what does it take to commit?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by moonchild8 on Tuesday, May 22, 2007 and has 56 replies.

What It Takes for An Aquarius to Commit

Aquarians typically need to feel a deep sense of trust, intellectual connection, and independence before committing. They value their freedom and individuality and seek a partner who respects these qualities. Commitment for an Aquarius involves gradual trust-building and shared values that align with their unique personality.

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@moonchild8
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so, what does it take for an aqua to make a real commitment to someone in a relationship? what are the key factors that you look for in the relationship or in the other person?
i am asking this because it seems that all aquas i know are commitment phobes in some way...i mean, it takes a lot for them to settle down with someone...they are stubborn about losing their freedom and individuality and commitment seems to freak them out.

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@moonchild8
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well, i understand how aquarians are...which is what is described in prime's post...
but i want to know what would allow them to commit to someone. what factors in a relationship would help them to feel more comfortable to take the step towards commitment?

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@Freebird
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Honestly,

MC, I feel that you are asking a question that no one here can answer. Reason being, it is an individual choice. Each Aquar. is going to be different and unique in their own way.

I think your best and most authentic answer will come directly from someone that you are in a relationship with.

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@Freebird
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Nope....wait? what does that meanโ€”?? lol

Aries got to get on with life - wait? for something that may never happen? nope......NEVER!!!!!!!

Next!๐Ÿ™‚

I know your question was in reference to MC.....she will answer - take it away MC! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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@Freebird
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Waiting.

waiting for the fruit to ripe on a tree - priceless.

waiting for a loved one to return home after a long trip - priceless.

waiting in line to buy tickets for your favorite performer - priceless.

waiting for a man to commit - STOOPID!

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@Lady_M
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Anybody watched The Bachelorโ€”

That chick Tessa (the winner) is an aquarius...do you know what hell she put that man and herself through!
He's lucky that the show was supposed to be for a finite amount of time, because had it happened in the real world he probably would've never received an "I love you" so quick! She was definitely going to lose him because of it.

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@moonchild8
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"But all I can say is are you willing to wait? That's the thing with us "Aquas". We make you wait alot."

-ok, for me personally...yes, i am willing to wait...but, only if there is a light at the end of the tunnel! but, that is hard to know ๐Ÿ˜‰

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@Freebird
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you have embarked upon the wrong home Mr.

I would suggest highly that you take 10 steps backwards - facing me and then turn around and RUN!

FAST!!!!! me thinks you will since you have taken both the RED & BLUE pills.

now go on ....scat!

*raises broom

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@tiki33
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so, what does it take for an aqua to make a real commitment to someone in a relationship?

If I believe in something or someone I will commit but if I waver in some way, if I question myself too much then I won't, so as someone says it takes ALOT of time.

if you know in your heart that Aquas are stubborn and committment phobes well then you don't leave much room for the latter, you will just keep experiencing people that will mirror back your thoughts, meaning you have to change your MIND, you have to create a vision of the type of man/relationship you want and open up space for that to show up, its not about him, its about you and what you believe you deserve or don't deserve, right now your dwelling on the negative things, dwelling on things that may or may not impact your relationship in a negative way in the future all of this is FEAR and theirs no joy in that.

Change your mind, be determined that you have a good man and send him positive energy in your thoughts, right now I sense fear and fear shuts people down, love opens them up, theres alot you can do while your waiting on your Aqua and just know this, he may not be the one BUT the good thing is, when your sending out all that energy of love and positivity it will come back to you, be ready to LET GO if he's not the one so something beautiful can come in and take his place but in the mean time HAVE FAITH and TRUST your decision to be with this guy.

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@Freebird
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Ah....the strength of a woman.

Sounds to me like Aguaaqi means business and KNOWS who she is. Funny how we make contracts with ourselves.

She will achieve what she wants by her thoughts.

I'm with ya A - I looooove my plants, my cat and my..........

Marriage is on the way out.....doesn't work. Bad idea.

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@Lady_M
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'I will not get married, and I will not bare babies. Believe it or not--men don't like hearing that, but I'm very up front about it.'

they surely dont...lol

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@Freebird
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Sorry P....

It is on the way out.

I spend a lot of time communicating with people in relationships - ALL of them are very happy and content with living with their partner and believe it or not....most of them have children.

They have realized that relationships are learning experiences...no one wants to be forced to be with someone when they no longer are meeting each others needs and that is what "marriage" is to these people.

What I find is really neat is that they have wonderful relationships that are flourishing because of their chosen living arrangements.

One woman said to me, "one cannot make a promise to love another person till death...that is a lie, when you look at that other person you are lying to their face."

Interesting thought.......

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@Freebird
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We no longer live in the past...humans today are very different than they were LONG ago.

In the past...humans did not have computers....today they do. It is all a part of the "change" as well as many other changes that we have experienced.

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There are actually more young marriages...im mean REALLY young.

Those people are fools. IMO

my family doesnt believe me either. LOL I'd get married, but BABIES...no thank you.

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@Lady_M
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*Young people.

There are quite a few in my classes...I dont get it personally. I've spoken to quite a few girls and older women who got married from 17-20...they usually regret it after about 10 years average. The dont regret their family, they just think they should've waited for the most part.

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@Freebird
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I agree with A on this one.....

Each and every one of us has our own perspective...and each one of us will do what we think is right for us at each moment. Including you Mr.P.

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@Freebird
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Whoa there Cowboy P....no need to get your feathers in a dander!

I am only stating what others have shared with me....if you read my post correctly you would know this. Does not mean it is my POV although I must admit, I do agree with how some view this life style .

Seems to me that woman rile you up a bit.....why?

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