I'm Dating An Aquarius

Hi all, been cruising the boards for a while and decided to join because I have a nagging question about my aqua (girl I'm dating, I think). For starters, I'm an Aries/Taurus Cusp April 20, with a Moon in Aquarius. I started dating an aqua a little over a month ago. It started out really well, we made a definite connection and proceeded to have 3 more dates after that, on top of hanging out randomly during the week. For example, I went with her to a friends going away party. Her friends are all diverse and great and I get along very well with them, as I can be quite sociable when the time requires. We started off very slow romantically. I asked for the first kiss after the 2nd date and she said yes. Later the next day she texted me saying "Did I tell you what a great kisser you are". I considered that a big bonus as she didn't seem very affectionate, even emotionally prior to that. I could already tell then that this girl would be different from the rest. I was very hesitant on showing too much affection, even though that's how I normally am with women, I just held back with her. Although, at the time of this posting we have been intimate, twice, each time she initiated it. However, the last time I made plans with her she cancelled on me at the last minute even though earlier that day she said she was looking forward to that evening. I do understand that things happen so I was very cool about the situation. Come to think of it, she's the only girl who's ever stood me up! lol. Anyway, I didn't question her reason, I just told her to take care of her business and to be safe that evening. The next day I was hanging out with my friends and invited her out after she got off work. She declined and went home instead. I (perhaps far too hastily) texted her that night to ask if everything was cool with us. She replied back that yes it was and conceeded that I may have had one too many beers to ask such a silly question. I concured. In a way, I wondered why she hadn't made further plans with me since cancelling, yet we talked, text messaged, or did a combo of both since she cancelled on me. The other night she asked what I was up to, which she only has asked when she's asked me to hang out with her, but I was out to dinner with a friend and I let her know. So it's been a week now and still no offer to go out again, unless I passed up a missed opportunity the previous night. Ah, well 🙂

Basically, I want to know from other Aquarius women, how I should proceed...

why did you hide your message AquaMoon?

There ya go. Looking for insight from Aquarius women or those who are close to or familiar with the behaviors of a typical Aquarius woman as I would like to slowly develop a romantic relationship with her, but I don't want to push her away in the process.

P.S. Last night we talked for over an hour, our longest conversation to date. We covered a wide range of topics. I refuse to ask her out again, so I'm stuck waiting on her to make the next move. Not sure if that's the right thing to do with an Aqua girl. Any thoughts?

Haha, as I was finishing this message she called me this morning on her way to class. One major thing, which is typical of an Aquarius, like me, she thrives on spontaniety and that's exactly what I'm going to give her.

Thanks Starfish, I'm going to read that thread now.

Ah, you're from Chicago too. Represent!

Thank you for your insight, UC. Although you have come across as blunt, I appreciate your reply and don't feel slighted in the least. I came to this board for one reason only, all my friends say to kick this moody, detached, beautiful woman to the curb, but I see something very special in her and I choose to pursue. I wanted advice from others who have an appreciation of astrology's role in relationships. In any case, I don't want this relationship to be ALL ABOUT SEX. We've been intimate already and I know she wants me as a lover, but umm, I want more. We've talked a lot since I made the initial post and to be honest I know the direction I want to take with her. As Starfish pointed out, friendship MUST be established firmly, and as we are both spontaneous, fun loving, and interesting people, I believe the friendship will come along quite nicely. Actually, it is coming along nicely... I just haven't seen her in over a week. I'm going to try change all that this evening however.

AquaMoon where are all the other men like you—? Ha ha, good luck with this girl you sound like a nice guy....
Aqua's do tend to pull these disappearing acts every so often...they say it happens when they start getting feelings for you. I'm dating an Aqua and he used to go all quiet for a few days at a time - that was AFTER the initial phase where he was in my face, never quite a week but like 2 or 3 days at a time. I think they go away to process their feelings or something, but it does go away eventually. Once they're over the shock of discovering that they actually DO HAVE FEELINGS, they come back to you and the disappearing acts stop.
Personally I do think you should initiate the next get together....Aquas are somewhat insecure in matters of the heart and I think they fear rejection a little, so the longer you leave it the more she's going to believe you're not interested and the less chance you'll have of her asking you out again....so bite the bullet and call her up!

Leo, you are very right about the initial "feelings for you phase, then disappearing act shortly after period". So frustrating, but I'm glad I found this board because I am pretty certain it steered me in the right direction so far. We hung out practically all night long tonight thanks to my burst of spontaneity and aggressiveness about seeing her. She said I looked great tonight too, and I must have... actually, we went to a couple of clubs and the promoters at two of the clubs asked to take pictures of us dancing together (odd, lol) for promotion advertisements, I guess we made quite a good looking couple. Anyway, I don't know why I checked the boards when I got home so early this morning, still extremely buzzed from the late night/early day's activities, but it was nice to get your messaage, Leo. Thank you! I had a great time with her tonight and now I know that I MUST be the aggressive one from this point forward, regardless if I think it will push her away. If I don't try, then I'll never know! UC was dead on about that, no matter how blunt she was getting it across. That's what I came here for. 🙂

And thank you for the compliment, LeoAqua. I have a certain fondness for Leo's as I have a Leo sister and brother; wild mix.

Glad to hear you finally saw her....hope you took the opportunity to ask why she'd been so quiet of late?? Let her know it did bother you to some degree....

As for Leo's....glad to hear someone likes them...

UC, that is exactly what I intend to do; not question her at all about the distance and I didn't last night either. She's very thoughtful and I understand she processes a lot and deals with her emotions inwardly and that requires tons of patience... which I need to work on anyway.

OFA, thanks for your story, I needed to hear that. She hasn't had very good experiences with men in the past and I'm almost certain that's another reason she's being as guarded as she's been with me. Despite that, when we're together, sometimes words don't even need to be said between us two, and we're both very silly with each other. She told me exactly one month into us "dating" that since she's met me I've brought out a part of her that's been hiding for some time now and it's been a long time since anyone has made her feel this way. So, things are promising, and with the knowledge I've gained from this forum I'm more able to understand so much about her, and myself as far as our general traits are concerned. I will come here for more advise in the future if I need it. 😉