The gray areas

For the longest time and even now I like to believe romance and relationships are as simple as they are. I'm about to contradict myself because there's one particular person (a sag fancy that) that for some reason crosses paths with me.

We met back in highschool at our year 12 formal (kinda like prom) Our friends had set up a blind date. She was one of the first person to get me out of my comfort zone and also one of the few people that can initiate me to dance. It's become a running joke between us now. "When do we dance?" We had a great time together but she was headed to Jamaica and I was off to the states to do a bit of travelling after school.

To both our surprise plans change and we found each other at a cafe in Berlin few months after that, had a chat, had our little dance as usual then parted again. Again in Paris then again in Copenhagen. It's like no matter where I go or what I do she just likes to pop out of nowhere and the best part is we always just have fun, find a place a dance the night away.

It's been over 10 years of this pattern, neither of us has mentioned this until I bumped into her again yesterday. I don't know what it was but I felt the need to bring this up and so did she. Neither of us believe in coincidence nor fancy the notion of 'the one' but these random stances were too freaky to ignore.

Thing is we have never been single apart from that first blind date. We've always been with someone. Every time we're together it's just pure joy and excitement. She asked me if I ever thought about 'it'. I did. When we dance there's just this physical chemistry. We both felt that if it wasn't for the fact we're both taken we would jump each other immediately.

Despite all that, we went for a dance afterwards. Everything was still the same. I know she loves her man and you all know how much I adore my girl. For whatever reason we can't explain why we do this but for what it's worth we never place too much substance behind it.

Is it wrong? Is it right? or does it just fall into one of the gray areas never to be answered.

well you are single, aquanoz, and right now, there hasn't been anyone establishing anything "solid" with you.

I can tell once you are committed, you will be, but right now....you are enjoying bachelorhood and are young. Don't wanna sound like a mama, but make sure you don't hurt any girl and spread yourself. Too many ladies come on dxp and complain of "insert sun sign, placements ect" that never wanted to "commit" and "why did he disappear?"

some people marry very young and stay committed, and some have many marriages (Elizabeth Taylor, Zsa Zsa Gabor, ect)

just depends on you when you find that person and solidify it.

** basically respect every young woman that comes your way.

I know Lisabeth which is why I don't usually place myself in situations like that. It really is a strange feeling. I can't adequately express it with the english language.

For a fact we've never planned to meet up, barely keep in contact as it is and our meetings are random in its truest sense. It's more of a "hey there you are! Surprise! Let's go and have our usual fun and see you whenever!". I don't pine for her at all but I can't deny that physical... affinity? shall we say? is there. And for the record I mean physical as it is, we've never had physical intimacy of any kind unless you count the dancing.

And plus I've been with the pisces gal for a while since we had a huge talk! She's the girl for me now and I'll give her my everything! And I promise no hurting other girls' feelings! *puppy dog eyes*

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But think about it Snozzy, do you really want to go through life, wondering, fantasizing, daydreaming of how it would have felt smashing her?
What if you never see her again? And its not cheating if you do it in another country!

haha! That's the thing I don't think neither of us fantasize about the possibility. It was more weirded out by the random occurrence. It's more matter of fact that if we were both single it perhaps would've gone that way. Which is why I sorta said physical affinity if that even makes any sense.

We talked about fate briefly but it's something we don't believe in. If you're supposedly meant to be with someone then your paths shouldn't zigzag it should meet somewhere but then is it really a question of it meeting or is it a question of both parties putting in the effort? We dismissed that, Serendipity to us is a romantic concept but not realistic.

If I did think about all that it was with my pisces gal, girl I'm with now (well taking out the smashing part 😛) I hardly leave things to chance and if I feel a real connection I will chase after it.

I— gonna cry (in a good way)..so beautiful!

hey Aquasnoz. :] i chuck it into the grey area, and this is why: the aqua and i dated back in high school. we split due to my issues. 10 years later, he comes into the store i was working at. i lived 2 houses away and he, a block away. i didn't really think about it at the time. he was with another girl and we just had a nice friendly "catch-up". a good few years later, he finds me on myspace and we are both with another and still kept it friendly, stayed in contact via myspace/facebook. one day i realized i missed his bday and felt bad, so i sent him a late bday msg. he responded and shortly there after, he gave me his # and told me to call him sometime. i called him right then and found out we were both single. we talked for a bit and, well, i invited him over. one night we were catching-up and we were talking about our histories from school 'til that point. turns out we didn't live too far from each other... for the whole 20+ years! when he or i moved, he or i moved to the same area/next town over! now, i say it's in the grey area, cuz it was like the universe was trying to tell us something and i believe that it couldn't fully happen 'til we learned our lessons, seperately, to be together. neither one of us would change a thing about it! :]

@Marrakesha: Definitely does pop into my head. It is hard to discern between what's romantic and what's not given the heat of the moment but beyond that moment it's like there's nothing there or rather nothing more to think or feel further.

Funny you say that because when I first met my girl she posed the question to me. She asked me if I believed in an attraction that exists in a particular moment and I told her about this friend of mine. Long story short that's how we hit it off, we thought we were both weirdos with such bizarre and abstract thinking. That's where I can make a connection with her rather than the Sag friend of mine, we actively want to learn about each other. It literally feels like she can take the thoughts out of my head and that's what I love about her.

For me the gray area more exists as in whatever physical connection I have with the Sag friend doesn't fit into the puzzle at all. It's not explainable and there's no effort on either of our parts to comprehend it.

@misslissa: See I'll definitely take that as a more realistic approach on what's 'meant' to be. To me your paths eventually met and you guys did date before that years ago and it wasn't so much as randomly zigzagging as to two curves finally aligning. (Sorry I'm a very visual person lol) but it's definitely very inspiring 🙂

lol! i understand. visuals are good and i like the way you put it! :]

It just sounds like you are not serious with your connection with your pisces.

I know it can rub off that way but you'll just have to believe it when I say I have no inclination to chase after whatever this is. More curiosity to see if people can relate to it but as usual the general consensus is no and view it much like a romantic pining for someone.

God if I were to write about my pisces I think need to dedicate a whole forum and threads worth, it's way beyond whatever this is.

🙂
You have a very creative and imaginative streak....you can use that inwardly to your advantage.....write music,poetry, epithats that speak of her eyes, like shakespeare does with his sonnets......remain loyal but dream big, and show the world how you feel.

Dream big but stay grounded. /quote by me. 🙂

Soul Dance chemistry? lol

Yeah I think I like that term a lot better because chemistry can occur between different people and chemistry isn't confined within the parameters of romance nor love.

i want to know about your pisces!!

Really Sola I really can write pages and pages because it's so magical and I'll go all mushy!

Sighs @ this thread. Nice stories aquasnoz and misslisa. I'm a believer lol, thats all I can say.

yeah, there's hope i guess 🙂