Will we get along?

Currently we get along at work where I know my aqua crush from. In alot of ways we are polar opposites but for whatever uncanny reason we click naturally in this pseudo old married couple sorta way. But looking at our signs I'm not sue if it would be the same personally.


Me: Scorpio sun. Libra moon. Sag rising

Him: aqua sun. Cap moon. Gemini rising

It basically said I seek harmony balance and communication which is why I prefer bluntness over social niceties. But when it comes to my feelings I have a hard time being clear. Which is tough for the aqua male cause he doesn't get emotions and because he likes most people hes all about social niceties. Where we both are similar is we both seek freedom and love being athletics and freedom.

I think for it to work he has to either learn to meet my emotional needs or I need to be happy with him showing he cares in other ways. Also. Despite my abandonment issues i need to let him have his guy time and I need to not be abrasive about the times where I want space

Doom for failure or a great thing if compromise can be made?

Don't pay attention to what astrology tells you. Learn from experience. Do you like this guy? Then just go for it and stop worrying. You can work out any problem as long as both are willing, even if astrology tells you you'll fail. I'm a pisces with an aqua. Technically, by sun signs, we're already doomed. But, we both make it work because we want it to work. And besides, you never really know someone until they're in love with you. My aqua seemed very intimidating to me at first, but after getting to know each other romantically, he says the cutest things now and tries his best. He really is so adorable. My aqua never wants/needs space and is open with his feelings. So, get to know him a bit more and see if you still feel doubts. Anything can be great with compromise! : ) Good luck.

How did you know he was into you since aquas like everyone

you need to ask him out on a date or something.......the mood has to be right and u should probably drive so he can drink....

Lol Haha. He doesn't drink. Despite us getting along. The last few times eve had a meal together he seemed to not know what to say unless it was about work. He never had trouble socializing

I wonder y.

He's super chatty generally speaking and he always likes to get a reaction out of me but idk what is it about me that gets him so quiet. Am I boring? Lol idk

As far as time goes. Now that I've clean slated things and I initiated the first step he seems to have coincidentally been more talkative and in my personal space and dies stuff for me and he doesn't talk to others like he used to. He still socializes alot but I've noticed a difference

How did I know? He told me. Haha. With this aqua, I met online, so I couldn't really judge how he acted with others, but he stuck around for nearly a year and told me multiple times that he was interested in me. With a more in person experience, I dated a different aqua. Yeah, he would also talk to everyone, but he would tease me and always joked about how he liked me and would compliment me, etc. I could tell that even though he tried to joke about it, that he was being serious. He just didn't think he had a chance with me.

I would say, if you're interested, show him some signs. Have you been doing that? If you do, he may feel more comfortable telling you he likes you, if he in fact does. But, who knows! Maybe he just thinks you're interesting, since you said he likes getting reactions out of you, and that's why he's been around you a lot. But, I'd say, put yourself out there a little bit, and try to get him comfortable around you and talkative. Say something about him not being very talkative, and maybe his answer will give you some hints. Or, you can just outright say you have an interest in him, though, if I were you, I'd make sure you two could talk comfortably, first.

What signs would be obvious to an aqua he is pretty clueless

Worst case scenario I figure hrs just comfortable but somethings he does to me or re me is questionable

From my experience, aquas are pretty clueless with subtle hints - no offense intended to the aquas. They are direct and like directness right back. They respect that. So be direct with him. Usually, though, if an aqua likes you, you will know it. They aren't shy about telling you but they might be afraid that the interest won't be returned. Invite him out to dinner after work some time or on some group outing with your friends. Just let it be casual and see if he picks it up from there.

What makes it hard for me is although he is social he will hang out with people he knows well. He has limited interests. If he can't pick on you, can't talk about any of his 3 jobs, sports, business, restaurants, or politics then he isn't having a good time. He turns down invites alot depending on the situation. If he was asked to go to a ball game, happy hour depending on who goes, or etc then he will go. Not that he'll decline me but I guess he has hermit tendencies in the beginning.

I can tell he hasn't had alot of female experience (maybe 1-2 gfs) but where I see he can win a woman over is his sense of humor, charisma, and his skill at being hospitable and catering to you. I've known him long enough to know how great he is but to the average woman he pretty much sucks lol.

I just got to figure out something that he knows hed be comfortable at enough.

Truecap is right we like directness.... But then again so do scorpios

I'm thinking how I'd go about it. I think my plan is since its only the past three weeks that I clean slated everything and he seems happier and is more talkative. I think I will:

1. Let him get used to us getting along like the old days
2. Start subtly flirting
3. Add in subtle touching then.......

4. Invite him out after work

Grrrr Most aquas spend thier lifes studying people. So with logic i dont think were clueless. I personally know what someone wants but hate hate hate beating around the bush. I'll wait until the end of time for someone to just say whats on thier mind. When they do i might even act suprised if for any other reason, than my own amusement.

Posted by ScorpioFemale79
I'm thinking how I'd go about it. I think my plan is since its only the past three weeks that I clean slated everything and he seems happier and is more talkative. I think I will:

1. Let him get used to us getting along like the old days
2. Start subtly flirting
3. Add in subtle touching then.......

4. Invite him out after work

My scorp ex walked up to me and said this: When you get around to asking me out the answer is yes. By the way that worked .

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Posted by ScorpioFemale79
How did you know he was into you since aquas like everyone

No we don't...

and I doubt he does with that Capricorn moon.

Most aquarian (like sane people) will make more time for you. People I'd like to get closer to I will reach out for more.

but I'm not a male

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i agree. we dont like that many people in reality, because we just know how the world is. You can't trust everyone you know.
and plus, you dont know if people are out to hurt you and dont really care about you. Respecting other people's rights and boundaries is one thing and being polite and kind, because everyone deserves kindness and respect. Until they step past your boudaries and disrespect you. It's common sense. Think of it this way: you dont go to your neighbor's house and just walk in without knocking or ringing the bell, it's polite. Or when you are in a meeting, you dont just interrupt all the time, it's rude. Sure, you raise your hand to interject if there is something an individual wants to say, but you usually wait out till the other person has time to finish. You dont know if, that person who will know something about you will use it against you. That kind of thing. this is all basic common sense. Something my family has taught me too. It's all about respect.

so to your question, it depends. some of us are very sensitive, and don't get a feel of how you treat us. you could be making jokes and it will hurt us because we dont know how to take the abrasiveness. Or if you're too flighty, ect. i'm on cold medicine right now so if i'm not making sense, blah.

Posted by EvilTurtle
Grrrr Most aquas spend thier lifes studying people. So with logic i dont think were clueless. I personally know what someone wants but hate hate hate beating around the bush. I'll wait until the end of time for someone to just say whats on thier mind. When they do i might even act suprised if for any other reason, than my own amusement.

I haven't thought about it from that angle. Good point.

I've just had aquas tell me before that they never realized someone was hinting when they were. Had one aqua guy friend ask me why his gf was miffed at him. He said he was going to his kid's ballgame and she said "oh, I like baseball. Its such a nice day to be at the ballpark, I haven't seen a game in forever! My kids used to play and I miss it. etc." I told him she just dropping hints for him to invite her along. He said "why didn't she ask to come?" I told him because she didn't want to invite herself. He said "I never realized that was a hint. I would have asked her, but thought she would consider it boring".

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Posted by EvilTurtle
Grrrr Most aquas spend thier lifes studying people. So with logic i dont think were clueless. I personally know what someone wants but hate hate hate beating around the bush. I'll wait until the end of time for someone to just say whats on thier mind. When they do i might even act suprised if for any other reason, than my own amusement.

I haven't thought about it from that angle. Good point.

I've just had aquas tell me before that they never realized someone was hinting when they were. Had one aqua guy friend ask me why his gf was miffed at him. He said he was going to his kid's ballgame and she said "oh, I like baseball. Its such a nice day to be at the ballpark, I haven't seen a game in forever! My kids used to play and I miss it. etc." I told him she just dropping hints for him to invite her along. He said "why didn't she ask to come?" I told him because she didn't want to invite herself. He said "I never realized that was a hint. I would have asked her, but thought she would consider it boring".

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Hints are rarely lost on me. in your friends case, he wasnt ready to for his gf to go to the game. Saying its easier to play the fool than explain that he just hasnt built enough trust with his gf to bring around his kids. I protect my kid more than my heart.

Point taken. 🙂

Sometimes I think we play unintentional mindgames. I agree we're very perceptive and can pick up on subtle hints but the take on it is more like "SO what do you want? I'll just pretend I'm oblivious to these hints until you're confident enough to just say it"

@turtle I would do what your scorp ex did but the work consequences I fear. Besides y did t u Sk her out even before she said that


@lisabethur8. If its a trust thing then why does he talk to everyone like they are his best friend

@truecap. He's said the same thing. If I wanted to go I shod have asked etc. I don't think it's cause he's perceptive like turtle is. I think it's a more of anybody's welcome along sort of thing

I dont remember what detail I put in the OP but I fess what makes it hard is it involves work but even the. I don't know where I stand

I mean in the beginning we hit it off And we talked And were playful then that's when he started being touchy. Not creepy just hand on the small of my back or light touch on my arm or shoulder whenever he passed by or brush dirt off my arm. Then I got lunch invites. Sometimes hed invite a coworker to Lunch an they denied so he eat by himself And later hed Ask me why I didn't go with him and I said cause he didnt invite me and he claimed he did so I'd have to remind that asking someone else go does count as asking me too. And he agreed so wth lol

I then i got transferred to his department. We Were both happy about it but I guess we were both focused on the work at the time we barely talked more his fault than mine and I felt neglected and we e des up arguing alot for a long time about this and it got so bad we barely tAlked Anymore. Despite the many arguments he still didnt know why I didn't talk to him anymore so he gave me space. When the whole time I missed him I just didnt get why he was so neglectf and unsupportive despite arguing about it the time so I chose to just do my own thig t he took initiative. After months I couldn't stand. Of talking to him anymore so Xmas I got him this movie replica item he loved and I clean slated for the most part the issues and we've bee. Talking ever since

I guess the issue At and is I don't understand whether its interest cause of the following

1. The subtle touching before. It was just me
2. When I didn't show up to work one morning due to car issues I couldn't call anyone. I guess when he noticed i never came to work he freaked out. Ppl said he was so worried they e never seen himself that and still haven't
3. He's been known to be territorial with me on occasion. Questioning me at happy hour if I was buying a male coworker a drink and I said no just myself and he said alright and wlkes awAy.
4. I was helpful with this new guy in another dept. who'd need help a coue minutes here and there and my crush freaked and jokingly would say every time to stop bugging me. Turns out he was serious
5. At potlucks he says his dish was from both him and I and I brought my own dish
6. The fact that we get along but he seems to tell weird overdone jokes with everyone but me
7. He's always in my personal space and touches my personal and work stuff all the time without asking and its cause he claimed he likes being in my office


That's just some of what he does and hes just like that with me. Everyone else be just says alot of overdone jokes or picks on them

So any guesses

Thanks yall for clarifying what I presumed about the subtle hints. I don't mind having my theories busted. lol!

Good information to know!!

Well I still insist they dont get "hints". Because I've been direct before with him and he still didn't get it LOL

@evilturtle yeah I honestly think that's how it is for me too sorta. I dunno though I can't say I wouldn't just confront them about it, but if I felt they would deny the truth then your right I would wait to the end of time.... I don't play into those sort of games I might act surprised at first if I thought me letting them know I knew the whole time would hurt their feelings or come across as arrogant. I hate it but I come across as arrogant A LOT! I totally am not arrogant.... Just straight forward 😢

@ScorpioFemale79 what do you mean when you say
"1. Let him get used to us getting along like the old days"
Did you and him have a falling out at some point or not always get along?
I am truly curious because I have had a falling out with a scorpio myself.......

Wow so dumb didn't realize there was a second page to this post and that you and sorta explained why what happened but ScorpioFemale79 I gotta admit I could not really understand for what you wrote..... Like Im not sure what it was you were arguing about.... Him neglecting you?

I couldn't be detailed cause I'm on here via cell phone which explains the typos. Years ago to mgmt let go aquas boss cause their department wasnt performing well. Do that kinda left aqua on his own. So top mgmt approached me asked if u wanna transfer to aquas dept. they didnt say much except to fix the department and get it up to par. A few days later I agreed. Up until this point me and aqua were uber close. So when i officially transferred he always took off to talk to the dudes in other departments leaving me to figure out to get the department to improve. Whenever we had meetings to talk about Ideas and etc. he always was late or Mia or forgot plus he talked to everyone but me. He wasnt mad at me but I think he never had alot of free time at work before so when I joined it was like weeee I'm freeeeeee lol. Anyway it took a long time but I finally found out a few weeks ago that it was a big misunderstanding (in the OP)

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I couldn't be detailed cause I'm on here via cell phone which explains the typos. Years ago to mgmt let go aquas boss cause their department wasnt performing well. Do that kinda left aqua on his own. So top mgmt approached me asked if u wanna transfer to aquas dept. they didnt say much except to fix the department and get it up to par. A few days later I agreed. Up until this point me and aqua were uber close. So when i officially transferred he always took off to talk to the dudes in other departments leaving me to figure out to get the department to improve. Whenever we had meetings to talk about Ideas and etc. he always was late or Mia or forgot plus he talked to everyone but me. He wasnt mad at me but I think he never had alot of free time at work before so when I joined it was like weeee I'm freeeeeee lol. Anyway it took a long time but I finally found out a few weeks ago that it was a big misunderstanding (in the OP)

Big misunderstanding in that he was never into you.... Or that you never 'would get along'?

No the neglect. I figured he thought "weeeeee I don't have to work snymore"

But he told someone after hours that it was in experience on his part. He never had to lead someone that knew as much as him if not moreso. So he thought the best decision would be to give me space to do my thang. I never would have guessed thats what he thought cause he never said that in all the times we spoke about it

The interest is still debatable. Although I hoped I just assumed he wasn't but with him being all territorial when I'm around other males is questionable including other things hes done

If he is territorial around you being with other males for sure he's interested... At least I know if it was me that's how I would act if I was interested. After let's say you were hypothetically a official thing and he trusts you he would probably be less territorial MAYBE I dunno.... I know I would unless I thought the guy/guys you were talking to meant to do you harm in some kind of way.... Or if you were spending loads more time with them then me. I can see how the work situation complicates this to the nth degree!!! It really sucks for you and him 😢 I mean even if it works out there is the whole dating someone at work were both hold highly important positions... BUT I think if you can find a way and learn to have patience with him because Im sure he probably will have to have it with you.... I really think you won't be disappointed! Aquarius guys are usually almost everything a scorp wants except sometimes they lack in expressing their emotions like you would like but Im sure the more comfortable he is with you the more he will open himself up to that avenue of expression he closes away so tightly.... You do it too so maybe you should learn to be more vulnerable.... I mean Im assuming you do ... All scorps generally are emotional control queens and kings

Idk what the territorial ism was about. At a holiday party he was digging in my purse looking for a bottle opener. New staff from other locations asked both of us individually if we were together i guess based on how he was around me. I.e digging in my purse without asking or sticking his keys and walker in my purse

Who does that—??

I think patience is tough for me with aquas. They are so spontaneous it drives me nuts cause I'm a planner. I wanna kick him in the nuts most days. But it would make sense if we did date we naturally vibe without any effort. Even when were mad at each other you'll see us bringing each other lunch.

But I digress. It's been a good 3 weeks. Reminding myself the reasons behind his actions have helped with the patience. He seems alot happier that I'm happier.

That's good! Im happy to hear 😄
It is very wise and mature of you to sit back and think about what his motive for doing what he does..... Rather than what it was he actually did. You should look it up on the inter webs scorp/Aqau couples at least where the scorp is the female and the aqua is the guy.... Is sorta the new hot astro coupling... For celebs at least. But I have read about everyday people being happily married like this to... Yeah it is real girly of a guy to be looking at shit like that but this damn scorp at school was phenomenal! I hadn't felt the way she was making me feel in forever and she was so on my wavelength... really smart and gorgeous! W/e point is you may find encouragement if you look it up... I know I did

Oh I have looked up aqua/scorp compatibility. The only bad parts was i won't get the outward emotional stuff out him that I need plus i can't handle his spontaneity

I already combat that with ignoring every idea he comes up with until he actually starts working on it

He's not emotionally expressive but his way of showing appreciation with me is I know hes intrigued by my intelligence. He likes getting my advice and likes touching my personal belongings in my office