Loving my aqua

Hi all haven't been on for awhile..things have been going good.

Been with my aqua guy unofficially for 17 months...keeping it casual...lol.

I have noticed things going...different.. the past few months and wanted to hear your thoughts.

We have been in contact a lot more. We never go more than a few days. It used to be a week up to a month.

Anyhoo...our chemistry is through the roof the past few months. We get along so well. I noticed though that his Facebook profile no longer says single...hmm.

Then a few weeks ago I just flat out told him that I wanted to be with him and that I am not going to chase him or play games...that was for the other women to do. He didn't make a comment but he didn't run either.

When a saw him a few weeks ago...he played one song for me...words are basically "tears to a smile its a brand new day...and I feel so alive when I am with you".

I don't want to read too much into this...I definitely have concerns. We really don't date. His friends know of me but I have me er met them or family. But things are just different.

He never talks future talk...at all...but the last time we were together we were hugging...and I said I will look so different when you get back (leaving for 2 months) he said oh yeah...why is that?? I told him..he says...can't wait to see that.

He is leaving in 2 weeks and I don't know what to think. He said...I want to see you at least once before I leave...I am going to miss you... Thoughts—??

Can anyone give me their opinion...pleeeeeease...sorry for the double post

I'm glad it's going good! Nice to hear a good story.

You're opening up about wanting him, probably made him feel good and reassured about you. I kind of think if they don't run, that means they are okay with it.

For me, though, I expect daily communication, especially at this point in the game.
Might just be the scorpio venus demanding it, though. lol!

And the "not dating", I suppose it depends on what you do when you're together. When we get older and the longer the relationship, formal dates just aren't that important. Cooking dinner together is a date, renting a DVD is a date, attending a kid's ballgame is a date...relaxed, quality time together trumps formal any day. But, it's nice to get dressed up and go out every now and then.

I'd be concerned with not knowing the friends after 17 months. I'd want to know why.

The facebook status...hmmmm....

Maybe if you open up gradually, things will continue to improve. I noticed every time I went out on a limb and made myself vulnerable (gradual, one step at a time over lots of time) that my aqua seemed more relaxed and into the relationship and treated me better and better after each time. It's a feeling out process because if they're into you, they don't mind and actually appreciate and respect the honesty. Just don't make them feel hemmed in or cornered or pressured...

Thanks truecap... Always good advise.

Just wondering if he is starting to fall—? The song kind of got me...just noticed subtle things.

We have had our ups and downs...but he always comes back. I throw my little fits and he just takes it. But we get along so well.

Yes the friends and family thing has me bothered. But he has said they have seen my pics and think i am cute. I have mentioned it...but nothing comes of it.

Usually we hang at his place...watch TV...cuddle...talk...you know.

I just wonder if the fb status thing isn't his way of committing in his mind...I really don't know. Just struck me as odd.

Why are you relying in fb to know what type of relationship you are having with this guy?

Does he not speak?

You are obviously sleeping with him, why are you not asking where you both stand and discussing your expectations?

Questions you should be asking yourself.

Yes we live an hour away. We both has kids. He has his on the was weekends and i have mine on the weekdays.

He is super independent...like most Aquarians

I agree with what most of you have said. There are some red flags.

Thanks for your advise.

I have just done tons of research on aquas and it pretty much seems to be true and that they don't like committing.

Things have just gotten comfortable..so maybe I need to shake things up a bit.

I have walked away 6 times...he always comes back after a few weeks. The last time he blew my phone up...he text me I miss you a lot. I basically said then treat me like you miss me and stop playing games. Since then we have gotten closer and in contact a lot more.

Well.. Here is an update.

I saw him a 2 weekends ago. He text me and said I would like to see you tonight. So I waited a while to reply and then text back and said sounds good. I will drop my boys off and head out. He said ok. So...I text him an hour or so later and said heading your way. He text back not tonight sweetie I have to work in the morning. I got mad..I text back and said...you said as long as you were asleep by 1030...guess you got a better offer. He text back and said wow...I am sorry you are so mad. I wanted to take you out tonight but I just want to stay in now.

So....I just showed up. Never ever have I done that. He was just hanging out with his dog so we hung out for a little while.

Fast forward to a week ago Monday. He said I am leaving tonight and I would like to see you before I leave. So I agreed and we spent some time together. As I was leaving he hugged and kissed me and said I will see you in 2 months. First time he has ever referenced the future.

This past Thursday...I went on Facebook to see if he posted any pics...we are not fb friends. He had a new pic of him. This girl commented saying nice job babe...you posted that fast.

So...that's when i got really mad. I basically was mad because he lied about flying out of town a few nights prior and had proof in the pic. Apparently he has something with her as well.

I text him the following day and said I know we aren't together and never will be. I am tired of being walked all over and treated liked crap. Molly and the rest of them can have you and I know your happy little ass hasn't left yet. Its best that we don't speak anymore...goodbye.

Not a peep which isn't unuasal...besides he knows he is busted. He has come back in the past. But this time I don't want him. I know he will be back...hoping I have the strength to not let him after a year and a half 😢

I don't know why you put up with it for this long.

Sorry things didn't work out. 😢

Think about this, now that you're not all geared up about him, and focused on him, you might be able to notice the perfect guy that has been under your nose all this time. Or you might have incentive to get out and meet someone new.

When one door closes, another one opens.

Yes truecap....very true.

I guess he lead me to believe it would be more...when it never was going to be.

I know he will be back...my stomach turns thinking about it. But I am going no contact. If he keeps persisting..he is going to get it. I already have respondes drawn up in my head.

I know it...he has come back 6 or 7 times feeding me more lies...well I am tired of it.

Thanks.

agreed. Real men/women don't play games.

Posted by ex2mommy
Well.. Here is an update.

I saw him a 2 weekends ago. He text me and said I would like to see you tonight. So I waited a while to reply and then text back and said sounds good. I will drop my boys off and head out. He said ok. So...I text him an hour or so later and said heading your way. He text back not tonight sweetie I have to work in the morning. I got mad..I text back and said...you said as long as you were asleep by 1030...guess you got a better offer. He text back and said wow...I am sorry you are so mad. I wanted to take you out tonight but I just want to stay in now.

So....I just showed up. Never ever have I done that. He was just hanging out with his dog so we hung out for a little while.

Fast forward to a week ago Monday. He said I am leaving tonight and I would like to see you before I leave. So I agreed and we spent some time together. As I was leaving he hugged and kissed me and said I will see you in 2 months. First time he has ever referenced the future.

This past Thursday...I went on Facebook to see if he posted any pics...we are not fb friends. He had a new pic of him. This girl commented saying nice job babe...you posted that fast.

So...that's when i got really mad. I basically was mad because he lied about flying out of town a few nights prior and had proof in the pic. Apparently he has something with her as well.

I text him the following day and said I know we aren't together and never will be. I am tired of being walked all over and treated liked crap. Molly and the rest of them can have you and I know your happy little ass hasn't left yet. Its best that we don't speak anymore...goodbye.

Not a peep which isn't unuasal...besides he knows he is busted. He has come back in the past. But this time I don't want him. I know he will be back...hoping I have the strength to not let him after a year and a half 😢

Sounds like you're just a longterm booty call....

Sorry things didn't work out.

Its cool...as someone said earlier...it did work out for the best. Someone is right under my nose. (I think it was truecap).

I had been dating someone at the time that I met him. But we remained best friends...we know everything about each other. Well...he started to make comments about maybe you are the one for me and so on. So...maybe it was a blessing in disguise. He knew everything about the other guy and I knew all about the girls he was seeing. Now it just seems that things may work out even better.

We will see. :-)