How do you deal with heartbreak (more so disappointment)

Hey Aquas! I hope all is well. Recently, I broke up (err - something very similar) to my aries bf. Funny, he's actually an Ares/Taurus cusp. This is funny because the man I assumed was my first true love was a Taurus and they both carry some very similar qualities. Our relationship was so rocky. I don't like to argue, or yelling, or disrespect, or someone stealing ideas I worked so hard to cultivate, and so much more. He truly was opposite of me in how I handle situations and my core beliefs.

My question is, as an Aquarius, how do you deal with heartbreak? More so, the disappointment associated with feeling like YOU have failed? How did you regain your self-confidence?

Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

Posted by aquarius09
Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

My average is about a year and a half as well. I feel the same way. I never want to have a committed relationship, especially with my age, as I hate ending things when I still have love in my heart.

My confidence was shaken because of the cheating. It just makes you feel so unwanted and unattractive, but this time around, there's this foggy cloud that's slowly letting light shine in. I don't feel and about the break up just trying to remind myself that this ONE failure does not amount to the SUM of my ability to overcome/win.

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Posted by aquarius09
Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

My average is about a year and a half as well. I feel the same way. I never want to have a committed relationship, especially with my age, as I hate ending things when I still have love in my heart.

My confidence was shaken because of the cheating. It just makes you feel so unwanted and unattractive, but this time around, there's this foggy cloud that's slowly letting light shine in. I don't feel and about the break up just trying to remind myself that this ONE failure does not amount to the SUM of my ability to overcome/win.

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Cheating should actually make it easier for you as an Aqua. It should offend your inner humanitarian to see such blatant cruelty with a drive to just say "fuck that guy" and move on to someone worthy

My average is 3-4 months

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Posted by aquarius09
Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

My average is about a year and a half as well. I feel the same way. I never want to have a committed relationship, especially with my age, as I hate ending things when I still have love in my heart.

My confidence was shaken because of the cheating. It just makes you feel so unwanted and unattractive, but this time around, there's this foggy cloud that's slowly letting light shine in. I don't feel and about the break up just trying to remind myself that this ONE failure does not amount to the SUM of my ability to overcome/win.

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I'll privately message you the response to this.

Posted by aquariver
Hey Aquas! I hope all is well. Recently, I broke up (err - something very similar) to my aries bf. Funny, he's actually an Ares/Taurus cusp. This is funny because the man I assumed was my first true love was a Taurus and they both carry some very similar qualities. Our relationship was so rocky. I don't like to argue, or yelling, or disrespect, or someone stealing ideas I worked so hard to cultivate, and so much more. He truly was opposite of me in how I handle situations and my core beliefs.

My question is, as an Aquarius, how do you deal with heartbreak? More so, the disappointment associated with feeling like YOU have failed? How did you regain your self-confidence?

with my first husband i almost died, i starved and would have taken an overdose to kill myself.
it was that bad.
then i moved on to another toxic relationship and got beat up alot, but i never left him. i thought he needed my help because he had a bad childhood.
i realize that it was not right, being treated like that.
my 3rd was a good relationship and made me realize that i'm not a total fuck up with men.

yes i attract ALOT of men in the past, even wealthy powerful men but i never chose those types.

i Always choose the messed up ones. that need my nurturing /fixing.



EDIT now i understand why i didnt choose them, because i felt i wasn't needed, and wealthy powerful men would just SPOIL you, and i didnt want to be spoiled, ( i like that yes, but i needed to be needed!!!)
and wealthy powerful men only want women who are trophies on their wall. that's not a need!!! that's a desire!!

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Posted by aquarius09
Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

My average is about a year and a half as well. I feel the same way. I never want to have a committed relationship, especially with my age, as I hate ending things when I still have love in my heart.

My confidence was shaken because of the cheating. It just makes you feel so unwanted and unattractive, but this time around, there's this foggy cloud that's slowly letting light shine in. I don't feel and about the break up just trying to remind myself that this ONE failure does not amount to the SUM of my ability to overcome/win.

Cheating should actually make it easier for you as an Aqua. It should offend your inner humanitarian to see such blatant cruelty with a drive to just say "fuck that guy" and move on to someone worthy

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— how is that cheating if you leave a relationship that is toxic??

Posted by Gennie

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Posted by aquarius09
Arguing, yelling is usually what relationship with Aries placements are like. I'm currently dating an Aries with Sag moon and I know what you mean. I dated an Aries moon and same story there. Initially it's tolerable, but with time it gets old and tiring.

It takes me a while to recover from a heartbreak. It took me a year and a half to recover from my last break-up. I distract myself by reading books, watching movies, listening to music and writing. Heartbreak is pretty rough on me and this is why I am very detached and fear getting in relationships because I dread break-ups where I like the guy.

There's nothing you can do about alleviating the pain. As for self-confidence, mine never takes a hit. I always remember my worth and have a very healthy self-esteem. I do mope even though people don't see it. I put up such a facade that nobody is able to tell that I'm grieving. Such is the life of an aquarius #pokerface.

My average is about a year and a half as well. I feel the same way. I never want to have a committed relationship, especially with my age, as I hate ending things when I still have love in my heart.

My confidence was shaken because of the cheating. It just makes you feel so unwanted and unattractive, but this time around, there's this foggy cloud that's slowly letting light shine in. I don't feel and about the break up just trying to remind myself that this ONE failure does not amount to the SUM of my ability to overcome/win.

Cheating should actually make it easier for you as an Aqua. It should offend your inner humanitarian to see such blatant cruelty with a drive to just say "fuck that guy" and move on to someone worthy

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It's easy to cut off from the person who cheats or betrays us. They die for us and we don't look back on them, but the hurt remains. It's like grieving a loved one that died. Not to mention the time that one invested in the relationship in vain is also heart wrenching.

is Gennie an aqua?? cause she puts down the sign by saying stuff like that. if you want to talk about cheating, let's look up celebrities who go off to dfferent men and women WHILE they are stll married. and you will see ALL 12 sun signs buddy.

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is Gennie an aqua?? cause she puts down the sign by saying stuff like that. if you want to talk about cheating, let's look up celebrities who go off to dfferent men and women WHILE they are stll married. and you will see ALL 12 sun signs buddy.

No you misunderstood oh earthy Aqua lady. When an Aqua is cheated on, it makes it EASIER for us to move on from that person. There is something about the blatant cruelty of the action that just kicks in our inner detached mode, like a chain cut.

Acceptance is the first step. Ask yourself how you contributed to the problem. Think positive memories about the other person in question.

Cry like a baby, it works more than going to a therapist or numbing the problem.