What do you do...

When reaching out to a friend that you had a falling out with? One whom you haven't talked to in a few years?

What are some things you would do to show that you're reaching out or wanting to get back in touch/make amends?

Ask them about something you used to share together that only you two had. Another option is to bring them something that reminds them of what only you two will know about. Good things btw and good experiences not about the time you screwed them over or something like that 😛

Posted by Aqualad
Ask them about something you used to share together that only you two had. Another option is to bring them something that reminds them of what only you two will know about. Good things btw and good experiences not about the time you screwed them over or something like that 😛

^^^agree

Oh Aqualad I just wanna adopt you & your adorableness....only that would cause people to think I was a really slutty 12 year old.

Posted by Aqualad
Ask them about something you used to share together that only you two had. Another option is to bring them something that reminds them of what only you two will know about. Good things btw and good experiences not about the time you screwed them over or something like that 😛

Wait, I'm a little confused with your wording here. You do realize I mean what AQUAS do when trying to reconnect, right? This isn't aimed at the general population.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Aqualad
Ask them about something you used to share together that only you two had. Another option is to bring them something that reminds them of what only you two will know about. Good things btw and good experiences not about the time you screwed them over or something like that 😛

Wait, I'm a little confused with your wording here. You do realize I mean what AQUAS do when trying to reconnect, right? This isn't aimed at the general population.

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Wouldn't it be geared toward anyone who you want to reconnect with-but with an empthasis on Aqua?

Aqualad is right-after 10 months of no contact, a reconnection and then no contact again...my ex Aqua contacted me again, with something I shared with him that was unique. 🙂 🙂

I love how you all assume that I was the one who did the wrong.

She fucked up, not me.

Thanks to the ones who actually answered the question.

Overall, the falling out was over a "misunderstanding" and her absolutely misconstruing what was said. Needless to say, I don't really have the intent of being friends again with her.

We met while her husband was in Iraq (scorp). He came back, they moved away. I went to visit, and how they treated me as a guest was kinda shitty. She went from treating me as if I were her bestest friend to being kinda a douche toward me.

Keep in mind, the entire time he was gone, I was her shoulder to cry on because he was being an emotionally abusive jerk toward her, accusing her of cheating and making her feel guilty for going out with friends.

Also, she was always bitching about her kids and how "bad" they were. After staying with them, I saw what was really going on (she put her kids on the back burner for this third husband of hers). Her kids really weren't that bad and I was growing tired of her whining about them all the time when she was the source of that issue.

At some point during a convo in chat, I mentioned I was surprised she was having more since she was always demonizing her kids. She said she loved them, they were just brats sometimes. She was also having a rough pregnancy and was in her 8th month. I joked about how she should pop the baby out already (8 months? Eh, just pop him out. He'll be fine. :p) Being totally sarcastic because one, our sense of humor is very sarcastic, and two, I was a preemie. I'm well aware of the issues involved.

Cue to a week later, her stupid ass husband posts a note on Facebook, blasting me and what a terrible friend I am. Absolutely freaked out because I was this bad guy who said she should have the kid despite all the risks involved! I'm so terrible! How dare I make a comment about her demonizing her kids! After all, it's perfectly okay for parents to get upset when their kids do "stupid" things! Blah blah.

Fucking seriously? The way they all behaved was fucking stupid and immature. Never named names, talking in the third person like some middle school gossip queen. He reposted it again, trying to get me to reply. "If you haven't read my note about bad friends, please do!"

...fuck this shit. I never bothered talking to her again. Kept her on fb, but got rid of him and her other friend who was equally as bad.

Anyway, I was asking this because recently, she's interacted in a few posts of mine on Facebook. It stood out to me because I haven't heard from her in like 2 years and she hasn't bothered with me on Facebook (I kept her on there because I just like to see how her kids are doing. They were my buddies).

So in turn, I asked what Aquas do to reach out after a falling out. I was wondering if maybe this was her way of doing it. Was just curious.

And like I said, I really don't care to be friends with her again, so the suggestions on what I can do on my part are useless. She's a user and even if she is "reaching out" it's only because her husband is overseas and she's lonely.

I know this. :p

I'm not "worried" about her. Was just me being curious. I don't know a ton about Aquas. I just thought it was odd that out of the blue that this came up.

Yeah, I know. I should have added "when they were at fault." What I get for posting late at night, ha.

Your tendency of being blonde is not my fault. :p

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Aqualad
Ask them about something you used to share together that only you two had. Another option is to bring them something that reminds them of what only you two will know about. Good things btw and good experiences not about the time you screwed them over or something like that 😛

Wait, I'm a little confused with your wording here. You do realize I mean what AQUAS do when trying to reconnect, right? This isn't aimed at the general population.

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That's exactly what I do so, I guess it works for both then 😛

People who are THAT immature on facebook make me wanna fuckin punch babies... ugh!!!

Posted by bubblyaquarius

Posted by Somedaystarswillalign
People who are THAT immature on facebook make me wanna fuckin punch babies... ugh!!!

You wanna rephrase that?

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Nopeeee not at all. It's just a joke! Don't take me seriously lol

Never that honey boo boo child!

In all seriousness Rocky your Aqua def feels dumb & is trying to reach out but imo if she's gonna let her asshat husband control her thoughts you don't need that shit. I'd ignore her.

I don't think it's so much that he controls her, it's just based on her culture, they tend to get a little too all about their man. I was surprised when he came back, what kind of person she'd turned into.

I don't like him though. I didn't like him before I met him, really. I'm friends with one of her ex husbands and he doesn't care for him either. Thinks he's a whiny douche. Which is lol. The ex is a Cancer.

Oh lawdy. Peoples....

I feel bad for her kids though. Yet another very immature individual raising children and the poor children take the brunt of all the bs involved with immaturity. :/