Normal Aquarian behavior? 0.o

What's the normal Aquarian behavior in relationships? I have to know so I can compare it w/ my Aquarius. lol So feel free to tell me all the dirt!

sexual?s explosivetet?s aquarioses. Emotionales detachamento momentales returnament?.

Being an Aquarian seems pefectly normal to me!

oops I meant 'perfectly'

Haha, so maybe Aquarian's aren't normal. A better word would've been "typical" wouldn't it? Well anyhow, I haven't gotten the emotional detachment thing yet, thank goodness. :-)

dont't worry, you will lol

Thanks Ben, optimism is always nice. 😉

Well it all depends on how deep the commitment is. The Aquarian you'll see in the very beginning (honey moon stages) will be almost completely different than the Aquarian you'll see after 2 years of commitment, for example. How Aquarians are in relationships all depends on what level the relationship is on. If the relationship just started (less than 6 months): he might be less affectionate that you wish; he will want to talk about any & everything & will often do so just to see where your mind is (lots of intellectual stimulation); he will be very blunt & honest with you about his intentions & will have the weirdest ways of showing you that he likes you; During this time you might even feel that he's holding back just a little and/or that you're expressing way more emotions than him. Now on the other hand, if you've been committed to an Aquarian for 1 year & longer, things might be completely different. If this is the case, he's probably more affectionate, very sponataneous, quick to open up about any & everything (He'll literally take your word for it when you tell him that you want to see you as his companion). During tough times or when he's very uncomfortable, you might experiences times when he randomly & suddenly withdrawls & gets very distant for awhile, only to reappear again as if nothing happend. Like I said, it all just depends

Aquarians are usually very loyal. They aren't ones to cheat, especially if they've been with you for a long time due to how much emotional energy they put into their partners, thus not having any space/room for anyone else to even slightly intrigue them the way their partners do. In relationships, Aquarians are usually very honest, up front & blunt about everything. They can be very unpredictable. When having deep convos with them, you might notice how they can bounce from 1 subject to the next with the quickness but yet be thorough & "deep" about each topic they bring up. You might notice your Aquarian just staring at you with a blank/detached look while you are talking; this is b/c they are really listening to you & taking everything in. Aquarians aren't usually possessive; they know better, considering they cannot stand it when someone tries to fence them into anything. Aquarians, as more time goes by will be more & more affectionate with you but won't necessarily ever or always be "all up on" you every second. They will give you your space as well as expect you to have your own seperate life outside of them.

Posted by krysrenee7
Well it all depends on how deep the commitment is. The Aquarian you'll see in the very beginning (honey moon stages) will be almost completely different than the Aquarian you'll see after 2 years of commitment, for example. How Aquarians are in relationships all depends on what level the relationship is on. If the relationship just started (less than 6 months): he might be less affectionate that you wish; he will want to talk about any & everything & will often do so just to see where your mind is (lots of intellectual stimulation); he will be very blunt & honest with you about his intentions & will have the weirdest ways of showing you that he likes you; During this time you might even feel that he's holding back just a little and/or that you're expressing way more emotions than him. Now on the other hand, if you've been committed to an Aquarian for 1 year & longer, things might be completely different. If this is the case, he's probably more affectionate, very sponataneous, quick to open up about any & everything (He'll literally take your word for it when you tell him that you want to see you as his companion). During tough times or when he's very uncomfortable, you might experiences times when he randomly & suddenly withdrawls & gets very distant for awhile, only to reappear again as if nothing happend. Like I said, it all just depends

Finally, an actual HELPFUL response (not that you others aren't great). We are in the early stages of the relationship and I have to admit, going in I was expecting the worse. I thought once I started going out with him, he'd feel some sort of victory and detach himself (I have great faith right?) To my surprise, he's been great. I also thought that he'd be flirting with girls as usual. I have found that he's really loyal. A pleasant surprise if I do say so myself. I didn't feel like he was holding back until you pointed this out..now I wonder is he. He definitely wasn't as affectionate as I may have hoped at first, but I don't blame this all on him being an Aquarius (there's a deeper thing, but it's private). I actually had to initiate the contact besides hand holding and hugging. I was like...WTF, what's wrong with me? haha, but then I realized the answer. He's very mentally stimulating, which I absolutely like. I have never felt like he's lied to me before,a dn I completely trust him. I'm excited to see how the re

well he probably is being affectionate. i mean he is investing time into the relationship. in his mind he is probably building his trust in you and he's not trying to get with anyone else. to him, he most likely feels like he's demonstrating affection to you. if he wasn't interested in you'd he'd tell you. otherwise, he may not realize that he doesn't seem that affectionate.
for the real answer to your question you need to ask him. engage him in a conversation about relationships/love and do it on a more philosophical and intellectual note. he'll enjoy sharing his opinions with you and if you let him know that you respect and admire his personal beliefs he will feel that you are being affectionate.

Posted by studdmuffin
well he probably is being affectionate. i mean he is investing time into the relationship. in his mind he is probably building his trust in you and he's not trying to get with anyone else. to him, he most likely feels like he's demonstrating affection to you. if he wasn't interested in you'd he'd tell you. otherwise, he may not realize that he doesn't seem that affectionate.
for the real answer to your question you need to ask him. engage him in a conversation about relationships/love and do it on a more philosophical and intellectual note. he'll enjoy sharing his opinions with you and if you let him know that you respect and admire his personal beliefs he will feel that you are being affectionate.

Wow, ou are ON IT Studdmuffin. I think you're exactly right: This IS his way of showing affection. Hmmm, funny how one person's opinions can make me think. I'll definitely have a conversation about all of this with him soon. Thanks!

Oh uh...another question...erm is it normal for an Aquarian guy to be the first to say I love you? I mean not that the feeling isn't mutual but as a Virgo I'm not really willing to say it so early in the relationship, and I did NOT expect that from an Aquarius at all.

@Bri...well here's the problem with Aquarian & Virgo pairing. They are both STUBBORN as hell! lol. They both are alot alike, which is why when one holds back or doesn't do something most people would do in the beginning of the relationship (like tons of affection, for example) there is almost always some sort of unspoken mutual understanding between the two. Aquarius is not necessarily worried about saying the L word first, only to be rejected. No an Aqua's fear is not necessarily rejection. An Aqua male won't have a problem going first. His hesitation, if any to say the L word will be all b/c of him. He wants to make sure that he actually means it. Aquas take Love & anything that requires lots of loyalty, very seriously. They like to take their time, make sure they're seeing the person in the right light (not letting emotions cloud their judgement). To the other person, their Aqua might seem like they're just stalling to say the L word b/c of stubborness, but if anything, an Aqua will more than likely say it, even if it means going 1st once he actually means it. Granted, it all depends on the person & how they've dealt with the L word situations in their past, but for the most part, Aquas when they really feel the love, don't hold back. The hardest part is GETTING them to feel strongly about you. Once they do & are content in their feelings for you (with no regret or doubts), then they will come right out & say it. Sure, pride & a little stubborness might come out (as is normal with men in general) but oh when an Aqua starts to love you, you'll know it. It's impossible for an Aqua to hold back like they used to once they've upgraded from liking you all the way to loving you

That makes a ton of sense actually. I mean, I was sort of shocked and am still trying to figure out if I feel quite as strongly as he does. He also said to me that he'd say it more but doesn't want to scare me away. I suspect that it's because of a past situation that I told him of where my ex said the L word to me way to early in the relationship (in my opinion at least), but it's not the same with him. I don't doubt his feelings for me or anything. He's truly a great guy and I think that you're very right krysrenee, you should so write a book. lol

aquarians are known for avoiding the L word early on in a relationship. i don't think this is because of the whole need to be independent thing. i think this is a misconception. personally, i don't like saying it early on in a relationship because i don't want to be superficial about it. i want the other person to be honest with me and i want to know that i can be honest with them. truth is one of those things that all aquarians actively seek out. another important thing to consider is the fact that your aquarian loves friends and friendship. another one of our better qualities. he probably needs to see you as much of a friend as a lover. when he feels he can trust you and that you can trust him and he admires and respects you as a person then he'll say it more often. i'm not saying that isn't the case, but we really like to get to know everything we can about someone before we say those things.

i really don't like using the word until the infatuation starts to wear off and i can see more clearly.

Studdmuffin i think that's very wise. I pursue things cautiously with the intention that my whole heart and mind can go into something full force, but i ahve to be absolutely SURE ya know? And I am, we've both since said I love you.

I agree with studmuffin. It's not that Aquarians don't say the L word 1st because of fear. No, if anything when an Aqua finally (KEYWORD) is sure that they love you, they naturally can't hold back any longer. Once an Aquarian is in love with you, sometimes all the previous behavior becomes non-existent. All the times they were less affectionate will change, all the times they were distant & went into a shell without consulting you will disappear, etc. But the keyword was FINALLY. It's not that Aquarians fear so much what the other person will say once they say the L word. No, it's more like Aquarians hate fooling themselves. We like to be 100% sure of something, especially when it comes to an emotion so strong as love. We know already that emotions & being in the moment can get the best of ourselves, so with knowing that, we make sure that we're not just blurting out the L word b/c of lust, infatuation or for the wrong reasons. Personally, I think there is no such a thing as saying the L word too early, as long as you are fully aware of what it means to truly love someone. Some people have fallen in love in 3 months & have more love for eachother than couples that have been together for 3-4+ years. It all depends. Aquas hate seeing other's judgment being clouded by emotions b/c we've all seen the heartbreaks & bad long-term results that come from being that way. THus, when it comes to ourselves. we strive not to be those kinds of people. And hey, sometimes it takes us a while before we, ourselves are even sure if we love someone. Yes, some times we don't say the L word b/c of fear of rejection or b/c of the insecurities that come with loving again, but either way, Aquas completely understand the commitment & seriousness that comes along with saying the L word, thus we only feel that we're doing EVERYONE a favor by not saying it until we're officially sure, even if that means others thinking we're just holding back b/c of pride or fears