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I came to this forum a couple of months ago about an aqua guy I've been seeing for 18 months (which is unofficial to everyone ). He has now gone away for a few weeks. I asked him to let me know when he got to certain destinations and he did by either ph
Gemgal101January 10, 2018 7:20am
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  • Gemgal101
    female
    I appreciate your input and perhaps u are right because I too believe there is never a right time for anything but they're my words and I guess that's how it feels but maybe wrong choice of words? It is more holding off for now than anything because even if we hadve met at a later stage, what's to say it would be any better or worse. No one knows..
  • saggurl88
    SunSagittarius MoonCancer MercurySagittarius VenusScorpio MarsLeo Jup
    female from anytown, Anywhere, United States
    I swear! Everytime I read stuff about the timing being wrong or not "right", it drives me crazy lol.

    The only time it should be off is if you're in a relationship with someone else. Everyone makes room when they want someone in their life. There is never a perfect time to do something.

    2 single people should be able to date and see eachother if they want. I can understand holding off and putting a title, but to say the timing is wrong but I still want you in my life and still want to sleep with you is bullbutter.

    This is just my opinion though. Lol.
  • Gemgal101
    female
    To any one here wanting to know how things went, well, we had the talk and funnily enough I had a light bulb moment. I think I have expected too much from him with everything he's been thru and for now, I am happy to just be friends. We both went into this pretty fast and hard from day one and it's all come to a head because of what we both want. I need to just go with the flow and wherever the future takes us is what is meant to be (whether just a friendship or a relationship). Sometimes timing has a lot to do with it and i think for both of us at the moment need to focus on what we (as individuals) want before we can bring someone else into our lives as a partner. I appreciate everyone's input and it's helped to understand him from others perspectives of what Aquarians do/Don't do etc.. but sometimes u have to look at them as just a human being who's life has also been shaped by there past.
    We both love each other but he's not at the stage I'm at (which he told me). Whether he gets there or not is something only time will tell but he has become such an important part of my life that I don't want to lose him as a person and whatever will be, will be!😊
  • Gemgal101
    female
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    I have no idea really. I've just been reading lots about my venus and watching videos on youtube. It's virgo which is awful and I've realised all of my insecurities and relationship problems are from this placement and i am overly critical and have a fear of intimacy. I self sabotage and make excuses about why it wont work instead of focusing on positives. My expectations are way too high. I'm trying to be aware of the problems being my issues, rather than thinking he's the one doing something wrong or not giving me enough. I need to work on myself so i don't screw it up. I thought maybe yours was like mine. But it's probably my sun relating to your venus.


    This one is yours...

    Venus in Leo
    When Venus in Leo people are in love, they are proud, even boastful. This position of Venus can turn humble Virgo Suns or retiring Cancer Suns into somewhat demanding lovers. Venus in Leo loves to court and be courted, and they need to feel very special. They are warm, generous, and even grand. Though really quite loyal to their partners (remember that love is THE most important thing in Leo’s life), they thrive on romantic attention. Be prepared for their displays: they will tell you about any advances made on them. Remember, they’re just showing off to you, and it’s likely harmless. It’s a different story if you do the same, however. That’s when you’ll hear the lion roar…and, no doubt, you’ll want to keep these cats purring. Venus in Leo wants to appear experienced in love, even if they have little or no experience whatsoever!

    Venus in Leo men and women have high expectations, but once you know that these expectations revolve only around how much attention you are giving them, you’ll see that they are really quite big-hearted about most everything else. They are threatened by a relationship that appears to have settled too much, or one that’s lost its spark. They are also threatened by indifferent or impersonal behavior on your part.

    Although their needs for physical expression through sex are generally quite strong, their need for love is perhaps even stronger. It is hard for Venus in Leo people to separate love and sex, and even their most erotic fantasies are infused with love and affection. For this reason, few Venus in Leo folk would last long in a relationship that is mostly sexual. On the flip side, they may last longer in a love-only relationship in the absence of satisfying sex, but they are unlikely to feel very satisfied.

    Pleasing Venus in Leo involves paying loads of attention to them. If you’re willing to make only one adjustment in your ways, it should be to remind Leo how wonderful they are. Respect and appreciate them, always. Put up with their childlike moments and their tall tales. They want to be seen as attractive by you, so avoid (at all costs!) putting them down in this area. They actually lose interest when they perceive the slightest loss of interest in their partner, and you can expect that any letdown will be acted out in a dramatic fashion. Remind them, in a gentle way, that your emotions count too. If you are feeling a little jealous, let them know. Remember, to Venus in Leo, your small jealousies are affirmations that you find them attractive and expect the rest of the world to as well. Let them decide where to go on a date, and let them pay too. When Venus in Leo feels loved and appreciated, they reward you with loyalty, a big sense of fun, and plenty of physical expressions of their love.

    My Personal Ad Bio: “I’m warm-hearted and fun. I’m funny, and experienced. Let me show you a good time.”

    Love is magnificent and grand to Venus in Leo people. They take pride in love and their love relationships, and they are typically generous with their money. This is a warmhearted, teasing, expressive, proud, and extravagant placement for Venus. Love is a bit of a game–a game that is perpetual, as Venus in Leo is forever stuck in the romance stage of a relationship. They feed on attention, acknowledgement, validation, and adoration. Venus in Leo loves to be adored, pampered, and admired. They have a strong ego investment in their love lives. The negative expression of this placement is overstating of feelings simply for the effect, as well as extravagance.

    Venus in Leo people may spend a lot on entertainment or sometimes just to show off! They generally are big tippers and give special and generous gifts. They are attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music that is bold and passionate, renaissance, lush or opulent, lavishly comfortable, and romantic.


    I can relate to a lot of that - not just in current situation but past situations too and perhaps why things didn't work out.
    There are bits that make me laugh when I read cos I think "yep. That's Me!!
    Thank you heaps. So interesting to read!!😊
  • Gemgal101
    female
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    Just checking up to see if you're ok...


    Thanks hun..
    have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
    He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
    He's due back in a week now instead of 2..

    So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...

    How about you and your man?

    That's good that you're keeping busy. Hopefully the next week will pass quickly. It sounds like you're doing better with the communication which is nice. ❤


    Communication is better than anticipated but I'm trying not to read into it and think about it too much. Just taking it for what it is until he gets back..x


    Out of curiosity where is your venus?
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    My Venus is in Leo.

    The rest is
    Sun Gemini
    Moon Gemini
    Mercury Gemini
    Mars Aries
    Jupiter Aries
    Saturn Cancer
    Uranus Libra
    Neptune Sagittarius
    Pluto Libra
    Lilith Pisces
    Asc nodeSagittarius

    I don't really understand my natal chart. Trying to but all new to me... Do you understand it? and if so, feel free to shed any light my way..x
  • Gemgal101
    female
    Posted by Leo188881
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    Just checking up to see if you're ok...


    Thanks hun..
    have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
    He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
    He's due back in a week now instead of 2..

    So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...

    How about you and your man?

    That's good that you're keeping busy. Hopefully the next week will pass quickly. It sounds like you're doing better with the communication which is nice. ❤
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    Communication is better than anticipated but I'm trying not to read into it and think about it too much. Just taking it for what it is until he gets back..x
  • Gemgal101
    female
    Posted by Leo188881
    Just checking up to see if you're ok...


    Thanks hun..
    have been quite distracted last few days with helping other people which has been a good thing..
    He called yesterday letting me know where he's at and that he was travelling to next location today. Was just a nice happy convo bout what we've both been up too...he also texted just before he left location (which I always ask him to do cos he knows I worry.).
    He's due back in a week now instead of 2..

    So anxious and so trying not to dwell on it too much but I have a busy week this week too so it will help pass the time better...

    How about you and your man?
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.




    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.

    He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.

    The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.

    I’m just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize there’s nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.

    It seems like you’re not happy with this and you want more. I just don’t know if an aqua can give you exactly what you’re seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.

    When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
    We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the butters at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the butters whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.


    He showed you affection when you were in a physically together 😊. Now just see if he tries to make changes.

    He’s the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.


    If he's important to you and worth the risk, you should try. And I hope it goes well for you.
    I'm very warm and affectionate so i bring it out in him. He's said he never really hugged his exes but with me he wraps his arms around me and puts his leg over me and he doesn't know why. He's no good at saying sweet words so that's why I need to see him more because I don't need words if i can feel them and then i won't have to wonder how he feels about me all the time.

    I’ll talk to him when the timing is right. I’m all for space right now. I think that’s what’s best for my relationship and I’m not worried about losing him at this point. He’s still very much here and he shows me that.

    Do you think he understood you and is going to try to see you more?


    I think so... we talked again later last night and he said he was talking to his friend about getting another driver for his truck. He's waiting for him to get back to him about when he can get the other guy to start. So it sounds like he might not be working nights anymore soon 😄
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    Awesome smile
  • pinkbird03
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.




    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.

    He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.

    The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.

    I’m just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize there’s nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.

    It seems like you’re not happy with this and you want more. I just don’t know if an aqua can give you exactly what you’re seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.

    When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
    We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the butters at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the butters whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.


    He showed you affection when you were in a physically together 😊. Now just see if he tries to make changes.

    He’s the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.


    If he's important to you and worth the risk, you should try. And I hope it goes well for you.
    I'm very warm and affectionate so i bring it out in him. He's said he never really hugged his exes but with me he wraps his arms around me and puts his leg over me and he doesn't know why. He's no good at saying sweet words so that's why I need to see him more because I don't need words if i can feel them and then i won't have to wonder how he feels about me all the time.
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    I’ll talk to him when the timing is right. I’m all for space right now. I think that’s what’s best for my relationship and I’m not worried about losing him at this point. He’s still very much here and he shows me that.

    Do you think he understood you and is going to try to see you more?
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.




    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.

    He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.

    The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.

    I’m just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize there’s nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.

    It seems like you’re not happy with this and you want more. I just don’t know if an aqua can give you exactly what you’re seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.

    When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
    We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the butters at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the butters whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
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    He showed you affection when you were in a physically together 😊. Now just see if he tries to make changes.

    He’s the most responsive one. Youre lucky. I have to have a similar talk with my aqua someday. In person though.
  • Gemgal101
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.




    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.

    He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.

    The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.

    I’m just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize there’s nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.

    It seems like you’re not happy with this and you want more. I just don’t know if an aqua can give you exactly what you’re seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.

    When we're together he is really affectionate and i love that and we talk for hours and laugh and are perfect. It's just the time in between that's been a problem. I think i could happily marry this guy if i saw him a bit more.
    We spoke for an hour and i got it all out. He asked me if he can call me again later. I think i just need to tell him when I'm feeling needy and neglected instead of pretending I'm ok and letting it eat away at me. I told him that i will be cracking the butters at him and consulting the magic 8ball regularly from now on and he said i can crack the butters whenever I want and he'll still like me so i feel better now.
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    Sounds like progress and he Does care about you..
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Posted by Leo188881
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.




    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.

    He was better in the beginning. Then slowly less and less. The problem is, the less effort he makes, the more i get used to it and the less i feel for him. My guard is coming up to protect my heart instead of dropping. If we don't look after our relationship, it will die and i don't want to kill it. So I need him to help me with it if he wants to keep it.
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    The same thing happened with my guy. He was amazing in the beginning. Then his effort became less. The beginning was just the honeymoon phase. How he behaves now, is who he truly is.

    I’m just thinking that we need to accept them for who they are and realize there’s nothing really wrong with the relationship. They still care and love us. But not in the most obvious/direct way.

    It seems like you’re not happy with this and you want more. I just don’t know if an aqua can give you exactly what you’re seeking emotionally. I hope so and wish you so much luck. But it might be best to look for a water or fire sign.
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
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    Ok so i just texed him 😂
    I just wrote hi 😝


    😅😅
    No reply yet I'm assuming?. Does he respond to funny stuff and like it cos it made him laugh?


    He replied but it took him 2 minutes for the first one and 1 minute for the 2nd one... the third message is still pending 😂


    2 minutes pretty good!!
    He replied though...


    Yeah he always does. That's one good thing about him.


    Mine loves funny stuff too...

    As for your previous post..yes..need to just be me - the crazy, worrisome, anxious yet funny and goofy me!

    Yep! You do that. That you is probably the one that got his attention to begin with. We need to stop trying to fit in a box and stop living by relationship rules and not do and act the way we think we're supposed to.


    Thank you..I've got no more words but thank you..😊

    I took my own advice and lost my butter... i might have gone one step further than what is mentally stable 😕
    I asked him if i annoy him or if he wants me to leave him alone and his response was "omg" so i told him im not psychic and proceeded to download a magic 8ball app and asked that instead and sent him screen shots of the answers because he didn't give one. The 8ball said he thinks im annoying and he doesn't want me to contact him. At first he thought it was funny... And then it got serious. i asked if i should believe the 8ball and he said do whatever you want so i said you really dont care huh so I'll leave you alone.. and again, all i got was omg. So then i sent him a big text about how can i know if he wants me or not if he doesn't say or do anything to show me. And i told him i don't even know what this situation is. If he's a fk buddy or is it nothing or what is it?
    Took him an hour to reply.. he said I'll call you soon. So now i have to wait and see what happens. Maybe i was too crazy but i guess I'll get my answer.


    That is so something I would have done and have done. When I would get a little crazy over the phone he would say that he can't handle it.
    I would then often send a text apologising and saying how I felt. He would either send me a text pointing out things that he wouldn't have done for me or with me if he wasn't interested. After that it's often left and never spoken. That's why I'm hesitant to talk to him about it because I need to remain calm and perhaps get him at a time when he has time to talk.
    Let me know how you go though. Just be calm when you talk but maybe get your point across but in a "I care about you a lot kinda way" if that makes sense?

    Lol thanks. I don't feel so crazy anymore. I do the sorry text too but now I'm like.. why am i sorry for having feelings or being upset?
    I'll try to be calm. Usually i pretend it's fine and then i don't get to say what i need to. It's like covering it up temporarily but never really fixing it so i end up in this loop that keeps repeating. I'm going to tell him if he can't give me enough of his time because of work, he needs to be prepared to give me reassurance to make up for it and sometimes I'm going to be needy. Hopefully he likes me a massive amount and is prepared to make it work together. If not, I'll be ok on my own.

    How’d the call go?

    He hasn't called yet. He's still at work so I have no idea when he will finish... maybe i should have replied? Lol i kind of just left it without say ok or anything


    Lol yea follow up with a text. It’s nice he said he’d call smile seems like he does care!

    I just sent him a 😝 in case he's forgotten but i know he's still working.
    When we're together it feels like he's in love with me. It's just the in between that feels empty. He doesn't plan to see me again and that gets to me because I don't know when I'll see him so it doesn't feel like he looks forward to it.



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    Because work is a priority. You’re important too. Don’t doubt it. Trust him.

    Has he always been like this? It might just be who he is and that probably won’t change. But I don’t see anything wrong with it. I mean, he could be a lot worse!!! But he isn’t.
  • AerialView
    I collect experience💨
    male from Arlong Park
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    I dont read all. Update please 😜


    Oh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf 😂

    What I’m realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. There’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe it’s actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesn’t budge in my fast moving stream. That’s truly what I need.

    I’m also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Don’t rush it, enjoy it.

    Lots of metaphors tonight lol...


    😂😂😂😂

    I'm liking your post. Really mature.

    Thank you! I think the space apart is helping me understand things better. In a less emotional way/more logical way!
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    You're welcome!

    Coming from a Cancer/Scorpio moon 😂

    Just like OP, your man kinda slow too isnt it? 😜
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    Posted by AerialView
    Posted by pinkbird03
    Posted by AerialView
    I dont read all. Update please 😜


    Oh we all get breadcrumbs, but want the whole loaf 😂

    What I’m realizing is that being less emotional is just who they are. There’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe it’s actually a good thing for me. A good balance. Good to know hes a large rock that doesn’t budge in my fast moving stream. That’s truly what I need.

    I’m also realizing that love is a journey. It takes awhile to get from point A to point B. Don’t rush it, enjoy it.

    Lots of metaphors tonight lol...


    😂😂😂😂

    I'm liking your post. Really mature.
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    Thank you! I think the space apart is helping me understand things better. In a less emotional way/more logical way!

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