you decided to keep your virginity".

well her first post was a reaction. (understandable. alot of us do it around here on the boards) but she's salvaged alot of it by her next posts/comments. so i get her.
plus, i'm not really caring about virginity anyway but if i had a daughter, and she hit puberty, i can totally see why i'd want her to stay precious and true to her body. especially with all the disease out there and so many guys using/abusing girls because they give it out too soon. (mother concern) but if she really wanted to have a commited sexual relationship early i'd aid her, help her learn about protection, go to get check ups so she'd learn to do it on her own - all the responsibilities of having a monogamous sexual relationship.

not all of us, oldskool. but i get where virginity is sacred to others.

Posted by lisabethur8
well her first post was a reaction. (understandable. alot of us do it around here on the boards) but she's salvaged alot of it by her next posts/comments. so i get her.
plus, i'm not really caring about virginity anyway but if i had a daughter, and she hit puberty, i can totally see why i'd want her to stay precious and true to her body. especially with all the disease out there and so many guys using/abusing girls because they give it out too soon. (mother concern) but if she really wanted to have a commited sexual relationship early i'd aid her, help her learn about protection, go to get check ups so she'd learn to do it on her own - all the responsibilities of having a monogamous sexual relationship.

Her first post was a bad reaction, and anyone who does that around here is immature an childish. Just because a lot of people do it, it doesn't make it all right. Understandable? Hardly in my case. Whether it was her or someone else, I don't like people disrespecting other's views.

As for the things you said, I would agree if I had kids. i can't relate just yet. Lol. To each their own. We live in a society where pre-marital sex is common. That's fine and dandy as long as one
Party doesn't put down the other.

Posted by oldskoolflavor
I don't mean to be a party poopah but you girls seem to idealize sex

It's not just about idealizing sex. It's laws of nature. Refer back to my very first post.

Aquarius09 you went off on a vicious tangent because I said it was sad that she is a 23 year old virgin. You never asked why I thought it was sad, you are assuming it has something to do with a sexual free for all. You said my comment was "bad" its sad that I'm a Pisces and I'm childish and immature. You wrote those things right? Right. Why dont you read my posts again and perhaps apply your words to yourself.

Posted by PiscesFebFish
You're a 23 year old Virgin? Thats so sad.

I'm not your psychiatrist that's going to ask you "why did you feel that's sad?" LMAO. Seriously, do you think I care to ask someone why they feel the way they do especially when they obviously didn't care to elaborate. You set yourself up for any opposing comments that came your way.

Btw, yes I called you childish and immature. I play dirty with ppl that are rude to others. I dont claim to be a dxp saint.

1. Any positive connotation can be taken from this quote, especially since there is no elaboration from you?

You didn't ask the OP to gain insight. You asked (question mark) followed by your condescending snarky remark of that being sad.

So next time, feel free to elaborate if you don't want people misinterpreting you. Because not many will ask you about where your negative comment is coming from.

Posted by oldskoolflavor
aquarius09, you're quite good at arguing .. and so fierce

I'm sort of in awe to be honest 🙂

Thanks 🙂 I'm a paralegal, if that helps. I'll go into law school if I marry rich and can afford law school. Lol. Jkz.

P.S You are my sole reason why I never include lib/scorp cusp in my "grievance list for libras". Lol

So basically you attacked me based on an assumption you gathered from one sentence without bothering to collect evidence, or find a motive? You are going to be great lawyer.

Posted by PiscesFebFish
So basically you attacked me based on an assumption you gathered from one sentence without bothering to collect evidence, or find a motive? You are going to be great lawyer.

LOL. You think I'm playing lawyer with you? I wouldn't do that for free.

Whether I'm gonna make a great lawyer or not, I'm certainly not a psychiatrist here to do your therapy by asking you why her being a virgin was sad. lol


As for assumption, it wasn't assumption. Your remark is quite obviously rude. As can be seen, I was the only one who saw it that way. Please don't make me quote you again.

Next time, we can analyze your blatant statement from a linguistic angle.

*wasn't

Lol i like you!! @Aquaarius09

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
Lol i like you!! @Aquaarius09

Thanks 🙂 Stay classy!

Always!! =)

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Posted by BeautyNBrains23
Lol i like you!! @Aquaarius09

Thanks 🙂 Stay classy!

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Lol i like you!! @Aquaarius09

Thanks 🙂 Stay classy!

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Such a boss lol.