aries libra conflict

Why does this aries guy who wants me to be his future wife thinks it's ok for him to have female friends (even include older women) and talk to them everyday. ? I don't really have problems with that(tho I get insecured sometimes) but he doesnot want me to do the same. He hates me talking to even a colleague..

When I asked why he speaks to those ladies he says that i have no patience like them to listen to his problems nd I argue a lot with him.

Then I told him that it hurts me when he speaks to those ladies on regular basis, he says that it's not like he is flirting with them it's just that he feels good to talk to them.

I really want some advice on how to tell him that i hate what he is doing and he needs to stop doing that.

Seriously this relationship has been so exhausting.

But yeah I love him a lot. I don't want to control him but I want us to be equal.

Posted by Libralove666
Why does this aries guy who wants me to be his future wife thinks it's ok for him to have female friends (even include older women) and talk to them everyday. ? I don't really have problems with that(tho I get insecured sometimes) but he doesnot want me to do the same. He hates me talking to even a colleague..

When I asked why he speaks to those ladies he says that i have no patience like them to listen to his problems nd I argue a lot with him.

Then I told him that it hurts me when he speaks to those ladies on regular basis, he says that it's not like he is flirting with them it's just that he feels good to talk to them.

I really want some advice on how to tell him that i hate what he is doing and he needs to stop doing that.

Seriously this relationship has been so exhausting.

But yeah I love him a lot. I don't want to control him but I want us to be equal.

Is it true that you are not there for him with his problems? You never addressed that. It works 2 ways. What do YOU have to do so that he doesn't feel the need to go elsewhere with his issues. A partnership is all about having someone to lean on at times, who can encourage you, lift you up etc...

I always try to listen and understand his problems. I always try my best. But whenever we are discussing something he either becomes very sarcastic or tries to repeat old mistakes or fights..I don't like that.. he has no patience at all.. sometimes I do forget things he asks me to do or forget small details he says to me. But slowly I am learning how these small details are so imp to him. Moreover we stay in TWO different countries. Only way of communication is video call or text. How well can anyone cope with that.?

Please advise

If you can't even communicate properly, how on earth do you expect to last a minute together?

If it was something he felt embarrassed about then I could understand why he didn't talk (because he wouldn't want you to see him as a weaker person). The only reason why he might talk to other women about problems, is if they have known him for a long time, if in the past they have been a strong support network for him. You seem like the one who is calm, and trying to communicate. I think Aries look to other people to blame, in a relationship, they will blame the other person, this is very obvious because it comes across as being childish. I think you could consider the possibility he is hiding something, being defensive and aggressive is an obvious diversion tactic, I do not know how you check this. Also, Aries can come across as being much more argumentative than they mean to, sometimes it’s just the way they talk, don’t feel like there’s anything wrong when getting in to an argument with an Aries, sometimes it’s just the way they communicate.

"I think you could consider the possibility he is hiding something, being defensive and aggressive is an obvious diversion tactic, I do not know how you check this."

OMG ...this would be the worst thing I would like to know.

but when we speak most of the times he is honest and I really like this character of him.



so when I asked him if the conversations with those ladies are personal , he said that they are just women he never meets and it's not in the intentions of flirting. and that he has met them before he even met me...so it would be rude not to talk to them again.. arrghhhhh....i dont understand this logic. all I know is I dont want share him with anyone else the same way he feels for me. I don't know how long I can take this.

Posted by Libralove666
Why does this aries guy who wants me to be his future wife thinks it's ok for him to have female friends (even include older women) and talk to them everyday. ? I don't really have problems with that(tho I get insecured sometimes) but he doesnot want me to do the same. He hates me talking to even a colleague..

When I asked why he speaks to those ladies he says that i have no patience like them to listen to his problems nd I argue a lot with him.

Then I told him that it hurts me when he speaks to those ladies on regular basis, he says that it's not like he is flirting with them it's just that he feels good to talk to them.

I really want some advice on how to tell him that i hate what he is doing and he needs to stop doing that.

Seriously this relationship has been so exhausting.

But yeah I love him a lot. I don't want to control him but I want us to be equal.

Sounds like you are both insecure. Sit down and talk, build trust instead of being suspicious/waiting for the worst from each other. Whatever needs each of you have, its a two way street in a healthy relationship. If one of you cannot accept that in the other, then perhaps you should both find people who are a better match for each of you.