curious and advice: Aries-Aquarius?

Does anyone have any stories/experiences with that? I'm an Aries and currently seeing an Aquarius man. Found them very eccentric and unique. Really drawn to their passion and ambition about certain things. Always seems that they're into a lot of new, crazy things, but their communication is literally the worst. I can be pretty impatient, but I'm trying to not contact them often, maybe one or two texts a day? Is that too much? They seem to be an extremely free-spirit and talk to a ton of people. Just confused and unsure how to communicate to them, or will they communicate with me if I just stop communication on my end? Any thoughts

I am an Aquarius female and the last guy I was involved with was an Aries. Although him and I didn’t work because he was overly immature, I think we could have worked out well if he wasn’t and didn’t play games. I think Aquarius and Aries make a great match if both signs respected each other differences. I know for myself and many other Aquarian friends of mine we just suck at communication unless you’re right in front of us. We may talk to a ton of ppl but when we have an eye for a certain someone then they’ll get the most attention out of ppl we deal with. The thing with Aquarian u ha do to find a balance between communicating to show interest but don’t over due it because that comes off as clingy and may be a threat to our independence. So gradually show interest and flirt a bit because sometimes we get confused about others intentions for us and we’ll eventually get the hint. If we’re interedted back then we’ll communicate with you often unless there is some type of turmoil in our life because if there is then we withdraw until our problems are solved.

I will say expect the unexpected. Throw out all the rules and just let it happen. Always be you and do what feels right within your soul.

Took me some time to just let go as we are impatient but he’s taught me to slow it down a bit. Speak your mind but be aware of his sensitivity at the same time...

If you feel like reaching out to him, just do it. As time goes on you’ll learn what makes the two of you work so don’t worry about doing something wrong.

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I am an Aquarius female and the last guy I was involved with was an Aries. Although him and I didn’t work because he was overly immature, I think we could have worked out well if he wasn’t and didn’t play games. I think Aquarius and Aries make a great match if both signs respected each other differences. I know for myself and many other Aquarian friends of mine we just suck at communication unless you’re right in front of us. We may talk to a ton of ppl but when we have an eye for a certain someone then they’ll get the most attention out of ppl we deal with. The thing with Aquarian u ha do to find a balance between communicating to show interest but don’t over due it because that comes off as clingy and may be a threat to our independence. So gradually show interest and flirt a bit because sometimes we get confused about others intentions for us and we’ll eventually get the hint. If we’re interedted back then we’ll communicate with you often unless there is some type of turmoil in our life because if there is then we withdraw until our problems are solved.

Yeah I've noticed the communication thing. He seems to be much better in person over text messages. He reads them and just does not reply. I think I over did it the last 2-3 days (meaning like 1-2 messages and seeing him for a short like 15 min kind of smoke session thing). I guess I'll back off for a bit.

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Does anyone have any stories/experiences with that? I'm an Aries and currently seeing an Aquarius man. Found them very eccentric and unique. Really drawn to their passion and ambition about certain things. Always seems that they're into a lot of new, crazy things, but their communication is literally the worst. I can be pretty impatient, but I'm trying to not contact them often, maybe one or two texts a day? Is that too much? They seem to be an extremely free-spirit and talk to a ton of people. Just confused and unsure how to communicate to them, or will they communicate with me if I just stop communication on my end? Any thoughts

just be who you are and he ll fall in love with you

be open, straightforward, and impatient

we love that about you

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I've mainly been all of that, I think I just maybe need to back off? Give them a chance to breathe and see if they seek me out? If they will at all. I'm so impatient so I'm really trying to have self control and not seek them out too often. Sigh.

Them?

just ask him if he fancies you and would he like to kiss ya...

Posted by bittercupcake
Also agree with AquaMan. Aquarius likes a game of cat and mouse, keeps things interesting. Aries tend to pursue hard when they decide they want a person, so backing off a bit after being consistent will throw us for a loop, which is what we Aquarius love.

That is definitely very true. We Aries pursue very hard. I'll see what it's like in the next few days. I see him often since our university and grad program in general is small. I'll just smile or wave the next few days and see if he rings me up or tries to strike a conversation. I get so damn flustered when he stares, because when he does stare it's so damn intent and full of something? I don't know. He seems so social and at the same time he locks himself in his room the other 50% of the time, engrossed with his work. I'm trying to figure him out, and I think I'm just overanalyzing things way too much.

don't be bossy. we hate that.

Aqua's, especially aqua men, are f king cold as ice. They really are not into dramatics either, none of the overly unnecessary emotional bs outbursts of the aries.

But aqua's being bad at communication I feel is a myth. You just gotta "speak their language" and be someone they give an eff about. Be calm, cool, and collected with the aqua and if they're into you, they'll comply happily. My aqua is an introvert and only has 3 friends including me so we talk and see each other everyday. It's not hard for me to get his attention at all but it took a loooot of hard lessons to get where I am with him. 3 years worth.

Be up front. Be yourself. Be cool. That's it.

Update: He did reach out to me to say hello, but I was quite busy the past 2 days so I kept it short. We sat far away at our university's dining area, but were still somewhat across from each other. He kept staring at me so intensely again, and obviously I have no self restraint so I would stare back. His friends kept staring as well every so often. I assume he was talking about me? I texted him late last night, I noticed that if I ask more thought provoking/mind stimulating questions he is more likely to respond. I kept his attention for about 30 minutes before he disappeared.

Aquarius men and women play so many games. I don’t think I can mess with them personally. The women as friends yes but I can’t date the men.

Posted by windbells
Update: He did reach out to me to say hello, but I was quite busy the past 2 days so I kept it short. We sat far away at our university's dining area, but were still somewhat across from each other. He kept staring at me so intensely again, and obviously I have no self restraint so I would stare back. His friends kept staring as well every so often. I assume he was talking about me? I texted him late last night, I noticed that if I ask more thought provoking/mind stimulating questions he is more likely to respond. I kept his attention for about 30 minutes before he disappeared.

Do not text him first. Make him work for your attention.

aries in love has no self-control! lol

on a positive note, if you're the one not to reply even for weeks, he/she won't mind

Love Aquas, their communication style is very laid-back

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Posted by bkbella86
Aquarius men and women play so many games. I don’t think I can mess with them personally. The women as friends yes but I can’t date the men.

aries, who re straightforward can change their mind & mood just like that and they can play games, too in the beginning. 'chasing' = playing games.

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Life has taught me to play games. When I’ve been I’ve been straight forward and honest I’ve been played and taken advantage of.

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Posted by bkbella86
Aquarius men and women play so many games. I don’t think I can mess with them personally. The women as friends yes but I can’t date the men.

aries, who re straightforward can change their mind & mood just like that and they can play games, too in the beginning. 'chasing' = playing games.

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That is very true. I find this situation more difficult this time. I'm usually quite good at the chase, but this time he's playing veryyy hard to get. I guess to reel me in and keep me entertained..or just confused? It's aggravating, but addicting. I'm glad it isn't boring, losing interest is a common problem for an Aries.

Posted by Fragrance
aries in love has no self-control! lol

on a positive note, if you're the one not to reply even for weeks, he/she won't mind

Love Aquas, their communication style is very laid-back

So true. It's always all or nothing for me. If I'm really into someone I want to be talking to them and seeing them and everything. We're very straightforward and make our feelings well known.

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Posted by bkbella86
Aquarius men and women play so many games. I don’t think I can mess with them personally. The women as friends yes but I can’t date the men.

aries, who re straightforward can change their mind & mood just like that and they can play games, too in the beginning. 'chasing' = playing games.

That is very true. I find this situation more difficult this time. I'm usually quite good at the chase, but this time he's playing veryyy hard to get. I guess to reel me in and keep me entertained..or just confused? It's aggravating, but addicting. I'm glad it isn't boring, losing interest is a common problem for an Aries.

if you re sexy he ll go all in.

he does that to keep you confused, not entertained.

aries and aquarius never get bored. but they...anyway ill let you discover it all on your own.

but from my encounters with aries girls...i chased them the moment they disappeared from sight if i really cared about them. coz ive met aries girls who after an exciting and unusual start-off, insisted on asking me out and i couldnt ( i really couldnt, i wasnt playing hard to gey), and then they just lost their patience and interest and gave up on me

if he flirts with you, he is interested. if you intrigue him, if your mind does this to him, then he's interested. but the antitdote to his playing hard to get - i was playing so hard to get with my 1st aries she thought i wasnt even interested - is a cold shoulder and ignore. it. works. every. time. with. aquas.

Huh. Now I'm curious. I agree that we never actually get bored, I think that's a myth (it has never happened to me). But what did you mean by it?

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Not necessarily bored. I just like to do new things all the time, and not stick to the same procedure/routine every time I go out with someone. I'm already stressed as is because I'm in the medical field, so when I want to do things, I want to be adventurous. I'm always moving forward, and if the person can't keep up or is stagnant for awhile, I just begin to lose interest. Tell me new things, the details of your day (how you really feel and why, have you been reflecting? a dumb quote you read on some billboard...idk) that aren't like " It was good. I did work. Rant about the same so and so..etc."

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Posted by bkbella86
Aquarius men and women play so many games. I don’t think I can mess with them personally. The women as friends yes but I can’t date the men.

aries, who re straightforward can change their mind & mood just like that and they can play games, too in the beginning. 'chasing' = playing games.

That is very true. I find this situation more difficult this time. I'm usually quite good at the chase, but this time he's playing veryyy hard to get. I guess to reel me in and keep me entertained..or just confused? It's aggravating, but addicting. I'm glad it isn't boring, losing interest is a common problem for an Aries.

if you re sexy he ll go all in.

he does that to keep you confused, not entertained.

aries and aquarius never get bored. but they...anyway ill let you discover it all on your own.

but from my encounters with aries girls...i chased them the moment they disappeared from sight if i really cared about them. coz ive met aries girls who after an exciting and unusual start-off, insisted on asking me out and i couldnt ( i really couldnt, i wasnt playing hard to gey), and then they just lost their patience and interest and gave up on me

if he flirts with you, he is interested. if you intrigue him, if your mind does this to him, then he's interested. but the antitdote to his playing hard to get - i was playing so hard to get with my 1st aries she thought i wasnt even interested - is a cold shoulder and ignore. it. works. every. time. with. aquas.

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I take people for face value. The aqua I dated told me to my face that I’ve wanted you for years and gassed me up. The min I gave in he gave me the cold shoulder. Like shut down and all communication. When I would see him Around it was almost as if he was running from me. I never chased this guy ever. Then he came back claiming he went through something code for im not that into you and insisted he was into me and it would be diff and he literally did the same thing.

Then try’s to act like nothing happened when I see him next. I don’t even look his way now. He will yell my name across a street knowing I’m avoiding him. These are the games aquas play. My ego is still hurt, actually my feelings because I hate to get toyed with.

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Then he came back claiming he went through something code for im not that into you and insisted he was into me and it would be diff and he literally did the same thing.

this sounds similar to my own story, but you know, we do go through some shit that s why we need some time out to recharge and rekindle..and we really try to change. i mean, i changed a lot since my immature 20's.

Then try’s to act like nothing happened when I see him next. I don’t even look his way now. He will yell my name across a street knowing I’m avoiding him. These are the games aquas play. My ego is still hurt, actually my feelings because I hate to get toyed with.

ok, this idiotic by any standard. as an aqua u do all kind of dumb sshiit but this is a bit too much, looks like an abusive relationship. yea, avoid all contact. hmm, wonder if my aries exes think the same about me..an aries ego should never be hurt, agree

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This is one of the reasons I avoid them now but I have more.

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This is one of the reasons I avoid them now but I have more.

yea, i hear you. i would do the same. was this ur first encounter with this sign

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Nope I had a aqua girlfriend who was ruthless with men. Only used them. I now wish I was I had done the same, she was happy and well taken care of. And a aqua step brother who betrayed me several times. I also seen my friend get used a dogged by her aqua bf for years. I know this sign well.

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Posted by bkbella86he literally did the same thing.

let me ask you this: what do you - aries women - expect when you want a man to change? in which ways? do you verbalize or wait for them to feel it/ guess it?

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To change in what way? These days I don’t verbalize that much. I will say my peace maybe once then I’m out. If it feels like too much work I’m out.

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Nope I had a aqua girlfriend who was ruthless with men. Only used them. I now wish I was I had done the same, she was happy and well taken care of. And a aqua step brother who betrayed me several times. I also seen my friend get used a dogged by her aqua bf for years. I know this sign well.

betraying aquas. never knew these existed, i know of loyal aquas. i mean i am loyal to the point of being stupidly blind

not that it should change your opinion of aquarius - u know best

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I still like the sign I just don’t trust them. I had an amazing aqua boss who miss a lot and who would have been great for my career but he got sick and had to leave 😢

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Posted by bkbella86he literally did the same thing.

let me ask you this: what do you - aries women - expect when you want a man to change? in which ways? do you verbalize or wait for them to feel it/ guess it?

Sorry for intruding on your convo again, but hey, I'm an aries woman.

I verbalized it to my cap ex. I didn't say "You need to change", but I told him specifically all the things he did or said to hurt my feelings. 'Cause I couldn't take it anymore. He said I was being impossible and that I had to leave him alone. Which I did. For months. About six months later, he came back (I never expected that, actually), and now he no longer does any of the things that used to hurt me (I didn't expect that either). I never expected him to change (just be nicer), and I never thought he would, either -- at least not for me.

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He must really care for you and like you.

It didn't work out, I'm anot Aries female and he was Aquarius he was so immature I dealt with him for 3 years. I tried so hard to help him and love him bUT he wasn't ready to grow up. Be careful. They're good looking and hard working but not ready to settle they want they're cake and eat it too. Not a one woman man. For sure not bashing all but that's just my experience

Update:

"When she looked back at me just now

I couldn't help but think that I would remember the way her hair

Swayed around her face

For the rest of my life"

He apparently wrote that on fb after we hung out; a friend brought it to my attention asking if his post was about me. We've gotten a lot closer the last couple days, and I think he's starting to trust me, but I'm still treading very slowly. My first response to this was obviously quite happy, and then like 5 minutes later I was a bit distrustful. In my head I just could not believe he said that, and I was questioning if there was any possible way that he saw a girl before or after me. It wasn't until this morning that I read the exact time stamp of the post, which was literally right after I left his room. I don't want to act all hopeful and intense again just because of this post...We also serendipitously run into each other at very random/weird places and times. He's driving me crazy (in a good way).