Sounds exhausting.
Just another Aquarius man....another girl seeking answers
Posted by ra3ch80Posted by Libralady1985
I would leave guy alone because he may be close to asking you to marry him - you know - the big committment!click to expand
I'm torn between, is something amazing going to come from this, or is he leaving and not returning. One extreme to another and aquas seem to be impossible to read. Sometimes they act exactly opposite from how they're feeling and sometimes what you see is what you get. There's a very fine line
Posted by ra3ch80Posted by Libralady1985I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks so much!Posted by ra3ch80I think it sounds like you have him read pretty well. I mean, you have his behavior patterns down pat. This is just my Pisces Moon talking, but I think you're just getting insecure because you're thinking what if he doesn't follow the pattern he usually does and does the opposite. But, I mean, you weren't able to control his behavior in the past, but it turned out ok. You can think negatively, or you can think positively and see if maybe he'll continue his pattern. But, you're catching this board on a weekend night. The other Aquas on staff are probably out for the weekend. So you may have to wait until tomorrow to get a response from the regulars. 😄Posted by Libralady1985I'm torn between, is something amazing going to come from this, or is he leaving and not returning. One extreme to another and aquas seem to be impossible to read. Sometimes they act exactly opposite from how they're feeling and sometimes what you see is what you get. There's a very fine line
I would leave guy alone because he may be close to asking you to marry him - you know - the big committment!click to expand
Something's off. Let's walk through it though (Also I'm not an Aqua)
Look we all know that Aquas need their space and are prone to disappearing acts. Disappearing acts generally mean they are seriously preoccupied, so it's possible that they may lash out when they are interrupted. Aquas can go quiet for many reasons. Maybe they are working through something, maybe they are upset and trying to handle their feelings, maybe they aren't interested, maybe they ARE interested, etc. etc.
What I find troubling is the consistency of his disappearing acts (every 6 weeks). The fact that there is a pattern, or rather a routine, is a bit odd. Aquas are rebels and tend to follow, and even BREAK, their own rules. Aquas love freedom and don't like to be stuck in a set routine. One would think that his silent breaks would be more random, not every 6 weeks.
There' probably a reason for his pattern, so it's best to ask him about it if this is hurting you. Aquas can be detached from their own emotions and don't always see how their actions affect others. Empathy for those close to them isn't always their strength. So it's best to calmly let them know if their actions are hurting you in some way. Being emotional with them will backfire.
Tell your Aqua, "When you go quiet, it makes me feel like you don't care about me, which doesn't make me feel good about our relationship." Then back off and give the Aqua time to process the information. What he does from there is up to him. If you find that your needs still aren't being met, then it's time to walk away.
Another thing to note is that when an Aqua is in love with you, they are IN LOVE with you. What I find troubling is that you two had an argument over the dating "label" after he called you his girl. That doesn't make sense and makes me think he's not fully committed to the idea of you two being together. It's true that Aquas don't like to be tied down, but he should be able to back up his own words.
Astrology aside, beware of guys who use flowery language to keep you invested. Actions speak louder than words and words are cheap. Don't be afraid to tell a guy what you want. If he can't give that to you (or can't make plans to do so), it's time to leave. Communication is key though, so make sure you talk about your needs first before doing anything rash.
Look we all know that Aquas need their space and are prone to disappearing acts. Disappearing acts generally mean they are seriously preoccupied, so it's possible that they may lash out when they are interrupted. Aquas can go quiet for many reasons. Maybe they are working through something, maybe they are upset and trying to handle their feelings, maybe they aren't interested, maybe they ARE interested, etc. etc.
What I find troubling is the consistency of his disappearing acts (every 6 weeks). The fact that there is a pattern, or rather a routine, is a bit odd. Aquas are rebels and tend to follow, and even BREAK, their own rules. Aquas love freedom and don't like to be stuck in a set routine. One would think that his silent breaks would be more random, not every 6 weeks.
There' probably a reason for his pattern, so it's best to ask him about it if this is hurting you. Aquas can be detached from their own emotions and don't always see how their actions affect others. Empathy for those close to them isn't always their strength. So it's best to calmly let them know if their actions are hurting you in some way. Being emotional with them will backfire.
Tell your Aqua, "When you go quiet, it makes me feel like you don't care about me, which doesn't make me feel good about our relationship." Then back off and give the Aqua time to process the information. What he does from there is up to him. If you find that your needs still aren't being met, then it's time to walk away.
Another thing to note is that when an Aqua is in love with you, they are IN LOVE with you. What I find troubling is that you two had an argument over the dating "label" after he called you his girl. That doesn't make sense and makes me think he's not fully committed to the idea of you two being together. It's true that Aquas don't like to be tied down, but he should be able to back up his own words.
Astrology aside, beware of guys who use flowery language to keep you invested. Actions speak louder than words and words are cheap. Don't be afraid to tell a guy what you want. If he can't give that to you (or can't make plans to do so), it's time to leave. Communication is key though, so make sure you talk about your needs first before doing anything rash.
Posted by ChuckcemHis disappearing acts aren't exactly 6 weeks apart lol but that's approximately the average time span for sure. I know he has lots going on, but typically he includes me with what is going on as well.
Something's off. Let's walk through it though (Also I'm not an Aqua)
Look we all know that Aquas need their space and are prone to disappearing acts. Disappearing acts generally mean they are seriously preoccupied, so it's possible that they may lash out when they are interrupted. Aquas can go quiet for many reasons. Maybe they are working through something, maybe they are upset and trying to handle their feelings, maybe they aren't interested, maybe they ARE interested, etc. etc.
What I find troubling is the consistency of his disappearing acts (every 6 weeks). The fact that there is a pattern, or rather a routine, is a bit odd. Aquas are rebels and tend to follow, and even BREAK, their own rules. Aquas love freedom and don't like to be stuck in a set routine. One would think that his silent breaks would be more random, not every 6 weeks.
There' probably a reason for his pattern, so it's best to ask him about it if this is hurting you. Aquas can be detached from their own emotions and don't always see how their actions affect others. Empathy for those close to them isn't always their strength. So it's best to calmly let them know if their actions are hurting you in some way. Being emotional with them will backfire.
Tell your Aqua, "When you go quiet, it makes me feel like you don't care about me, which doesn't make me feel good about our relationship." Then back off and give the Aqua time to process the information. What he does from there is up to him. If you find that your needs still aren't being met, then it's time to walk away.
Another thing to note is that when an Aqua is in love with you, they are IN LOVE with you. What I find troubling is that you two had an argument over the dating "label" after he called you his girl. That doesn't make sense and makes me think he's not fully committed to the idea of you two being together. It's true that Aquas don't like to be tied down, but he should be able to back up his own words.
Astrology aside, beware of guys who use flowery language to keep you invested. Actions speak louder than words and words are cheap. Don't be afraid to tell a guy what you want. If he can't give that to you (or can't make plans to do so), it's time to leave. Communication is key though, so make sure you talk about your needs first before doing anything rash.
I'll say that to him and see what comes off it. I know I deserve a relationship I feel secure in. I agree.
His has very sweet words, although that is something that has developed as our relationship grew. He is a pretty genuine person in not saying something he doesn't mean. Although I am still beyond baffled that a 'label'could halt for such an instant and extreme 180. It's unsettling
Posted by Libralady1985Just sounds like you need to communicate your concerns with him then first.Posted by ChuckcemHis disappearing acts aren't exactly 6 weeks apart lol but that's approximately the average time span for sure. I know he has lots going on, but typically he includes me with what is going on as well.
Something's off. Let's walk through it though (Also I'm not an Aqua)
Look we all know that Aquas need their space and are prone to disappearing acts. Disappearing acts generally mean they are seriously preoccupied, so it's possible that they may lash out when they are interrupted. Aquas can go quiet for many reasons. Maybe they are working through something, maybe they are upset and trying to handle their feelings, maybe they aren't interested, maybe they ARE interested, etc. etc.
What I find troubling is the consistency of his disappearing acts (every 6 weeks). The fact that there is a pattern, or rather a routine, is a bit odd. Aquas are rebels and tend to follow, and even BREAK, their own rules. Aquas love freedom and don't like to be stuck in a set routine. One would think that his silent breaks would be more random, not every 6 weeks.
There' probably a reason for his pattern, so it's best to ask him about it if this is hurting you. Aquas can be detached from their own emotions and don't always see how their actions affect others. Empathy for those close to them isn't always their strength. So it's best to calmly let them know if their actions are hurting you in some way. Being emotional with them will backfire.
Tell your Aqua, "When you go quiet, it makes me feel like you don't care about me, which doesn't make me feel good about our relationship." Then back off and give the Aqua time to process the information. What he does from there is up to him. If you find that your needs still aren't being met, then it's time to walk away.
Another thing to note is that when an Aqua is in love with you, they are IN LOVE with you. What I find troubling is that you two had an argument over the dating "label" after he called you his girl. That doesn't make sense and makes me think he's not fully committed to the idea of you two being together. It's true that Aquas don't like to be tied down, but he should be able to back up his own words.
Astrology aside, beware of guys who use flowery language to keep you invested. Actions speak louder than words and words are cheap. Don't be afraid to tell a guy what you want. If he can't give that to you (or can't make plans to do so), it's time to leave. Communication is key though, so make sure you talk about your needs first before doing anything rash.
I'll say that to him and see what comes off it. I know I deserve a relationship I feel secure in. I agree.
His has very sweet words, although that is something that has developed as our relationship grew. He is a pretty genuine person in not saying something he doesn't mean. Although I am still beyond baffled that a 'label'could halt for such an instant and extreme 180. It's unsettlingclick to expand
Posted by AreyoumytwinflameAgreed.
I've been with my Aqua bf 2 years in May. He has never once dissapeared or gone silent or ignored me for no good reason. We have bickered and taken space from each other. We've broken up when we weren't sure it was working but through it all we communicated like adults.
He's never had an issue with labels. I've been his gf since after the first date.
Our relationship is not perfect or free from issues but we work through them and communicate.
You can't make a relationship work with someone who disrespects you.
This has nothing to do with his sign. He's immature and not sure what he wants. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Why would you want to be with a man who disappears with no regard for your feelings?
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Hate to admit it... But I think I needed to hear that. Que sera sera
Words mean nothing. Facts prove the intentions of an Aquarian. He is unsure of you because you are also very insecure and you seem to seek constant assurance to tell you he "loves" you. How exactly does he prove it? What does it mean when you say he comes back even stronger than before? You must watch his gestures and real facts, not sweet words. Does he make plans with you and stick to them? Does he have any initiative of getting closer to you? Do you feel any progress in this relationship? Or only displays of affection and nice words? And then he ghosts you again and again and the cycle repeats itself?
Also, how many dates have you had until now?
Also, how many dates have you had until now?
Posted by compy
Words mean nothing. Facts prove the intentions of an Aquarian. He is unsure of you because you are also very insecure and you seem to seek constant assurance to tell you he "loves" you. How exactly does he prove it? What does it mean when you say he comes back even stronger than before? You must watch his gestures and real facts, not sweet words. Does he make plans with you and stick to them? Does he have any initiative of getting closer to you? Do you feel any progress in this relationship? Or only displays of affection and nice words? And then he ghosts you again and again and the cycle repeats itself?
Also, how many dates have you had until now?
He proves it in his regular actions, not just what he says to me but the way he says it to me. He's considerate, respectful, thoughtful. I know being friendly is a normal Aquariuan trait, but you know when an Aquarius loves you. There's no denying it.
When he comes back stronger I mean to say he is closer emotionally than before. Our relationship has progressed slowly. We both stated from the start we didnt want something rushed, and want to know each other fit well in the long picture. We have both been burned in the past and both have busy lives so slow works best for both of us. When we don't see each other, we make a point of at least finding room in the day for a video chat so we can see each other for a bit. But when we do have time away from work kids and other obligations we make it for each other. I find he ghosts me when we progress deeper into our relationship so I sometimes think he's just processing his feelings, although this time he went from saying we are meant to spend our lives together to ice. It's hard to comprehend because he's never shut down before even when distancing himself
So, there is no reason for worry if he is consistent in communication and facts. There may be even the slightest reasons to turn him off temporarily, from something you said, an attitude, or, in most cases, it's only him and his thoughts. Mine did this before, but he no longer ghosts me. Communication is fluent and open. Even if he backs up from time to time, when he is ready, he tells me the reason without asking him, so I am not worried anymore. I adjusted to his behavior and I understand him. You should do the same. Be patient. Good luck!
Thanks so much
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