The Lonely Aqua

I read somewhere that Aquas are actually very lonely because of how they think even though they attract people to them, they rarely feel a close connection to others. I found this to be very true for me. I'm a people person, but feel disconnected from most ppl around me. Is this a normal aqua trait or am I some freak of nature lol...

Posted by Aquagirly
nope youre not a freak of nature, lol. I feel exactly the same.
i love being with people, but like you i rarely feel a close connection and it feels empty. i have a few close friends. Also when I'm dating if i feel no connection or anything after the 2nd date, i tend to cut it off.

+1 🙂 Yeah if there's no spark I'm outta there!

Do you Aquarians not find some mutual understanding and therefore closeness with other Aquarians?

Im the same way. I could count the number of friends i have in one hand. Even with my closest friends, i cant wait to get away after spending time with them, have no idea why. I love people, im friendly, but there's always loneliness within me in a crowd. I only get 'unlonely' when im by myself- me, myself and i we got this shit, we are bestfriends. I really dont care much about dating (even before i got married), all my other 'relationships' ended in friendship because i couldnt care less about the relationship.

Virgodog, as for myself i feel like other aquas understand me better and vice versa. I have an aqua cousin and we talk maybe about 3-4 times a years-no annoying questions asked, we just enjoy the moments we are able to talk. Plus theres so much info to get when u chat after a long period of time- i love it. Me and her we could sit in silence for hours and would be the best conversation ever. I dont know about other aquas but i get bored talking to one person all the time or everyday. I sometimes dont answer calls for that reason. Meh

I have a hard time relating to Aqua females. maybe because its only in my sun and I have a bunch of other signs all over my chart. We tend to start out as friends, then start competing with each other. Soon the relationship disentegrates and I keep a safe suspicious distance. I usually click with Aqua males, but for some reason I have this vulnerability that puts me in a position to get seriously hurt and destroy the friendship. And once I feel I can't trust you, I have a tendency to hold grudges and anger for a very long time. The only friend I have who I feel completely close to and who I know accepts me for who I am despite my moodiness sharp tongue and "know-it-allness" is a virgo lol. She annoys me sometimes because when I tell her something she picks the unimportant details out of the conversation and focuses it on that until we're talking about something completely different. She also swears I didnt tell her stuff I told her at least 3 or 4 times in past conversations. I dont know if this is typical virgo traits. But, all in all I love her like a sister 🙂 besides her, I too can count my real friends on one hand. They are few and far in between.

Not any company will do..some people intensify my lonilness while others ease it. I am also this way, everyone around me sees otherwise. fun charming. witty. party girl...how can i give up such vibes and be feeling so disconnected?

@WaterCup: Yes, I think that there is a definite comfort in being with others of one's own sign and I have particularly enjoyed having contact with other Virgos on here. If I may say so though I think that apart from other Virgos I have perhaps got on best with Aquarians on here (possibly as I have Moon in Aquarius). I wish I got on better with Sadges as I have Sadge rising but unfortunately I tend to find them sarcastic and patronising!

Posted by candi3bb
Not any company will do..some people intensify my lonilness while others ease it. I am also this way, everyone around me sees otherwise. fun charming. witty. party girl...how can i give up such vibes and be feeling so disconnected?

Yeah. I used to be way more outgoing. Now I have to be in the right company. But people still feel the need to stop and talk to me. I make small talk but it makes me feel awkward...

I feel this way to a point - as in I choose not to become attached to any particular person. Why? I don't need to, I simply don't need to. I'm happy the way I am, I will most likely always be this way and I enjoy not being overly attached to anyone in particular. Peculiar? Meh, I don't care, it suits me 🙂

Posted by virgodog58
Do you Aquarians not find some mutual understanding and therefore closeness with other Aquarians?

My best friend is an Aquarian. But then again he has a huge stellium in Cap. Just like me, lol.

We think and act alike. Sometimes it feels like we are the same person. We have been friends for like 15 years, since elementary school. We used to fight a lot back then, but our friendship remained strong.

Posted by aiyanatb
I read somewhere that Aquas are actually very lonely because of how they think even though they attract people to them, they rarely feel a close connection to others. I found this to be very true for me. I'm a people person, but feel disconnected from most ppl around me. Is this a normal aqua trait or am I some freak of nature lol...

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I find it hard to relate to people in general. I don't hate people, but i don't like them either. What i realized not a long time ago is that i'm unable to care about people unless i can mentally conect with them. Ideas, opinions and thoughts is what i have sought every single time i try interacting with someone. When i don't get mental stimuli i start feeling neglected, lol.

Emotionally i haven't been able to relate to anyone but myself. I hate it when people open up to me because i don't know how i should react. Awkwardness is what i feel, i can't stand it. That's why i do my best to avoid such situations.

As you would expect, i don't have many friends. It's hard to find interesting people, but i can manage somehow.

@BluesandCacoon

YES! you nailed on the head for me...i was just pondering today as to why i feel this disconnect. Its that I AM no longer stimulated. SAME EVERYTHING. ENVIRONMENT, SAME FOLKS, SAME THOUGHTS. If i dont create all the fun, then pretty much my friends have nothing that interest me. i have not yet met a person with the same UMPH. same zest for life. Im not so exhauted maintaining most of the friendships into the way i hope for it to be. I guess its time to shake things up and move out the state.

I understand... My term for it is being "socially anti-social"... I'm like that often as even in the midst of many, I somehow always feel like I'm peering in on the scene, as opposed to being immersed in it... And just like Aquagirly and Aiyanatb, I know almost instantly if me and a guy the type of chemistry that could lead to feelings... Its almost innate, and if you don't have that "it", I go on my way just like the wind... Once you've felt me I'm already gone...

so totally understand this as I have felt this way majority of my life. Not sure why, I can talk to ppl and get along with ppl when I make the effort and all. But to actually connect to another is a very difficult thing as I seem not to connect with everyone but not many at all if any. I have always been like this and very hard to explain why I prefer to socialise by myself in my room alone than with someone I do not connect with at all or to be 'friendly'. I am naturally friendly most times when not stressed but still not able to connect I tend to think its coz I must be somewhere else or am doing wrong thing or stuff like that, like to contemplate this in own room and answer my own questions as to why I am this way.

But I am a capricorn and not aquarian

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Posted by virgodog58
Do you Aquarians not find some mutual understanding and therefore closeness with other Aquarians?

My best friend is an Aquarian. But then again he has a huge stellium in Cap. Just like me, lol.

We think and act alike. Sometimes it feels like we are the same person. We have been friends for like 15 years, since elementary school. We used to fight a lot back then, but our friendship remained strong.

Posted by aiyanatb
I read somewhere that Aquas are actually very lonely because of how they think even though they attract people to them, they rarely feel a close connection to others. I found this to be very true for me. I'm a people person, but feel disconnected from most ppl around me. Is this a normal aqua trait or am I some freak of nature lol...

I find it hard to relate to people in general. I don't hate people, but i don't like them either. What i realized not a long time ago is that i'm unable to care about people unless i can mentally conect with them. Ideas, opinions and thoughts is what i have sought every single time i try interacting with someone. When i don't get mental stimuli i start feeling neglected, lol.

Emotionally i haven't been able to relate to anyone but myself. I hate it when people open up to me because i don't know how i should react. Awkwardness is what i feel, i can't stand it. That's why i do my best to avoid such situations.

As you would expect, i don't have many friends. It's hard to find interesting people, but i can manage somehow.

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+1. I find it hard to talk about mundane things and it seems everybody wants to draw me into these boring conversations about their kids and husbands and mothers blah blah blah...I like talking to people that get excited about strange randomness 🙂 Also, I have a bit of cap in my chart and the guy I am interested in is a cap, we have this extremely strong connection. He seems so quiet and ordinary at first but when he talks about his passions I'm intrigued by the way he thinks...

one more for you 02 folks:

^^she is weird sometimes. Your sun is finally showing, lol. Btw lisa, do u happen to be something-something blue one? i forgot your previous username but the energy is same. I remember, u had a strange looking cat as an avi. Scorp husband and taurus moon or something

yes @watercup. Let me just say, I'm very happy, so no worries. Just wanted to give some cheer to the lonely aquas. they sound so sad sometimes. So, my weakness to encourage and help gets the best of me.