deivaleonne
@deivaleonne
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Dear Aries,
I wouldn't know. I'd probably say yes though. Just because I'm not calling it doesn't mean I'm not thinking about that person.
Ahh, phew. I thought so. He is pretty busy, I don't think the man ever wastes his day. Unless he gets hooked on netflix and has nothing else to do. Another Aries friend (who is just as bad as a devil on my shoulder) insists "He's not interested. I'll take you out." God forbid they ever meet.
I just keep giving him room. I know if he ever up and stops talking permanently I've got my answer, and he keeps up the conversation anyways. Just very slowly. He's extremely honest. I'd expect that if he wasn't interested, he'd straight out tell me.
I just keep giving him room. I know if he ever up and stops talking permanently I've got my answer, and he keeps up the conversation anyways. Just very slowly. He's extremely honest. I'd expect that if he wasn't interested, he'd straight out tell me.
One, it's only been a week? Why all the alarm bells/freaking out?
Two, if I'm interested, I always make time AND I follow through with texts in a timely manner.
Two, if I'm interested, I always make time AND I follow through with texts in a timely manner.
If I was panicking, I'd be a little more frantic. If a month went by and it was silent, in all honesty, I'd walk away. Reassurance is nice from time to time.
No I'm never to busy to text the person I'm interested in.
Even when I have been Extremely busy, I always make time for a friendly wave, or short note. It may not be much, but I will acknowledge your existence.
The only time I think that I would give/require that much space is if you had something going on in your life. If you had family visiting, for instance. That is if they were visiting, and you really didn't want to try to explain to your nosy second cousin who the heck I am, you see. But I suppose that is the other side of the coin.
It seems to me that he is making the effort to "keep up the conversation," though. Keep the faith for right now, and see what happens over the next bit. One thing to keep in mind though is that if he is really interested, he has to make time for you! After all, that devil sitting on your shoulder seems to have some extra time on his hands.
The only time I think that I would give/require that much space is if you had something going on in your life. If you had family visiting, for instance. That is if they were visiting, and you really didn't want to try to explain to your nosy second cousin who the heck I am, you see. But I suppose that is the other side of the coin.
It seems to me that he is making the effort to "keep up the conversation," though. Keep the faith for right now, and see what happens over the next bit. One thing to keep in mind though is that if he is really interested, he has to make time for you! After all, that devil sitting on your shoulder seems to have some extra time on his hands.
I agree with dofacc and bkbella. If I am truly interested, I make sure I make time. Wouldn't want to risk losing a person I truly like due to "being super busy". To be honest, that's the excuse I use if I'm not really into someone, but don't want to hurt their feelings.
Posted by Aries04
I agree with dofacc and bkbella. If I am truly interested, I make sure I make time. Wouldn't want to risk losing a person I truly like due to "being super busy". To be honest, that's the excuse I use if I'm not really into someone, but don't want to hurt their feelings.
This. And this isn't sign specific. This is a general rule of thumb for people overall.
If they're interested/care about you/whatever the scenario, they're never "too busy." People do have moments, but when it comes to genuine interest, you will less likely see this bs excuse and hear more from them regardless.
If I'm interested in someone, I make time for them. That is as simple as it gets.
Uh... Has everyone forgotten about if your boss is constantly hanging around you and hates you using your phone at work?? Has every one of you Aries forgotten what it's like to be non stop on the go that you barely had time to eat or go to the toilet let alone send text messages??
Or that you are having a ball somewhere away for the weekend and your phone is flat and you are enjoying being off your phone and out of cyber space??
Have you forgotten that you can't have your phone on you when you are doing watersports.... Or any other sports really....?
Have you forgotten what it's like to be so crazy tired after getting home that you eat and fall asleep on the couch straight after??
Last time I checked all of those things are still happening to me.
It may be inconsistent, but it still happens! There are times where I just can't be on my phone and quite frankly, I prefer living in the real world!
Give the dude a break! Give him his space. If you don't then he will only end up resenting a nag!
Enough said.
Or that you are having a ball somewhere away for the weekend and your phone is flat and you are enjoying being off your phone and out of cyber space??
Have you forgotten that you can't have your phone on you when you are doing watersports.... Or any other sports really....?
Have you forgotten what it's like to be so crazy tired after getting home that you eat and fall asleep on the couch straight after??
Last time I checked all of those things are still happening to me.
It may be inconsistent, but it still happens! There are times where I just can't be on my phone and quite frankly, I prefer living in the real world!
Give the dude a break! Give him his space. If you don't then he will only end up resenting a nag!
Enough said.
Nobody said that they wouldn't text when something came up that prevented them from doing so. When I'm at work, I don't always text because some bosses aren't down with phone usage.
I do reply to texts as soon as I am able to. ...that doesn't take a week or several days.
Simmer down on the touchy bitch moment. You're being far too insecure about the topic.
However, I do agree that the OP needs to simmer down. Women do that far too often- OMG CONTACT STOPPED AFTER A SHORT TIME. OMGZ IS HE STILL INTERESTED?? I understand a week no contact, after more frequent or daily contact would make you wonder, but simmer down. Start stressing when it exceeds a week, tbh. Daily contact dropping to nothing over the span of a week + is definitely telling of where you stand.
When a guy is intereted, he won't let that much time go by, tbh. He'd find time to get in touch at some point in the day, whether it be on break, just as the shift ended, before it started, etc. If he was going out of town, I'm sure he'd bring it up as an fyi and then if time permitted, he'd be in touch.
I've seen this from guys who were OBVIOUSLY interested. THEY WILL FIND THE TIME because they WANT to. If he's allowing other things to take up ALL his time where it takes him several days to a week to contact, dude may not be into you. Behavior I saw from guys who were NOT interested- communication was spotty, texts were never replied to, flaked on plans, suddenly were too "busy" and found really lame excuses not to see you, etc. BUT THEY MANAGED TO FIND TIME FOR OTHER PEOPLE/THINGS. Amazing how that works.
I do reply to texts as soon as I am able to. ...that doesn't take a week or several days.
Simmer down on the touchy bitch moment. You're being far too insecure about the topic.
However, I do agree that the OP needs to simmer down. Women do that far too often- OMG CONTACT STOPPED AFTER A SHORT TIME. OMGZ IS HE STILL INTERESTED?? I understand a week no contact, after more frequent or daily contact would make you wonder, but simmer down. Start stressing when it exceeds a week, tbh. Daily contact dropping to nothing over the span of a week + is definitely telling of where you stand.
When a guy is intereted, he won't let that much time go by, tbh. He'd find time to get in touch at some point in the day, whether it be on break, just as the shift ended, before it started, etc. If he was going out of town, I'm sure he'd bring it up as an fyi and then if time permitted, he'd be in touch.
I've seen this from guys who were OBVIOUSLY interested. THEY WILL FIND THE TIME because they WANT to. If he's allowing other things to take up ALL his time where it takes him several days to a week to contact, dude may not be into you. Behavior I saw from guys who were NOT interested- communication was spotty, texts were never replied to, flaked on plans, suddenly were too "busy" and found really lame excuses not to see you, etc. BUT THEY MANAGED TO FIND TIME FOR OTHER PEOPLE/THINGS. Amazing how that works.
Whhhooooa there. First off, I'm not panicking. I haven't yet, nor will I, panic just because some hours pass in silence. Just because 80% of "He's not answering, are we done?" topics are created by stage 5 clingers with no concept of "busy" doesn't mean I'm part of it. I also did not start off on that note. For the record, I know he's interested. He's shy, quiet, and obviously busy, but not uninterested. I too end up busy for hours at a time or just happen to be separated or oblivious of my phone, I'd be a hypocrite to expect something more from anyone else. I'm quite comfortable with not having my phone going off every five minutes. Already dealt with that noise before.
I was proving a point over a discussion I had with another (Aries) friend, who insists this man would be basically texting me as nonstop if he was truly interested, "As a real aries enjoys the hunt." so he says. As someone said earlier, he obviously just has too much time on his hands and enjoys staying the devil on my shoulder. It's nice to know I was correct and backed by multiple people. It's a fun "Aha! See!" moment I can have with him.
And no, he hasn't even gone a full day without texting me. Except when he forgot his phone somewhere, shit happens. I'm also sure to provide space, I haven't once had to text or email him more than one time in order to keep the conversation flowing. In fact, the only time it took him more than a day to respond was years ago when he was unresponsive for a month. When I finally asked him if he was alright, I got a message a week later that he was in the hospital for nervous system and heart failure. That was pretty intense but we survived, and he kept contact as much as he was able to.
Star - Been done. Just disappeared for a while.
I was proving a point over a discussion I had with another (Aries) friend, who insists this man would be basically texting me as nonstop if he was truly interested, "As a real aries enjoys the hunt." so he says. As someone said earlier, he obviously just has too much time on his hands and enjoys staying the devil on my shoulder. It's nice to know I was correct and backed by multiple people. It's a fun "Aha! See!" moment I can have with him.
And no, he hasn't even gone a full day without texting me. Except when he forgot his phone somewhere, shit happens. I'm also sure to provide space, I haven't once had to text or email him more than one time in order to keep the conversation flowing. In fact, the only time it took him more than a day to respond was years ago when he was unresponsive for a month. When I finally asked him if he was alright, I got a message a week later that he was in the hospital for nervous system and heart failure. That was pretty intense but we survived, and he kept contact as much as he was able to.
Star - Been done. Just disappeared for a while.
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