Good on paper guy?

Hello its been awhile,

I have found a new luv interest...he is an aquarius. I have never dated one before. I am an aries. He seems to be 'good on paper'... I mean he seems to have everything I have been looking for in a guy. He has a great job. He is extremely attentive. Calls me all the time. Calls me sweetheart. Is financially secure. Has three doggies.. a huge animal lover like myself. Funny. Cute. Thoughtful...Personality wise we are on a very similar plane morally, & spiritually and intellectually well suited. We have been dating now for a little over a month. We have talked about having kids together the whole nine yards...yes already.. but herein lies the problem.

He is quirky.Im a little bit quirky but Im a realist. He is like on some weird Aquarian scooby doo van world. Im attracted to this. But I dont think Im even close to 'falling for him'. He has said he has already fallen for me. Is it possible to 'fall for someone' after only a month. I dont buy it. I have tried to put the brakes on but he just wants to be with me all the time. Im enjoy his company but I sense if we start out like this it will end up co-dependent. I thought aqua men were like the independent freedom lovers of the zodiac. Could it be that he has a scorpio moon. I have a taurus moon.

Another problem I dont think I am fully over my old cap flame. Maybe this is why I cannot or do not want to fully open up to him. Mr Cap and I had a very sincere interaction. This guy though SEEMS absolutely perfect but I just dont believe love can happen this quickly??

''Is it possible to 'fall for someone' after only a month. I dont buy it.''

Attempt to get him to pace it because Aries gets bored easily and we like some chase before we get to the ''fall for someone'' part.

Maybe you should attempt to get some type of closure on the Cap before someone gets hurt? Does the Aqua know about the Cap?

I've experienced this attraction to Aqua guys - it's not like something we can change but there's not that immediate sexual attraction like with Scorp. It is built over time as there's an immediate understanding that doesn't happen with a lot of the other signs. So no mystery sort-of to spark the immediate sexual attraction - for me anyway - especially if you're the more quiet Aries.

Me and my Aqua friends/family spend way too much time together and not get tired. We are both very independent in our ways - Don't worry about the co-dependence thing, Aries and Aqua are prob the 2 most self-involved signs so the independence will live on!

Hey Shaka 🙂 🙂 ARe you still with that vir-girl? I havent been on here in ages!!

Zenalchemy thank you so much for the input.

My ex mr cap is aware of this and he is not happy about this. He is still in my life and we still hang out often despite the fact that he and I broke up many months ago. He bonded with my son and my son adores him. We have still remained friends. BUT we are still very sexually attracted to each other. Cap and I had sex about a month ago. Then I met this new aqua guy. This is someone who can give me all the things cap could not. For instance.. a REAL relationship. So I was honest with cap and he doesnt believe that Im really into this new guy. Cap said to me.. "You are mine cookiemonster'' and dont forget it" This was our last heated conversation. But truly Im tired of his on and off...crap. I want something real. I want intimacy and not the sexual sort. I want a relationship. CAp was too contained emotionally. Was NOT giving emotionally AT all. This aqua guy is extremely open and willing to get real. CAp is not adjusting to this well..but I have to appeal to myself I cannot continue being afraid to hurt his feelings.

Mr Cap is so deeply deeply kind inside, even so he exudes a tough cookie type of exterior. He is afraid to get hurt or get rejected..but by God its been 9 months now. Not much has evolved. I cannot wait on a bus that I sense will not come or that will take ten years to come. Time is precious. My new aqua guy cooks dinner for me. He is VERY thoughtful. He is giving ...with his time, money and his heart. THAT Is hard to find in a guy. He wants a family.. He wants children. He really likes my son. He is attentive to him. There is great potential. I feel that I have 'accepted' the half-ass interaction with Cap for so long.. and now I need to change things up. I am tired of half ass. I have put the brakes on aqua just to slow it down a notch but he is a very emotional type of aqua I guess? He has alot of scorpio in him. His venus is in Sag mine is in Pisces.

Why is Mr Cap not wanting a relationship? The ship may have sailed with him - go get yourself what you want, you're not santa! at the risk of someone getting hurt and you find yourself alone!

Good luck.

Great topic March Girl ......funny thing my best aqua friend uses this term so often "I am great on paper" ....lol how interesting.

I find that with men in general not one particular sign ......there are some that are great on paper .....however it would be nice to have the great on paper guy surprise the hell out of you ......you know and do the naughty things the guy not so great on paper would do. LOL I don't think this is an isolated thing either sweetie. I am very good friends with 'A great on paper Pisces' however he is a bit too passive for me. *Sigh* But we get along soooooooo well.

We just want it all....damn it. LOL

PD

Maybe the Aqua senses your distraction which makes him clingy? Perhaps once you go for him he may do the Aqua flip but you won't know until you decide what you want. Regardless of sign, it best to resolve past issues before moving on. Have a heart to heart with the Cap and make your decision. Best of luck!