Aries coming back

She broke up with me 2 months ago because she said she doesnot love me anymore and that the feelings died and stuff, and after one month she apologized and asked if i am ready to be friends....i said okie to see what is going on....I tried it for couple of days and she kept msging me every day, asking for favours and am there all the time, she was asking me all types of questions about my new place and my new changes and if i am seeing anyone and the way when we even go out and flirt it was fun times... I felt she acting if she was still my gf...she still even show jealousy and she even try to get me jealous talking about others interested in her and stuff and put up sad songs and stuff...i couldnot take it anymore or to be be fake as i cannot be friends with exs...so i told her up i cannot be friends with someone i am still in love with.... i have changed and i am ready to be serious with someone and i still want us to give it a shot and work out our problems...would u like to give it another try? i was seeing the tears in her eyes while i was talking but she said after i finished i care about u so much as a friend, and i dont have feelings as i used to have before, it died, and it might come back one day and it might not but i just dont feel that i am in love with u....i said okie, i cannot be friends with you as i need to time to move on and stuff...

i dissappear for couple of days and she msg me back after 5 days again....what is going on exactly?

well why does she want me that bad? do you think she still have feelings for me and she is hiding it? or she actually doesnot and just wants me like that

Posted by champranger
She seems like she really wants you in her life ...

But as you cannot be friends with exes and have told her so, I would just ignore her. I think she will get it eventually, but she will try really hard before that.

Second that.

You should probably just take it at face value. She might still want you around cause there are desirable qualities about you as a friend. But, flip it around, some Aries are the type who're "I don't want you, but I don't want others having you either", it's kinda warped. If it messes with your head/emotions, distance yourself or bounce.

Did anything else happen to lead to the break up besides her change in feelings? Were you behaving immaturely in any way? Obviously, she wants to be around you. Just a matter of figuring out in what way. You can try to be friends and prove to her how you matured and that you're ready for a serious relationship. If she believes you then there's a potential. If you're not ready then bounce.

It's just as she said. Her feelings died. She's just being selfish and cannot let you go. Honestly, I would move on because once we rams say we've lost feelings for you, we have lost feelings for you. I would move on and not look back... at least not until you're ready to be friends without stringing along your feelings for her.

It will be easier if you make it a clean cut. No contact, no answering any of her messages or calls. Nothing.

Hmm doesn't sound too good.. :/

Usually, if I say to someone that the feelings are gone, I am not testing or playing games - I really mean it. It's too harsh of a wording to be meant in any other way but in a truthful one.

Aries tend to think selfishly (sometimes without realizing), so her keeping in touch and asking you for favors shows that she trusts you and still wants you around, but only as a friend. Her crying to you shows that she feels bad for falling out of love..

I would recommend letting go off her slowly, for the sake of preserving your heart. Don't let this situation torture you as keeping her in your thoughts will make the process of moving on slow down. Who knows, maybe after a few years and new partners you guys could really be friends again, but right now it's a tad too soon.

She's over you romantically, but doesn't want to give up your friendship. If you feel that you can't handle that, then you have to move on from her completely. Maybe down the line you will want to be her friend again...

Posted by starlover
She has experienced the Aries male at first hand ~~ so she knows what she is talkin about

Aries males and Aries females are verrrrrrry different

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Posted by miha
don't take that butter..she wants you back...just too chicky to say it out loud...aries cildish and immature pride...

don't ask the aries about that...ask other signs who dealt with this situation....in 2-3 months she'll start declaring her love to you....if you want to watch that commedy show and laugh in her face...do it...if not...cut it/her off




anyway...don't take her back because she hasn't changed and if it didn't go the first time, it won't go now either. not even as friendship...let's be mature...a friendship with a former lover— s/he either wasn't a lover or s/he isn't a friend....

[all this is based on my experience with my aries ex. but it is true he never said his feelings for me disappeared and it was me who broke up with him. anyway it was a "spooky" thing i don't even want to remember]

First, why not take her words at face value?

Second, there are people out there who are friends with their exes. Some like apples, some like oranges. Neither one is the better than the other. It's all on personal preferences. But you seem insistent that your PREFERENCE is the way that everyone should follow.

Third, since your Aries ex never said his feelings for you disappeared, then your post on Aries in the quote above seems lack foundation.

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I agree with you 110% champranger. She has one experience with one aries... doesn't mean much of anything. Aries are def not afraid to express themselves or their feelings. if they want someone or something, they typically make it known and go for it. Especially in this situation, she has nothing to lose. He has already let her know he wants her.

2 different situations. I'm not understanding the comparison.

eh sometimes people let things affect them more than it should... thats why there are words like jaded and bitter... they let their past emotions affect their decisions or behaviors in the present or future moments.

When you stop paying attention to her, she will run back to you twice as much, although the romantic part is gone.

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Posted by purplerain




I agree with you 110% champranger. She has one experience with one aries... doesn't mean much of anything. Aries are def not afraid to express themselves or their feelings. if they want someone or something, they typically make it known and go for it. Especially in this situation, she has nothing to lose. He has already let her know he wants her.

The key here is "she has nothing to lose."
In my aries experience they are not forthcoming with their expressions, especially if they feel they have something to lose.

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Meh.. not this Aries or several others I know. We put ourselves out there alot. I only used the phrase "nothing to lose" to make a point in this situation because according to the story, that was the case.

Posted by starlover
One of the Aries guys i was dating had Venus in Aries ~~ when i asked him if he could possibly think about and consider that there was *another* person in the relationship other than him, do you know what he said *oh, okay, i will try* ~ it seemed it hadn't dawned on him. I found that very funny


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lol

Wow... that is pretty funny. That sounds absolutely nothing like me, but my Venus is in Pisces. I think I probably would have to smack him around a time or two lol