Cancerlady625
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How Long to Wait for Commitment before moving on?
How long should I wait for him to ask me to be in a committed relationship with him? Do you think he is getting ready to ask me soon since he took his profile down & he has been telling me he had somethings planned for us but he didn't want to tell me everything yet because its a surprise?
Posted by ramengirl
I think you should go with the flow and not consume yourself with labels. His actions should be enough for you to see that you're already his "girlfriend".
Or you could be like me and ask him to be your boyfriend. Traditionally the guy is supposed to, but if you love him and vice versa then there's no reason you can't ask him.
He sounds like a sweetheart with a lot to offer. Why move on from that?
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OMG u have just made my night and I think you are very correct but sometimes we need to hear it from someone elses perspective :-). I'am a cancer woman so I'm very impatient sometimes & get emotional at times because I hear so many people saying negative things about if a guy doesn't make you his girlfriend then you are just a fwb situation etc.
Posted by flowingwater
He's probably delaying the relationship just how you made him wait for you, am I right? You made him wait for 9mos. Just to get together.
Be patient, can you not do that's him since he did it for you??
And an Aqua, you'll be waiting for a while. He's going to take his sweet time before becoming committed to anyone. Nothing you do will change his mind fast enough. If you do he will step back.
Wow your insight is great & on point. Your right because he told me on a couple occasions saying I made him wait & I hurt him when I left him the first time etc. Yes I can wait because I really love this guy & the way he makes me feel. Thank you for your input you & the other poster have really made me feel better :-)
One more question & I know it is a TMI but here it goes lol- A few nights ago when we were in our sexual encounter lol..he said what else do I love & I said I loved him and he said"Thats good because I love you so much" Now could that be his true feelings or heat of the moment for a Aquarius guy? He has said things before jokingly like You know daddy luv u baby & laugh or one day I said one day you gone love me so much and he said how do you know I don't already and he said but I want tell you lol.
Posted by ramengirlPosted by nsm625You're welcome!Posted by ramengirl
I think you should go with the flow and not consume yourself with labels. His actions should be enough for you to see that you're already his "girlfriend".
Or you could be like me and ask him to be your boyfriend. Traditionally the guy is supposed to, but if you love him and vice versa then there's no reason you can't ask him.
He sounds like a sweetheart with a lot to offer. Why move on from that?
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OMG u have just made my night and I think you are very correct but sometimes we need to hear it from someone elses perspective :-). I'am a cancer woman so I'm very impatient sometimes & get emotional at times because I hear so many people saying negative things about if a guy doesn't make you his girlfriend then you are just a fwb situation etc.
Patience is a virtue and emotion is fine...as long as it doesn't control you or dictate your relationship for you.
Don't take their opinions too personal. The way he treats you should be the only qualifier. If it don't apply, let it fly.
Š good luck.click to expand
I agree very good advice :-) If you have time can you give me advice on the other question I asked that was a TMI lol :-)
Yes I understand your point but I did not ask him how he felt he asked me & I told him & he then told me he loved me so much. My question is more so do you find when the Aquarius men say something so deep during sex is it usually their true feelings..I feel it is but want to know your point since you have Aquarius Bf. I will go with the flow as I have been I promise lol :-)
Posted by AriesLady8
Honestly I would just chill out. My father is an Aqua who has a birthday in late January too this sounds just like him.
What he said to you on Christmas was very telling. They take having a friendship first then going to the next level very seriously. You have to allow it to be organic. Don't get in your head and start over thinking anything. 2 months is not long at all so just ease up and take it one day at a time. Literally. If he feels pressure from you he will def back up and get second thoughts. Be easy breezy and relax
Thank you & more great advice I will just chill & go with the flow for now.
Posted by ramengirlPosted by nsm625I understand. I'm attempting to show you the bigger picture. If someone you love tells you something so profound, shouldn't you trust they are telling you the truth? Sex is intense and can be emotionally riveting so it is possible it just slipped out. That doesn't mean he's being dishonest. It could very well mean that he enjoys it so much that he couldn't contain it.
Yes I understand your point but I did not ask him how he felt he asked me & I told him & he then told me he loved me so much. My question is more so do you find when the Aquarius men say something so deep during sex is it usually their true feelings..I feel it is but want to know your point since you have Aquarius Bf. I will go with the flow as I have been I promise lol :-)
My boyfriend won't say anything he doesn't mean. Do you know what he says during sex? "You like that babe?" I nod and he goes deeper. "Fuuuuuuuck!" I go faster. "I love you...". I reply back and say, "I love you too."
All Aquarius are not the same and that has to be realized. I knew one who was indecisive and somewhat of a player. He did not mean what he said in any context.
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Yes true I just reread what you said very true. I like your advice & your patience to explain. It sounds very right. I'm going to take this advice & apply it :-)
Posted by ramengirl
Thank you and I hope everything works out for the best my water pal. Š sorry for the sex talk I just forced you to read lol I was trying to make a point but I just came across as perverted ¶ (I have a lot of Aquarius in my chart)
No I appreciate the advice & no you didn't come across as perverted lol..I thought it was cute & sound like me & my guy lmao. Thanks again
Posted by nsm625Everything is going great!!!!!
How long should I wait for him to ask me to be in a committed relationship with him? Do you think he is getting ready to ask me soon since he took his profile down & he has been telling me he had somethings planned for us but he didn't want to tell me everything yet because its a surprise?
He will ask you when he's ready, don't rush him. Aquas like things to happen organically. This is the stage in a relationship with an aquarius that you have to be patient.
I think it was around the 5 month mark when we made our relationship "official". And it was never a formal thing. His family just started calling me his girlfriend and one day he said "his uncle suggested he bring his girlfriend out there to meet him" - his quote to me. One day I wanted to make sure and told him I had gotten asked out but I turned them down because I didn't want to date anyone else. He said he had also turned someone down for the same reason. Bam! Official. (informally).
Anyways, give it a few more months. I bet you won't need that long, though.
Posted by nsm625But he TREATS you like a girlfriend. He doesn't treat you like an FWB. That's the difference and in this case patience will be key.Posted by ramengirl
I think you should go with the flow and not consume yourself with labels. His actions should be enough for you to see that you're already his "girlfriend".
Or you could be like me and ask him to be your boyfriend. Traditionally the guy is supposed to, but if you love him and vice versa then there's no reason you can't ask him.
He sounds like a sweetheart with a lot to offer. Why move on from that?
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OMG u have just made my night and I think you are very correct but sometimes we need to hear it from someone elses perspective :-). I'am a cancer woman so I'm very impatient sometimes & get emotional at times because I hear so many people saying negative things about if a guy doesn't make you his girlfriend then you are just a fwb situation etc.click to expand
Posted by nsm625Honestly, don't put a lot of weight on something that a man says during sex. It could be the sex they are actually loving. (general rule of thumb).
Yes I understand your point but I did not ask him how he felt he asked me & I told him & he then told me he loved me so much. My question is more so do you find when the Aquarius men say something so deep during sex is it usually their true feelings..I feel it is but want to know your point since you have Aquarius Bf. I will go with the flow as I have been I promise lol :-)
However, in your case I think he does love you because of the way he treats you. Actions tell MUCH more than words. My aqua took a year and a half to tell me he loved me. Now almost 4 years in the relationship, he tells me all the time. However, I knew early on he did love me because of the things he would do for me. And you can read it in their eyes. Aqua eyes really are an insight into the soul.
Posted by AriesLady8Awesome advice ^^
Honestly I would just chill out. My father is an Aqua who has a birthday in late January too this sounds just like him.
What he said to you on Christmas was very telling. They take having a friendship first then going to the next level very seriously. You have to allow it to be organic. Don't get in your head and start over thinking anything. 2 months is not long at all so just ease up and take it one day at a time. Literally. If he feels pressure from you he will def back up and get second thoughts. Be easy breezy and relax
I had to quell my cardinal tendencies to push things along. But, I took advice from these good folks here and eased up and learned to go with the flow. That's when my relationship really started grooving along and progressing.
TrueCap- I'am so happy to have all of u guys because you are honest unlike family & friends of mine. I'm taking all of this advice in & will just let it flow. Im so clueless when it comes to hints or Informally stating it lol I hope I get it if that happens. He did send me 3 songs 2 days ago and one song said You/Me and it asked can we be together can you look at it & tell me if maybe I missed something lol I think he was asking me & once I listened to this one & the other 2 songs & I stupidly said do u feel that way about me baby & he said Maybe. Could he have been officially asking me to be his gf then & I missed it lol? I will just keep my eyes open & keep calm & go with the flow as u & others have said but Im hoping I didn't miss what he was saying & looked dumb 😢.
TrueCap-I'm not sure why this wont post under the original message so here it is again lol- I'am so happy to have all of u guys because you are honest unlike family & friends of mine. I'm taking all of this advice in & will just let it flow. Im so clueless when it comes to hints or Informally stating it lol I hope I get it if that happens. He did send me 3 songs 2 days ago and one song said You/Me and it asked can we be together can you look at it & tell me if maybe I missed something lol I think he was asking me & once I listened to this one & the other 2 songs I stupidly said do u feel that way about me baby & he said Maybe. Could he have been officially asking me to be his gf then & I missed it lol? I will just keep my eyes open & keep calm & go with the flow as u & others have said but Im hoping I didn't miss what he was saying & looked dumb 😢.
Posted by truecapPosted by AriesLady8Awesome advice ^^
Honestly I would just chill out. My father is an Aqua who has a birthday in late January too this sounds just like him.
What he said to you on Christmas was very telling. They take having a friendship first then going to the next level very seriously. You have to allow it to be organic. Don't get in your head and start over thinking anything. 2 months is not long at all so just ease up and take it one day at a time. Literally. If he feels pressure from you he will def back up and get second thoughts. Be easy breezy and relax
I had to quell my cardinal tendencies to push things along. But, I took advice from these good folks here and eased up and learned to go with the flow. That's when my relationship really started grooving along and progressing.click to expand
Good advice again
Posted by truecapPosted by nsm625Honestly, don't put a lot of weight on something that a man says during sex. It could be the sex they are actually loving. (general rule of thumb).
Yes I understand your point but I did not ask him how he felt he asked me & I told him & he then told me he loved me so much. My question is more so do you find when the Aquarius men say something so deep during sex is it usually their true feelings..I feel it is but want to know your point since you have Aquarius Bf. I will go with the flow as I have been I promise lol :-)
However, in your case I think he does love you because of the way he treats you. Actions tell MUCH more than words. My aqua took a year and a half to tell me he loved me. Now almost 4 years in the relationship, he tells me all the time. However, I knew early on he did love me because of the things he would do for me. And you can read it in their eyes. Aqua eyes really are an insight into the soul.click to expand
True & noted lol. I believe so to but only time will tell. That's beautiful about how your bf tells you he loves you all the time :-). Yes I do notice he stares at me a lot & when he looks at me it is with lots of love so I feel what you are saying. Thank You alot
Posted by truecapPosted by nsm625But he TREATS you like a girlfriend. He doesn't treat you like an FWB. That's the difference and in this case patience will be key.Posted by ramengirl
I think you should go with the flow and not consume yourself with labels. His actions should be enough for you to see that you're already his "girlfriend".
Or you could be like me and ask him to be your boyfriend. Traditionally the guy is supposed to, but if you love him and vice versa then there's no reason you can't ask him.
He sounds like a sweetheart with a lot to offer. Why move on from that?
ž
OMG u have just made my night and I think you are very correct but sometimes we need to hear it from someone elses perspective :-). I'am a cancer woman so I'm very impatient sometimes & get emotional at times because I hear so many people saying negative things about if a guy doesn't make you his girlfriend then you are just a fwb situation etc.click to expand
I agree & this makes me feel better hearing of your own experience also :-)
Considering its only been 8 weeks I think you're going
to do just fine.
*shrugs*
to do just fine.
*shrugs*
Posted by Montgomery
Considering its only been 8 weeks I think you're going
to do just fine.
*shrugs*
Thank you & 9 weeks back together & knowing each other for 8+months when we originally first started dating lol :-)#countingtime
Posted by nsm625
TrueCap-I'm not sure why this wont post under the original message so here it is again lol- I'am so happy to have all of u guys because you are honest unlike family & friends of mine. I'm taking all of this advice in & will just let it flow. Im so clueless when it comes to hints or Informally stating it lol I hope I get it if that happens. He did send me 3 songs 2 days ago and one song said You/Me and it asked can we be together can you look at it & tell me if maybe I missed something lol I think he was asking me & once I listened to this one & the other 2 songs I stupidly said do u feel that way about me baby & he said Maybe. Could he have been officially asking me to be his gf then & I missed it lol? I will just keep my eyes open & keep calm & go with the flow as u & others have said but Im hoping I didn't miss what he was saying & looked dumb 😢.
You're reading too much into it. It's just a song. You asked if he felt that way and he said "maybe" and that's a pretty good sign. He's starting to think your way. You just might be in different places right now, just have to wait for him to catch up.
And two months, in my opinion, isn't long enough to know someone well enough to make a decision. It usually takes about three months to decide if this is someone you want to move forward with. So, like we said, slow down and stop analyzing everything. It will happen in it's own due time.
Truecap- Ok I got it & will do :-) Thanks again for all the sound advice
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