I have been seeing an aquarius for 9 months now. It started off very slow, we would see each other only on wednesdays for the first 3 months. We would never talk on the phone but we always knew we would have wednesdays. We started seeing each other out at different places during the summer but still only having wednesdays to ourselves. In September we started spending more time together and by October we were seeing each other almost everyday. Things were great in October but then he started to cool down in November. We get along great except for im a pisces and emotional. He hates talking about anything and I've been trying to deal with that. He rarely calls me. He is just so hard to read he sometimes seems to be moody and he definatly loves to have his space. He has told me he does not want to be in a relationship with anyone but actually we really are, he said he cant bring himself to say it I can call it anything I want to. It took him 9 months just to admit we are dating. I've almost left him more that a dozen times and somehow he always talks me out of it. I believe he knows I am in love with him but I'm sure he doesn't want to hear it. He tells me he sacrifices alot to see me so ofton but really it's just his ALONE time. Should I be happy seeing him 5x a week? Is this actually alot for the aquarius man? After reading other messages I can see alot of him in there. I know there is no changing him but somedays all the effort I put into our relationship seems worthless and makes me feel really bad.
should i be happy?

labels are difficult.
dont stress him out about it.
just appreciate what you two have, if you cant deal with it, I suggest you look eslewhere.
But IMO you two are doing great...dont push your luck.
dont stress him out about it.
just appreciate what you two have, if you cant deal with it, I suggest you look eslewhere.
But IMO you two are doing great...dont push your luck.
Sigh I'm not dating a Pisces ex at the moment but I know that y'all are romantic (at least Pisces men are.) The phone calls and the attention that a Pisces can turn romantic in a second are quite baffling. In all honestly I'm dating a Cap right now but he's never been as attentive or as caring as the Pisces guy. When I was robbed a month ago that became very clear... Cap guy simply said 'you're ok, talk to you later' but Pisces guy was like 'nothing like that should ever happen to you of all people as you need protecting. Do you want me to go to the police with you?' Then yesterday at like 7 PM I had a question that needed asking and called the Pisces guy quite early (about a situation that went down with a professor so it was work related) and he turned it into such a dreamy eyed conversation that lasted until I couldn't keep my eyes open. Pisces are kind of like a drug of romantisism that I know gets me as an aqua all dreamy and idyllic. But there were and are major differences which I don't know could ever be worked out and my need for change means serious issues. He hated that I'm independant. I hated that he needed to control and the emotional blackmail... I just don't know if I can handle it. It's a nice fantasy when I close my eyes though as he's quite inspiring. But it's just a fantasy.
I envy you pisces that make it work with the aquas though because I know that there is alot that can be learned and great times to be had.
I envy you pisces that make it work with the aquas though because I know that there is alot that can be learned and great times to be had.
"I know there is no changing him but somedays all the effort I put into our relationship seems worthless and makes me feel really bad."
i think that is how a lot of us women feel, who are in relationships with aqua men...
well, at least i feel this way...i seem to feel that i put more effort into the relationship than my aqua does, and i don't ever feel it is appreciated enough.
i think that is how a lot of us women feel, who are in relationships with aqua men...
well, at least i feel this way...i seem to feel that i put more effort into the relationship than my aqua does, and i don't ever feel it is appreciated enough.
"my aqua called last night, for example, to say hi. after he did that he had apparently nothing else to say. i tell him a story, he says "uh-huh". i said...hey, why did you call me if you were not in the mood to talk? he replies...i figured i would say hi"
-oh my gosh...that is EXACTLY what my aqua does when he is in one of those moods!!! and then i feel like i am boring him by talking his ear off...
-oh my gosh...that is EXACTLY what my aqua does when he is in one of those moods!!! and then i feel like i am boring him by talking his ear off...
i think as a water sign, the hardest part of being with an aqua, is that we tend to take everything personally. aqua's don't mean to hurt us, or make us question certain behavior...that is just their way. but, being a water sign and a female on top of it is tough b/c we take every little thing to heart...
starfish...you are absolutely right!
starfish...you must be tougher than me b/c after 2 1/2 years with my aqua, i still take a lot of thing personally...if he doesn't want to hang out with me, i take it to heart.
Thanks everyone for your words. He has been divorced twice, he married once at 18 and that only lasted 1 year. He married again at 31 that lasted only 18 months. He has been divorces for 2 years now and that is why he says he cannot be in a serious relationship, he never wants to get hurt like that again. I do take everything personal I hate it. I always try to read him but he is really not that affectionate he says he never has been. Im determined to make it work with him I hope to that someday he will get use to the way I am and all will be good. I do believe we have some sort of silent connection that I have never had before.
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