Are Aries normally very open?

If so, do introverted people annoy you?
The Aries I'm hanging out with is literally an open book. We talk every day and sometimes on the phone for 2-4 hours.
In particular, he's told me everything about his exes, from his first gf at age 14 to a funny story about a girl he slept with twice 6 months ago.
Me on the other hand... I have only said the basics about exes. I much prefer to talk about the future, current affairs or what I did that day. Since I've only known him a couple of months, I'm only comfortable with that. He said it's okay but when I told him "wow, you're very open!" he said "my honesty has left me exposed." but he hasn't changed or anything.

Actually out of all the fire signs, I think we are the most introverted. We just present a facade that we are open, and in some ways we are, but in terms of sharing how we truly feel, that takes a while. It's complicated lol

Yeah, it depends on the person we're talking to.

I'm usually introverted, but even so, other introverted people won't get along with me easily. They may get in my nerves or vice versa.

Since the guy is an open book, I'd advise you to ask his placements (or his date of birth). Aries personality varies lot, depending on our personal planets. You could be talking to a prick or to the nicest guy on earth.

Posted by biosynthesis
Actually out of all the fire signs, I think we are the most introverted. We just present a facade that we are open, and in some ways we are, but in terms of sharing how we truly feel, that takes a while. It's complicated lol

This is completely on the money

Okay!
He has Capricorn moon, Aries mercury and an Aqua venus and mars.
I think he likes attention haha, like when I ask him questions about whatever he is talking about. He does the same for me but he'll never press me for more info if I seem a bit hesitant.

Posted by biosynthesis
Actually out of all the fire signs, I think we are the most introverted. We just present a facade that we are open, and in some ways we are, but in terms of sharing how we truly feel, that takes a while. It's complicated lol

Yeah he seems to be totally chill about stuff. If I get slightly annoyed about something, he will say he hopes it doesn't affect what we have (our relationship). He never seems to really have a problem with me, BUT he will JOKE about things that I feel are bothering him, like how I'm always busy and may have a wandering eye (I am busy, but I don't have a wandering eye)


Also loves his ego stroked. When I do he's as happy as a puppy, snuggling up to me.

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Posted by eirealainn
Okay!
He has Capricorn moon, Aries mercury and an Aqua venus and mars.
I think he likes attention haha, like when I ask him questions about whatever he is talking about. He does the same for me but he'll never press me for more info if I seem a bit hesitant.

Are you two close with each other?

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Ehh kind of?
I mean I've known him 3 months but I wouldn't consider him a really close friend yet. That takes years.
Awkward situation: I was telling him how I feel like this year (I moved back to the USA in July) is kind of a mediocre or a transitional year for me, like nothing very special happened and he said "wow, thanks" and I didn't know what to say!! Then I said I hope in college or just in the future I will find friends who mean as much to me as my friends from high school and he said again something along the lines of "wow thanks!" :/// I said it wasn't the same, he knew what I meant?! I was talking about girlfriends. Oops.. I don't know if he was kidding though.

airies love attention and their selfishness is never enough. they want fans and feed off them. that said, my experience with airies is that they are not an open book unless pissed off. they dint want to talk about their past and their relationships. they just want to forget and start new like they are perfect. all airies have secrets that they will not share with even the love of their life! so no, most airies are not open books.

I'm very introverted and my Aries mom tells me I'm annoying all the time.

"Have you recently met an unusually friendly person with a forceful manner, a firm handclasp and an instant smile? Get ready for a dizzy dash around the mulberry bush. You've probably just been adopted by an Aries. Especially if you found it a little tough to take a lead in the conversation."

^basically

You are very hard open books. But the third decan Arian with Gemini in venus I am talking to. He has opened to me and has never told anyone his past except me.

I ll ask him anything though on feelings or emotions he get weirded out. and I am not sure. I am Taurus he has Taurus moon also. And I feel its just testing each other's patience or putting each other on pedestals.. In the mean time. I use my Aquarius moon to open a wide variety of topics to make him feel comfortable around me.

I can use my Taurus trifleca with him when I need to. and I think he doesn't know how to respond unless I ask him directly.

I think it depends on the ascendant, because I'm an aries girl with scorpio ascendant and i'm like 50/50 introvert/extrovert. First when I meet someone I usually have to figure that person out and than decide if i want to open up. But sometimes (e.g at parties) while meeting some new peopleI can be extra outgoing and probably revealing myself TOO MUCH with everything and being very straightforward.

Well he and I are just friends now. I told him we can leave it at that. They say Aries are direct, but not this one. He acted like nothing bothered him until something did and you could see a change in him and he acted like nothing was wrong until he finally goes into a speech about something. Then when I try to communicate with him and salve the situation, he goes back to acting like ok, maybe it's not that big of a deal, nothing really bothers me. CLEARLY THINGS BOTHER YOU, YOU'RE HUMAN. I've never met someone in my life who acted like they didn't care about anything and nothing affected them. Maybe it's the Cap moon.

I'm deeply introverted.


And, paradoxically, there is a certain kind of introverts who irritate me.

Posted by biosynthesis
Actually out of all the fire signs, I think we are the most introverted. We just present a facade that we are open, and in some ways we are, but in terms of sharing how we truly feel, that takes a while. It's complicated lol

The "facade" is indeed something a lot of us Aries types have. More than once people how commented on how different I am in public and in private. In private, I really will tell you have I feel, if I don't know you, I see no reason to explain myself, and so I don't bother to.

Oh Lordy, Lordy, another Aries with a cap moon. My heart goes out to you, eirealainn. I have one of these in my life. I am usually very good at reading people. Danged if I can get a decent read on this person. I am starting to think "Sybil," as in multiple personalities.

Posted by dofacc
Oh Lordy, Lordy, another Aries with a cap moon. My heart goes out to you, eirealainn. I have one of these in my life. I am usually very good at reading people. Danged if I can get a decent read on this person. I am starting to think "Sybil," as in multiple personalities.

LOL, cap moons aren't that bad, we're just good at concealing our true emotions. And Yes it is hard to read us lol

Posted by BlueAmber
I'm deeply introverted.


And, paradoxically, there is a certain kind of introverts who irritate me.

I know exactly what you mean

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Posted by dofacc
Oh Lordy, Lordy, another Aries with a cap moon. My heart goes out to you, eirealainn. I have one of these in my life. I am usually very good at reading people. Danged if I can get a decent read on this person. I am starting to think "Sybil," as in multiple personalities.

LOL, cap moons aren't that bad, we're just good at concealing our true emotions. And Yes it is hard to read us lol

I'd rather be around Aries Sun/Cap moons than Aries Sun/Cancer Moons. The latter drives me nuts! I'd rather not try to read someone and just go with the flow.....

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aries sun/cap moons are misunderstood.

^^^ Ya know, I have to agree with this one.

Time to educate me/us, biosynthesis! I am all ears!!! Well, with a bit of wool, a couple of horns, some hooves, but you get my point.

Posted by dofacc
^^^ Ya know, I have to agree with this one.

Time to educate me/us, biosynthesis! I am all ears!!! Well, with a bit of wool, a couple of horns, some hooves, but you get my point.

lol! what do you want to know

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Posted by dofacc
Oh Lordy, Lordy, another Aries with a cap moon. My heart goes out to you, eirealainn. I have one of these in my life. I am usually very good at reading people. Danged if I can get a decent read on this person. I am starting to think "Sybil," as in multiple personalities.

LOL, cap moons aren't that bad, we're just good at concealing our true emotions. And Yes it is hard to read us lol

I'd rather be around Aries Sun/Cap moons than Aries Sun/Cancer Moons. The latter drives me nuts! I'd rather not try to read someone and just go with the flow.....

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*starts b*tching* 😛

So, biosynthesis, a classic series of events.

Monday. She informs me at some length and angst about how much she hates her email app. Hey, I say, I have just the thing, an email app that works very nicely. I will come over on Friday (her day off), and install it for you.

Yea!!!!! The Crops are Saved, and There is a God.

As a btw, part of my checkered past is computer information systems professional.

Wednesday I call. Hey, we still on for Friday, I ask?

Ah, well, maybe......

Hmmmm.....

Friday arrives.

Hey, I ask, what time should I be over to set up that email app.

Well, gee, I don't know, it seems I made plans, and I am going to go hang out with so and so, and I just don't know.

Well, you know, you can do more than one thing a day, I point out. I also suggest that I could set this up while she isn't around, because me fiddling with computers makes her kinda' anxious/cranky/out of sorts. It takes lots of patience, attention to detail, and just plain waiting.

Nah, she replies, maybe next week...

Repeat this with taking a drive, a hike, dinner, etc.

So, with all that in mind, I ask, gee, am I bothering you to much? You know, if you really don't want to go for a drive/hike/lunch that is just fine, but you need to tell me, OK.

But I really, really like your company, she says. I really want to do these things, she says.

Ahmmmm, I say.

Essentially I feel like she is a moving target. As I said, "Sybil." I know, I know, "A woman is allowed to change her mind!" But this is different. You ever bounce one of those "super balls." You never know which way they are going to bounce. That is what I am asking about. Is that a cap moon thing, or a flaky Aries thing?

Oh yeah, then I more or less throw up my hands and tell myself "give it up, dumbass!" *sigh*

Then she calls, late at night. Gee, I know it's late but come on over and we will have whatever and talk. You don't have to come over this late (I work nights generally, it is essentially the middle of the day for me), I know you must be tired, but underlying message is get your ass over here.

OK, I go over. She is just plain cool in her demeanor. Glad you could make it, sort of, I guess... *sort of a shrug*

All very platonic, but "I really like you company."

See the above post for my question.

She seems to have a cancer rising, also, if you think that matters.

Posted by dofacc
She seems to have a cancer rising, also, if you think that matters.

yeah I have a cap rising, so I handle it differently. She seems to be unsure. When a cap moon is unsure, it usually means he/she are not in control of the situation. She seems like she wants to micromanage your interaction because she is afraid to deal with her emotions. Remember, capricorn is also part water-the sea goat. People think we are aloof, but that is incorrect. Aloof means they are detached to a certain degree. Capricorn moons are not detached, we are very much attached, and that is the reason why we hide it. We like to be in control. I have learned over the years that not being in control is okay and it is healthy to be objective but also trust your instincts. Also, cap placements, including cap suns, need to feel "worthy". That is why they save the relationship stuff for later. If they have not reached their goals and accomplished what they want in life, they think other people will not see any value in them. It is a superficial way to go about things, but those are some solar and lunar capricorn instincts. Again, it's about a balance, of course worth entails much more than the superficial realm, but that's what we naturally gravitate towards. Having an aries sun and capricorn moon is even more difficult because there is that constant internal battle. The first word that instantly popped into my mind was "fear". She is afraid.

*is not in control

dofacc....this same girl—?

You have the patience of a saint my friend lol...you are starting to sound like her lapdog.

She seems very controlling.. :/

Posted by AriesGirl74
dofacc....this same girl—?

You have the patience of a saint my friend lol...you are starting to sound like her lapdog.

She seems very controlling.. :/

yeah normally I would try to explain cap moons and sort of defend them, but she does seem very controlling.

Yeah, this is the same person I have been interested in for some time.

Thanks for the insights Ladies. I do see the "fear" aspect bio. She will poke her nose out just to test the waters, and then pull back again, regardless of what I say or do. This is actually one of the reasons I have kept at it. There is this remarkably warm and wonderful person who peeks out at me once in a while, then runs and hides.

The "control" idea has rambled through my head more than once. Think that if we do go somewhere, she really wants to drive, and to use her own car. I am fine with that. I just don't fine a independent female all that threatening to my "Manliness." If anything, I am seeing this as a "trust" issue, though as I say, "control" wanders in and out of my head.

The other thing about control is I see myself rather as one of the large, older Labrador Retrievers. They do whatever they doggone well please, whether you want them to or not. I will indeed just plain walk over and introduce myself to that kid with a ball. You can yell if you want, and I will get back to you on that point, when I find the time. I don't care if you yell at me to stop buying sparkly little things, I saw it, I thought of you, I bought if for you, "So There!"

This all gets a pretty mixed response. She had told me "NO," but dang, that really is a pretty and sparkly gee gaw I just handed her!

This guy and I were basically friends with benefits. I ended the benefits part because I felt like I was selling myself short. I explained that I don't want casual relationships in my life anymore because I want to get married one day and honestly I truly care about people and eventually it becomes impossible for me to compartmentalize areas of a relationship. Well this is when he decides to tell me that "at one point" he had strong feelings for me. Mind you, I've only known him for 3 months. Anyways, we are still talking, although through texting instead of calling. He's still asking me to hang out and we have twice already (dropped the bomb about 2 weeks ago). This makes me feel better because at least he actually likes me as a person.

I thought Aries were supposed to be super straightforward and aggressive. His "used to like you" comment means he didn't say or do anything about it for who knows how long. So it MUST be the Cap moon that keeps his mouth shut a lot of the time. And a bit timid maybe?

nah cap moons are straight forward, but in a more structured, thought out way. Cap moons are not impulsive with emotions.

Posted by eirealainn
I thought Aries were supposed to be super straightforward and aggressive. His "used to like you" comment means he didn't say or do anything about it for who knows how long. So it MUST be the Cap moon that keeps his mouth shut a lot of the time. And a bit timid maybe?

well I don't know the situation with you two, but from personal experience, sometimes I've tried to convince myself I did not actually feel anything, even though I really did. He may still like you, or maybe he had a crush, who knows? Go with the flow and find out what happens. Cap moons are not timid at all. I think it just has to do with emotional maturity, and cap moons may take a longer time to be emotionally aware than other moons. Also if it's a square aspect like aries sun and cap moon, it might be even harder, because aries aren't exactly open with their feelings either, we just pretend to be imo. He seems unsure and is testing the waters. Cap moons are afraid of also being rejected, especially cap moons on men. Maybe he thought you didn't like him back so he pretended not to care.

Nope im secretive and quiet with people who haven't earned my trust. I can also be an introvert myself.

However I can see how some may think im not those things^^^^

I know how to keep things surface to the point where you think I am being open or extroverted.

I am straight forward just not with everyone and about everything. My speech is very direct and if I have an issue with something or someone I tackle it headfirst I don't pussy foot on that front. But just telling m whole life story to any ol body...nah

I am an aries and it depends, with some people I feel so comfortable that I want to spill my guts out with other people I don't feel teh urge to talk. So it depends

He's so wonderful 🙂 I have never been friends with an Aries man before. No matter what happens, I want us to stay friends. I can't even explain why, I just feel affection for him and the attraction is one of the strongest I've ever felt. I've stopped analyzing every interaction in my head and have just gone with the flow and am enjoying his company!!