Aquas and overtures

Hi! I've been lurking here foreeever. I love that there's a space for people to talk astrology, b/c most people in my everyday life look at me like I've lost major IQ points when I chance bringing it up.

Anyway, there's this guy (of course!). My post isn't so much about the guy, tho, as what I'm coming to realize is my complete unwillingness to make the first "real" move.

Aquas are said to be passive, but I've struck up conversations with guys who have caught my eye and even asked and taken a few out. Part of my problem, I think, is that I usually fall for the lower-key, "shy" signs of Caps and Taureans and Pisces, and they tend to be just as passive. Eventually, I get so frustrated that I just bite the bullet and ask them out.

But lately? No way. I will smile and strike up conversation, but I just am not willing to make the first move. I can't decide if this is good (i.e., I deserve a guy who is willing to take the initiative, and I'll darn well wait for one), or of it's self-defeating (since I'm always falling for the passive guys).

Kind of a jumbled topic, I guess, but I'd love to get some feedback.

I gotcha...

Just take the initiative in the begining and back away to let him grabn the reigns...he should figure it out, if he really likes you and doesnt want to lose you.

But I completely understand wher your coming from...I tend to like the passive shy types as well. We never really get anywhere together...so I usually have to do something...then I back away when they seem to get the picture (mainly out of aqua detachment).

and Welcome to DXPland...please come again soon...

Hello! And thx. Yeah, that is what I'm doing now (rushing in, then giving them reaction time), and it's a good strategy, I think. I'm just so FRUSTRATED lately with how long it takes the guys I like to get brave. Bleah!

hehe. I went for shy guys. But I kinda get bored with them after a while.
It's not good to bore the Aquarius. heck, life can get really boring.
Waiting is boring to. >_>
I'm bad aren't I?

YES, that is the double-edged sword! I want stability and dependability, but then I get so bored once the relationship gets settled. Which is a further issue, people not making the effort to _continue_ romancing their partner. Nothing bores me like a guy who won't get off the couch or away from the computer.

I don't think I've actually ever purposely done the bait-and-switch, but that's a good idea. Thx.

Aquacat, where do you meet shy guys? I want one. I get stuck with A personality types who will pursue a girl all the time simply because they need to hide their flaws (and the flaws are numerous!) I figure that I get stuck with these characters because I'm illusive or something. Believe me... a shy guy who doesn't know how to act with a girl has to be less jaded than the guys I attract. (Could also be the fact that I'm a lawyer so I see too many lawyer type personalities.)

Yeah, I think some guys really seem to get transfixed by aqua "aloofness." Unfortunately, I haven't run into any of those lately! LOL. You and I should trade workplaces for a week - my office is full of shy types.

That is very true and why I like them as well. I'm wondering these days, tho, if I haven't been confusing "shy" with "lazy." That's my underlying gripe, I think, that I feel like I do almost all the work getting things going and that, once into the relationship, I don't get much romancing. Hmm. I am going to work on it, tho.