am I doing the right thing.

I am a cancer female and I have noticed a male aries in class who spends a lot of time staring at me. I keep telling myself I will look up next time I noticed him doing this but I can never bring myself up to do so and I am afraid he may lose interrest. am I doing the right thing by not saying anything to him? the most words we ever exchanged was thank you and your welcome.

this one seems shy, he never talks in class but then outside of class he seems more talkative. From what I hear he is quite the party paerson so the 2 personalities just seem not to make sense. maybe I just come off as being too aloof.

well I never thought about but maybe me being black and him being white makes him a little cautious about saying anything. And I do get told by many people that they thought I was cold when they first saw me. plus even if he is tlking to people I know and I am around them I just totally ignore him and talk to everybody else even the ones I don't know. that may not be a good thing. Gosh I hate being this shy.

Cancerinlove, Just go up to him and talk to him. Start the conversation. My experice with Cancer women is that they are AWESOME, but sometimes come off as wallflowers. TOO shy. Yes, you'll have to take the risk that your ENERGY won't be the same, y'know fire and water, all that. BUT the Cancer girl I dated for a long time was SO sweet and we had a WONDERFUL relationship together. She was very SHY, but I KNEW it---so he probably knows that about you. Remember, we GUYS run into this ALL the time if we're even thinking about approaching a woman to ask her out! The ol', "Hi. How's it goin'?," line will at least start SOME conversation. And, just to assure YOU---I have been attracted to other women and wanted to know them but did NOT approach them (most of the time we do, as geminifox points out). Sometimes I just wait and see if a woman continues to appear in my life. And, like ALL guys, most of us need a 2X4 whack on the side of the head to get out attention. Hope that helps! You sound like a wonderful girl.

Talk to him but let him feel like he has to chase you. We like that.

Honestly . . I don't get this whole chasing thing . . so, an Aries doesn't really WANT somebody . . just to chase. What does this mean? Attention?

When I'm loving somebody, or just really attracted to someone who I think very highly of and want to get to know him better . . why would I want to play a game of run and catch?

What does it mean, really?
Can someone explain it to me?

No, we want you. We aren't going to chase someone we don't want. We just don't want it to be easy. Its just appealing. I don't know if I can explain it. It likes waving a red flag in front of bull's face (not to mix my astrological metaphors here).

From my experience in life . . real and honest love is hard to find. Is that not as important as the thrill? It doesn't make sense to me . . I know that it is the way it is and people are who they are . . but, it's hard for me to fathom why somebody would want love to be hard . . to love "easy" is so much more endearing.

Life is a lot of work, in itself . . love shouldn't be so hard, should it?

A lot of times, I read in here where the Aries has such a hard time finding a person who really loves them and treats them with respect and gives them all their heart for the people they are inside . . they feel so misunderstood and alone . .

I find it easy to love a man to whom I am bound in my heart . . to the Ram, it's not suppose to be easy to love?

I'm just talking out loud here, not really asking a question.

P-Angel.... I see what you are saying and what I think is.....the "chase" thingie is and can be more of an age thing. As we grow we no longer have a desire to play those sort of games. Reason being.....we know by now what we want. Perhaps the games are another way of learning about relaionships, emotionally unavailable at the moment? Got me.

Don't get me wrong...I enjoy games....just not the type that plays with peoples hearts or emotions. I see it this way.... you either are interested and have a desire to explore a relationship or not. If not, get a long little doggie.......

"me being black and him being white"

Cancerinlove . . I wouldn't stress over this. When the Rams in my world are attracted to another . . nothing else matters. Maybe I'm being naive, but, I'd like to think that we have grown past this kind of prejudice.

If this is why you are being shy with him . . please don't . . don't allow yourself to be chained like that. Love is beautiful and you never know where you're gonna find it. Maybe it's with him, maybe he's the one and it doesn't matter what color a person is on the outside . . what matters is who you are inside.

Wow, you are such a Pisces. I just want to squeeze you.

I don't need a runner to be interested myself but I need you not to chase me. I hint of cling irritates me. My taurus just stood where he was until I caught him. 😉

FB, oh, I see . . it's just apart of the learning about yourself process. Sort of like with my kind . . we swim away without any word, just vanish . . when we do this, we're not sure of what we want and it scares us because somebody might see us as weak and puny . . after time with more life experiences, we learn to not frighten so easy and stand tall, rather than run because we've realized that it's just within OURSELVES that the fear lies.

I see, that makes sense. It's about finding one-self . . sometimes, I think we never really do find ourself . . just keep searching until we die because our desires change.

So, if a person chases an Aries . . you all don't like that?

But, what if we "feel" you? What if you're stirring our souls?

Once a long time ago, one of my very good friends dated and married a man, he was Aries and every time he got near me, all my blood started surging through my body and I got light-headed . . he knew I was feeling him because he told me I was shinning into him and he could feel me talking to his heart . . sometimes, after he and her divorced, he would just watch me and I wondered if he wanted me to chase him . . I didn't, of course, but, I wasn't sure if that's what he wanted, or not. I guess not. Good thing I didn't, or I would have made a fool out of myself.

You know what, Cancerinlove . . thinking about this man I knew ages ago, Boy has said before about a woman he watches on the bus, Atom's love, and other male Aries in here and the things they have said . . . it seems that these men can be content to just lay thier eyes on what they consider beautiful . . that fulfills something inside of them.

And maybe not just the men . . my daughter-in-law watched my son for 2 years before he even noticed her . . this Aries boy in your class may just think your lovely and just looking at you is enough for him to feel alive inside.

I'm not sure that I can answer that P-Angel. The one time I really felt that I acted on it and when I did, I knew that he was at least interested so that it would be reciprocated. I'd like to think that if anyone felt that way they would being chased wouldn't really matter.

Cald, "feeling" another person is everything to me, so that is something that would stand out first and foremost . . nothing else really matters.

Sometimes, I truly believe that we as people, stop ourselves from really loving another because we put so many conditions and rules down . . when my end comes and I look back on my life, I want to know that I walked "with" my partner, and shared with him, no matter who was the first to approach the other.

Chase or be chased . . what does it matter, so long as you're together and love each other . . that's what matters.

What does shy mean?

Is it a fear because it is believed that someone isn't going to accept you for who you are, so you therefore don't know how to act?

Then, don't act. Be yourself . .

Solitas777 says on the title of a thread that it ain't easy being an Aries . .

Why not?

Being me is the easiest thing I've ever done in my life . . if another can't accept me for who I am . . then the problem isn't mine.

Say what you feel and be who you are . . those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

I think P-Angel is on to something we Aries rarely talk about: quest for beauty. I've always had pretty girls around me, since I was a boy. Now I like to surround my self with beautiful things and beautiful people---especially beautiful people who are beautiful in appearance and inwardly. I can ADMIRE a beautiful woman from afar. Not shy to approach ANY woman. But also find it a delight for a woman to introduce herself to me or just say, "Hi." The Black / White thing doesn't matter in the least! Being REAL is the most important thing! Roxijam's comment on timing makes me laugh---it just happens naturally, no preconceived. (Usually our fuse is lit all the time, we just don't let everyone know!).

YOU know that's right! 😉 lol.....