aries girl/scorpio man

hey everyone :p
im an aries girl whose known a scorpio guy(a diff one to the one i posted about on the scorp board) for almost three years. i think hes very attractive but he seems to have some nervous tendencies which is understandable given his rough family background. i think of him as a 'soulbrother' as i feel we have a close friendship, and would be interested in developing more out of it but im a traditional type, id prefer the boy to make the first move...besides he still seems to run hot and cold with me. is that a sign of him wanting more from the friendship or him just being jealous? for example the latest is with him asking me what i had planned for new years and i told him, he suprised me telling me he was near my hometown and when i expressed my excitement asking him to let me know how long hed be near and if he wanted to catch up he never replied. kinda frustrated after that! especially as he always expects me to let him know when im in his town and to reply to all his emails... any aries girls out there that have been involved with a scorp boy-how did he act in general? i would think that being a friend with someone u wouldnt run hot and cold with them. i have had some moments where i thought he may be interested, i remember when we went out clubbing and he couldnt take his eyes off my legs and my stiletto shoes when we were sitting down, and another moment when he just looked into my eyes and held that gaze without saying anything, i just reciprocated. what do you guys think? how do i express my interest in him? or should i leave it to him? and what kinda things do i have to watch out on, im the type of girl that likes to take things for face value but understand that theres more beneath the surface. its not that i dont appreciate that, but im of the opinion that if they dont tell u, they dont want u to know. therefore i wont pry. aries nature i think, so different from scorps.

thanks.

Hi Blackrose:

I read both of your stories (the one from the Scorp board as well as this one), and I think that you should explore this particular interest with this Scorp man as opposed to the other, since you know (I assume you do) that this one is not already in a relationship. If you and him already have a good friendship, then that's a good start but I think you should ask directly whether or not he is interested in taking it beyond friendship- just be blunt. I say to do this only if you are the kind of person who dosen't like guessing-games and mixed signals when it comes to this and you don't like the psychological and emotional confusion of someone "blowing hot and cold". If, however, this dosen't bother you, then just continue to decipher in your own way what these on/off signals mean. You know this person more than anyone here and it's little particular things about how this guy operates and communicates that you would know more about than anyone here on this forum.

You sound like you have good connections with Scorps so I wish you all the best if you do wind up finding love with one🙂

thank u kindly OBPisces 🙂

hi blackrose,

sorry to hear that this guy couldn't take his eyes off your legs and "just looked into my eyes and held that gaze without saying anything" but still isn't courageous enough to make a move.

i can't tell you about him because i don't know him. but i can tell you about me. i used to have a similar problem (as him). when i fancied a girl i caught myself staring at her and the next second i played it cool, just to camouflage that i was attracted to them. fear of rejection, i guess. pretty stupid. i'm more blunt now, not only in the romantic department.

i think, being straight forward with him is a good strategy, as OBPisces suggested.

ONLY!!! with a difference! don't confront him with making decisions about taking your friendship further. just be blunt about what YOU WANT. if you want to see him arrange to meet. if you wanna hug him, do it. if you wanna kiss him, kiss him. don't ask if he wants it, too, first. just do whatever you want. he's obviously attracted to you. besides, you don't have to be afraid that he'll go along with anything that doesn't suit him, for he doesn't answer your emails when he doesn't feel like doing it, right!?
if he's too stiff to express clearly what he wants, than you shouldn't worry about it either. just do what YOU want with him.

have fun and let us know what happened!

liz

thanks for ur words liz,


he got back to me today asking when id be heading back down south,
im planning on stopping by his town to visit friends that also live in his city, ill make time for him so we can catch up. hopefully ill be able to have something more definate as to whats going on. ill try and be a bit more forward with what i want too 🙂

ill let u know how that goes.

🙂

i'm an aries girl living with a scorp man for 4 years and we get along perfectly.
BUT he was pretty held back and hesitant at first, and i'm sure hadn't i been so forward and made it clear that i wanted him, we probably wouldn't be together now. he probably wouldn't have made the first step himself.
as soon as he knew i was really interested, his behaviour changed completely. he was the one calling me every day to tell me how much he wanted me to be with him and inviting me out all the time.
so my advice is the same as everybody elses: BE BLUNT! you won't regret it! :-)

sounds familiar to me. yeah, men are useless when it comes to making the first move...

hey guys,

thanks for the advice. the scorp im interested in has been more responsive and open lately which is great. i think we're making a transition into the next phase beyond friendship. i asked him if he wanted to stay with my brother up north as he needed a place to crash and he was quite keen, (he hasnt met my bro yet)...anyhow i think u aries girls can understand how it is when we're after someone we fancy, we tend to go soft and weak at the knees, all shy and timid. the complete opposite of our natural character in everyday situations. so im kinda scared and nervous about making the first move :S

my experience with scorpios has been big attraction at first - but the attraction turns into to much of a love/hate thing