There definitely has to be maturity in a marriage. Jealousy and knit-picking should not come into play. But, by trapped i mean a feeling of Claustrophobia. Like you just want to run and never look back. I understand that this is a common trait amongst Aquarians and it is why so many remain un-married. I am just curious to see if it stands true.
ok in a rare moment of seriousness...most people in this site will tell you that compatibility really has nothing to do with the stars...its for fun. My mom is a Gem and my dad is an Aqua and they've been happily divorced for about 15 yrs or so...I think they just got married tooo young and that's why many couples now break up, they make a decision before they are mature enough to grasp its long lasting effects.
Two people should be mature enough and on the same page so to speak as far as what they want from a marriage, its a legal contract afterall...and it entails alot more than just "love" which itself is a pretty fluid concept. Maybe if you find someone you're sexually attracted to who is also your best friend, who feels the same way about you as u do for them and doesn't have more baggage than you...it just may work...
my aqua friend is getting married this October...she is terrified though, but also madly in love with her fiance. i can see her having a panic attack and not being able to breather as she walks down the aisle though...LOL!!! she still can't believe she is getting married.
"Maybe if you find someone you're sexually attracted to who is also your best friend, who feels the same way about you as u do for them and doesn't have more baggage than you...it just may work... "
that feeling being trapped is not there right now,as my lady is the one who is always going out of sight.haahaa so i get ample space to move around,infact too much of an ample space.and i don't like it sometimes.i get to see her once or twice a week,and it is not enough for me.i'd like to be with her more. so you can see i am not your answer of a trapped aqua.haahaa
"Maybe if you find someone you're sexually attracted to who is also your best friend, who feels the same way about you as u do for them and doesn't have more baggage than you...it just may work... "
My hubby is an Aqua and he is the boss. So far I have not seen the look of fear of being trapped cross his face, but we are newly married just on 10 weeks now. Maybe I can get back to this question in 10 years. 🙂
whenever my aqua guy sees a hot girl on tv or whatever he'll say he'd marry her right away if he had a chance. is he hinting i'm not good enough for him? or does he enjoy seeing me get jealous 😢
He just wants to get a rise out of you amethyst....besides be glad its some unattainable celebrity...b/c if it isnt then you might have a problem.
I suggest you do it back....turn it into a little joke. Say, "I'd totally 'do' so and so....but honey i'd keep him on the side and you could be my main. 🙂"
When I say things of that nature, it depends on who im speaking to...if its said with a 'bf' then i'm just saying it to say it OR to see what he'll say. If I say it to a guy friend who happens to have a crush on me, then Im trying to make a statement, "I dont like you."
"whenever my aqua guy sees a hot girl on tv or whatever he'll say he'd marry her right away if he had a chance."
-that is so odd, because my aqua bf never comments on hot girls, whether on tv or in person...he never once has said, "damn, that girl is hot". and i always wonder about that because he MUST think there are some hot girls out there, other than me 😉
but, maybe he is just trying to make you jealous or trying to push your buttons in a way...
"lol... why dont you tell him... "oh poor thing"... "go jump on screen, and I am off to bed". I dont see any reason to get jealous over such statements.."
Now why didn't I think of that haha! Well I did tell him so what I'd give the guy on tv a b*** j** and later he asked for one too! I'm still annoyed though when he flirts around with his female friends & uses the same line on all of them - he'd tell them he'd marry them if noone else would. I think any girl, regardless of her sign, would be upset if their bf said that to another girl. I'm curious - what would a Libra or Saggi girl do if her bf did just that!
-that is so odd, because my aqua bf never comments on hot girls, whether on tv or in person...he never once has said, "damn, that girl is hot". and i always wonder about that because he MUST think there are some hot girls out there, other than me
hmmm, this is quite interesting because i am in a similar situation! i have been with my aqua for 3 yrs. now, and he recently moved across country for his career...and conveniently enough, his ex girlfriend lives 30 minutes away from where he moved to. and he and her have been hanging out 1-2 times a week...and he tells me all about it when we talk on the phone. and he has convinced me numerous times that they are just friends, and that he hopes that i don't think it is anything more than that, etc. AND, my aqua has also asked me to move out there and live with him...but, i am hesitant on just moving so quickly without some security. so, i completely understand where you are coming from...
"moonchild8: aren't there other men where you live?"
-of course there are...any worth even talking to...not so much!!! not in this town 🙂 and yes, lady m is right...i am in love. i do still look at other guys all the time, but i am not the type to date around, especially when my heart is with one person.
My Aqua b/f is still in touch with several of his ex girlfriends and i do have to say deep down sometimes i find it hard to deal with.When ever i bring the subject up he just doesnt get where i am coming from and to him they are just his "friends".But to me they are girls that in the past he has been in love with. I know he loves me and i feel pretty secure in the relationship but what is it about Aquas that you cant lose contact with those damn exes lol!!
Well I came from my aqua guy friends house yesterday...the hot one, whose dumb as rocks....well he says he's looking for love. BUT like most young guys, HELL guys in general...he's looking for it in all the wrong women and all the wrong places.
Im getting married by the end of this year...Im madly in love with my sexy deustch Ram 😛...It great to be married especially if ur guy is ur best friend... my fiance is my BEST friend...theres nothing in this world that i wouldnt feel comfortable discussing with him... hes not jealoused ( ok he is but not super obsessive..he gives me my freedom but hes a bit insecure i dunno why... he feels i might leave him for someone better...which is IMPOSSIBLE.. there is noone better than him 😛..hes the best..better than all the rest ...better than anyone...anyone i've ever met... my SCHATZ 😛
I've invited my hubby to joins us here on DXP, being a rare breed, the married Aqua male, but unfortunately he is busy at the moment with the Rugby World Cup on. Looking forward to getting him back at the end of October.
The secret is beating them senseless with a baseball bat and rushing them to the alter while they are still dazed. 🙂
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