Virgobeauty
@Virgobeauty
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I need help with this Aquarius guy!
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So one day he finally texted me out of the blue, and we began talking way more frequently. Almost every day, if not everyday, and for once, he was the one texting/calling me. We talked for hours about everything and nothing. One night while we were texting each other, he began flirting with me which surprised me. So I flirted back, and we flirted and talked most of the night, playing with each other's minds. It was great.
Well a few days later I decided to ask if he had a girlfriend (something I should have asked at first I know) and he said that he was "talking to someone but things weren't going too well with her, she has so much drama" and "I wouldn't even call it dating" (his words).He assured me that they weren't serious but I didn't want to step on any toes so after hearing that, I backed off a bit but I found it hard to completely back off so when he texted me again, I responded and we began talking again like we had never stopped. I suggested that after all this time we should finally meet each other (as friends not a date) and he agreed. Well the day of, I texted him to find out if he was still coming and he told me that he had to take his dad to the hospital, but if he got out in time he still wanted to go. Never happened, but he did call me the next day. I secretly wondered if he was telling the truth. Then, I decided to try again about a week later and casually suggested that we try to meet again. This time he seemed a little hesitant, so I told him that if he didn't want to meet right now that we didn't have to, but he insisted that he did want to see me. So on a Tuesday, we made plans to meet on Saturday. Then on Friday I texted him to find out if we were still on for Saturday and got absolutely NO RESPONSE. I texted him one more time to find out if he had gotten my text and STILL NO RESPONSE. I was baffled, he had never flat out ignored me in such a way. Sure, there were times when we were texting and I would get no response, but he would always text or call the next day. This time I didn't hear from him the whole weekend, no explanation or anything.
I know that Aqua guys are famous for their disappearing acts, but this just feels different to me. I've heard that Aqua guys will sometimes ignore you when they really like you and want to hide their feelings, but somehow it doesn't feel like that's what's happening here.
Any input on what may have happened, and if I might hear from him ever again?
So one day he finally texted me out of the blue, and we began talking way more frequently. Almost every day, if not everyday, and for once, he was the one texting/calling me. We talked for hours about everything and nothing. One night while we were texting each other, he began flirting with me which surprised me. So I flirted back, and we flirted and talked most of the night, playing with each other's minds. It was great.
Well a few days later I decided to ask if he had a girlfriend (something I should have asked at first I know) and he said that he was "talking to someone but things weren't going too well with her, she has so much drama" and "I wouldn't even call it dating" (his words).He assured me that they weren't serious but I didn't want to step on any toes so after hearing that, I backed off a bit but I found it hard to completely back off so when he texted me again, I responded and we began talking again like we had never stopped. I suggested that after all this time we should finally meet each other (as friends not a date) and he agreed. Well the day of, I texted him to find out if he was still coming and he told me that he had to take his dad to the hospital, but if he got out in time he still wanted to go. Never happened, but he did call me the next day. I secretly wondered if he was telling the truth. Then, I decided to try again about a week later and casually suggested that we try to meet again. This time he seemed a little hesitant, so I told him that if he didn't want to meet right now that we didn't have to, but he insisted that he did want to see me. So on a Tuesday, we made plans to meet on Saturday. Then on Friday I texted him to find out if we were still on for Saturday and got absolutely NO RESPONSE. I texted him one more time to find out if he had gotten my text and STILL NO RESPONSE. I was baffled, he had never flat out ignored me in such a way. Sure, there were times when we were texting and I would get no response, but he would always text or call the next day. This time I didn't hear from him the whole weekend, no explanation or anything.
I know that Aqua guys are famous for their disappearing acts, but this just feels different to me. I've heard that Aqua guys will sometimes ignore you when they really like you and want to hide their feelings, but somehow it doesn't feel like that's what's happening here.
Any input on what may have happened, and if I might hear from him ever again?
Yes you will hear from him when his girl ignores him again. To be honest, after he failed to name it twice, I'm not sure why you still put your trust in this guy? He clearly is unreliable and probably suffered a massive 'brain damage' that makes him forget all the appointments and ignore you blatantly.
You're right that it's not really the typical 'high school crush' where the boys being mean to the girls meaning they like them. Yeah, he pulled my hair, he must like me. No. If you have a chance to confront him, by all means do so to satisfy your curiosity and get back 'justice' or whatever you call. In the meantime, stop worrying and questioning about a guy who clearly just plays with your mind. Next time, he'll probably tell you that he lost his phone or his sim card.
You're right that it's not really the typical 'high school crush' where the boys being mean to the girls meaning they like them. Yeah, he pulled my hair, he must like me. No. If you have a chance to confront him, by all means do so to satisfy your curiosity and get back 'justice' or whatever you call. In the meantime, stop worrying and questioning about a guy who clearly just plays with your mind. Next time, he'll probably tell you that he lost his phone or his sim card.
Take it from an aqua....
he wants to meet you.... but is just unsure and afraid that he might screw up...
and if he's ignoring you now...he's thinking that he does not need this NOW...and for an aqua, ignoring u is just like having coffee....
so, if you don't totally get an aqua.. don't get involved...u might get hurt...
he wants to meet you.... but is just unsure and afraid that he might screw up...
and if he's ignoring you now...he's thinking that he does not need this NOW...and for an aqua, ignoring u is just like having coffee....
so, if you don't totally get an aqua.. don't get involved...u might get hurt...
imma gonna say this flat out. hes playing around la. your the girl he has to text or call to make himself feel better . but the reality is that theres another girl he is more interested in and taking up most of his time.
Posted by candi3bb
imma gonna say this flat out. hes playing around la. your the girl he has to text or call to make himself feel better . but the reality is that theres another girl he is more interested in and taking up most of his time.
Yeah, I think you're right. I haven't heard from him in almost a week so I'm done. Even if I do hear from him again, I'm just gonna ignore him, I don't need the drama. Its a shame though 😢
🙂 its fine i'm pretty sure you'll snatch another right up! hehe
yeah aquas tend to be a bit to much at times to handle!
agreed! if he does text you just be his friend...besides who would want such a character anyways? 🙂
yeah aquas tend to be a bit to much at times to handle!
agreed! if he does text you just be his friend...besides who would want such a character anyways? 🙂
If I were you I'd just move on and get busy with my own life. You already put more than you should off. It's clear that he's interested in someone else so I wouldn't waste my time. Yes aquas disappear but if we're interested enough we stay around :p
im a aquarius guy !!, well i think he likes u he's just alittle scared thats 1 and 2 i think since the 2nd time u were supposed to meet and didn't he became alittle distant because he feels bad about not being able to for what ever reasons but, i have had times when someone has hit me up about going out with them for plans etc and i just ignored or blew them off simply because i was ready or in the proper mind frame to do so but once i got myself together i would hit the person up to meet with them and have fun.. aquarius guys i think u have the most fun with.. hence my best-friend is a virgo well actually 3 of my best-friends are virgos
Posted by Aquariusdream
im a aquarius guy !!, well i think he likes u he's just alittle scared thats 1 and 2 i think since the 2nd time u were supposed to meet and didn't he became alittle distant because he feels bad about not being able to for what ever reasons but, i have had times when someone has hit me up about going out with them for plans etc and i just ignored or blew them off simply because i was ready or in the proper mind frame to do so but once i got myself together i would hit the person up to meet with them and have fun.. aquarius guys i think u have the most fun with.. hence my best-friend is a virgo well actually 3 of my best-friends are virgos
Yeah, but you wouldn't make plans with someone and intentionally stand them up would you?
Posted by VirgobeautyPosted by Aquariusdream
im a aquarius guy !!, well i think he likes u he's just alittle scared thats 1 and 2 i think since the 2nd time u were supposed to meet and didn't he became alittle distant because he feels bad about not being able to for what ever reasons but, i have had times when someone has hit me up about going out with them for plans etc and i just ignored or blew them off simply because i was ready or in the proper mind frame to do so but once i got myself together i would hit the person up to meet with them and have fun.. aquarius guys i think u have the most fun with.. hence my best-friend is a virgo well actually 3 of my best-friends are virgos
Yeah, but you wouldn't make plans with someone and intentionally stand them up would you?click to expand
nooo i would never thats the thing im telling u. as aquarius we really dont plan things like for example.. i could have planed to meet u for a date but as the day go along something happens that interferes with our plans so i dropp them but not on purpose .. btw virgos are earth so they tend to be more together dealing with a aquarius as a virgo your gonna get anoyed and just say w.e
Posted by AquariusdreamPosted by VirgobeautyPosted by Aquariusdream
im a aquarius guy !!, well i think he likes u he's just alittle scared thats 1 and 2 i think since the 2nd time u were supposed to meet and didn't he became alittle distant because he feels bad about not being able to for what ever reasons but, i have had times when someone has hit me up about going out with them for plans etc and i just ignored or blew them off simply because i was ready or in the proper mind frame to do so but once i got myself together i would hit the person up to meet with them and have fun.. aquarius guys i think u have the most fun with.. hence my best-friend is a virgo well actually 3 of my best-friends are virgos
Yeah, but you wouldn't make plans with someone and intentionally stand them up would you?
nooo i would never thats the thing im telling u. as aquarius we really dont plan things like for example.. i could have planed to meet u for a date but as the day go along something happens that interferes with our plans so i dropp them but not on purpose .. btw virgos are earth so they tend to be more together dealing with a aquarius as a virgo your gonna get anoyed and just say w.eclick to expand
Yes I am definitely a virgo lol. Planning is my life! But tell me something, what you said earlier about "not being in the mindset" to go out/hang out with someone, is that out of fear/freaking out? Or just that you have other things on your mind and can't focus on hanging out with someone at that time?
Posted by VirgobeautyPosted by AquariusdreamPosted by VirgobeautyPosted by Aquariusdream
Yes I am definitely a virgo lol. Planning is my life! But tell me something, what you said earlier about "not being in the mindset" to go out/hang out with someone, is that out of fear/freaking out? Or just that you have other things on your mind and can't focus on hanging out with someone at that time?click to expand
fear freaking out and sometimes the fact we have other things on our mind.. me personally everything is together in my mind when 1 thing goes wrong it sometimes tends to effect everything else also, and girlll lemme tell youu, if u going to deal with aquarius be ready for RANDOM RANDOM RANDOM.. as im typing to you rite now he could just pop up and say "hey lets meet later today!!" and also since u have hit him up and he hasnt answered trust me he's gonna come back with a explanation and he will make it up 2 u .. we are good at making up to ppl we hate to feel as we disappointed someone we like
Posted by AquariusdreamPosted by VirgobeautyPosted by AquariusdreamPosted by VirgobeautyPosted by Aquariusdream
Yes I am definitely a virgo lol. Planning is my life! But tell me something, what you said earlier about "not being in the mindset" to go out/hang out with someone, is that out of fear/freaking out? Or just that you have other things on your mind and can't focus on hanging out with someone at that time?
fear freaking out and sometimes the fact we have other things on our mind.. me personally everything is together in my mind when 1 thing goes wrong it sometimes tends to effect everything else also, and girlll lemme tell youu, if u going to deal with aquarius be ready for RANDOM RANDOM RANDOM.. as im typing to you rite now he could just pop up and say "hey lets meet later today!!" and also since u have hit him up and he hasnt answered trust me he's gonna come back with a explanation and he will make it up 2 u .. we are good at making up to ppl we hate to feel as we disappointed someone we likeclick to expand
Many thanks for your insight Aquariusdream, deep down I hope you are right about him coming back with an explanation. However, I'm not gonna hold my breath lol. Almost a week has passed and nothing, so I'm thinking he's not really concerned with whether or not he disappointed me or not. A couple days I could understand, but a week? Idk
Ohh noo see thats some b.s ...i think hes gonna hit u up sooner or later .. Now im puzzled ...btw i need some advice from a earth sign check my post please !!
1. I'd be willing to bet you $ 100 bucks that he's seeing this mysterious girl that he shrugs off to you, swearing that she means nothing to him. Bull. If she was THAT much drama, she wouldn't have been relevant during any convo you 2 were having. They're probably on & off. When they're having issues, that's when he appears back into your life; when things smooth over, that's when he randomly "forgets" that you exist again.
2. Sure, Aquas are known for disappearing, BUT here's 1 thing your story is missing. Aquas generally do this when they've already had time to attach to you in some way, even if just a little bit. I'm not saying that it's impossible for you 2 to have a strong connection just over the phone, BUT you guys haven't done really anything yet to warrant him having any feelings for you, therefore the "disappearance" act doesn't apply to you in this situation.
3. If there's a person he's "disappearing" from, it's probably his girlfriend or this mysterious woman.
4. Trust me, he didn't "forget" that he'd made plans with you. Aquas NEVER forget. Accept that he literally chose to ignore you. Don't lie to yourself. He got every single last text/phone call from you, but he made the DECISION/CHOICE NOT to respond to you. He's showing you better than he can tell you that he doesn't have respect or consideration for your time. Want that to stop? Stop being so willing & available every time he comes back.
5. Stop making excuses for him. Aqua or not, he's a grown ass man. And a real man knows that if he considers a girl to be worth it, he'll do everything he can to give off the impression that he IS interested vs. what your guy is doing & sending you all the signals that he's NOT.
6. Don't trick yourself into believing that he gets a "get out of jail free" card all b/c he's an Aqua. Yes, Aquas disappear alot, BUT just b/c we're known for this does NOT mean that it's ok. Sure, some of their reasons for disappearing are justified the 1st 1 or 2 times, but 4-5+ times later? Oh no, it's either b/c he's NOT that into you or b/c he doesn't see you as long-term potential, thus he's only giving you the minimum
7. This situation is a prime example of why they advise ladies NEVER to make someone a priority when they're only making you an option. Stop being so available & stop letting him get away with it when he disappears & randomly decides to come back days later.
2. Sure, Aquas are known for disappearing, BUT here's 1 thing your story is missing. Aquas generally do this when they've already had time to attach to you in some way, even if just a little bit. I'm not saying that it's impossible for you 2 to have a strong connection just over the phone, BUT you guys haven't done really anything yet to warrant him having any feelings for you, therefore the "disappearance" act doesn't apply to you in this situation.
3. If there's a person he's "disappearing" from, it's probably his girlfriend or this mysterious woman.
4. Trust me, he didn't "forget" that he'd made plans with you. Aquas NEVER forget. Accept that he literally chose to ignore you. Don't lie to yourself. He got every single last text/phone call from you, but he made the DECISION/CHOICE NOT to respond to you. He's showing you better than he can tell you that he doesn't have respect or consideration for your time. Want that to stop? Stop being so willing & available every time he comes back.
5. Stop making excuses for him. Aqua or not, he's a grown ass man. And a real man knows that if he considers a girl to be worth it, he'll do everything he can to give off the impression that he IS interested vs. what your guy is doing & sending you all the signals that he's NOT.
6. Don't trick yourself into believing that he gets a "get out of jail free" card all b/c he's an Aqua. Yes, Aquas disappear alot, BUT just b/c we're known for this does NOT mean that it's ok. Sure, some of their reasons for disappearing are justified the 1st 1 or 2 times, but 4-5+ times later? Oh no, it's either b/c he's NOT that into you or b/c he doesn't see you as long-term potential, thus he's only giving you the minimum
7. This situation is a prime example of why they advise ladies NEVER to make someone a priority when they're only making you an option. Stop being so available & stop letting him get away with it when he disappears & randomly decides to come back days later.
Posted by krysrenee7
1. I'd be willing to bet you $ 100 bucks that he's seeing this mysterious girl that he shrugs off to you, swearing that she means nothing to him. Bull. If she was THAT much drama, she wouldn't have been relevant during any convo you 2 were having. They're probably on & off. When they're having issues, that's when he appears back into your life; when things smooth over, that's when he randomly "forgets" that you exist again.
2. Sure, Aquas are known for disappearing, BUT here's 1 thing your story is missing. Aquas generally do this when they've already had time to attach to you in some way, even if just a little bit. I'm not saying that it's impossible for you 2 to have a strong connection just over the phone, BUT you guys haven't done really anything yet to warrant him having any feelings for you, therefore the "disappearance" act doesn't apply to you in this situation.
3. If there's a person he's "disappearing" from, it's probably his girlfriend or this mysterious woman.
4. Trust me, he didn't "forget" that he'd made plans with you. Aquas NEVER forget. Accept that he literally chose to ignore you. Don't lie to yourself. He got every single last text/phone call from you, but he made the DECISION/CHOICE NOT to respond to you. He's showing you better than he can tell you that he doesn't have respect or consideration for your time. Want that to stop? Stop being so willing & available every time he comes back.
5. Stop making excuses for him. Aqua or not, he's a grown ass man. And a real man knows that if he considers a girl to be worth it, he'll do everything he can to give off the impression that he IS interested vs. what your guy is doing & sending you all the signals that he's NOT.
6. Don't trick yourself into believing that he gets a "get out of jail free" card all b/c he's an Aqua. Yes, Aquas disappear alot, BUT just b/c we're known for this does NOT mean that it's ok. Sure, some of their reasons for disappearing are justified the 1st 1 or 2 times, but 4-5+ times later? Oh no, it's either b/c he's NOT that into you or b/c he doesn't see you as long-term potential, thus he's only giving you the minimum
7. This situation is a prime example of why they advise ladies NEVER to make someone a priority when they're only making you an option. Stop being so available & stop letting him get away with it when he disappears & randomly decides to come back da
Posted by Virgobeauty
@Krysrenee7,
Ouch, but thank you for the no BS answer. I probably needed to hear it.
I hope you didn't take my words the wrong way. Trust me, I've been in your shoes before & I know how these stories usually play out. At the end of the day, I always follow that 1 motto we've all heard: If it walks, acts, quacks & talks like a duck, it's probably a f'ing duck!
Maybe this guy has innocent intentions. Maybe not. Only HE knows. Now it's up to you. Are you willing to take the risk to find out? If you're intuition is right about him, you've got alot to LOSE. If you're wrong about him...well you know the rest.
Don't over-analyze his every word or action, BUT don't completely ignore your intuition either. Either way, consistency is something every human being deserves from others. He may like you a little bit, but it's not worth a damn if he doesn't like you ENOUGH to give you/be all of those things.
Posted by Virgobeauty
cont'd
I know that Aqua guys are famous for their disappearing acts, but this just feels different to me. I've heard that Aqua guys will sometimes ignore you when they really like you and want to hide their feelings, but somehow it doesn't feel like that's what's happening here.
Any input on what may have happened, and if I might hear from him ever again?
Do u know how to tell why they would disappear on you ? Because I really need to know
Posted by Virgobeauty
cont'd
I know that Aqua guys are famous for their disappearing acts, but this just feels different to me. I've heard that Aqua guys will sometimes ignore you when they really like you and want to hide their feelings, but somehow it doesn't feel like that's what's happening here.
Any input on what may have happened, and if I might hear from him ever again?
Do u know how to tell why they would disappear on you ? Because I really need to know
Posted by Virgobeauty
cont'd
I know that Aqua guys are famous for their disappearing acts, but this just feels different to me. I've heard that Aqua guys will sometimes ignore you when they really like you and want to hide their feelings, but somehow it doesn't feel like that's what's happening here.
Any input on what may have happened, and if I might hear from him ever again?
Do u know how to tell why they would disappear on you ? Because I really need to know
Posted by krysrenee7
1. I'd be willing to bet you $ 100 bucks that he's seeing this mysterious girl that he shrugs off to you, swearing that she means nothing to him. Bull. If she was THAT much drama, she wouldn't have been relevant during any convo you 2 were having. They're probably on & off. When they're having issues, that's when he appears back into your life; when things smooth over, that's when he randomly "forgets" that you exist again.
2. Sure, Aquas are known for disappearing, BUT here's 1 thing your story is missing. Aquas generally do this when they've already had time to attach to you in some way, even if just a little bit. I'm not saying that it's impossible for you 2 to have a strong connection just over the phone, BUT you guys haven't done really anything yet to warrant him having any feelings for you, therefore the "disappearance" act doesn't apply to you in this situation.
3. If there's a person he's "disappearing" from, it's probably his girlfriend or this mysterious woman.
4. Trust me, he didn't "forget" that he'd made plans with you. Aquas NEVER forget. Accept that he literally chose to ignore you. Don't lie to yourself. He got every single last text/phone call from you, but he made the DECISION/CHOICE NOT to respond to you. He's showing you better than he can tell you that he doesn't have respect or consideration for your time. Want that to stop? Stop being so willing & available every time he comes back.
5. Stop making excuses for him. Aqua or not, he's a grown ass man. And a real man knows that if he considers a girl to be worth it, he'll do everything he can to give off the impression that he IS interested vs. what your guy is doing & sending you all the signals that he's NOT.
6. Don't trick yourself into believing that he gets a "get out of jail free" card all b/c he's an Aqua. Yes, Aquas disappear alot, BUT just b/c we're known for this does NOT mean that it's ok. Sure, some of their reasons for disappearing are justified the 1st 1 or 2 times, but 4-5+ times later? Oh no, it's either b/c he's NOT that into you or b/c he doesn't see you as long-term potential, thus he's only giving you the minimum
7. This situation is a prime example of why they advise ladies NEVER to make someone a priority when they're only making you an option. Stop being so available & stop letting him get away with it when he disappears & randomly decides to come back days later.
great advice
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