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So last night, with "L" word on the tip of my tongue, Aqua man announces that although he would DEFINITELY consider us more than just FWB, he simply cant commit to any kind of relationship, and that I should start looking for somebody else?! Especially since he just wants me to be happy without him being in the way..after seeking me out, dates, trips away, a ridicluously romantic Valentine?? Day...wtf? Well i told him, he definitley isnt cut from a different cloth, after all every man wants to have his cake and eat it, but unfortunately there?? only so much cake a man can have. "Let?? just be friends" that famous cry..umm no thanks! So i totally know what i need to do now, start the whole detachment process, Oh Lord help me! No texting at wrong times, seeing him when i feel a little lonely, being a slave to my fone (has he hasnt he texted etc). Damn 😢

Wow. That's so fucked up....
That is so fucking cruel... You know what I beginning to realize just how nice an Aqua I am. He knew he wasn't gonna like you from the beginning no way he'd have that figured out already by now in such a short period of time.
Unless this is some selfish indirect way to protect his own heart by not letting you love him... I can't even understand that.

Maybe you started to come on to strong to fast and he didn't want all that just yet...

how many times have you been advised that actions speak louder than words? Sigh. If i have a daughter, i can imagine how it is with her growing up and then having all these guys chasing her. UGH. It's a CURSE i tell you. Better to be like Amy in "Big bang theory"

although in reality, she's like "Ugly Betty" and in real life quite a catch. It's her "character" in the show, where she's not exactly like how Howard FANTASISES about Katy Sackhof in Battlestar Galactica:

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Wow. That's so fucked up....
That is so fucking cruel... You know what I beginning to realize just how nice an Aqua I am. He knew he wasn't gonna like you from the beginning no way he'd have that figured out already by now in such a short period of time.
Unless this is some selfish indirect way to protect his own heart by not letting you love him... I can't even understand that.

Maybe you started to come on to strong to fast and he didn't want all that just yet...

Do you mean, he didnt like me at all? In all honesty, despite all of whats happened i would have to disagree.

I mean seriously, why ask to see me almost every night, time available, want to meet my family, have me meet your sister, sleep at mine however often per week, and admit to acting like my bf without actually committing to the idea. Let me say in my defense that not once, ever, had i asked for him to be my bf, for more than he wanted to give. All i have done is reciprocate (and secretly fall in love)..if it was all too much for him, then hell, he should have made his realisations sooner. If you are contacting and seeing someone DAILY for 6 weeks, its not because you're not into that person.

I don't mean to sound harsh because I sympathize, but it goes back to the year old advice everyone woman gets from her mom, grandma, father and in my case, even brothers, that you need a man to respect you for him to wanna be wth you. I never thought that FWB situations turn out well for women because the man's respect is not earned by being his sex toy. Why buy the cow you don't respect, when you can have the milk without it. FWB situation work best for people who see sex as nothing but physical and who have a hard time getting attached to people.

I have seen Aquarius men and women do FWB relationships because aquas don't get attached easily and aren't as emotional as most signs are. Get rid of him if you want something more.

Oh and another thing, from what you described, he is either a commitment phobe which a lot of aquas are or he is just being a plain ol' aqua that enjoys your company as a friend. Believe it or not but an aqua man and even woman can do all those things with a friend without thinking of them the slightest romantically.

I'm so sorry Sola!! How disappointing and heart breaking. 😢

Some aqua men sound a nightmare to date, no wonder why this forum is always empty (less juicy stories) compared to other forums. Who would want to deal with all that?

Posted by aquarius09
Oh and another thing, from what you described, he is either a commitment phobe which a lot of aquas are or he is just being a plain ol' aqua that enjoys your company as a friend. Believe it or not but an aqua man and even woman can do all those things with a friend without thinking of them the slightest romantically.

Amen to age old advice etc and what you have said here, but whats with a valentine card saying " Valentine..Be Mine" and inside he writes "**, you'll never know how glad i am that we met"..

Anyways, one time i tried to break it off in the beginning, and i couldnt get rid of the ass! I respect that he doesnt want to continue with me, ok it could have been done better, or sooner. Thats all im saying!

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Posted by aquarius09
Oh and another thing, from what you described, he is either a commitment phobe which a lot of aquas are or he is just being a plain ol' aqua that enjoys your company as a friend. Believe it or not but an aqua man and even woman can do all those things with a friend without thinking of them the slightest romantically.

Amen to age old advice etc and what you have said here, but whats with a valentine card saying " Valentine..Be Mine" and inside he writes "**, you'll never know how glad i am that we met"..

Anyways, one time i tried to break it off in the beginning, and i couldnt get rid of the ass! I respect that he doesnt want to continue with me, ok it could have been done better, or sooner. Thats all im saying!

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I don't think he's lying about that. I truly believe he thinks of you as a friend and not just a booty call. YOu are not on the worse end, booty call, nor are you on the best/favourable end, which would be lover. You are in between, which is friendship. He's glad to meet you, he likes spending time with you, enjoys your company. Libras adn Aquas get along famously in friendship. I'm more convinced in saying that because you mentioned that he wants you to be happy and has asked you to move on. But sadly, friendship is all there is to it. Romance can either be selfish or selfless, but either way romance has jealousy and, in aquarius' case, a tinge of jealousy. If he is easily asking you to move on, then he cares for you as a friend, which in my aquarius book makes him attainable, that is if you want him bad enough. Aquarius associates friendship with love. Often our partners are more our friends than lovers. So what do you do?
You heard of "absence makes the heart grow fonder". You need to pull away and give him a chance to miss you. Missing you can either force him to commit to you or come to the realization that he wants to be with you.

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Posted by aquarius09
Oh and another thing, from what you described, he is either a commitment phobe which a lot of aquas are or he is just being a plain ol' aqua that enjoys your company as a friend. Believe it or not but an aqua man and even woman can do all those things with a friend without thinking of them the slightest romantically.

Amen to age old advice etc and what you have said here, but whats with a valentine card saying " Valentine..Be Mine" and inside he writes "**, you'll never know how glad i am that we met"..

Anyways, one time i tried to break it off in the beginning, and i couldnt get rid of the ass! I respect that he doesnt want to continue with me, ok it could have been done better, or sooner. Thats all im saying!

When he comes crawling back, take aqua09's advice. It's not game playing. It's human nature. Don't deal with him again unless it's on your own terms. And you shouldn't ask him about it ever again. He should offer up the commitment on a silver platter. He's known this whole time it's what you wanted.

Probably by the time he does that, you won't want him anymore. As is typical of air sign fwb situations. Sigh.

And the words in the valentine don't mean much. He could have given the same exact one to his dry cleaner or whoever cuts his hair.

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+1. You tell him who the boss is!!! I don't care much for signs where gender is concerned. I'm all for woman power. LMAO @ give the exact same one to his dry cleaner or whoever cuts his hair..lol

Don't answer his calls, let him miss you and when he misses you tons, still don't answer his calls 🙂 You are willing to LOVE him, is he stupid??

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Wow. That's so fucked up....
That is so fucking cruel... You know what I beginning to realize just how nice an Aqua I am. He knew he wasn't gonna like you from the beginning no way he'd have that figured out already by now in such a short period of time.
Unless this is some selfish indirect way to protect his own heart by not letting you love him... I can't even understand that.

Maybe you started to come on to strong to fast and he didn't want all that just yet...

Yes, you do seem like a very nice guy 🙂

Sigh so this guy turned out to be an idiot after all.

I don't know from memory he's a fellow pisces moon? There's no way he wasn't able to feel that you loved him and he says this shit? *rage* some guys are beyond me.

Thanks evrybody, you've made my bad day easier 🙂 Yeah, this guy is Aqua with Pisces venus and Mars, but you know i dont know what was going through his mind..it was sudden, (but obviously he had wanted to bring it). We had just been out to the the theatre, sitting there, arm round me, smelling my hair and neck, kissing me, bought the tickets, and rounds off an a lovely evening with that BS.

If there had been signs, i could deal with it better, but im just like, wow, i didnt see it coming. I mentioned to another DXP(er) in a private mail, that he has ONLY female friends (apart from guys from his football team). Anyways, i know one of these girls like him A LOT because he's always mentioning how she wants him..(i told him to go with her etc). I bet she has been putting ideas into his head, he did say she hates me because im "stealing his attentions". What the fuck ever, honestly.

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Posted by Sola
Anyways, i know one of these girls like him A LOT because he's always mentioning how she wants him..(i told him to go with her etc). I bet she has been putting ideas into his head, he did say she hates me because im "stealing his attentions". What the fuck ever, honestly.

Can't handle people who don't stick up for their beliefs. NO ONE can change my mind about my mate. That would annoy me.

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Same here. It actually makes me pretty angry, so I'm not going to say anything else besides that I agree.
This guy has no balls. He can't stand up for what he feels, which to me, would = flaky all the way through the relationship, if you were to have one. I've known aquas to be very loyal, but they also know what they want and aren't afraid to go for it and stick with it. This guy is just feeding off the fwb situation and isn't afraid to lose you because he thinks he has that part of you to keep until he doesn't need it anymore. If his feelings for you or motivations to be with you are deluded by this other girl's words, then fuck that! Obviously he doesn't like you that much, then. My aqua ex was desperately afraid to lose me because he loved me. This guy doesn't love you, obviously, and might not be able to see you that way. Just the feel I get from it. To me, this guy is not worth it, whether I loved him or not. I'd be gone.

I say 'I'm not going to say anything else' about that particular issue, but it sounds like that's the basis for what I say afterwards, anyway. You know, I tried.

FWB never works out, especially for women. He talks about that other girl to make you jealous (possibly to see how you would react) and you tell him to go with her? Well, do you want him to know you like him or are you both playing games?

Posted by Scenic
I say 'I'm not going to say anything else' about that particular issue, but it sounds like that's the basis for what I say afterwards, anyway. You know, I tried.

Scenic if he didn't want to lose you then why the break up?

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Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Wow. That's so fucked up....
That is so fucking cruel... You know what I beginning to realize just how nice an Aqua I am. He knew he wasn't gonna like you from the beginning no way he'd have that figured out already by now in such a short period of time.
Unless this is some selfish indirect way to protect his own heart by not letting you love him... I can't even understand that.

Maybe you started to come on to strong to fast and he didn't want all that just yet...

Yes, you do seem like a very nice guy 🙂

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Well thanks glad to know some women appreciate that

NYAA, I broke up with him.

Posted by Scenic
NYAA, I broke up with him.

Oh 😢

I hope my pisces mooner doesn't turn out to be an ahole like that.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
FWB never works out, especially for women. He talks about that other girl to make you jealous (possibly to see how you would react) and you tell him to go with her? Well, do you want him to know you like him or are you both playing games?

What was the alternative? To get rage/cry? Nup, not from me..i couldnt give a shit, i dont have a jealous bone in my body!

Sure he doesnt love me, thats ok! Just as well, and thank God, my little "L" word dint slip out after all, phew!

SOLA! woah. I haven't seen you in a long time 🙂 I'm sorry that happened to you. It happens to me all the time lol I feel your pain

@Sola, this Aqua is actin' kind of raggedy towards you. You shouldn't have to negotiate your way into a mature relationship. He doesn't seem trustworthy as a significant other. Now, don't get me wrong, I love me some Aqua men. They are fun both as significant others and platonic friends. But, I don't like the havoc that the unevolved ones can wreak.
My vote is to keep it movin' on down the line. Forget about what he "said" and his kind "little gestures".

He needs to step up and stop actin' so damn amateurish. lol

Posted by Sag89
SOLA! woah. I haven't seen you in a long time 🙂 I'm sorry that happened to you. It happens to me all the time lol I feel your pain

Hey you 🙂 yeah, i disappeared for a few years! I get this all the time too, its like being 21 all over again, ouch!

^^lol

he text..wants to see me tonight?? advice..

I'm gone 🙂 50% dislike myself right now, but i just cant help myself, ggrrrrrr!!

I do take the advice..and i use it to make my decision 🙂

i have the same sun and moon as theultra..hey, you should understand my mindset of all people here!

He's an ass either way you slice it, and for whatever reason he said what he did (whether it's commitment issues or he didn't mean it and spoke too soon, etc.), don't waste anymore time because what he did was dishonest and immature and cowardly.

Yes, yes and yes! But he's probably the best man i've ever "had" if you know what i mean. If he's giving it, im taking it !!! I WILL regret it, but you know, not right now in this moment!

yah!

This is EXACTLY why I date multiple people at once until the guy ASKS for commitment. Of course, everyone on the Scorpio board crucified me for that, but to me it just seems like common sense. This is EXACTLY why I don't go by the "hints" and "gut feelings" that they were telling me I should take as gospel.

No.

DIRECT, clear verbalization is the ONLY thing to trust.

Unfortunately, this guy never was into you -- he was just leading you on for the hell of it. Fuck him. Lose his number, for good.

And not all Aquas are commitment-phobes. My own Aqua was very eager to commit, and we communicate in ways so blunt, it would probably shock others, and it surely violates the idiotic dating "rules" these days -- but it works for us, and we are happy. 🙂 So don't lose hope!!

Posted by oldskoolflavor
LOL
30 years old & still ruled by your vagina .. typical generation Y female

The thread title + your avatar + Scorpio Venus/Eros = absolutely filthy thoughts swimming in my head right now...

Posted by oldskoolflavor
wow ..
I didn't know watching someone cook could be a turn-on

I know how I'd do her eggs in the morning..

fack. wtf is the matter with me...

*checks to see if sprouted a cock*

Posted by oldskoolflavor
don't worry ..
they say scorpio women wish they had a penis 😉

I'm a Libra, foo'. And damn straight I wish I had my very own ding dong!! gawd you guys must entertain yourselves for hours with those things..! 🙂

Posted by oldskoolflavor
ahem ..
I've heard those things are more into diving in warm zones than being stroked by their owner

Well if it's long enough, you could bend it behind you, and....

OKAY THAT IS ENOUGH sick filth for my Libra Merc to handle. 😛

Back to prancing in a wildflower field, like a good, pure Libra. xD

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Posted by crunchy
This is EXACTLY why I date multiple people at once until the guy ASKS for commitment. Of course, everyone on the Scorpio board crucified me for that, but to me it just seems like common sense. This is EXACTLY why I don't go by the "hints" and "gut feelings" that they were telling me I should take as gospel.

Crucify you for what? That IS common sense. Hints my azz. Smh

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I was in contact with a Scorpio, and I thought we were just travel buddies, since the Scorp guy didn't express any interest in a relationship. We flirted around during our travels, but no sex.

Then when back home, I got serious with my Aqua and told the Scorpio. The Scorpio FLIPPED OUT, and I ended up having to nearly get a restraining order.

According to the Scorpio boards, I was apparently a bitch, a slut, and a player for going on dates with other guys, and for not idiotically ASSuming that I was in a relationship with the Scorp. *eyeroll*

If I had a vagina and breasts for a year I think I would walk around the house naked for two days straight and then become a stripper so I could get paid to stay naked. 😉

Posted by aquarius09
Oh and another thing, from what you described, he is either a commitment phobe which a lot of aquas are or he is just being a plain ol' aqua that enjoys your company as a friend. Believe it or not but an aqua man and even woman can do all those things with a friend without thinking of them the slightest romantically.

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would you care to elaborate ?

Some things need to be left in the imagination lol. I would definitely have to try every type though.

Is that you in your avi?

I don't cook and tell 🙂

Hold up. Hold up. I always thought osf was a guy o_O

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...I thought so too. Now this is very awkward that I talked about her eggs and slapping that ass to the next galaxy. :x

Just see now how well we aquas and libras mix 🙂 Hohoho, i havent seen this much banter in a while!!

Well, loverboy has asked to me to his big 30th birthday dinner tonight (although it was his bday last week). The whole family is gonna be there, eek. Are they ready for me,damn i hope so!

on another note..im having weird jealousy issues today, just woke up like that this morning (over this guy's ex)? She's actually nothing on me, and he said he never loved her (even though they lived together for 3 years, and he must have told her at some point that he did). How random 😢

So, had dinner with all the fam on Saturday night, and then back to his parents house for champagne and cake 🙂 Not bad, i wasnt uncomfortable at all. Its all going in the right direction..maybe!!

Posted by crunchy
This is EXACTLY why I date multiple people at once until the guy ASKS for commitment. Yea that sounds like dating.

It's weird because it's like un- acceptable to do it. I didn't know sleeping with one person made you set to them for life...WHEN YOUR SINGLE?