Why do aquarius men vanish out of nowhere?

Why do aquarius men vanish when things are going well, don't they know it's kinda rude? :/ Do they really need that much alone time—?

It is aqua's in general they are very independent and sometimes if they have real feelings they question them... They like to feel in control and the bottom line is they feel weird sometime about expressing emotions.

Often once they do they will feel vonrable and can even stay in relationships for to long if they develop into something that is not healthy.

Work has been big in the Aqua scope and some maybe looking for a promotion or a lot of good contracts... Things of that nature.

I would give it some more time but eventually if they don't respond they just are avoiding a situation that may even be going well for fear of having their feelings hurt.

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Posted by piscesmoon2
It is aqua's in general they are very independent and sometimes if they have real feelings they question them... They like to feel in control and the bottom line is they feel weird sometime about expressing emotions.

Often once they do they will feel vonrable and can even stay in relationships for to long if they develop into something that is not healthy.

Work has been big in the Aqua scope and some maybe looking for a promotion or a lot of good contracts... Things of that nature.

I would give it some more time but eventually if they don't respond they just are avoiding a situation that may even be going well for fear of having their feelings hurt.

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Thank you for your feedback! The work part is definitely true. The aqua I know works so much he told me that he doesn't have time for his personal life.

So overall, they get distant because they don't want to have feelings for someone because it makes them feel out of control?

if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.

I don't like UNRELIABLE men.

and you shouldn't either.

he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.

Posted by lisabethur8
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.

I don't like UNRELIABLE men.

and you shouldn't either.

he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.

Thanks for your feedback! You're right😢 I was about to contact him but realized that it's best not to...

Posted by lisabethur8
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.

I don't like UNRELIABLE men.

and you shouldn't either.

he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.

Yea... I was texting an Aqua X and finally just told her... We should talk in person even if it is only for 20 mins. She has told me for weeks now we would.

She may not get it but I have a very demanding job as well. I know hers means the world but anyone one ca. Have tea or coffee for 20 mins. I just told her normal people I talk to have to have actual one on one conversations. She is going to do what she is going to do I guess. The thing is I am super understanding about work but again she does do things with other friends and had some time to her self. I run into her at yoga honestly i want someone that will make an effort and if someone can't sit down for 20 mins that is a bad sign. My friends even some that have demanding jobs will make time for me... They are just friends... That is why if she even wastes to be my friend she needs to find time to have a real conversation... At this point I am not holding my breath... The only thing that gives me hope is she is nice when we communicate by text. However I believe that is her way of keeping just kinda there... Don't get me wrong not super interested in other but I am getting close to trying match.com or something. I have girls show interest but normally when they find out what I do... So on... I was hoping to have something develop more naturally. I was working last weekend and a woman straight up gave me her contact info but only after she found out something from an employee. I however and working on being ok with being more open with what I do. I just hate being treated different.

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Posted by lisabethur8
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.

I don't like UNRELIABLE men.

and you shouldn't either.

he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.

Yea... I was texting an Aqua X and finally just told her... We should talk in person even if it is only for 20 mins. She has told me for weeks now we would.

She may not get it but I have a very demanding job as well. I know hers means the world but anyone one ca. Have tea or coffee for 20 mins. I just told her normal people I talk to have to have actual one on one conversations. She is going to do what she is going to do I guess. The thing is I am super understanding about work but again she does do things with other friends and had some time to her self. I run into her at yoga honestly i want someone that will make an effort and if someone can't sit down for 20 mins that is a bad sign. My friends even some that have demanding jobs will make time for me... They are just friends... That is why if she even wastes to be my friend she needs to find time to have a real conversation... At this point I am not holding my breath... The only thing that gives me hope is she is nice when we communicate by text. However I believe that is her way of keeping just kinda there... Don't get me wrong not super interested in other but I am getting close to trying match.com or something. I have girls show interest but normally when they find out what I do... So on... I was hoping to have something develop more naturally. I was working last weekend and a woman straight up gave me her contact info but only after she found out something from an employee. I however and working on being ok with being more open with what I do. I just hate being treated different.

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i'm sorry dude but she doesn't sound like she cares about you. and yes it's a bad sign.

you need to move on too. you have a great career, you're a good guy and seem really caring and sweet and you're wasting your time with a woman who won't make the time of the day for you. You seem only in torturing yourself. when I get the feeling you already know.

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Posted by lisabethur8
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.

I don't like UNRELIABLE men.

and you shouldn't either.

he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.

Thanks for your feedback! You're right😢 I was about to contact him but realized that it's best not to...

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yes at this point it will look like harassing if you keep contacting him.

but good luck, you can find other men who are more ATTENTIVE!!!

look at piscesmoon2 above, OP....

super ATTENTIVE....and a good guy. you see??

they are everywhere too.

maybe you two can......

Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.

Posted by brianafay
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.

you're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??



you have to be fair, there are aquarius men who pursue and keep a woman (Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel)

Posted by brianafay
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.

Interesting. So they tend to be selfish? :/

if they are selfish and vanish on you, like I said,they are not into you.

i'm sorry but they aren't.

it sucks that these men vanish but it's a SIGN that he doesn't want you. it really SUCKS that men do that.

but he's too afraid to tell you to your face.

I hate men like that.

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Posted by brianafay
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.

you're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??



you have to be fair, there are aquarius men who pursue and keep a woman (Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel)

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No, not everyone on dxp is a woman scorned lol

I'm speaking from experience living all my life with Aquas and understanding how they work.

I'm really not sure what you're arguing with the Justin Timberlake example? Of course they pursue what they want..doesn't everyone?

They're just not the type to do things for the sake of someone else's feelings, in my experience. They're very self centered...it's not malicious...they just want to live without having the burden of considering others feelings in regards to their personal choices and how they spend their time.

I envy them really

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Posted by brianafay
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.

you're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??



you have to be fair, there are aquarius men who pursue and keep a woman (Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel)

No, not everyone on dxp is a woman scorned lol

I'm speaking from experience living all my life with Aquas and understanding how they work.

I'm really not sure what you're arguing with the Justin Timberlake example? Of course they pursue what they want..doesn't everyone?

They're just not the type to do things for the sake of someone else's feelings, in my experience. They're very self centered...it's not malicious...they just want to live without having the burden of considering others feelings in regards to their personal choices and how they spend their time.

I envy them really

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OP is talking about men VANISHING.

for myself, I tell them straight I don't want them (but it is only the dense ones in the past before I got taken) and maybe that CRUEL but I only had to put my foot down because I don't like guys who pursue and lack awareness. Some guys just can "tell"....

when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

Yeah they don't care.

You're still assuming they care.

Posted by brianafay
Yeah they don't care.

You're still assuming they care.

I agree. He seems very much into himself and focused on himself and his life:/

I'll throw that generic , but relevant quote out there...

"Don't make someone a priority, that to them you are only an option"

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

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i would never bother with this man again.



please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.

he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.

Posted by brianafay
I'll throw that generic , but relevant quote out there...

"Don't make someone a priority, that to them you are only an option"

Thank you for the quote! ☺

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

i would never bother with this man again.



please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.

he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.

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Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

i would never bother with this man again.



please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.

he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.

Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!

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you're welcome.

I can't sleep cause i'm up worried, worrying. I have some people in my life that is going to die (Euthanization) true story. due to cancer and other events so i'm just worrying.

Posted by lisabethur8

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Posted by lisabethur8

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

i would never bother with this man again.



please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.

he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.

Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!

you're welcome.

I can't sleep cause i'm up worried, worrying. I have some people in my life that is going to die (Euthanization) true story. due to cancer and other events so i'm just worrying.

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I'm very sorry to hear😢 Sending you lots of strength and love❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤——?

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/

i would never bother with this man again.



please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.

he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.

Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!

you're welcome.

I can't sleep cause i'm up worried, worrying. I have some people in my life that is going to die (Euthanization) true story. due to cancer and other events so i'm just worrying.

I'm very sorry to hear😢 Sending you lots of strength and love❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤——?

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thanks!! I hope you also find a good man who is reliable ok? don't get your hopes up over someone who won't make time for you.

Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Fear of confrontation does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself first and foremost.

lisabethur8- yea I am pretty much getting that pretty much told her if she wants to be just friends we should have a conversation. At this point I understand I guess I don't go looking for relationships normally I focus on my life and I have been working a lot but a lot of good is developing...

Again there is history... Asked her for a time if she does want to talk if not it will be hard for me really to say hi again we have even a few mutualish friends so I just kinda don't want to feel alkward either... If she does not respond it is what it is... It has only been a day and this is normal behavior for her... Although yes I am kinda not getting my hopes ups... Honestly there will be more help soon so I will have more control of my life and not have work or always teird and stressed out.

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.

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you're not thinking of the other person though.

you have to sacrifice your own selfishness, to tell them that they need to live and go on with their lives.

by keeping it in and running away, you are promoting a barrage of horrible things running in someone's thoughts, worrying, worrying and wondering and your heart is going to be weeping with all that worrying and weeping.

it IS selfish.

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.

you're not thinking of the other person though.

you have to sacrifice your own selfishness, to tell them that they need to live and go on with their lives.

by keeping it in and running away, you are promoting a barrage of horrible things running in someone's thoughts, worrying, worrying and wondering and your heart is going to be weeping with all that worrying and weeping.

it IS selfish.

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Exactly my point...your not thinking of the other person only yourself.

Avoiding confrontation is a self preserving act.

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lisabethur8- yea I am pretty much getting that pretty much told her if she wants to be just friends we should have a conversation. At this point I understand I guess I don't go looking for relationships normally I focus on my life and I have been working a lot but a lot of good is developing...

Again there is history... Asked her for a time if she does want to talk if not it will be hard for me really to say hi again we have even a few mutualish friends so I just kinda don't want to feel alkward either... If she does not respond it is what it is... It has only been a day and this is normal behavior for her... Although yes I am kinda not getting my hopes ups... Honestly there will be more help soon so I will have more control of my life and not have work or always teird and stressed out.

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just focus on yourself, PM

don't worry about her. She sounds like she's not worrying about you. I would rather if she wanted you back and want to be with you, it would make life simplier.

but, having too much stress and anxiety over this woman isn't worth it.

think of brianfay's quote : someone has to make you a priority.

but I hope you make them a priority too, it's a two way street.

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Posted by lisabethur8
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.

but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.

at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.

Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.

you're not thinking of the other person though.

you have to sacrifice your own selfishness, to tell them that they need to live and go on with their lives.

by keeping it in and running away, you are promoting a barrage of horrible things running in someone's thoughts, worrying, worrying and wondering and your heart is going to be weeping with all that worrying and weeping.

it IS selfish.

Exactly my point...your not thinking of the other person only yourself.

Avoiding confrontation is a self preserving act.

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Yes! then I agree and we're on the same page.



I LOVE men who take control and confront and pursue. ASSERTIVE!!! (of course, ONLY if you want them back lol)

/lisabethur8

I am it is just fresh and I would like to believe it is work so if she hits me up great if not it is what it is...

Believe me Aries just get to a point and then we may never allow anything to happen even if they come back. It is different if you are talking.

Lol. This was the major problem when I dated her and she was not very busy then... So I know it is not all me...

However no worries... Thx again though...

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