Arian/Libran relationship. Eeep!

So my Libran ex got tired of the drama. Though I must say I toned it down with the flaring of my temper. I've even surprised myself. He's seen the change but isn't sold on trying anymore, saying he doesn't feel the same. Before he was certain while I was aloof and enjoyed his attention. But I've been increasingly understand, affectionate and perhaps, sigh clingy. I don't know what to do now. I asked for space, two months, while he sorts his feelings out. We had been broken up for a month as I tried to fix things. Then I just asked key questions and decided to cut contact. He's messaged me on and off to deal with items being collected so I haven't had a chance for lo sure.

While we had amazing chemistry and so many things eerily in common; life goals, hobbies, tastes, dreams, like literal nocturnal images, and I wouldn't want it to be all for naught, I feel perhaps I don't want to be with someone who could ever be okay with the thought of losing me. He brought out the it's not you it's me, I'm not ready, you're too good for me lines. I don't know how to read it because he's said and meant the last two before other times he called it quits before. This back and forth is aging me. I just want stability, my old Libra back. ;/

Wow, so many typos. Sorry guys ^_^> Don't let it deter you from answering!

Aiyaiyai. Where is this Arian family? Humph! Probably too busy climbing mountains to respond to a post...

Lol

Arian forum got attacked by dead zombies for a while..

Rockyroadicecream has the best insight on Libras. Not sure where she's hiding, if she is. >_>

As far as my opinion, they like to chase.. and if he's saying those lines... best not to be with someone who's not ready to be in a relationship with...

My experience is when you feed ego, they crave for more while it's landing on their feet which ends the chasing they had for the individual. When paying attention for them comes to a stop, they come back for more. The unbalancing act.

I assume the more mature need the balancing act, he, she chases, she, he chase.

Not entirely sure, hopefully someone can give insight experiences with Libras.

Eh, I gave her insight on the libra forum

Lol I did get lots of advice in the Libra forum ^_^
Thanks, IridescenceMorpha. I think he actually got tired of the chase. Lol he did put up a fight. But with a little space, it seems he's ready to go again. :s
I gave a lot (maybe way too much) information in the Libra forum. You can check it out and give some insight if you'd like. I'd appreciate it. 🙂

You're very welcome. Ah okay, I'll go check it out. 🙂

:/ this will be the third time I'm typing here. A simple update now 😆
Libra man and I got back together in September. Yay!
Broke up in November. Nay!

As he saw he was regressing on the significant progress he made. He caught himself staring at other girls and could see it would be an issue so he wants to work on himself and his life, by moving away. This time, around 14,000 miles away. He seemed set on it, I use the past tense because until recently, i told him there was no way id be moving away that soon. just as a matter of fact and he now notably uses 'eventually' as was our initial plan (5 years) I told him as he was breaking up with me I felt it was a matter of stress and I'd give him time. In that time, I have also been working on myself, now gainfully employed and allowing other possible suitors near me as opposed to scaring them away as I would when I was taken or hoping he would soon take me back. Also, I've been planning for a future without him so I'm no longer holding onto (he's the one) though it still feels true to a small extent. I'm okay with us parting ways completely. But as of late, late December, really, he's been turning on the charm again. We even spent New year's together. (He tried getting handsy but I maintained my position on keeping it simply plutonic).
Right now, I would like to get more settled in my career, my advanced in my plans before engaging in a new relationship.

The time we've spent apart has helped me to gain an appreciation for what we have, where I can significantly improve and how things could be better. I want to be more sure of myself before coming with anyone else, including him. And there are other interesting guys out there who are falling over themselves now so I'm not as lonely as before. 😛 Either way, I'm enjoying this time, and talking to him, while our friendship grows.

He asked for the break up, but said he's been missing me last night. (I don't allow myself to talk to him if I'm not feeling 100% confident or awake, other than that, I've purposely maintained an active calendar, mostly social and studying). It doesn't seem like he's worked on himself with the ferocity he had previously. But he has made certain progress in some aspects of his life and he seems exceptionally more emotionally aware..

It was advised to me that he and I are better off as friends. I vacillate between that point of view and my knowledge of our dynamic. What is ultimately beneficial now is that we better ours

....elves for ourselves and hopefully, we get to share that with a very special person in the near or further future. And with a great friendship and appreciation and understanding of one another, our relationship could easily flower into something much better than before, if he and I let it.

So, all in all, it could go either way. Breaking up and getting back together is getting old, and so are we. If it doesn't turn out as planned, it wouldn't be the first time and won't be the last. But for now, we find happiness in being all to relate and appreciate each other's presence.

I don't know what made me think this was a 'simple' version. 😛

Have not heard of a libra going back to someone after theyve already weighed out the goods and bads and decided to move on.

Rockyroadicecream has the best insight on Libras...

Hahahahahahahahahah !! *cough* *cough* oh ghad... Ok! now I feel better.

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How do you expect her to understand the Librian nature if she doesn't even got the GUTS to upload a picture of herself?
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Libra will never fall in love with a person he can't see with his/her eyes. NEVER
They are too scared for that. Libra men need to be sure that the person they are talking to is "ok" with their beauty standars.

Posted by Geminems
Have not heard of a libra going back to someone after theyve already weighed out the goods and bads and decided to move on.

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^This lady understands the Librian nature far better than any Aries woman will ever be able to.

Ok, if you want your Libra that badly... you need to impress him a lot more!

First of all Get rid of your

Yeah, life is cruel lady!

1) -Go hit the Gym Hard! Don't be lazy! (Don't be such a pussy).
2) -After you get fit enough, you'll realize something interesing... that your Libra guy doesn't worth it.

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I bet he's looking for a gemini/aquarian girl right now. Because when they break up with a fire sign, they start to chase a "soft" girl.
with an Asian-body type, cute waist and very girly.
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So, unless you get a lot more "interesting/fit", you will lose that bastard forever.

Here's my advice
*Go find a Leo or a Saggi!

Yeah, too much effort for a guy with a weak body and maybe with a weak mind too.
Good Luck!

Posted by CharlieSlaughter

Rockyroadicecream has the best insight on Libras...

Hahahahahahahahahah !! *cough* *cough* oh ghad... Ok! now I feel better.

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How do you expect her to understand the Librian nature if she doesn't even got the GUTS to upload a picture of herself?
***
Libra will never fall in love with a person he can't see with his/her eyes. NEVER
They are too scared for that. Libra men need to be sure that the person they are talking to is "ok" with their beauty standars.

Posted by Geminems
Have not heard of a libra going back to someone after theyve already weighed out the goods and bads and decided to move on.

^This lady understands the Librian nature far better than any Aries woman will ever be able to.

Ok, if you want your Libra that badly... you need to impress him a lot more!

First of all Get rid of your

Yeah, life is cruel lady!

1) -Go hit the Gym Hard! Don't be lazy! (Don't be such a pussy).
2) -After you get fit enough, you'll realize something interesing... that your Libra guy doesn't worth it.

***
I bet he's looking for a gemini/aquarian girl right now. Because when they break up with a fire sign, they start to chase a "soft" girl.
with an Asian-body type, cute waist and very girly.
***
So, unless you get a lot more "interesting/fit", you will lose that bastard forever.

Here's my advice
*Go find a Leo or a Saggi!

Yeah, too much effort for a guy with a weak body and maybe with a weak mind too.
Good Luck!

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Also, your logic is ridiculously retarded. 🙂

Because I don't have a pic uploaded to dxp, the Libra guys that I dated irl didn't see me?

Lady, you are not smart enough to confront me without making fun of yourself posting those immature memes.
Oh! and...

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Again, I gotta ask- Why are you so insecure that you're letting this stuff affect you so much?
I find it rather sad and frightening that you let it bother you THAT much.
If you know you aren't like the bad bunch, don't worry about it.

Oh Great! You like to talk a lot and giving advice, BUT you don't apply what you say to yourself.
You're very Basic.

That's why you Arian women need Leo or Saggi men in your life.
Because your mistakes are always hilarious.

Posted by CharlieSlaughter
Lady, you are not smart enough to confront me without making fun of yourself posting those immature memes.
Oh! and...

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Again, I gotta ask- Why are you so insecure that you're letting this stuff affect you so much?
I find it rather sad and frightening that you let it bother you THAT much.
If you know you aren't like the bad bunch, don't worry about it.

Oh Great! You like to talk a lot and giving advice, BUT you don't apply what you say to yourself.
You're very Basic.

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Once again, logic fail.

Go outside, honey. 🙂

I just wanted to put my 2 cents in..lol.. as an aries woman that had a 7 year relationship with a libra. we have 2 kids together and now at this point in life, he is like a brother to me, we grew up together, went through so much and are best friends now. Its amazing that I can be his friend, after all the shit he put me through. Let me correct that, all the shit I let him put me through. I hung on for the ride, good and bad and plain f'd up!! He wasn't ready for life wiht kids and responsibilities, ect. He loves our kids to death, but when we were together, I was constant;y chasing him down to be this partner, father that I thought he should be, I just couldnt admit that he was not wanting that. He was constanly cheating. I was in this rollersoaster of rejection, I just could not stop it, vicious cycle we were in. When he started to come around and want to be true, it was to late. It took us 2 years of breaking up and getting back together to me funally telling him I had to let him go. I couldn't do it and I wanted to move on. Sad story when I was living it. But, like I said now, hes like a brother. We shouldn't of been together, but we got these awesome kids!! and a true friend forever. Hindsight is 20/20, they say. I just wanted to share my Libra story. We are exact oppisites, hard to get over thise differences, unless your both on the same page.