venus in aqua - a committed relationship?

Looking back at my love life, I dont think ive ever felt im sure with someone. My aries moon is impulsive and enjoys the excitement but it never lasted and i was okay with that. Like i didnt and still dont know if I can go the distance, being with a single partner for so long. So my being in a long term relationship with a cancer man comes to a pleasant surprise not only to me but also to my close friends, given my love history.
having said that, I sometimes find myself wondering what ifs. Im also feeling the pressure since the cancer would like for us to get married next year and has asked me qs about childrens education, getting our own place etc.

As lovely a man as he is and as much as I would love to get married, have kids and settle down, I feel the time is not right. I might entertqin the idea maybe in 3, 5 years time. Is there any other aqua venus that feels the same way? With this placement, am I ever going to be ready to settle, to commit? Or its nevr about this placement at all?

i kind of get a good idea and know how of how a venus in aquarius works. At least in WOMEN.

i have a few female relatives who i know have this venus under different sun signs.

They do like friends /best friends though.

and you're gonna get a "detached" love style . If they have a water/fire moon, they are warm and loving, and caring, even nurturing, especially if they have water mars....however that strong aqua venus will still want "distance". the relatives i know personally who have this placement under different sun signs are always busy with their career and having more "distance" with their significant other all the time. In their personal relationship, it's similar to the moon in aquarius.

it's not exactly a "warm" placement. That's just how it is.

They don't want the sticky, icky cloistering feeling of being hog-tied, and to be able to be "free" to roam about in love matters.

however, if it's in 12th house, 4th, 8th....it may have strong possessive and jealous streaks!

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by lisabethur8
it's not exactly a "warm" placement. That's just how it is.

They don't want the sticky, icky cloistering feeling of being hog-tied, and to be able to be "free" to roam about in love matters.

however, if it's in 12th house, 4th, 8th....it may have strong possessive and jealous streaks!

Mornin', lisa. 🙂

Mine's in the 9th. Not good enough with houses yet to know if that means much. I can tell you that all the Scorp in my chart makes me very bipolar in love, tho it doesn't sound like the OP has a similar affliction.

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hi! ^_^

well it's in a fire house, so i am guessing it likes the adventure and travel, spirited love too.
but it is double freedom!! wants freedom in relationships.

not great with houses either, so i'm also just remembering what i've read in many sites...of what a 9th house is generally about.

You all know that Aqua, Cap, and anything strong Saturn isn't exactly "warm". 😢

if it's exalted in libra (saturn placement) then that is the coldest ass placement ever.

*sigh* it is how it is. Of course with all your water, it is very loving but also likes a little confrontation (scorpio moon).

Sometimes. I think my Pisces moon is the one who wants commitment. But then again I enjoy being single more. Nor do I favor a future with anyone.

Great thread. Interesting and pertinent because Venus in Aqua is tough to understand.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
I get torn between wanting my freedom and wanting to completely consume him.

This is very true for me as a venus in aqua. Im very physical in any type of relationship but not touchy feely in a romantic way at all.

i like gifts and gestures but they have to be humorous. Any guy who starts romancing me or talking about the future I freak out lol

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Oh, not disagreeing. Even with all my Scorpy bits, don't think anyone would describe me as particularly warm.

Really wanna know the rest of her chart. I do best when I have someone similarly independent. Someone who gives me reassurance, but doesn't smother me. Someone that makes me feel safe to come to them, but doesn't require constant affection.

Hi took me awhile to reply, plum forgot about it! Sorry!

Im not good with houses but heres what I know of my chart:
Sun cap
asc scorpio
ven aqua
moon aries
Merc cap
Mars scorpio
Jupiter aries
Pluto scorpio
neptune capricorn
Saturn sagi
uranus sagi
N.node pisces

Please be kind!🙂