Well??.he is interested or??..—

I??ll try and make this short and sweet. I met the Aquarius in question a little over two months ago. We live about 5 hours away from each other. He travels a lot for work so I??ve been to his hometown for weekend trips and he's been to mine for weekend trips as well. It feels like its been much longer than 2 months! We connected from the start! We are both very independent and love our freedom and respect the others freedom. We met on an online dating site. He still has his profile up. He has initiated conversation about —us?? and I??ve in so many words said it probably wouldn't work in the long run because of our distance. The more time that goes by and the more time we spend together I am finding myself really, really liking him. I finally met someone I can really connect with on so many levels. He has communicated he feels the same way. From what I??ve read, these men (Aquarius) act in the opposite of how they feel. Well??_.he contacts me daily, says he misses me, etc. So, is he being honest? I really want to build a foundation with him and date only him, but I don't know how to —play the game??. I don't want to hand myself over to him on a silver platter. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

Its difficult not to do intimacy cos then you cant be sure its more than a friendship. The ideal is to get one act of intimacy but no more such as holding hands or a kiss goodbye anything.

The longer you hold back as a woman the more the man respects you. if your easy then later on hell worry your cheating on him or treat you in a sleazy way. if you hold back youll be treated like somthing valuebale that was hard to aquire and mustnt be lost

Well....that's not good. We've slept together. It's amazing, btw.

I'm a sag

Posted by wwilson
Well....that's not good. We've slept together. It's amazing, btw.

I'm a sag

I could tell 🙂

He has not come on strong! He was very, very aloof in the beginning. He is definitely warming up. He expresses he is interested, but hasn't asked to be exclusive. Here is his chart:
planet sign degree motion
Sun Aquarius 21??29'25 in house 10 direct
Moon Leo 7??40'53 in house 3 direct
Mercury Aquarius 22??42'11 in house 10 direct
Venus Capricorn 6??03'40 in house 7 direct
Mars Aquarius 16??34'39 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Leo 1??49'18 in house 3 retrograde
Saturn Virgo 12??00'37 in house 4 retrograde
Uranus Scorpio 20??54'58 in house 6 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 20??02'47 in house 6 direct
Pluto Libra 19??06'32 in house 5 retrograde
True Node Virgo 17??35'43 in house 4 retrograde

Posted by wwilson
He has not come on strong! He was very, very aloof in the beginning. He is definitely warming up. He expresses he is interested, but hasn't asked to be exclusive. Here is his chart:
planet sign degree motion
Sun Aquarius 21??29'25 in house 10 direct
Moon Leo 7??40'53 in house 3 direct
Mercury Aquarius 22??42'11 in house 10 direct
Venus Capricorn 6??03'40 in house 7 direct
Mars Aquarius 16??34'39 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Leo 1??49'18 in house 3 retrograde
Saturn Virgo 12??00'37 in house 4 retrograde
Uranus Scorpio 20??54'58 in house 6 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 20??02'47 in house 6 direct
Pluto Libra 19??06'32 in house 5 retrograde
True Node Virgo 17??35'43 in house 4 retrograde

Whats your chart? A leo moon I have that🙂

I also have a venus in aqua and I'm a sag sun.

Not a bad chart. I've heard about that Aqua/ cap venus combo or Cap/Aqua venus to combo to be a little aloof and cold but doesn't sounds like something you can't handle? What is your chart?

Posted by AliCar15
BTW- Aqua + Sag are supposed to be a great combo!

Whatup, fellow fire sign! 🙂

Yep!

YES! I totally agree with you on the push/pull. He is aloof, but then he is also really cuddly and complimentary. Confusing! I really can't imagine him spending so much time with me if he wasn't really interested, BUT not mention that he wants it exclusive and he still has his profile up 😢 Here is my chart:

Sun Sagittarius 8??21'56 in house 12 direct
Moon Capricorn 22??21'00 in house 2 direct
Mercury Sagittarius 2??49'36 in house 12 direct
Venus Capricorn 23??46'36 in house 2 direct
Mars Virgo 22??26'17 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Scorpio 0??41'44 in house 10 direct
Saturn Libra 19??07'06 in house 10 direct
Uranus Sagittarius 0??52'31 in house 12 direct
Neptune Sagittarius 23??58'29 in house 1 direct
Pluto Libra 25??54'39 in house 10 direct
True Node Cancer 23??08'09 in house 8 retrograde

I should also add, he's introduced me to all of his friends, some family and wants me to go to dinner with his boss and some clients tonight.

Well you both have the same venus placement which will really make you get eachother. Awesome. Your moons are different. He may think your a bit cold and you may find in a little too much?

Your mars will connect in that weird way virgo and aqua do I bet.

Do you know your risings?

Posted by AliCar15
The fact that he introduced you to everyone is a BIG THING for an Aqua.

I agree a 100%

I like the pace we've set and I looove being with him. I think with men, in general, it's best to wait for them to approach the subject. Yes? I want it when he's ready for it. I just wonder if because he's an Aqua that he could go at this pace forever. He told me last night that he loves spending time with me and misses me when I'm not there which he isn't used to feeling with women. He said "what we have is perfect other than the fact you live so far away". I am guessing he probably is very hesitant to jump into something exclusive with me becuase of our distance. Logistics are a pain!!

He introduced me as his "friend" and I bet he brings a lot of women around he's dated/dating because that's all it is, "friends" to him.

Posted by AliCar15

Posted by Sagittarius89

Posted by AliCar15
The fact that he introduced you to everyone is a BIG THING for an Aqua.

I agree a 100%

We're rockin this thread for wwilson, Miss Sag89 😉

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Lol hell ya like we fire signs do! 😄

Ok, so....do I just remain quiet and let things progress naturally? It's frustrating not knowing what he's thinking, BUT I think it shows me as the weak one if I ask him what's up with us. I've never felt this comfortable and connected to someone ever let alone this soon! It's scary but also really exciting. I've always been really distant and a total committment phobe. We actually had a conversation about who's the bigger committment phobe 🙂 He can't even decide on dinner when we go out!

wwilson...
WOW! I sure hope we are not dating the same Aqua....my situation sounds just like yours.

Ha, ha
I'm on the west coast. I'm guessing all of our Aqua stories are alike! So...have you asked him where you two stand?

Yes I finally called and ask him 2 days ago. He told me he just needed some time to sort himself out. He said"Iam NOT dumping you...just need some time". Well its been a week.. so I called him 2 days ago and said if you dont see me as the one for you..please tell me so I can stop thinking things are going to b ok with us. I said if you are not sure still as of yet then let me know. but its not fair for you to put me on hold IF you already know there will be nothing between us. He said I am still not sure...i really havent did to much thinking about it...i just need some time.I said fair enough. I didnt hear the break up speach at that time. So I figured if he really wanted to let me go then that was his chance.So I am going to just give him his space.I am the one who will always give in and text him first. I got NO respond from him for the first time yesterday at all. So today I have not sent him ANYTHING at all. Just now he sent me a text asking how I was doing🙂 I am going to wait a little while b 4 i respond. He is very hard to figure out.grrr but I think I need to play his game a little bit to c if he really cares. I find that if i dont contact him (just as today) he will get with me. He did say during our call that every time he felt himself getting close to me he would call it off with me.This has happened 2 times already but this last time i told him i can only take being rejected so many times.I think that mayb thats why he told me he was NOT dumpping me.

I think you need to back waaay off. When he says "jump" so say "how high". Don't play games, but stop making it so easy on him. He's not respecting you right now. Give him complete space to sort things out and let HIM come to YOU.

I thought about that but do I ignore him? I dont think that would b a good idea do u? and how much should I back off? I really do like him and dont want to stop seeing him but I dont want him to think I dont care either.I have already told myself that if he ask for me to come visit him this weekend I was NOT going to go.I have not let him cometo my house yet because I am not going to let him meet my 14 year old daughter if things were not going to work out with us. I have met his 4 year old sons and some of his friends thats about it.

Forgot to mention... I have spent only 3 weekends at his house and we havent seen each other for 2 weeks now.I moved the week b 4 last and told him I couldnt come to c him. Then he told me this past weekend he needed some time and called off our plans for last weekend.

I wouldn't ignore him but make yourself sound busy. Wait a day to respond to this last text and just say "I'm doing well, thanks!" I understand that you like him and guess what, he knows that too. Just give him space and he'll snap back when he's ready. If you don't give space, that rubberband will break and he'll be gone for good.

It's still very, very soon to tell anything. I think you are letting the adrenaline rush take over. Think with your head, listen to your gut and pay attention to actions, not words.

Venus Capricorn...argh good luck with that

Tiki33, Why?

oooops i spoke too fast, it's the Aqua in venus people that suck at being in a real relationship b/c it's a detached placement....Sorry

Alicar gave some really great feedback...

The only suggestion I have is to remember that he's an Aquarius so although you'll see his moon peep through with the cuddles and sincere I miss you's, you'll often experience his aloof and detached nature but don't panic b/c it's a huge part of his personality, if at any point you don't like how he is, how he behaves with you then leave him alone, don't even try to change him or his behavior b/c you'll be met with heavy resistance.

Go slow, don't bring up the were is this relationship going talk and don't push him to show his true feelings b/c inevitably he'll reveal himself all by himself. Aqua's love the balance of having someone near and having some distance between us, it's a balance that were looking for from our partners.