To my fellow aries

If someone hurts you do you ever forgive them on the surface but can't forget on the inside? You keep note of it & each time something else minor happens it just builds on to the first scenario. It continues eating at you until all you notice is the wrong/negative in them.

If someone hurts me; friends or partners, I seem perfectly fine on the surface & forgive them verbally, but I am pushin them away from the inside until they exist to me no more. How do you actually forgive? Or does resentment also consume you & start the demise of your relationships with others?

Yes. I think a lot of people do that though. It's hard to forgive people who have screwed you over. But I've done some pretty shitty things to people when in my younger years and I only hope that they could forgive me. I hope that made sense..

Posted by tiziani
From my experience they never keep note of anything, and that is where this problem arises. They're more likely to forget than forgive. Aries don't hold grudges, but they will genuinely forget what they were pissed off with you about... then remember some time later and revisit the anger.

Lol.

Posted by feby16aqua
What fun is anything that's easy?

I think I am offended!!!! Of course I am Fun!!!!!

I have to admit that I have totally forgotten why I was pissed at someone, only to remember a few minutes later. It has made for an occasional very awkward moment or two...

What site?

I've been guilty of quietly pushing someone away after feeling hurt. I don't see it as resentment, but as self-preservation. I think forgiving hiccups in friendships/relationships is natural and healthy, but if someone has the potential to deeply hurt me again, based on their previous actions, I tend to disappear.

Actually, this post just made me aware of how I'm currently in the process of pushing away a Scorpio friend. ): His little discrepancies snowballed and made me downright distrust him. We still hang out in a group setting with mutual friends...I'll be friendly, but can't be friends. Ok, maybe that is being resentful. lol But, I can't put myself in the same situation again.

This is just me, but tabs are kept on every wrongdoing, that's for sure. haha I just prefer acting like I didn't notice so things aren't awkward. Why spoil a good mood?

Posted by tiziani
From my experience they never keep note of anything, and that is where this problem arises. They're more likely to forget than forgive. Aries don't hold grudges, but they will genuinely forget what they were pissed off with you about... then remember some time later and revisit the anger.

truth!
but I think this was me when I was younger....moving too fats to hold grudges and I wasnt that sensi then. But I still dont hold grudges jusy cut people off now

My emotions are really one dimensional... happy, angry.

Hurt is difficult to process. I am a very airy Aries.

Posted by VenusAquarius
My emotions are really one dimensional... happy, angry.

Hurt is difficult to process. I am a very airy Aries.

But do you dismiss too or try to forgive and forget? I'm either happy or angry too. However I always appear happy on the surface. I hate what I feel inside about others, sometimes it can be horrible.

Posted by JoMarch85
I've been guilty of quietly pushing someone away after feeling hurt. I don't see it as resentment, but as self-preservation. I think forgiving hiccups in friendships/relationships is natural and healthy, but if someone has the potential to deeply hurt me again, based on their previous actions, I tend to disappear.

Actually, this post just made me aware of how I'm currently in the process of pushing away a Scorpio friend. ): His little discrepancies snowballed and made me downright distrust him. We still hang out in a group setting with mutual friends...I'll be friendly, but can't be friends. Ok, maybe that is being resentful. lol But, I can't put myself in the same situation again.

This is just me, but tabs are kept on every wrongdoing, that's for sure. haha I just prefer acting like I didn't notice so things aren't awkward. Why spoil a good mood?

This!!! I relate so much. So it's self preservation? That makes perfect sense... What if they say they're sorry & not going to hurt you again... I think what I feel about the situation is still very real therefore I'm pushing away without them noticing.

If an Aries tells you they are sorry and are not going to hurt you again, they mean it. But you have to remember that we are spontaneous creatures, like children. We'll pout, we'll yell, but talk some calm sense to us, give us a few moments to calm down and we will see reason, so it is possible to hurt you again without meaning to. We simply act with feeling, but without thinking sometimes. We don't hold grudges and we do forgive. As far as remembering what has been done to hurt us, yes we will do that. I find that I am beginning to soften in that area and tend to let those go in time too if the person proves to be trustworthy and didn't mean to hurt me.