Birthday gifts

Okay, so I really wish people would stop using "self entitled" as it is not even correct. "Entitled" is just fine. I'm seeing this term float around these forums and it's ignorant as hell to use.

This is a public service announcement.


In regard to the OP, I don't expect them. Would it be nice? Sure. Do I get upset if I do not get one? No. However, I have noticed that those who don't bother putting any sort of effort out toward you, someone they claim a friend, kind of tells you where you stand with them.

On my birthday this year, I had two sets of plans because I have two groups of friends who live in different cities.

First set, we went out bowling and just kinda hung out. The first red flag was them wanting to me totally move my birthday plans around. It was bs. And then when it came to actual bowling, I ended up paying for myself. I made sure I had cash on me to cover myself as I do not necessarily expect it, but the way most of my friends and I roll, someone comps the birthday person, so needless to say, I was a bit wtf. The rest of my birthday with them was rather uneventful and just fell flat. I already had an inkling these people were more acquaintance than friends, so I wasn't surprised and if anything, they further proved my inklings about them. I mostly felt that I wasted my actual birthday on them and I will not be doing the same again.

However, the next day was the plans with the other set of friends. Everyone showed up in a timely manner, friends brought me gifts, and there were a few there that are newer and am still getting to know, and even THEY brought me gifts, which was really nice of them. Someone comped my dinner, too. THAT is the type of thing that I am used to since I/we do the exact same thing with my/our friends on their birthday. If no presents are to be had, then I'll at least go for covering their dinner/whatever activity we're doing.

After seeing the details in your other thread-

If someone acts/says things that imply they're going to do x,y,z for your birthday, I can understand the disappointment. I've been there before with some people and it was less about the present and more disappointed that they'd say such things with no follow through. It makes one look like a real asshole, tbh.

"I'M GOING TO DO THIS AND THAT FOR YOU!!" Oh cool, thanks. That's nice.

*never happens*

...dafuq just happened?? :/

I don't expect a gift, but I do expect hubby to make a big deal out of my special day! It needs to feel like a special day, so yes, I want a card (preferably hand-made) and a cake or some other goodie.