cappiebelle
@cappiebelle
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he's baaa-aack! or, ahem...he wants to be.
I Think you should tell him how you fell and be 100% honest. Than tell us what he says 😉
talk just talk but keep in mind hes aries and has a silver tongue
and keep one other thing in mind do agree to anything
other than a meet
keep distance if you want him
make him earn it as in you time , or anything else
im an aries and some times things we do are because we just dont think
i personal get up tight if i feel like my gurl and me dont spend enough time
or if i feel some thing is not being said by her and then my brain goes 90 to nothing to
figure it out and some times things come outa my mouth that hurt her with out me knowing
then i have to explain some times she dont say anything and there a look your a cap i think
so i dont know how you respond to things so just talk again
~MrCeribdis
and keep one other thing in mind do agree to anything
other than a meet
keep distance if you want him
make him earn it as in you time , or anything else
im an aries and some times things we do are because we just dont think
i personal get up tight if i feel like my gurl and me dont spend enough time
or if i feel some thing is not being said by her and then my brain goes 90 to nothing to
figure it out and some times things come outa my mouth that hurt her with out me knowing
then i have to explain some times she dont say anything and there a look your a cap i think
so i dont know how you respond to things so just talk again
~MrCeribdis
^^^^^^^do not agree sorry ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
ok, i'm going to be honest here....and this might be a liiiitttttttle TMI but i've been wondering if this could be a reason or attribute in some way, that he is interested again....
though other things happened, we never did actually, in the truest sense of the word, "consummate the relationship". our libidos matched, everything was on fire, we had fun, both satisfied...i just wasn't ready - i mean, we only dated for seven weeks before he got sick...
the reason i mention this is because HE brought it up in our conversation...he said he had so much respect for me, he felt i was so grounded and more together than anyone he's ever been in a relationship with, etc.
a girl has to wonder....
though other things happened, we never did actually, in the truest sense of the word, "consummate the relationship". our libidos matched, everything was on fire, we had fun, both satisfied...i just wasn't ready - i mean, we only dated for seven weeks before he got sick...
the reason i mention this is because HE brought it up in our conversation...he said he had so much respect for me, he felt i was so grounded and more together than anyone he's ever been in a relationship with, etc.
a girl has to wonder....
You??re gonna have to see how he acts between now and the —date?? on Friday. I feel that he is going to try and —friend?? you and mostly just apologize for acting the way he did and hurting your feelings. He??d be blowing up your phone up with texts and calls if he wanted to get back together or he would have wanted to meet up sooner rather than later and he would have tried to come over to your place or have you go to his??_.then after he was sure he got you back he??d take you on dates.
thanks, CG...oh i will update, FOH SHOH. 😉
thanks, Mr. C... i haven't decided if i want him. i mean, the way he acted and didn't act at times has made me wonder about him. what i do know is that he isn't a bad person, just a little immature. either way, i do plan to take it slow - after hearing everything he has to say of course. he said a lot in our conversation, kinda start to put his heart on the line but then got anxious and said we'd talk more on Friday.
thanks, Mr. C... i haven't decided if i want him. i mean, the way he acted and didn't act at times has made me wonder about him. what i do know is that he isn't a bad person, just a little immature. either way, i do plan to take it slow - after hearing everything he has to say of course. he said a lot in our conversation, kinda start to put his heart on the line but then got anxious and said we'd talk more on Friday.
Posted by cappiebelle
ok, i'm going to be honest here....and this might be a liiiitttttttle TMI but i've been wondering if this could be a reason or attribute in some way, that he is interested again....
though other things happened, we never did actually, in the truest sense of the word, "consummate the relationship". our libidos matched, everything was on fire, we had fun, both satisfied...i just wasn't ready - i mean, we only dated for seven weeks before he got sick...
the reason i mention this is because HE brought it up in our conversation...he said he had so much respect for me, he felt i was so grounded and more together than anyone he's ever been in a relationship with, etc.
a girl has to wonder....
oh shiz that changes stuff lol. he really may want you back then and he's going slow because the sex hasn't happened yet (slow pace matching slow pace)
thanks, ewe. actually, when he called monday he asked to see me tuesday night but i couldn't because i had plans...i also had plans wednesday night when he asked. he was busy thursday so he asked for friday. also, in one of his texts today he asked me if i had plans saturday night. i do....
i'm not saying he wants to get back together...based on our conversation and the texts in between monday and today, it just seems that way. but what do i know? i'm a capricorn.
i'm not saying he wants to get back together...based on our conversation and the texts in between monday and today, it just seems that way. but what do i know? i'm a capricorn.
despite what any of the guys might say, you've got the upper hand 😉 if you haven't effed the guy and he still has unresolved feelings for you then he's going to keep wondering and trying haha
lol @ ewe.... yeah, i suppose not giving away the cow until a relationship is stable does have its advantages.
i guess i was wondering...would it be rediculous for one to think (even an inkling) that i might be a conquest? that maybe he's been thinking - if this girl was really as into me as she said she was, then why didn't she give in? ...he doesn't seem callous or a player....
i suppose i should admit that i've been thinking about that aspect more than i should probably....how it would be...doesn't help that we were such a match in that department. *wheweeee* anyway, not that it will happen...
i guess i was wondering...would it be rediculous for one to think (even an inkling) that i might be a conquest? that maybe he's been thinking - if this girl was really as into me as she said she was, then why didn't she give in? ...he doesn't seem callous or a player....
i suppose i should admit that i've been thinking about that aspect more than i should probably....how it would be...doesn't help that we were such a match in that department. *wheweeee* anyway, not that it will happen...
Posted by cappiebelle
lol @ ewe.... yeah, i suppose not giving away the cow until a relationship is stable does have its advantages.
i guess i was wondering...would it be rediculous for one to think (even an inkling) that i might be a conquest? that maybe he's been thinking - if this girl was really as into me as she said she was, then why didn't she give in? ...he doesn't seem callous or a player....
i suppose i should admit that i've been thinking about that aspect more than i should probably....how it would be...doesn't help that we were such a match in that department. *wheweeee* anyway, not that it will happen...
ehhhhhh that's something you should always consider when dating an aries guy lol. the aries male can be ruthless in attaining their ends (the immature ones) but 99% of the time you can see this guy coming from a mile away. your guy doesn't sound malicious though and i think this is moving beyond the conquest phase. he also knows you're gonna walk if he acts the way he has been. has he been texting you since you guys set the date?
Posted by cappiebelle
lol @ ewe.... yeah, i suppose not giving away the cow until a relationship is stable does have its advantages.
haha i mean the milk?
ewe....repeatedly, endlessly texting. not obnoxiously though.... asking about my day, what i am going to wear friday night, which restaurant i prefer, am i busy sat night, how's work, that i make him feel the way he felt when we first started talking/going out, that he can't wait to see me, that he thinks about us intimately (*see, this is why i asked*)....
carefull he could feel he has not conqured you and
cant move on till as i said
dont agree to anything but the meet
sorry im this way ask CG
one good "?" for an aries if he wants back
ask him what hes willing to put on the table
busness first
ok now in defeince yes we are immuter
and i have lost dayz on projects and looked at my cell
and was like wow really 52 texts then i noticed the time and date 48 hours later
tread lightly
all i can say
~MrCeribdis
cant move on till as i said
dont agree to anything but the meet
sorry im this way ask CG
one good "?" for an aries if he wants back
ask him what hes willing to put on the table
busness first
ok now in defeince yes we are immuter
and i have lost dayz on projects and looked at my cell
and was like wow really 52 texts then i noticed the time and date 48 hours later
tread lightly
all i can say
~MrCeribdis
thanks, Mr. C... i appreciate the advice. i will stick to dinner, and we'll go from there, if we go anywhere that is. ...and thanks, if he does indeed want to give it a go then i will ask him that question....
lets talk about the important things now....WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO WEAR—? i say a dress. clevage is unnecessary but i always think showing skin is pretty (arms or back). form fitting is good too cause you got nuthin to hide 😉
i concur, ewe! lol oh, most DEFINITELY a dress. he really responds to the color red (he remembered the one i wore when we met to discuss things back in january), so i have this dress with red in it that i will wear with a long flowly sleeved wrap so that i'm not "all" out there. the front is low cut...they are my best assets...and i know this sounds bad but i'm just being playful - i want to see him squirm when he's trying desperately to talk serious and not look at my cleavage.
and of course, heels. 😉 he's actually fun to dress for because prior boyfriends were into the natural look. this aries is definitely a dress, heels and thigh-high/garter kinda guy...
and of course, heels. 😉 he's actually fun to dress for because prior boyfriends were into the natural look. this aries is definitely a dress, heels and thigh-high/garter kinda guy...
Posted by cappiebelle
he's actually fun to dress for because prior boyfriends were into the natural look. this aries is definitely a dress, heels and thigh-high/garter kinda guy...
My Aries is the same way, even more so in the bedroom. LOL
sexy on sexy in bed hell yes my sexy CG
^ oh you guys.... 😉
hmmmmmmm.....all good stuff so far, all good advice.
My gut response (being a hardcore Aries); he can't stand that there's someone out there that actually rejected him, like "how dare SHE tell ME she's moving on". mememememememe....ME! He's hurt and now you have the upper hand.
Don't forget, Aries is ALL ABOUT themselves first - yes, we can be THE MOST caring, loyal, sensuous, understanding, blah blah blah, individuals, but reject us, and the fire gets lit; especially if we have been playing games and not giving you 110% . Reject us when we're being sincere, honest, giving 110% and NOT playing games and that's when the Aries ice will kick in. I'm rambling.
I'd sincerely want to know WHY he decided to start texting. Why the games. If he's sincere this time around and willing to put in the effort, as most Aries really want to do - any direct question you ask him should be received with a direct answer - no hesitation, no beating around the bush to answer.
Go to the meet but go with caution.
My gut response (being a hardcore Aries); he can't stand that there's someone out there that actually rejected him, like "how dare SHE tell ME she's moving on". mememememememe....ME! He's hurt and now you have the upper hand.
Don't forget, Aries is ALL ABOUT themselves first - yes, we can be THE MOST caring, loyal, sensuous, understanding, blah blah blah, individuals, but reject us, and the fire gets lit; especially if we have been playing games and not giving you 110% . Reject us when we're being sincere, honest, giving 110% and NOT playing games and that's when the Aries ice will kick in. I'm rambling.
I'd sincerely want to know WHY he decided to start texting. Why the games. If he's sincere this time around and willing to put in the effort, as most Aries really want to do - any direct question you ask him should be received with a direct answer - no hesitation, no beating around the bush to answer.
Go to the meet but go with caution.
Run - I was hoping you'd stop by 🙂
the thing is - i felt like HE was rejecting ME by the way he was acting in the end....he didn't seem interested and i took it that he wasn't...and i felt that if he wanted me, he knew where to find me. aries are pursuers, yes?
i intend to ask direct questions. his tendency to answer questions directly without beating around the bush is something i've always admired about him...and he would point out that i always think about my answers before i say them...and that he thought it very strange that i did that. welcome to capricornworld.
some of his texts are more than a little flirtatious which has me wondering if i am just a challenge to him. though my body is screaming yes, my mind and heart is shouting a firm no to anything happening besides dinner. sigh. what to do? if it were just physical for me, i would entertain the idea but honestly, if he's never been far from my mind i know it would lead to certain doom. it's difficult...i already know i want to see him again. i'm doomed.
a new aries friend recommends that i keep it light...that even if he goes into a conversation of serious topics that i should just keep it light and fun, that if he really is serious then we can discuss heavier things at a later time. when i think about it...i was this way in the beginning... doomed, i say. xoj
the thing is - i felt like HE was rejecting ME by the way he was acting in the end....he didn't seem interested and i took it that he wasn't...and i felt that if he wanted me, he knew where to find me. aries are pursuers, yes?
i intend to ask direct questions. his tendency to answer questions directly without beating around the bush is something i've always admired about him...and he would point out that i always think about my answers before i say them...and that he thought it very strange that i did that. welcome to capricornworld.
some of his texts are more than a little flirtatious which has me wondering if i am just a challenge to him. though my body is screaming yes, my mind and heart is shouting a firm no to anything happening besides dinner. sigh. what to do? if it were just physical for me, i would entertain the idea but honestly, if he's never been far from my mind i know it would lead to certain doom. it's difficult...i already know i want to see him again. i'm doomed.
a new aries friend recommends that i keep it light...that even if he goes into a conversation of serious topics that i should just keep it light and fun, that if he really is serious then we can discuss heavier things at a later time. when i think about it...i was this way in the beginning... doomed, i say. xoj
Yes, we are pursuers, but we also like to be persued. We do want to know that we are wanted too.
I dunno about THIS guy though, does he have a hang-up about the relationship? Is he playing games? Is he just unsure? He's driving ME crazy. Good grief. My Aries impatience is kicking in and I want you to just meet him and say "what the hell?!!!".
When are you meeting him? Tomorrow?
I dunno about THIS guy though, does he have a hang-up about the relationship? Is he playing games? Is he just unsure? He's driving ME crazy. Good grief. My Aries impatience is kicking in and I want you to just meet him and say "what the hell?!!!".
When are you meeting him? Tomorrow?
I check in here just about every day too. I frequent the Sag and Cap boards as well; since my daughter is a Cap and the boyfriend is a Sag. I still have lots to learn as well.
Posted by Run262
Yes, we are pursuers, but we also like to be persued. We do want to know that we are wanted too.
I dunno about THIS guy though, does he have a hang-up about the relationship? Is he playing games? Is he just unsure? He's driving ME crazy. Good grief. My Aries impatience is kicking in and I want you to just meet him and say "what the hell?!!!".
When are you meeting him? Tomorrow?
im not too worried about cappiebelle holding her own. it always brings joy to my heart when somebody stands up to an aries guy because they can be so stupid sometimes lol. i was with one for yearsssss and he liked to push and push just to see what reaction he would get (he wanted to see me get fired up) so i would turn icey (ignore him/not return calls or texts) and true to form he always came crawling back, shamelessly like an aries does when they love you and they know they're wrong.
cappie's aries is quite a bit older than her too and she took good care of him when he needed it most (aries are notorious babies). i don't think he'll forget that and i hope he's beyond the conquer phase. i think all she needs to do is be hot and fight him off for a while 🙂
oh yes, how is your daughter? driving you insane with her headstrong (bull-headed) ways? 🙂
i don't know if he has a hang up about the relationship...as far as the emotional aspect. i do however, think that he is hung up on the fact that we never...ahem...as i said above... because he mentioned it in a text when we were flirting. i had a capricorn who was in love with me (during the whole of our relationship) and cap would call and text, etc but we were just friends. aries, in his texting this week, said he assumed cap and i were intimate....because i didn't give into him (aries). ....what's odd is that aries NEVER pressured me or acted like he was put out by the fact that i wanted to wait for that...but it came out this week...which has me thinking that he must have been or has thought about it since then and was bothered by it, if only because he thought that i had or was with the cap. (just for the record, cap and i never even kissed, or flirted or anything...he would just call/text all the time and because we were friends i tried to be gentle - aries actually commented how tender-hearted i was about it).
maybe he assumed i left because i wasn't interested in him anymore and therefore went off with the cap...and was checking to see if what he thought was true? my sweet side is paying attention to what he is saying/asking because i know an aries always means what they say. i'm also sensing a little hurt...and sweetness...and caution... but i don't know if i'm just "thinking" i want to sense those things.
date is tomorrow. he just called to say he's looking forward to seeing me and that he can't wait to hear about what's been going on with my job (i changed jobs two weeks ago). i have to say, i have really missed the connection we had - there was always a little fire...and it's being stoked again. he just gets me. DOOMED, i say.
i don't know if he has a hang up about the relationship...as far as the emotional aspect. i do however, think that he is hung up on the fact that we never...ahem...as i said above... because he mentioned it in a text when we were flirting. i had a capricorn who was in love with me (during the whole of our relationship) and cap would call and text, etc but we were just friends. aries, in his texting this week, said he assumed cap and i were intimate....because i didn't give into him (aries). ....what's odd is that aries NEVER pressured me or acted like he was put out by the fact that i wanted to wait for that...but it came out this week...which has me thinking that he must have been or has thought about it since then and was bothered by it, if only because he thought that i had or was with the cap. (just for the record, cap and i never even kissed, or flirted or anything...he would just call/text all the time and because we were friends i tried to be gentle - aries actually commented how tender-hearted i was about it).
maybe he assumed i left because i wasn't interested in him anymore and therefore went off with the cap...and was checking to see if what he thought was true? my sweet side is paying attention to what he is saying/asking because i know an aries always means what they say. i'm also sensing a little hurt...and sweetness...and caution... but i don't know if i'm just "thinking" i want to sense those things.
date is tomorrow. he just called to say he's looking forward to seeing me and that he can't wait to hear about what's been going on with my job (i changed jobs two weeks ago). i have to say, i have really missed the connection we had - there was always a little fire...and it's being stoked again. he just gets me. DOOMED, i say.
im not too worried about cappiebelle holding her own. it always brings joy to my heart when somebody stands up to an aries guy because they can be so stupid sometimes lol. i was with one for yearsssss and he liked to push and push just to see what reaction he would get (he wanted to see me get fired up) so i would turn icey (ignore him/not return calls or texts) and true to form he always came crawling back, shamelessly like an aries does when they love you and they know they're wrong.
cappie's aries is quite a bit older than her too and she took good care of him when he needed it most (aries are notorious babies). i don't think he'll forget that and i hope he's beyond the conquer phase. i think all she needs to do is be hot and fight him off for a while 🙂
lol, how i adore ewe. 😉
that's so funny about your aries...like little boys, they act sheepish because they know they did or are doing something wrong. my aries would do that. aye yi yi drove me nuts...but it was humorous to watch because i could tell he knew he was doing it - it's almost as if he didn't know any other way.
ewe, any input on whether i should keep it to dinner and turn down offers for after-dinner entertainment? also do i keep it light or do i discuss issues?
thanks, shak 🙂
hey JMB3.1! isn't it great? the connection is so.... muy caliente! aye yi yi!
Good luck tomorrow!!...I'm excited for you. Definitely let us know how it went sometime over the weekend.
My little cap is as headstrong as ever. Her moon is in Gemini which I'm still learning about. Right now we're butting heads about homework. I need her to focus on it and she doesnt' FEEL like it - of course, that could be a kid thing and not necessarily a cap thing....not to hi-jack the thread about my kid.
I think you've got your plan of action and I think tomorrow's "meeting" or "date" will go perfectly well.
My little cap is as headstrong as ever. Her moon is in Gemini which I'm still learning about. Right now we're butting heads about homework. I need her to focus on it and she doesnt' FEEL like it - of course, that could be a kid thing and not necessarily a cap thing....not to hi-jack the thread about my kid.
I think you've got your plan of action and I think tomorrow's "meeting" or "date" will go perfectly well.
oh, please. hi-jack away.... could be anything, but i definitely resemble that remark - "i don't FEEL like doing it" could be a mantra. i have to force myself to do things i am not psyched about. when i was younger, it was homework. as an adult, it is filing, though i've managed to find a way to get excited about that with !colored files! and a !label maker! lol
thanks, run.
thanks, run.
Posted by cappiebelleim not too worried about cappiebelle holding her own. it always brings joy to my heart when somebody stands up to an aries guy because they can be so stupid sometimes lol. i was with one for yearsssss and he liked to push and push just to see what reaction he would get (he wanted to see me get fired up) so i would turn icey (ignore him/not return calls or texts) and true to form he always came crawling back, shamelessly like an aries does when they love you and they know they're wrong.
cappie's aries is quite a bit older than her too and she took good care of him when he needed it most (aries are notorious babies). i don't think he'll forget that and i hope he's beyond the conquer phase. i think all she needs to do is be hot and fight him off for a while 🙂
lol, how i adore ewe. 😉
that's so funny about your aries...like little boys, they act sheepish because they know they did or are doing something wrong. my aries would do that. aye yi yi drove me nuts...but it was humorous to watch because i could tell he knew he was doing it - it's almost as if he didn't know any other way.
ewe, any input on whether i should keep it to dinner and turn down offers for after-dinner entertainment? also do i keep it light or do i discuss issues?click to expand
FO SHO turn down after dinner extracurricular activities...that's why you wear your ugliest, worn out undies under your dress so that way you won't even tempted! and then you splurge and order the yummiest dessert on the menu! ummm i probably wouldn't start talking about the issues unless he brought it up first. we still aren't 100% sure what his intentions are yet. maybe you should ask another cap? haha i never do the right thing!
lol..... like bridget jones.... 🙂 ....good idea - xoj
ok, i have to say how much i love it in ariesland. i posted in capland and i got nothin'....nada...zilch... 😉 ok, ok, ON WITH THE STORY ---
the date went extremely well. he lives 10min outside nyc so he picked me up, (his idea since it was raining and windy, otherwise i could have just taken a cab - he was always such a gentleman and thoughtful about shoes/hair getting messed up) greeted closed-mouth kiss on the lips and went to one of his favorite restaurants (because, you know, it's all about him lol). we talked a lot during dinner, but neither of us brought up things from the past or issues or anything of the sort. there wasn't heavy flirting, it was just easy. i just followed his lead. when he drove me home he said he misses me and loves how i make him feel and loves just being around me in general - he likes my energy and the way he can just be himself. i told him i miss him too. he walked me to my door, closed-mouth kiss on the lips, and asked if i'd be interested in going out on another date, or rather, dates with him. i said yes. the end.
BUT THEN he texts me and we talk on the phone about how much he wanted to rip off my dress, how he wished i'd invited him in for a "nightcap", how he wanted me to come home with him, etc etc etc and he keeps bringing up the sex - which honestly, i'm ok with because i'm just as randy, but i realize that it really did bother him that we had not actually technically had sex. he keeps bringing it up - not in a whiny way, just a "i want you and you will be mine and i will have you and get what i want and and and".
i do want him, i do want to be with him, but the truth is, what he did - whether it was unintentional or not - hurt me. i've let go of the pain and i carry no hard feelings, but the fact that he was able to hurt me like that gives me cause to step back and wonder if he'll do it again - when he becomes bored, etc.... look, i'm a cap, i will always be a cap, and no matter how lovely and interesting and fun i am to my friends and family, i might not be a good match for him...i might be too boring for him in the end. ....and truth be told....he might be too flirty and sociable with other women and tight-lipped about things that would pull us closer together as a couple - all because he doesn't like to live in the past.
the date went extremely well. he lives 10min outside nyc so he picked me up, (his idea since it was raining and windy, otherwise i could have just taken a cab - he was always such a gentleman and thoughtful about shoes/hair getting messed up) greeted closed-mouth kiss on the lips and went to one of his favorite restaurants (because, you know, it's all about him lol). we talked a lot during dinner, but neither of us brought up things from the past or issues or anything of the sort. there wasn't heavy flirting, it was just easy. i just followed his lead. when he drove me home he said he misses me and loves how i make him feel and loves just being around me in general - he likes my energy and the way he can just be himself. i told him i miss him too. he walked me to my door, closed-mouth kiss on the lips, and asked if i'd be interested in going out on another date, or rather, dates with him. i said yes. the end.
BUT THEN he texts me and we talk on the phone about how much he wanted to rip off my dress, how he wished i'd invited him in for a "nightcap", how he wanted me to come home with him, etc etc etc and he keeps bringing up the sex - which honestly, i'm ok with because i'm just as randy, but i realize that it really did bother him that we had not actually technically had sex. he keeps bringing it up - not in a whiny way, just a "i want you and you will be mine and i will have you and get what i want and and and".
i do want him, i do want to be with him, but the truth is, what he did - whether it was unintentional or not - hurt me. i've let go of the pain and i carry no hard feelings, but the fact that he was able to hurt me like that gives me cause to step back and wonder if he'll do it again - when he becomes bored, etc.... look, i'm a cap, i will always be a cap, and no matter how lovely and interesting and fun i am to my friends and family, i might not be a good match for him...i might be too boring for him in the end. ....and truth be told....he might be too flirty and sociable with other women and tight-lipped about things that would pull us closer together as a couple - all because he doesn't like to live in the past.
i reminded myself this morning that i should be focusing on what we have in common and build from there instead of being cautious, over-thinking cappie. he wants to see me again tonight. and tomorrow. and. *sigh* i might see him tonight after going out with friends; not sure.
if anyone has an opinion, positive or negative - even if it is directed at me - please post. thanks for all your advice and comments thus far. 🙂 xoj
if anyone has an opinion, positive or negative - even if it is directed at me - please post. thanks for all your advice and comments thus far. 🙂 xoj
thanks, JMB. don't cave, don't cave, don't cave.....lol. what's weird is that i've NEVER had a tough time saying no, or holding off....as you can gather (7 weeks of dating and we didn't) i am fairly old-fashioned and am just not the kind that gives in easily. sometimes i wish i could be, because other friends have "fun", but i've just never been that sort. anyway...i've never had a tough time.... UNTIL NOW. it's just that the chemistry is so right - i don't know how else to explain it. also, you're right - he doesn't realize he's flirting.... but that is one way we are different - i always felt it was disrespectful when in a relationship to be so flirty all the time with the opposite sex. this is just one thing i would have to decide if i could live with because to expect something different from him would be very stupid and foolish.
thanks, ariessun. re: getting back on his feet after being sick...i completely understand that. ...but when i would ask questions or suggest his irritability or lack of enthusiasm with everything was due to him not being recovered yet, he wouldn't hear of it - almost like he didn't want to admit to being weak or allowing anything to get him down, even though he clearly was. aries men can be such babies sometimes....but i think it speaks volumes of my concern for him that i understand why he did the things he did. ...and you're right - if his intentions are true, he will put forth the effort.
🙂 thanks guys 🙂 ....i might be seeing him tonight. he wants to, but i don't want to see him if i've been drinking with the girls....that would certainly work in his favor, of course. 😉 xoj
thanks, ariessun. re: getting back on his feet after being sick...i completely understand that. ...but when i would ask questions or suggest his irritability or lack of enthusiasm with everything was due to him not being recovered yet, he wouldn't hear of it - almost like he didn't want to admit to being weak or allowing anything to get him down, even though he clearly was. aries men can be such babies sometimes....but i think it speaks volumes of my concern for him that i understand why he did the things he did. ...and you're right - if his intentions are true, he will put forth the effort.
🙂 thanks guys 🙂 ....i might be seeing him tonight. he wants to, but i don't want to see him if i've been drinking with the girls....that would certainly work in his favor, of course. 😉 xoj
it's still hard to tell with him. i would find it hard to move forward without rubbing in the fact that he effed with your head and he acted like a little shit but im evil and i like making people feel awkward and i say things like "remember that time you effed me over? it was really nice of you and i felt really great about the way you handled the situation." have i ever mentioned that you should never take my advice lol im glad it seems to be going well right now 😄
ewe, i totally agree - i will not be able to move forward unless we discuss everything....but because i know him and his aries nature, i am not going to be the one to bring it up unless or until he indicates that he wants to be serious again. i see no point in discussing past issues unless there is a reason, because i feel all that would do is create drama and a big ol' mess....not to mention it would cause him to run the opposite way. because i am not sure if i want to be with him in a relationship, i am just taking it slow....and if he brings anything up then i will most certainly explain how much of an arse he was....whether he meant to be or not.
so, another update: the weather was really bad here (windy, rainy) so the girlfriends cancelled. he offered to pick me up and go back to his place to watch movies, etc. which of course meant i would stay the night. so i did....nothing happened except snuggling (not that he didn't try or express interest in it being more) and we had a great time. this morning we went to breakfast and that was that; he said he'd call me later to discuss our week/next weekend schedule to work out when we could see each other again. also, last night and again this morning he kept saying how wonderful it felt to be around me, that he can't wait to see me again, that it felt really great to snuggle.... i know it's just his regular way, to be so into me (or a person) in the beginning...i suppose my mistake last time was becoming as interested in him as he was in me...which caused him to lose interest because he "got me". honestly, i'm not sure that i'm up for the aries' men's game of seeming uninterested just so they can chase, so i suppose we'll just see what happens.
this time around i am thinking more clearly, that's for sure...and i know i will most likely post again, asking for advice/ranting or raving about this one....but it feels so different this time. maybe it's because the innocence is gone. who knows? anyway, thank you all for your advice and comments - you sure do know how to help keep a cappie sane when dealing with the aries' personality.
🙂 xoj
so, another update: the weather was really bad here (windy, rainy) so the girlfriends cancelled. he offered to pick me up and go back to his place to watch movies, etc. which of course meant i would stay the night. so i did....nothing happened except snuggling (not that he didn't try or express interest in it being more) and we had a great time. this morning we went to breakfast and that was that; he said he'd call me later to discuss our week/next weekend schedule to work out when we could see each other again. also, last night and again this morning he kept saying how wonderful it felt to be around me, that he can't wait to see me again, that it felt really great to snuggle.... i know it's just his regular way, to be so into me (or a person) in the beginning...i suppose my mistake last time was becoming as interested in him as he was in me...which caused him to lose interest because he "got me". honestly, i'm not sure that i'm up for the aries' men's game of seeming uninterested just so they can chase, so i suppose we'll just see what happens.
this time around i am thinking more clearly, that's for sure...and i know i will most likely post again, asking for advice/ranting or raving about this one....but it feels so different this time. maybe it's because the innocence is gone. who knows? anyway, thank you all for your advice and comments - you sure do know how to help keep a cappie sane when dealing with the aries' personality.
🙂 xoj
for some reason it posted my answer several times - that's why things are hidden.
Hey Cappie,
Just have a quick minute to respond. Read all your updates. My gut reaction. 1) So far, he appears to be "in to you", and it "appears" to be real...time will tell. 2) You're analyzing waaaay too much, I know, you can't help it, it's what you do, it's what we all do. 3) He's not going to bring up the past, Aries HATES to bring up stuff they know they were wrong about, they like to learn from the screw-up and MOVE ON, you won't get a long monologue about how wrong he was and what he did and said to you were the wrong things - HE KNOWS what he did wrong, that's whay he's back trying again. He's let it go, so should you, again, not that he didn't learn from it, it's just that he won't re-hash the past.
So, let's see if he contacts you this week and keeps his word.
Just have a quick minute to respond. Read all your updates. My gut reaction. 1) So far, he appears to be "in to you", and it "appears" to be real...time will tell. 2) You're analyzing waaaay too much, I know, you can't help it, it's what you do, it's what we all do. 3) He's not going to bring up the past, Aries HATES to bring up stuff they know they were wrong about, they like to learn from the screw-up and MOVE ON, you won't get a long monologue about how wrong he was and what he did and said to you were the wrong things - HE KNOWS what he did wrong, that's whay he's back trying again. He's let it go, so should you, again, not that he didn't learn from it, it's just that he won't re-hash the past.
So, let's see if he contacts you this week and keeps his word.
Posted by Run262
Hey Cappie,
Just have a quick minute to respond. Read all your updates. My gut reaction. 1) So far, he appears to be "in to you", and it "appears" to be real...time will tell. 2) You're analyzing waaaay too much, I know, you can't help it, it's what you do, it's what we all do. 3) He's not going to bring up the past, Aries HATES to bring up stuff they know they were wrong about, they like to learn from the screw-up and MOVE ON, you won't get a long monologue about how wrong he was and what he did and said to you were the wrong things - HE KNOWS what he did wrong, that's whay he's back trying again. He's let it go, so should you, again, not that he didn't learn from it, it's just that he won't re-hash the past.
So, let's see if he contacts you this week and keeps his word.
i agree to a certain extent. yes he knows he was wrong and he doesn't want to look back because he was the one who was wrong but you cant just pretend it never happened. she was really really hurt by him and he gets to move on free and clear because he's an aries that doesn't like talking about his feelings? it would be one thing if this were a stupid little argument but the guy left her high and dry without any contact or any explanation for like 6 weeks after he said they were in a relationship. obviously he doesn't want to talk about it lol. if i were him i wouldn't want to talk about it either
Posted by Run262
Hey Cappie,
Just have a quick minute to respond. Read all your updates. My gut reaction. 1) So far, he appears to be "in to you", and it "appears" to be real...time will tell. 2) You're analyzing waaaay too much, I know, you can't help it, it's what you do, it's what we all do. 3) He's not going to bring up the past, Aries HATES to bring up stuff they know they were wrong about, they like to learn from the screw-up and MOVE ON, you won't get a long monologue about how wrong he was and what he did and said to you were the wrong things - HE KNOWS what he did wrong, that's whay he's back trying again. He's let it go, so should you, again, not that he didn't learn from it, it's just that he won't re-hash the past.
So, let's see if he contacts you this week and keeps his word.
hey run!
1) i think so too.
2) i think so too. lol
3) i figured he wouldn't....but i feel like something needs to be said. i'm not going to re-hash every single thing...not at all...but i do think it is VERY important to let him know how his unresponsive actions affected me negatively, and i would say just that - "your unresponsive actions affected me negatively and at the time i felt very disposed of. i am not in that place anymore, and i know that we have both learned from the last two months and i in no way want to hold onto any negativity...but wanted to be clear that those kind of actions would not be welcome at any time in the future. i appreciate open and honest communication, and i know you do to, so let's treat each other with love and respect."
he texted and called sunday (after he took me home after breakfast), and he's texted today asking what nights i have free. i suggested either tuesday or friday and he asked if he could be greedy and have both. i accepted. 🙂
Don't get me wrong, you have every right to discuss what happened - I guess in all my haste to get out what I was thinking, it came across the wrong way. I don't want to negate your feelings about what he did and how he made you feel; I guess I was just trying to explain why he may not and probably won't bring up what he did and why - from an Aries point of view. We do have some lessons to learn when it comes to others feelings, regardless of our age - there's always something to learn or even be reminded of. Capricorns most definitely challenge us and if anyone can challenge us and bring us "back on point" it's you guys for sure.
I've found in the past, for me, the bigger the mistake I've made, the greater the hurt I've caused, the more I want to NOT want to talk about it; but of course, it's AFTER I professed how wrong I was and how sorry I was for making a person feel the way I did and how I would NEVER do that again - and I always keep my word. So yes, I think you do deserve some sort of closure on his recent past actions so that you can confidently move forward with the relationship.
I've found in the past, for me, the bigger the mistake I've made, the greater the hurt I've caused, the more I want to NOT want to talk about it; but of course, it's AFTER I professed how wrong I was and how sorry I was for making a person feel the way I did and how I would NEVER do that again - and I always keep my word. So yes, I think you do deserve some sort of closure on his recent past actions so that you can confidently move forward with the relationship.
oh, run. i think you'll have far less difficulties communicating with your little cappie than you think. 🙂
thanks...i completely understand now, thanks for clarifying. i am learning a lot about myself too, which i love - he definitely challenges me as well. i think you're right - he won't bring it up so i will have to. the only thing he did bring up was that the letter i wrote, when he printed it out, was four pages and he said to never write any more letters that were four pages please. !!!! four pages !!!! i tried to make light of it by saying that it turned out to be four pages because he had to super-size the print being 50 years old and all... 😉 ...and i dropped it...i figured it wasn't the time. he wasn't bringing up the issues openly...
honestly...i like how this is starting out waaaay better than how it started in november. there's less pressure, i'm more comfortable...and i'm also more excited about getting to know him better and having fun and enjoying ourselves. he is definitely making even MORE of an effort than he was last november...the dates he asks me on, the ones he suggests...are just us - he and i. i know that sounds odd, but last november and december we didn't go out on many dates...we either just hung out at his house (which is also his business so there are four others who walk in and out) or we were with clients, work-related, his friends, etc. so i felt we missed the whole "dating" thing. i brought this up to him one time in december and he reminded me of it friday night - he said he would make more of an effort to not make it so "five years into the relationship"...
thanks...i completely understand now, thanks for clarifying. i am learning a lot about myself too, which i love - he definitely challenges me as well. i think you're right - he won't bring it up so i will have to. the only thing he did bring up was that the letter i wrote, when he printed it out, was four pages and he said to never write any more letters that were four pages please. !!!! four pages !!!! i tried to make light of it by saying that it turned out to be four pages because he had to super-size the print being 50 years old and all... 😉 ...and i dropped it...i figured it wasn't the time. he wasn't bringing up the issues openly...
honestly...i like how this is starting out waaaay better than how it started in november. there's less pressure, i'm more comfortable...and i'm also more excited about getting to know him better and having fun and enjoying ourselves. he is definitely making even MORE of an effort than he was last november...the dates he asks me on, the ones he suggests...are just us - he and i. i know that sounds odd, but last november and december we didn't go out on many dates...we either just hung out at his house (which is also his business so there are four others who walk in and out) or we were with clients, work-related, his friends, etc. so i felt we missed the whole "dating" thing. i brought this up to him one time in december and he reminded me of it friday night - he said he would make more of an effort to not make it so "five years into the relationship"...
You most definitely need dates - just you and him. Good to hear it's working the right way now - yes, you're making him work for it and it's good for him - keep him on his toes - it's really what an Aries needs too; making sure your wants and needs are being met on your terms as well.
I've recently been reading and learning a lot about the Nodes. Do you happen to know your North Node and his North Node? It will show up when you put in the information for a complete chart, like on Astrodienst.
I've recently been reading and learning a lot about the Nodes. Do you happen to know your North Node and his North Node? It will show up when you put in the information for a complete chart, like on Astrodienst.
my north node is in sag, so my south is gemini.
his north node is in libra, so his south is aries.
thank you for this! i never knew about nodes....it's been very interesting reading, and thanks to you i'm looking for more information. i wonder, though - i have so much water in my placement that it would totally make sense that i would have lessons to learn from air placements... as i understand it, i'm supposed to develop more sag identifiers in order to grow? because i fall back on gemini qualities? am i understanding this correctly?
his north node is in libra, so his south is aries.
thank you for this! i never knew about nodes....it's been very interesting reading, and thanks to you i'm looking for more information. i wonder, though - i have so much water in my placement that it would totally make sense that i would have lessons to learn from air placements... as i understand it, i'm supposed to develop more sag identifiers in order to grow? because i fall back on gemini qualities? am i understanding this correctly?
As for the nodes, yep, you hit the nail on the head pretty much. We tend to come from/live more comfortably in our South Node sign but we need to incorporate our North Node qualities in to our lives as well - the north node is not comfortable for us, pushes us outside our box, it's what we need to learn (opposite of what we know/do). The ultimate goal is to balance both the north and the south node - at least that's what I'm learning. There's lots more to it as well but this is the jist of it all.
My north node is in Aries, i.e., south in Libra. Boy could I teach your Aries guy a lesson or two on nodes!!
For you, you live Gemini well, you need to read more on Sag's to and their outlook/behaviors to learn how to incorporate their qualities in to your life for a better balance.
There's just so much to it all - it fascinates me.
My north node is in Aries, i.e., south in Libra. Boy could I teach your Aries guy a lesson or two on nodes!!
For you, you live Gemini well, you need to read more on Sag's to and their outlook/behaviors to learn how to incorporate their qualities in to your life for a better balance.
There's just so much to it all - it fascinates me.
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xoj