Libra...why do you do this to me?

Yep, it's me alright...and the ones who kno me already know my past with a libra woman I grew to love did me a good 2 years ago. Well, like the unforgiving idiot I am, I decided to move on and try it again with another libra woman. You know how it goes, movies, long talks on the phone, sex, etc...and I found myself falling for her. I believe what she says, and she believes what I say i mean I'm not gonna hold any grudges against her for what another did to me right? Well, to my suprise, she's been seeing her ex like i didn't know about it. I met him through her, and he was the one that helped me catch her in the act! Turns out they broke up because he caught her cheating on him! Ain't that some ish?!

I sat down and collected personal information I've learned from all of my libra friends and one thing was constant...they all love to have multiple relationships! I'm never the one to label anyone, but geez I could name nearly all my libra friends down in this list, man and woman! I'm sure this isn't coincidence...

Hello BigD...its been awhile 🙂

Libras are kinda fickle, but I guess stereotyping is no good. Chalk it up to the age and era.

Oh no, I'm sorry that you had to experience such a terrible girl 😢

Usually, I get along with libras ? I have one who is kind of a mentor/ friend of mine. She seems to think Aqua men are shit-heads LOL!!!!!!!! She's married to a Leo man 🙂

I guess the Aqua-Libra attraction is just like the cappy-Virgo attraction. It can work as long as the two are smitten with each other but when that wears off, things get ugly.

to assume that all libras are fickle or that they are cheaters IS stereotyping! Libra is perfectly capable of maintaining "multiple" "relationships" because our love isn't boxed up into one category for one person. The word fickle indicates that we are changeable, and that is true, but we are LOYAL to a fault when we love someone. Loyalty to the one we love, like really deep down love.

First of all, who knows if she was cheating with him. Did he tell you this, or was she just spending time with him? I need more information before I feel comfortable making a judgement call on this girl.

and for goodness sake, an aqua of all people should realize the value of friendship even if it is with a member of the opposite sex, even if it is with an ex. We keep friends just like you all do, dear to our hearts and close to home. We love all our friends, doesn't mean we're fucking them.

Yes, a libra (myself included) will date multiple people if they so chose. What is the big deal? Did you declare exclusivity with her? In my experience with aqua/libra the communication is very poor. Perhaps she didn't realize you were exclusive. Perhaps she didn't feel an overwhelming love for you that made her stop desiring the company of others. You are 22, I am assuming she is young as well. This is normal...not libran.

It is true that if you haven't talked about exclusivity with her than you can't expect it. That said, every Libra I've known has been pretty damn exclusive (much more than my fellow Arians). My Mom is a Libra but she has venus, mars & a few other planets in scorpio so she is extremely monogamous and is quite possessive of those she loves. Another Libra I know who has shown faithful behaviour had a lot of planets in earth signs. You can't just look at the sun sign.

The problem doesn't lie in the sign, it's about forging a strong bond with someone and allowing time for that to happen.

I guess the judgement call depends on the other little details that we (on this board) don't really know. I mean now-a-days,the new girlfriend or boyfriend continuing to cheat with their ex's is very common. But then again, it depends on how long you've been dating her & it depends on how reliable & trustworthy her ex is. Remember, you met him through HER & you have to always question the source when one minute he wasn't worried about a new boyfriend she had in her life while the next minute he's all of the sudden trying to get her caught up. Go with your instincts. She might be a cheater & if she is, this situation goes far beyond the relationship between Aquarians and Libras.

I've personally dealt with majority Libras when it comes to relationships & sometimes it does seem that they like to have their cake and eat it too. A Libra can have a girlfriend they love alot & would NEVER intentionally hurt, but still flirt with other males or still keep their friendships with the males that were there FIRST before the "new prospect" came along. And to some, they can't handle that, especially if their past is not so sqeaky clean. But then again, in their minds, they have a deep love for friendship & may see you as their #1, without any thoughts of hurting you, and may see all the things that are bothering you as good things for them since only THEY know their limits.

I think you might be dealing with the wrong woman. BUT, to make sure, maybe you should make sure that her ex (who started off not minding to spend time with her even while he knew you 2 were together, but then all of the sudden had a sudden attack of conscious). If anything, you should be watching him just as much as her. Don't listen to all he-said-she-said even if the odds seem 99% true. There's always that one person or that one situation where the 1% left took victory over the 99%

A muse a Libra: Yes, a libra (myself included) will date multiple people if they so chose. What is the big deal? Did you declare exclusivity with her?

That's cool and all you know the whole lying and wasting your partner's time and all, but that's not who I am. If you want to see other people, let me know. Period. Secrets, lies, games are all signs of childishness that I really don't want to have time for. Believe it or not, if you bring someone else into the relationship it creates DRAMA, something I'm allergic to. The first libra I fell in love with gave me the world, in exchange for my heart crushed in her back pocket. Your last remark I think is soo right, it's because we're young and inexperienced we really don't even know what we really want in life, but I personally know other people of other signs who love each other to death which honestly sounds scary, but geez, can I find a girl that at least can be honest?

krysrenee7: She might be a cheater & if she is, this situation goes far beyond the relationship between Aquarians and Libras.

Yes. I realized that but that's why I needed everyone's opinion on the libra thing cuz I noticed that nearly all my libran friends love to flirt around a lot (women and men) but love their partner. I'm not stereotyping either cuz I never pointed the finger at librans...you can call it bad luck I guess huh? This is my experience layed on the table, and if you feel as though I'm badmouthing librans please forgive me...most of my best friends are librans.

Keep searching...

BigD...I never once thought you were bad mouthing Libras at all. I understood exactly what you meant because strangly 75% of the men I've dated or atleast been attracted to were Libras & some of the same complaints you've had with Libra behavior in general have been things that I once thought about too. Even though this situation is bigger than just characteristics about a specific sign in the Zodiac, it can still come down to compatibility. And even though Librans and Aquarians are normally compatible there are still little specific traits each person with that sign has that may not be tolerable or compatible with the traits/beliefs or ways of thinking from the person of the other sign.

BUT...
I think with your situation, you might just need to sit back, look at the BIG picture & try to figure this thing out. Sometimes I'll act as if my situation were happening to a friend & I think about what advice I'd give to that friend, and by doing that I'll have the answer for myself

Yes...what I'm thinking now is, maybe I'm giving too much trust to my women. I treat them like the honest human beings they are until they prove me otherwise, but maybe this was a mistake. "Give em an inch, and they'll try to take the mile" I think this is true especially with the generation I'm in. There's not a lot of people who use their mind or hearts anymore, it's whatever their hormones whisper in their ears. I'm not gonna lie, same here, but I can't lie to someone like that because I can't seem to disrespect someone's honesty. I will try to stop and look at my situation as a whole...and see what I REALLY need out of relationships.

"It's driving me out of my mind
That's why it's hard for me to find
Can't get it outta my head
Miss her, kiss her, love her, wrong move you're dead

That girl is poison
Never trust a big butt and smile
That girl is poison poison"

🙂
No trying to take anything away from your heartache, but...I just had to do it!

LOL that one was good Lady M! Understand that only one person broke my heart now...I'm not gonna fall for that one again. It's just that it's sad how nowadays I have to expect the worst out of a women when I want a relationship to go to another level. They always come back and cry about how they never met a guy soo honest yet soo handsome and they can't seem to trust me either so they cheat in spite of that (one popular excuse women tell me).

unusual cancer, you have an unusual sence of cheaters heading your way. I couldn't smell a cheater standing in front of me because it's just like I said before, I treat all people as honest human beings they percieve they are until they're proven wrong. This is how it should be right? No, once people realize that they can get one over you, they'll take it. My weakness is my trust...to a fault.

Long story short, most people don't know what they want. period.

Oh jeez, please dont change. Seriously...then we'll have some lovely lady coming here making a thread for you. 😢...I've grown a little weary of those.


If your ever in my city holla at me.

Eh hem, most people DO know what they want but they're afraid to ask for it. Perhaps they feel like they don't deserve it or maybe they're afraid to find true happiness. Whatever the reasons, the jaded, hopeless ones are those who fail miserably in relationships. Don't be jaded.

Lady_M "If your ever in my city holla at me."

No problem lady m...nah I'm not gonna try to change, i guess. Mystery has something goin there with her input, maybe I should try to take what I've learned from all my experience from this instead of feeling like I've failed because in reality if there's still a breath of life in me I haven't failed YET...maybe this is the reason why I love being single soo much lol

BECAUSE I LOVE WOMEN SOO MUCH!!! lol