Aries men and all who have dated Aries...

Relationship with Aries man has taken flight (together 6 weeks) and it's gotten serious fast (still have not had sex with him though.) But the make out sessions...OMG...if that is any indication of what we'll be like together...sign me up!

I met his family and now all his friends. He likes to have my time...a LOT! There are times he video calls just to have me watch him work.(ego much?) I've learned that he is UBER sensitive to ANY criticism and I still haven't figured out how to tell him things that I don't like without it turning into an all-dayer. He gets super distant and I won't hear from him for the rest of the day. Then, the next day, I'll get my morning message with a video chat before work, just like everyday...back to normal.

Is there a good way to tell an Aries man negative things I'm experiencing without this ignoring behavior?

Are there any Aries men that eventually mature out of this?

Just tell him how he can make things better, make it sound positive. Don't make it sound like criticism, and don't make it sound personal. Don't nag either, he has to think it's a good idea that he thought of all by himself lol.

Posted by AriesJo
Just tell him how he can make things better, make it sound positive. Don't make it sound like criticism, and don't make it sound personal. Don't nag either, he has to think it's a good idea that he thought of all by himself lol.

Omg, that sounds harder work than raising a child

😂

As an Aries male it's tough. I try to be very aware of how I respond to anything, but it takes a lot of focus and that's not something I'm strong at unless I've turned it into a goal. Honestly it's going to be rough. I prefer a woman who won't take my shit and call me out bluntly without taking a jab at me. If you can show how hurt you feel while putting your foot down that may be one way to at least make him feel something. If I see how hurt I made someone I cared about, I would try to proactively handle my interactions better or at least apologize afterwards.

Good luck!

Posted by AriesJo
Just tell him how he can make things better, make it sound positive. Don't make it sound like criticism, and don't make it sound personal. Don't nag either, he has to think it's a good idea that he thought of all by himself lol.

That sounds like great advice. Could you maybe provide an example of what that sounds like?

For example...he said he would call at a certain time and then didn't (ended up seeing something sparkly and spontaneously decided to do that instead). I didn't get on his case but I did end up saying something like "Something to know about me and the way I am...I like people to keep their word to me as I make effort to do that for others. If we make a time to call each other know that I want that plan to take place. If for some reason that cannot be kept, a courtesy message would be greatly appreciated."

That seemed to go over well...no argument from him and didn't seem to pout. I guess I just didn't catch on to that. I do still want to let him know how it made me feel too though.

Do you think he can connect with my feelings? Does that ever happen with Aries men?

Posted by BumpingBlake
As an Aries male it's tough. I try to be very aware of how I respond to anything, but it takes a lot of focus and that's not something I'm strong at unless I've turned it into a goal. Honestly it's going to be rough. I prefer a woman who won't take my shit and call me out bluntly without taking a jab at me. If you can show how hurt you feel while putting your foot down that may be one way to at least make him feel something. If I see how hurt I made someone I cared about, I would try to proactively handle my interactions better or at least apologize afterwards.

Good luck!

I'm sorry that this is something you and other Aries men seemingly struggle with.I can literally sense it even in your post. It does seem that feelings and comprehending his own feelings is a challenge so I don't try to push him understanding mine. He's a very sensitive man, more internally though. It's still early and we're still getting to know one another but he is so "do and think later".

Thank you for sharing and I appreciate your input about putting my foot down. I am sensing boundaries are going to be a resounding theme in order to be with him. Plus me just having to deal with how he deals with things sometimes, like hermitting to work through his feelings. On the plus of things it's better he takes the space and recognizes when he needs it then drag me through an intense argument where hurtful things are said. From me, this is received as a sign of respect for me. That helps me value him and what he has to say when he returns.

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Posted by AriesJo
Just tell him how he can make things better, make it sound positive. Don't make it sound like criticism, and don't make it sound personal. Don't nag either, he has to think it's a good idea that he thought of all by himself lol.

That sounds like great advice. Could you maybe provide an example of what that sounds like?

For example...he said he would call at a certain time and then didn't (ended up seeing something sparkly and spontaneously decided to do that instead). I didn't get on his case but I did end up saying something like "Something to know about me and the way I am...I like people to keep their word to me as I make effort to do that for others. If we make a time to call each other know that I want that plan to take place. If for some reason that cannot be kept, a courtesy message would be greatly appreciated."

That seemed to go over well...no argument from him and didn't seem to pout. I guess I just didn't catch on to that. I do still want to let him know how it made me feel too though.

Do you think he can connect with my feelings? Does that ever happen with Aries men?

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Just want to say you did a great job with that conversation. By using "I" and not "you" it essentially made the conversation a two-way street. You didn't go after him thus like AriesJo explained didn't nag him. You respectfully stated your boundaries and stood your ground and you can trust that he respects you for that.

With my aries man, I just accepted he isn't good with phones. In the beginning I would get upset and try to talk to him about it and he would get super defensive and throw a tantrum about how "hes just bad" and "Can't do anything right" and how he lets everyone else be bad with phones but as soon as hes bad at phones people want to make him feel bad about it. honestly it makes me laugh since I know this is going to be his reaction whenever I do bring up something he does that I don't like.. but he has so many amazing traits that I just said.. ok.. if I ask him to call me at a certain time or if we agree to call at a certain time he just isn't going to most of the time.. but eventually he will call. He's definitely not going to be my emergency contact.. that's for sure lol

He sounds like a 5 year old