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Need advice of raising Aries Son.
Oh, an example of the snobbish thing is something that happened with his friends. His dad is a nurse who goes to surgery with the doctor he works for. My son commented that he couldn't call his dad because he was in surgery. So, the kids assumed his dad is a surgeon and he let them. I told my son that is the same as lying. He said, but they all treat me different (better) now!
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He also has snobbish traits - and he definitely has NO reason to be a snob. This might be a teenage thing. He is looking into getting a car, but wants a used Mercedes or BMW because he's too good to drive something normal.
And he is condescending. He's an intelligent kid, but wants to talk down to people.
Soooo, any advice on how to get through to him that these qualities are not necessarily attractive? I don't want to change who he is, but I want him to be able to realize and learn how to be the best person he can be.
Okay this pissed me off, First of all, the only problem you should be working on is his anger, which IS a teenage thing but just tell him to be able to control himself, tell him something like "you cant even hold your anger how can u do this and that" that will piss him off and he will start taking control of his emotions, or ask someone else more knowledgeable.
SECONDLY, "too good to drive something [crapy]" you mean? how can you even spit out something like this, what is "normal" for you is a crappy shiet for him, if he wants a BMW or Mercedes let him have it, if you dont have money for it, tell him to get a job, WHY ARE AMERICANS SO STUPID?! why would you teach your own child to live a non luxurious life, you are limiting him, its like he is trying to become a wealthy doctor but you tell him no you are too stupid you will be a farmer like your dad, this is how ignorant this sounds from your side, and really pissed me off, his "snobby" behavior you will never change if you "dont want to change who he is" THIS IS WHAT HE FUKCING IS! Snobby people achieve much more, you need to meet russians see how snobby they are and see how they live here in the united states.
In conclusion, the only thing you have to change is YOUR attitude and figure out how to get him to control his anger, explain to him in a possibly hard way where ANGER and nothing else gets him, show him that sometimes its more beneficial to him to hold his anger and express it in a different way, like revenge, thats what i do, unless its someone close to me then i just let it go.
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Oh, an example of the snobbish thing is something that happened with his friends. His dad is a nurse who goes to surgery with the doctor he works for. My son commented that he couldn't call his dad because he was in surgery. So, the kids assumed his dad is a surgeon and he let them. I told my son that is the same as lying. He said, but they all treat me different (better) now!
I can't believe what I'm reading... WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE FOR YOU WHAT HE SAID TO HIS FRIENDS AND HOW IS THAT SNOBBY IN ANY WAY?? I swear if you were my mom... eh you would probably come to these forums anyway. The point is, get off his ass, only thing you need to teach him is about anger. It drives me insane how close minded you are, can't you see that these qualities are actually BENEFICIAL??!!! You sound like a mom who never gets out of the house and assumes world is full of fairytales and joy, NO ITS ABOUT SHARKS KILLING EACH OTHER! Teach him how to be a good person but don't try to change him, so that when he feels a need to be good he will know how to be it, teach him manners like how to be kind and tell him what people do to apologize properly and etc. and how to keep his mouth shut when appropriate, thats about it.
OMG, Ariesdude!!! You were a lot of help, there.
Yes, I know he has anger. So does my Aries dad. You're pissed off, so I'm assuming you do, too. Must be an Aries thing! I do realize you gave me something to work with and I thank you. I need more advice on that.
I was looking for insight on how to work with that, you gave me some, but I didn't need a lecture! As for the snob thing, he can be who he wants to be! If he wants to be a doctor and go to Timbuktu, he can. If he wants to be a federal judge, he can! If he wants to be a politician (Lord, help him!), he can! He will have those luxurious things one day, but he is a teen right now! He doesn't need the most expensive car he can find! He doesn't realize how expensive repairs and parts for those cars are over here in America.
Values are important, too! Like knowing where money comes from!!!!! He's a go getter and he's willing to work.
To hear it from you, you act like it's okay for him to be a liar! Why is that okay with you?
As for the fairy tale life? Come on!! I work in the professional world and I KNOW there are sharks out there. He is quite prepared for that!
I'm not teaching him to live a non-luxurious life. He lives in a 2500 sq foot house on 6 acres of land! He has everything he needs, but not everything he wants. No kid should get everything they want.
I wanted insight on how to approach him, not a lecture on what a bitch of a mom I am!
Yes, I know he has anger. So does my Aries dad. You're pissed off, so I'm assuming you do, too. Must be an Aries thing! I do realize you gave me something to work with and I thank you. I need more advice on that.
I was looking for insight on how to work with that, you gave me some, but I didn't need a lecture! As for the snob thing, he can be who he wants to be! If he wants to be a doctor and go to Timbuktu, he can. If he wants to be a federal judge, he can! If he wants to be a politician (Lord, help him!), he can! He will have those luxurious things one day, but he is a teen right now! He doesn't need the most expensive car he can find! He doesn't realize how expensive repairs and parts for those cars are over here in America.
Values are important, too! Like knowing where money comes from!!!!! He's a go getter and he's willing to work.
To hear it from you, you act like it's okay for him to be a liar! Why is that okay with you?
As for the fairy tale life? Come on!! I work in the professional world and I KNOW there are sharks out there. He is quite prepared for that!
I'm not teaching him to live a non-luxurious life. He lives in a 2500 sq foot house on 6 acres of land! He has everything he needs, but not everything he wants. No kid should get everything they want.
I wanted insight on how to approach him, not a lecture on what a bitch of a mom I am!
Elle - Here's his chart: Lots of Aries placement! Thank you for looking.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aries 5.05 Ascendant Gemini 23.46
Moon Libra 21.45 II Cancer 16.05
Mercury Aries 18.40 III Leo 8.53
Venus Aries 3.05 IV Virgo 5.34
Mars Virgo 23.31 R V Libra 8.50
Jupiter Aquarius 13.52 VI Scorpio 17.14
Saturn Aries 9.36 VII Sagittarius 23.46
Uranus Aquarius 7.44 VIII Capricorn 16.05
Neptune Capricorn 29.36 IX Aquarius 8.53
Pluto Sagittarius 5.32 R Midheaven Pisces 5.34
Lilith Virgo 0.38 XI Aries 8.50
Asc node Virgo 28.52 XII Taurus 17.14
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aries 5.05 Ascendant Gemini 23.46
Moon Libra 21.45 II Cancer 16.05
Mercury Aries 18.40 III Leo 8.53
Venus Aries 3.05 IV Virgo 5.34
Mars Virgo 23.31 R V Libra 8.50
Jupiter Aquarius 13.52 VI Scorpio 17.14
Saturn Aries 9.36 VII Sagittarius 23.46
Uranus Aquarius 7.44 VIII Capricorn 16.05
Neptune Capricorn 29.36 IX Aquarius 8.53
Pluto Sagittarius 5.32 R Midheaven Pisces 5.34
Lilith Virgo 0.38 XI Aries 8.50
Asc node Virgo 28.52 XII Taurus 17.14
Haha, that guy is proving what a dick he is. Not unlike a few of the painfully cocky aries guy trolls that have visited in the past... When Aries guys are trolls, they are freaking TROLLS.
However, I get why you're concerned. He IS who he is, but at the same time, he needs a reality check. A BMW or a Mercedes? Does he know how much insurance and repairs will cost? Especially with a Mercedes?? He's just being a typical, illogical, "I WANT WHAT I WANT" type of guy.
As for the other areas that you addressed, all you can do is point out things he needs to watch out for. We Aries tend to learn the hard way. *shrugs* He'll grow out of it.
...and hopefully not turn into such a disgusting example like the douchebag above.
However, I get why you're concerned. He IS who he is, but at the same time, he needs a reality check. A BMW or a Mercedes? Does he know how much insurance and repairs will cost? Especially with a Mercedes?? He's just being a typical, illogical, "I WANT WHAT I WANT" type of guy.
As for the other areas that you addressed, all you can do is point out things he needs to watch out for. We Aries tend to learn the hard way. *shrugs* He'll grow out of it.
...and hopefully not turn into such a disgusting example like the douchebag above.
Thanks Rocky Road!
I don't want him to change. I want him to take those wonderful traits and use them for good. But I'm afraid someday he will either steamroll people to get what he wants, learn to lie to get ahead or end up in deep, deep debt. Mostly I want him to be the best person he can be and to grow up to live a happy life with everything he ever wants. He does have a sweet aspect, as do most Aries. And, he has sooooo much potential!
I don't want him to change. I want him to take those wonderful traits and use them for good. But I'm afraid someday he will either steamroll people to get what he wants, learn to lie to get ahead or end up in deep, deep debt. Mostly I want him to be the best person he can be and to grow up to live a happy life with everything he ever wants. He does have a sweet aspect, as do most Aries. And, he has sooooo much potential!
some (hopefully helpful lol) suggestions:
to help him be more grateful, make him do some volunteer work like helping the poor. expose him to people who are less fortunate than him.
to help him quit lying and caring so much about superficial things like status, give him a good pep talk on what's really important in life. encourage him to live his life in an honest way by showing him actual examples of people who came out on top/triumphed by being honest and true to their values and morals (there's so many inspiring books out there that are filled with stories like that).
to help him be more grateful, make him do some volunteer work like helping the poor. expose him to people who are less fortunate than him.
to help him quit lying and caring so much about superficial things like status, give him a good pep talk on what's really important in life. encourage him to live his life in an honest way by showing him actual examples of people who came out on top/triumphed by being honest and true to their values and morals (there's so many inspiring books out there that are filled with stories like that).
@Truecap my son is an aries, he's 7 though. Sometimes he has this smart way of saying something and then turning all innocent like he didnt mean it like that. very intelligent, athletic, sometimes hard headed with a tunnel vision, but overall he's a sweetheart. I'll hit you up for pointers when he hits puberty 🙂
Posted by aiyanatb
@Truecap my son is an aries, he's 7 though. Sometimes he has this smart way of saying something and then turning all innocent like he didnt mean it like that. very intelligent, athletic, sometimes hard headed with a tunnel vision, but overall he's a sweetheart. I'll hit you up for pointers when he hits puberty 🙂
Since he wants a car already i think he has hit his puberty you may share your wisdom now
I was too lazy to read what u all wrote btu i read what the someariesdude said and i have to agree with him i got pretty pissed off too at how u viewed your sun, give him the car, it wont look like you are giving him wwhatever he wants and spoiling him, make him work for it in some way like school or actual job, all it will do for him is get him used to a higher standard of life, if u teach him to be poor and cheap and drive a piece of shit then thats how he will live the rest of his life, he wants BMW or mercedes let him have it, if it breaks let him pay the bills and let him learn a lesson, u dont know aries we will nag u until we get it, i actually loved how my grandma raised me, i wanted a bike but i felt sorry to pay money to have have a good bike id rather pay less, then she yeleld at me and said no you will pay more and you will have the best one she even added her money and i had the coolest thing ever and everyone was jealous, and that made me think hmmm i actually like this if i keep working for things i will keep getting the best things, just MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT, not something like "jimmy if u dont get A in math ur not getting a car" make him get a perfect GPA or hospital volunteering throughout summer.. If you do get him a shitty car he will be disappointed and he wont drive it just keep that in mind in case u wanna make it a surprise. I saw a video on youtube where a girl got a car for her bday and it was some old toyota she was so happy but i immidiately put myself in her place and i was like "holy fukcing shit i wouldnt even sit in that" its mean and snobby but i swear thats how i felt i felt extremely disgusted, its something u cant change unless you make him into not caring about a thing then he will drive a freaking horse
I know at-least 5-6 Aries people, and none of them took the easy way or short-cut through life. They all worked hard to get what they wanted, so I don't think that will be something you'll really have to worry about with him. Not saying that I know ALL Aries, but the bunch that I do know are pretty honest, straightforward, and hard-working people, so as long as you keep instilling good things in him, he'll be okay. He may grow up to want this/that right now, but he'll most likely find an honest way to get it.
KOA and the OP are the same person
Thanks yall!
I have no doubt he will make something of his life and be successful. He has that inner drive. My Aries dad ran a very successful business with gut instincts, intelligence, drive and only a 9th grade education (and some shrewdness and ruthlessness thrown in there, too - I've seen it). On the whole, I'm very proud of him.
I told him if he works for the money, he can get whatever car he wants, but he could get a much nicer, newer sports car for what he would spend on an old Mercedes/BMW. His choice.
To get a taste of the less fortunate, he goes on a youth mission trip with the Church every summer.
As far as looking "perfect" he likes to wear ties and starched shirts! I mean, how many teenagers CHOOSE to wear a tie? lol! Doesn't wear them to school, but he does to church. Nothing wrong with it, just surprising to most people.
For those of you who felt like I saw my son in a negative light, you are wrong. I just wanted advice on how to direct the negative aspects into positive attributes. Here is what is great about him:
He has this charm that is unbelievable. When he was about 7-8-9 years old, I got home from work and he said "Mom, you have worked hard all day and you are tired so there is no reason you should have to cook. Why don't we just order pizza." Yeah, charmed me into getting what he wanted. lol!
He is wonderful with elderly people and very respectful to them. Every elder in our town just loves him!
He helps out around the house without me having to ask him - mowing, trimming tree limbs, cleaning, cooks me supper sometimes, etc.
When he does say something mean and hurtful or disrespectful, he will usually come back an hour or so later and apologize. Then we can really talk about it. So I must be doing something right! (My dad NEVER apologizes).
I'm proud of my son! He's a good kid, doesn't get into trouble and knows how to be respectful.
I have no doubt he will make something of his life and be successful. He has that inner drive. My Aries dad ran a very successful business with gut instincts, intelligence, drive and only a 9th grade education (and some shrewdness and ruthlessness thrown in there, too - I've seen it). On the whole, I'm very proud of him.
I told him if he works for the money, he can get whatever car he wants, but he could get a much nicer, newer sports car for what he would spend on an old Mercedes/BMW. His choice.
To get a taste of the less fortunate, he goes on a youth mission trip with the Church every summer.
As far as looking "perfect" he likes to wear ties and starched shirts! I mean, how many teenagers CHOOSE to wear a tie? lol! Doesn't wear them to school, but he does to church. Nothing wrong with it, just surprising to most people.
For those of you who felt like I saw my son in a negative light, you are wrong. I just wanted advice on how to direct the negative aspects into positive attributes. Here is what is great about him:
He has this charm that is unbelievable. When he was about 7-8-9 years old, I got home from work and he said "Mom, you have worked hard all day and you are tired so there is no reason you should have to cook. Why don't we just order pizza." Yeah, charmed me into getting what he wanted. lol!
He is wonderful with elderly people and very respectful to them. Every elder in our town just loves him!
He helps out around the house without me having to ask him - mowing, trimming tree limbs, cleaning, cooks me supper sometimes, etc.
When he does say something mean and hurtful or disrespectful, he will usually come back an hour or so later and apologize. Then we can really talk about it. So I must be doing something right! (My dad NEVER apologizes).
I'm proud of my son! He's a good kid, doesn't get into trouble and knows how to be respectful.
Posted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecream
KOA and the OP are the same person
WTF—click to expand
LOL
I believe she meant KOA and someariesdude .. check the IP links of "both" young and douchetastic Aries dudes.
Yeah, wrong thread. This site has been bullshit lately with posting responses, and I can't even count how many times I tried to post something in this thread. He was the OP in the OTHER thread. But yes, KOA and that douche are the same douche.
Stupid Aries are a scary, scary thing. Gawd.
Stupid Aries are a scary, scary thing. Gawd.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Yeah, wrong thread. This site has been bullshit lately with posting responses, and I can't even count how many times I tried to post something in this thread. He was the OP in the OTHER thread. But yes, KOA and that douche are the same douche.
Stupid Aries are a scary, scary thing. Gawd.
Update on the car:
I'm getting a gas efficient car and giving him the Expedition (no its not new, but its still nice)! He seems excited about that!
I'm getting a gas efficient car and giving him the Expedition (no its not new, but its still nice)! He seems excited about that!
as long as he is excited, don't bust his bubble in any way
Posted by NeferPosted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecream
KOA and the OP are the same person
WTF—
LOL
I believe she meant KOA and someariesdude .. check the IP links of "both" young and douchetastic Aries dudes.click to expand
are you high on crack?
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Soooo, any advice on how to get through to him that these qualities are not necessarily attractive? I don't want to change who he is, but I want him to be able to realize and learn how to be the best person he can be.
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