Aries women, what you do to get your ex back?

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Hi, I post this story in the taurus section as well... but I would like feedback from fellow Aries women as well.
(Part1)
I'm an Aries and my story with this Taurus guy all started 11 years ago (sorry it will be a very long story??_ bear with me). I??ve known him through my older sister as they used to work together at a local video store. My sister told me about a really funny, calm and ok guy she is working with and that I should meet him??_. Which I did by going to their video store acting as if I were there to rent a movie while I actually wanted to see who is that guy that even my hard to please older sister is paying compliments to.
So anyway I saw him for the first time and nothing special really happened??_ but WOW when he talks??_.His voice was dark, mature and sensual (When they say Taurus have good voice??_ they??re not kidding). A few days later I called the video store and he picked up the phone??_ I asked if my sister was there and he replied no and asked if I wanted to leave a message ( that was an excuse??_ I knew my sister didn't work that day ), I said no and before he could hang up I started to talk to him about all sorts of things and we talked for close to an hour and a half with interruptions here and there as he had customers. Before we hung up I can detect confusion in his voice??_ as of what just happened??_ I thought that was cute and that made my day ??_
For the next few weeks I called the video store frequently and every time we talked for hours??_and I decided to go forward and asked if he uses ICQ (back then it was very popular) he then replied he could??_ and that same night we chat for hours on ICQ which was fine??_. But gosh did I miss his voice.
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(Part2)
He was very honest with anything??_ and I also learned that he never had a girlfriend??_which I could see why; as shy as he is??_nonetheless, I find him more and more attractive everyday??_but never once did he gives me any clues about his feelings??_ I felt as if I was just another one of his friends??_ but to be honest, if you know how real Taurus men are... there were more than enough clues of his feelings for me??_ but back then I just refused to see those clues.
A whole year passed with us calling each other on phone, chatting on ICQ and MSN and a going out with friends.
Then one night on ICQ??_ our conversation kinda went weird??_ in a good way??_for the first time in a whole year he started flirting with me??_ it was really awkward but soooo cute??_I could see right through him and asked him if he's trying to get anything from me??_to which he replied a straight yes??_ and that took me completely by surprise??_ I was disarmed and kept silent for a while and told him I needed to sleep??_ he didn't try to force an answer out of me at all and just wish me good night.

A few days later me and my sister invited him to our house along with a couple of our friends??_he didn't stay for long as he only knows my sister and myself??_. But when he left??_ both my mom and my grand-mother was extremely pleased with this young man and both told me —NICE CATCH!!!??_ he was very polite and of course very shy lol.
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(Part3)
Another few weeks passed without him ever mentioning anything about his flirty attitude that one night on ICQ??_ he didn't want to pressure me I think. Then one day I went to his video store and asked if he wanted to go to my place after work to hang out and he agrees. That afternoon, when we met at my place??_ we were alone??_ I can see him being kinda uncomfortable which was funny??_ I think he expected my mom or my sister to be there with us lol. After a few minutes of talking and a glass of water I asked him to follow me to my bedroom??_ there we keep talking for a while until he said he got to go??_ before he could stand up I grab him by his jacket to sit him back down and looked at him??_ and asked him why he never went back to that one night on ICQ? He started to blush and told me he thought I wasn't comfortable with the situation and that I might need more time (how cute is that—?) I just gave him a smile and asked him if he's ok with an answer now? And he just nod??_ Then I asked what he sees for us in the future and that we are very different? He kept silent for a few seconds and stared at me straight into the eyes and says??_
-I don't know??_I just thought you??re different??_talking to you on phone, ICQ and MSN just doesn't seem enough for me
-What I feel is really weird and intense??_I seem to think about you for no reason at all and all the time??_
-And having you here right in front of me just doesn't seem enough??_ ( and again he started blushing)
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(Part4)
That was amazing??_ at least to me it was??_but I had to act cool since I'm an Aries and I don't want him to know that I was completely enamored by what he just said??_I was speechless and caught completely off guard??_I kept silent and was doing my best to think of something smart to say??_but nothing came to mind??_ nothing at all??_ He looked at me with a gentle smile and somehow he just saw right through me and told me:
-Let's try this out??_ let's learn more about each other on a different level??_I want to know the YOU at home??_the YOU I just saw??_ and I would like you to know more about me as well.

He made it sound sooooo easy??_. Then grab one of my hand and started to say??_ those are tiny hands, let me take care of you??_He stood up, gives me another smile and went home??_What in the world just happened??_I was in heaven that night??_he didn't log on ICQ that night, and I missed him sooooo much??_but I wouldn't know what to say anyway??_

A few days passed and I was starting to feel very uncomfortable??_ as I didn't gave him any real answer at all but instead he was doing everything by himself and proud as I am??_ I kinda wanted to get the last saying in this??_ so again I went to the video store and ask him to come over after work which of course he agrees to. And that night once again we??re alone in my room and I couldn't look at him straight in the eyes as I usually do??_but then I gathered all my courage and asked him if he wanted to date me? With another gentle smile and this time I even got a little pat on the head and he said??_ I??ve waited for that answer for quite a few months now. My face was RED HOT??_ I think I was blushing??_we kept talking for a while and this time I took his hands and didn't want to let them go??_ ever??_before he went home??_ he drag me close to him and give me the first hug!!! His right hand went through my hairs and he told me I can feel your warmth and heartbeat??_Good night??_I know mine will be divine. (When a Taurus man hugs you??_ you??ll never forget it)
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(Part5)
He went to my place more often from that day on??_We talked a lot about anything??_and because I never get tired of his voice??_ and then that one day arrived... before he left for home??_ I was expecting a hug as usual??_ which I did get??_ but this one lasted quite a bit longer and much tighter??_then he eased up and gives me the first kiss on the forehead??_ then the cheek??_and then my lips??_I was defenseless and abandon myself completely??_

He moves very slowly in relationship??_. But I Love every second of it. He's very respectful of my needs and feelings??_ and never tried to force himself on me??_We hug a lot and we kiss a lot and everyday was so exciting. One day during a passionate kiss, he slips his hand under my shirt and started to rub my back and I started to do the same and he loves it??_then I blow gently into his ears which got him completely aroused (that was cute as hell), I just found his weak spot lol??_ so I keep doing it and even give it a little lick??_He looked at me and told me plz don't do that unless you??re ready for whatever next is coming??_and Proud me of course have to keep teasing him??_ and what was next was beyond this world??_ but we didn't make love??_I was not ready and he knew it.

Taurus people??_ especially my Taurus are extremely attune to physical contacts, they do love to touche you and it always felt so right??_ his hands was always warm and I more than welcome them.
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(Part6)
A few months into our official relation??_ we had our first few arguments??_I discover how possessive he is as time passes??_He doesn't like it when other guys touched me at all??_while I don't see what's wrong with that, our arguments however stay light and short, He never scream or anything he just kinda kept silent and asked me why those guys needed to touch me.. and I just told him those are friendly physical contact and that he red too much into it??_Then he apologized but I could see that he still wasn't happy about it??_I asked him why didn't it bother him before??_ and he told me I was not his girlfriend before and that things are different now??_and we both agrees that we shouldn't take these things so seriously.

After a year into our relationship??_ this is where it started to go from bad to worse??_.I have had many boyfriend before him while he never had any relationship before??_ and I do kept most of my ex as friend and good friends??_ while he thinks that that kind of thought doesn't make sense at all. We fight a lot on that topic because he hated it when I go out with my ex boyfriends??_. One time I was supposed to go to the theater with one of my ex and he got very angry and told me he will not tolerate that since I was in a relationship with him and that my ex was in a relationship with another girl??_ and that it doesn't make sense at all that??_ I was hurt that he didn't trust me but I comply with his demand since I do think that his reasoning make sense??_ but I made it sounds as if I was making him a favor this time.

From that day on things went even worse??_ one of my ex boyfriend actually got his MSN and started to talk to him about how lucky he is to be with me and all and my ex even told him that he was still in love with me??_My Taurus was mad but he never actually told me anything about it??_I actually learn about this at the end of our relationship
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(Part7)
We do have our sweet moments and all but overall??_ our relationship had gotten very tense everytime I go out with guys, especially when some of my ex are there.

We once went ice skating with a bunch of friends and one of the guy who had a crush on me for the longest time went to my Taurus and said hi to him??_ he replied with a single nod and before he could move on the guy told him to ease up and that he shouldn't be so jealous??_That was the first time I saw a real Bulll lost its temper with no filter whatsoever??_within a few words??_ he made the other guy almost wanna cry in front of everyone??_ he then grab my hands and act as if nothing was wrong??_That night we had a huge fight, I told him that the guy with the crush on me call me everyday and that I don't want to talk to him and that I always cut it short??_.and I asked him what he wanted me to do— He was furious and told me it's not about what he wants??_ It's about what I want??_I never understood that until recently.

Anyway a few more months passed with us fight a lot more till that day I decided to end everything??_ and told him we should stop this relation??_He was devastated and I was very sad.. but I thought that was the right thing to do back then??_we did hook up together a week after but it was sort of a for old time sake's date??_I??ve missed him sooo much but I just couldn't bear his controlling ways anymore??_ and I think he understood that so like always he never forced anything out of me, he didn't try to get back together either??_ We just enjoy each other presence whenever possible??_ until me and my family moved and I didn't contact him nor did I give him our new address or phone number??_
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(Part8)
A few weeks passed and I called him because I missed him soo much and asked him to meet me at the University??_ which of course he agrees to??_We went into a private room for studying, but I couldn't control myself and went and sit on his lap and we kissed for a long long time. That night he called my cell phone and asked what happened in that room, but I was too proud to admit to him that I miss his touch sooo bad??_ but instead I told him I am in a relationship with someone else??_.He got completely mad and told me how much of a bitch I am and just hang up??_. Those words cut deeps and I still feel the coldness in his voice till today.

We then haven't heard from each other for the next 6 years??_within this time, I have moved again and got into a relationship with 2 other guy one of them is current??_until last year I saw an advertisement with my Taurus in it. I cried really hard that night and decided to call him the next day??_As soon as I heard his voice all those years came rushing back into my head but I kept my cool and just asked him what's new with him and all??_ He was busy and so was I so we agreed to go to the restaurant tomorrow night??_needless to say I couldn't sleep at all that night...I was thinking of him all night??_ and just couldn't wait to see him. We finally met as he came to pick me up??_I have matured much and learned to control myself so once we saw each other we both just smile at each other??_but deep down I was in turmoil??_I missed his voice sooo much, his touch and that gentle smile.
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(Part9)
. I had a wonderful evening with him as we talked about anything, my current relationship is in bad shape and I??ve learn so much within those 6 years without him by my side??_I now understand that even when he was mad at me with that guy calling me everyday??_ he wanted me to decided for myself, he thought I should be the one to make it clear to the other guy without him having to tell me what to do??_I was so sad because I failed him that time and even thought he was being unreasonable and capricious...I??ve also taste my own medicine since my current boyfriend always go out with his ex girlfriend and I get very mad everytime...I??ve finally came to realise how easy I had it back then since my Taurus never once made me jealous??_ I never had to worried about anything at all his dedication to me was total and I took advantage of it??_I was completely overwhelmed with sorrow and asked him why he didn't call me at all during all this time??_he suddenly turn cold and asked me should he had? And why didn't I call him at all? My pride suddenly came right back to slap me in the face and again I was speechless??_ I wasn't use to this coldness from my Bull but I guess I have to deal with it for now??_ so we kept on talking for a while and I also learned that he didn't get into any relationship after me??_that might be selfish but I was very happy hearing that??_ but of course I tried to act cool and ask if he was getting too picky??_He shook his head and said probably and gave me a smile??_He then avoid any further question about his personal life and just talk about random stuff which was fine as long as I get to hear this voice which has gotten even more manly. During dinner, I analyse every single part of his body??_his hands seem to be as warm as ever, his eye was full of sorrow and he seems to have gain a little weight??_ but he still looks very solid??_ the rest of the evening was very calm and I felt very comfortable with him.
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(Part10)
A few days has passed and I have gotten into a big fight with my current boyfriend, and decide to call my Taurus guy??_ he immediately noticed I was in distress and ask me where I was??_ It was midnight and he didn't want me to be out alone at that time so he went to pick me up and we walk all the way from my current boyfriend house to my own??_I miss that nervous look from him as if something could have happened to me??_but nothing nor him or I could do now. A few days later, I invited myself to my Taurus apartment which was a little awkward at first??_ then I started to tease him and then we had a friendly wrestling fight till he pinned me down on his bed??_. Our eyes staring at each other??_ he then lean forward as he's about to kiss me??_ I call out his name which got him completely frozen for a few seconds??_ and then he said??_ I??ll take you home??_which he did.

For the next few weeks I called him all the time and we talk a little here and there??_ but he never calls me at all??_and that makes me angry??_ and I even asked him why he never call me at all ??_ just say hello and get news from me like I did??_He said he couldn't do it and he probably won't do it??_.I got very mad and said bye and we just hung up.
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(Part11)
A year pass without any phone call at all till recently I called him and we talk a little over the phone??_And once again I miss him so much??_ but I don't know what to do anymore??_ I'm still with my current boyfriend and things have gotten a little better??_ but I still miss my Taurus so much??_. I want him to be part of my life even if it's just as a friend??_ but it seems so hard??_ and whenever I don't get the same treatment from him as before??_ I get mad at him??_I'm very confuse at the moment and don't know what to do anymore??_All I know is that I don't want him to be out of my life??_

Where did his gentleness go, why can't he be as nice to me as before—
I know this is a long story, but this is as short as I could make it??_ I even skip lots of details.
Could anyone, any Taurus man give any clue of how I can keep him around?

And for all fellow Aries out there, if you get a real dedicated Taurus??_ don't screw it up like I did??_Cherish and accept them??_ that's all they asked for??_ and hardship will never again be part of your vocabulary.

Thanks.
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very good story telling even though its real life, it was a good read. I wish i had advice to give you but I have never tried to get an ex back or been in your situation. The only thing you can do is move slowly, you said yourself Taurus move slow so you def going to have ease your way back in to his life. Some of those moments when your acting too cool for school maybe you should open up and put yourself out there and let him know you still miss him and care for him. YOu have to do some work now since you pushed him and his efforts away, he probably was shattered, you haveto prove yourself girl, be just as dedicated and loyal as he has been to you
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Thanks everyone for the feedback. Like I said, I'm really confused lately and last night I took a little walk in the park at the outskirt of town trying to figure out what I really want and what I really need and guess who I met there? As I was walking alone through the park, someone gave me a little tap on the shoulder??_ I turned around and it was Mr. Taurus with a smile he asking me what I was doing here all alone and at this hour? I don't know what got into me but I just replied with a stupid joke??_ PLZ don't tell my mommy!! And he burst out in laugh??_I haven't seen him laugh for sooo long. We walked together for quite a while and he gave me a ride home.

I think I??ll need to talk to my current boyfriend and let him know of the whole situation??_I just couldn't get that laugh out of my mind. Should I let my Taurus know that I'm no longer in a relationship? Will he judges me?
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@Selvina, I never took that man for granted, we were different and I still think we are different today??_ but I did get a taste of how awful he felt when I hang out with my previous boyfriends. I want to apologize to him now, but not because I feel bad, but because I made him suffer even though it was never my intention. I think I'm as stubborn as any Aries but with all those years I??ve learned to be a little more patient and more considerate??_ MY BULL taught me that and I would love to think that I, that we deserve another try??_I just don't know where to start??_
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Posted by Leylia12
Thanks everyone for the feedback. Like I said, I'm really confused lately and last night I took a little walk in the park at the outskirt of town trying to figure out what I really want and what I really need and guess who I met there? As I was walking alone through the park, someone gave me a little tap on the shoulder??_ I turned around and it was Mr. Taurus with a smile he asking me what I was doing here all alone and at this hour? I don't know what got into me but I just replied with a stupid joke??_ PLZ don't tell my mommy!! And he burst out in laugh??_I haven't seen him laugh for sooo long. We walked together for quite a while and he gave me a ride home.

I think I??ll need to talk to my current boyfriend and let him know of the whole situation??_I just couldn't get that laugh out of my mind. Should I let my Taurus know that I'm no longer in a relationship? Will he judges me?



OP how come you didn't just ask him what the hell was he doing in the park at that hour? Why not tell him the truth of why you were in the park.

Wait!!!!! you need to talk to your current bf but you are asking if the Taurus will judge you if you tell him that you are no longer in a relationship. So you're breaking up with the current bf for the Taurus?

Wow!



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@Impresssme, I didn't ask him because it's actually a habit of his to take a walk in the park??_ he's actually the one that taught me how enjoyable this is. And I couldn't possibly tell him what's in my head right now??_ I think it??ll just scare him and move him even further away from me.
My current boyfriend is an Aries like me and I'm not breaking up with him for a Taurus??_ I just think once again that it's the right thing to do??_ because he's not the first thing that comes to my mind in the morning when I wake up, he's not the one I want to said good night to before I go to bed and because he doesn't bother me as Mr. Taurus does??_
You see? this time I want to take some time alone and re-evaluate where I am??_ and if you ask me if I want to get back with my Bull, the answer is pretty obvious??_ but I want to be ready, I want him to be ready??_but to be honest??_you have no idea how hard it is to see him and not be able to jump into his arm??_ Us Aries aren't known for holding back??_.
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@Impresssme, Trust me if it's that easy I would do it that way??_.but if you switch place and see it from his point of view (Taurus), the woman who broke your heart 8 years ago telling you she misses you and that she will dump her current boyfriend for you??_. Might be a little flattering??_ but gosh that won't be very reassuring??_. And stability is very important to a Bull??_ It's just not about me and only me anymore??_I think I should be more concern about his feelings this time??_because THAT would make me happy??_ and he more than deserve s it.
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@Impresssme, lol make sense??_most of the questions you have, I??ve already answered them in that freaking novel of mine. I will eventually tell him I'm sorry and tell him how much I??ve missed him??_ but we??re not at that stage yet??_It will just pressure him??_He seems to be a lot more comfortable with us being friends and getting reacquainted for now.
As for my current boyfriend, I have come to realise that we??re more use to each other than we love each other??_So I think it would be fair if I make everything clear with him.
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Lol, I had a long conversation with my current bf this last weekend and everything is over now... somehow we both knew this was coming, so it was a very clean separation. We both seem to have aomseone else in our mind as well, but none of us were jealous or got angry... so yea, it was the right thinkg to do.

@Glassblowing, I wouldn't if he wasn't worth it, but call it woman intuition or whatever, but he's not going anywhere this time! 🙂
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I don't normally comment much on forum, but in reading your story, I find it quite cute. I understand you have went through many phases that in your relationship with your taurus man. In addition, you made few mistakes along the way that cause the seperation of that relationship. From reading your post, I can grasp an understanding of your situation more because of the amount of detail. I don't see writing a novel of your life as a problem.

Anyway, from what I understand, your taurus man still cares about you a lot. He is but a quiet and gentle man unless provoked. He still remembers you and care for your well being. Wondering if he still want to be back together you is not the question. The utlimate question lies in how you will get him back. Clearly you already know he is the one person you care deeply and want to be with. You already made the right move to break it off with your current boyfriend.

What you can do next is as follow:

1. Make sure you are stable

You had already made Mr. Taurus once feel unstable about your relationship. You don't want to screw it up again. You want to practice stability in all areas of your life be it emotional or financial stability. You want to be mature enough to handle your own issues.

2. Security: Make him feel secure

He is looking for a lifetime partner not a baby constantly wandering around causing trouble and get bored with its toy. He want to be able to feel secure that when you venture out on your own and wouldn't come back with some unknown disease you caught from who knows where (I'm not referring to you. I am just saying the word "you" as people in general in this case).

You will need to set boundaries for those that have feelings for you. Let them know you already have a caring and loving or you already have someone whom you cares about. It is flattering to have someone to like you, but don't give those who likes you opportunity. This way it will save them trouble and leading you step closer to your man.

Don't try to flirt in front of him and cause him to feel insecure. Instead, flirt with him in front of others and show others what a great man he is.
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3. Be his queen/ partner

Most taurus is looking for a lifetime partner that they will sacrifice, cherish, defend, protect, and care for. He is always want to look for his perfect queen that stand beside him. If you want to be his queen, you will need to treat him like a true king. How? You will need to show that you respect him as a person. When you disregard his feelings toward you back then, you disrespected him. Will need to show him you are his equal and that you have a mind of your own. You have feelings and opinion stand your ground in a manner that is not disrespectful toward him. Protect his dignity and pride and defend his honor. Don't let others trash talk about him and don't to try to complain to others about his behavior like jealousy and possessiveness. Learn to deal with it (not suck it up, but find ways to help him reduce that like talk to him about it). Be there when he needs you, whatever it maybe. Don't give up on him no matter what.

Anyway, there's more, but you will figure it out with time. If you decide he is the person for you, then do your best to be in his life as much as possible.

Sources: Personal experience with taurus man.

I wish you the best of luck. Patient is a virtue ^_~ Ciao