Rc2213
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Pls Help Aries Female Pls Virgo ex bf
He's still trying to figure out what he wants for himself. Two of my good friends are in a relationship, an Areis woman and Virgo guy. The Aries woman by has been the driving emotional force behind the relationship,while the Virgo man has figured out what he truly wants. It sounds as if you're in a similar situation.
One thing to know is that Virgo guys are looking for the ideal woman for them, the person who loves them unconditionally. It's funny that you brought up his mother because generally speaking Virgo guys will hold their mothers as a template for the ideal woman. This is not done in a creepy way, but know that your accomplishments need to match/outshine hers.
The Virgo guy is probably torn between his head and his heart. He obviously feels affection towards you and his logical mind KNOWS that he will not find someone who loves him as hard as you do. However he's nervous that he may make a hasty decision my settling with you. Virgo is Libra's neighbor after all, so they also have problems with FOMO. Their sense of self preservation usually clears this away though.
Remember that Aries moves A LOT faster than Virgo. Aries and Virgos can love truly, but Virgos have a lot more to consider than the Aries' "devil may care" mindest will allow. Aries' hearts can rule their heads while Virgos are the opposite. This means a Virgo can move a lot slower and appear more cautious than an Aries in a relationship.
Your Virgo's analytical mind is weighing the details or your relaitonship. He's 27 and you're 30. You have a child and he doesn't. He's still young, so he may not be entirely ready to settle down and have a family yet. With you he may feel a bit trapped because he's still trying to figure out his career and his goals, which are very important to earth signs (especially Virgos).
A man who does not feel secure in his goals and purpose in life will have hard time being 100% present emotionally. As a guy his libido is very much tied into his purpose in life. As long as he feels internally fulfilled, he can present the best version of himself. However if he feels shaky, he may have a hard time maintaining a romantic relationship.
So what do you in this case? Well my Aries friend remained consistent in her love for my Virgo friend, but she lightened up a bit on her expectations. She focused on her education goals while supporting his career goals. In fact she literally supported him for a little bit while he got his act together. Once he did, the roles switched and he supported her. They've been dating for a long time now and only recently reached a place where they are both comfortable talking about marriage. This worked well for the Virgo guy's practical mindset.
Basically you can't rush a Virgo into anything. All you can do is be consistent and voice your needs as they arise. Understand that a Virgo also wants to be 100% for a person who is 100% with them. They are VERY critical of themselves in this manner. So don't nag or criticize him (unless it's constructive) too much, but instead offer encouraging words of support. Virgos may refuse help/compliments, but love being acknowledged for their efforts.
Also know that Virgos may have a hard time with PDA and outward displays of affection in public. Even in private, they may not be as showy as you'd life. This will take time for them to be comfortable doing. Don't take it as an insult if he doesn't feel comfortable being sentimental or gushy.
One thing to know is that Virgo guys are looking for the ideal woman for them, the person who loves them unconditionally. It's funny that you brought up his mother because generally speaking Virgo guys will hold their mothers as a template for the ideal woman. This is not done in a creepy way, but know that your accomplishments need to match/outshine hers.
The Virgo guy is probably torn between his head and his heart. He obviously feels affection towards you and his logical mind KNOWS that he will not find someone who loves him as hard as you do. However he's nervous that he may make a hasty decision my settling with you. Virgo is Libra's neighbor after all, so they also have problems with FOMO. Their sense of self preservation usually clears this away though.
Remember that Aries moves A LOT faster than Virgo. Aries and Virgos can love truly, but Virgos have a lot more to consider than the Aries' "devil may care" mindest will allow. Aries' hearts can rule their heads while Virgos are the opposite. This means a Virgo can move a lot slower and appear more cautious than an Aries in a relationship.
Your Virgo's analytical mind is weighing the details or your relaitonship. He's 27 and you're 30. You have a child and he doesn't. He's still young, so he may not be entirely ready to settle down and have a family yet. With you he may feel a bit trapped because he's still trying to figure out his career and his goals, which are very important to earth signs (especially Virgos).
A man who does not feel secure in his goals and purpose in life will have hard time being 100% present emotionally. As a guy his libido is very much tied into his purpose in life. As long as he feels internally fulfilled, he can present the best version of himself. However if he feels shaky, he may have a hard time maintaining a romantic relationship.
So what do you in this case? Well my Aries friend remained consistent in her love for my Virgo friend, but she lightened up a bit on her expectations. She focused on her education goals while supporting his career goals. In fact she literally supported him for a little bit while he got his act together. Once he did, the roles switched and he supported her. They've been dating for a long time now and only recently reached a place where they are both comfortable talking about marriage. This worked well for the Virgo guy's practical mindset.
Basically you can't rush a Virgo into anything. All you can do is be consistent and voice your needs as they arise. Understand that a Virgo also wants to be 100% for a person who is 100% with them. They are VERY critical of themselves in this manner. So don't nag or criticize him (unless it's constructive) too much, but instead offer encouraging words of support. Virgos may refuse help/compliments, but love being acknowledged for their efforts.
Also know that Virgos may have a hard time with PDA and outward displays of affection in public. Even in private, they may not be as showy as you'd life. This will take time for them to be comfortable doing. Don't take it as an insult if he doesn't feel comfortable being sentimental or gushy.
@Chuckem, thank you for all your words. My son's dad is not in the pic he was abusive to us and I left and didn't look back. My ex has wanted my son to call him daddy and his entire family loves me. They all told to not give up because he's struggling at work to not give up, he is emotional he is always depressed and unhappy in the one who tries to pull him out. I know that I loved him best and I took care of him aswell durijg this whole process. And I being stubborn and should I just give up.
What you’ve done is love someone more than you love yourself and most people find that pathetic. I cringed reading this. This is all wrong. You have low self esteem and its making you allow this bad behavior. You make him food every morning and walk him to his car? I thought you only had one child?
Why do you care more about him then you do yourself and your child? No man is worth this.
Is he even providing for you?
What is he giving you or doing for you, that you think you need him??
And yes the relationship will always be unbalanced because he know you love him more than he loves you and because you’re older.
Why do you care more about him then you do yourself and your child? No man is worth this.
Is he even providing for you?
What is he giving you or doing for you, that you think you need him??
And yes the relationship will always be unbalanced because he know you love him more than he loves you and because you’re older.
Yeah he does he does a lot for me and my son I am a great mother. I am not here for anyone to bash me. He does provide had always been amazing and a great provider pays the rent, refuses to take my money so I take care of him. And I buy all the groceries. I am of a different culture and my aunt raised me to be that way.
Posted by Rc2213I keep it real.
Yeah he does he does a lot for me and my son I am a great mother. I am not here for anyone to bash me. He does provide had always been amazing and a great provider pays the rent, refuses to take my money so I take care of him. And I buy all the groceries. I am of a different culture and my aunt raised me to be that way.
So if you can’t handle that don’t post on a public forum.
I think what you wrote is pathetic personally and you created all of this.
I don’t care about your culture, women aren’t supposed to chase men. He senses your desperation and thus treats you accordingly.
Running behind a 27 year old is pathetic as a woman and as a mother.
Thank you for your advice
Posted by Rc2213In this case it's like I said, a man's libido is tied to his purpose. The Virgo guy must feel accomplished before taking the next step. If he lacks that feeling of fulfillment, he may push all others away until he figures out his plan. If a Virgo feels like they are failing or not meeting certain expectations, they will shut down. Just remember that he's taking a LOT into account, possibly even future plans that you're not seeing. That's because Virgos can see several steps ahead.
@Chuckem, thank you for all your words. My son's dad is not in the pic he was abusive to us and I left and didn't look back. My ex has wanted my son to call him daddy and his entire family loves me. They all told to not give up because he's struggling at work to not give up, he is emotional he is always depressed and unhappy in the one who tries to pull him out. I know that I loved him best and I took care of him aswell durijg this whole process. And I being stubborn and should I just give up.
Virgo energy tends to put a lot of pressure on a person to be impossibly perfect. We (I'm a Virgo Moon) can obsess over the intricacies and the details in our minds until our eyes bleed. So the best thing you can do is be patient and supportive. Offer encouragement and constructive criticism. I won't lie to you, the path between an Aries and a Virgo is not easy. It takes communication and understanding. As the Aries you may find that you are the emotional backbone for a while.
To give you some comfort though, know that my Aries and Virgo friends have been dating for over a decade. Though the Aries woman was honest about her feeligns from day one, it took the Virgo guy a few years before he expressed his love. They lived separately and now live together. They are the longest relationship each other have had. However the Aries woman had to fight for the relationship at times and be very supportive. So if you feel this is worth it, then I encourage you to be patient (which I know can be hard for someone with Aries energh, but it's possible).
If this relationship doesn't appear to be working though, don't get stuck. Aries energy can be stubborn about what it wants. However there are plenty of men out there who DO have their lives together. Make sure your needs are being met as well.
He’s not happy with himself ... time to move on. He’ll just suck u in and drain your soul 😈
He sounds like he loves u but isn't ready for the kind of commitment you're ready for my fellow Aries lady .. aries & Virgos can definitely work but his mind isn't there quite yet
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Your story is very familiar, but from the view of the other side. If you guys have hard time and struggle, not make it worse to pressure him with insecurity etc.
He may not took it any longer.
Him turned away is just Lack of commitment, and dedication. If you re worth, no one will leave you.just because having tough time people not give up on each other. I am aries male, and loyal to death and take no shit especially insecurity issues, however understand each other is something we can do for the relationship and it always helps from disaster. One always has to ask themselves, how much they can do for situations to make it better? If everyone would think that way, would be much less problem in relationships
Your story is very familiar, but from the view of the other side. If you guys have hard time and struggle, not make it worse to pressure him with insecurity etc.
He may not took it any longer.
Him turned away is just Lack of commitment, and dedication. If you re worth, no one will leave you.just because having tough time people not give up on each other. I am aries male, and loyal to death and take no shit especially insecurity issues, however understand each other is something we can do for the relationship and it always helps from disaster. One always has to ask themselves, how much they can do for situations to make it better? If everyone would think that way, would be much less problem in relationships
Posted by SofiaV87Yes, he just got tired of the situation and simply giving up.
He sounds like he loves u but isn't ready for the kind of commitment you're ready for my fellow Aries lady .. aries & Virgos can definitely work but his mind isn't there quite yet
Posted by PotHeadVirgo27A woman who is in love and allows her heart to rule her head can get down like this. Any sign. It’s sad to see tho.
Damn I didn't know Aries got down like this. This may be her culture though so then again maybe they don't.
What culture are you from Original Poster?
I hate to say this with the wall of post but, it's clear to me that you're not telling the whole story.
You only allude to your behavior.... jealous and insecure...but, not psycho? Otherwise, you make him seem bipolar.
You only allude to your behavior.... jealous and insecure...but, not psycho? Otherwise, you make him seem bipolar.
Posted by hazyFloWhy's that?Posted by ChuckcemI’m honestly glad you posted on the psyche of a Virgo man but it definitely made me cringe reading this lol
He's still trying to figure out what he wants for himself. Two of my good friends are in a relationship, an Areis woman and Virgo guy. The Aries woman by has been the driving emotional force behind the relationship,while the Virgo man has figured out what he truly wants. It sounds as if you're in a similar situation.
One thing to know is that Virgo guys are looking for the ideal woman for them, the person who loves them unconditionally. It's funny that you brought up his mother because generally speaking Virgo guys will hold their mothers as a template for the ideal woman. This is not done in a creepy way, but know that your accomplishments need to match/outshine hers.
The Virgo guy is probably torn between his head and his heart. He obviously feels affection towards you and his logical mind KNOWS that he will not find someone who loves him as hard as you do. However he's nervous that he may make a hasty decision my settling with you. Virgo is Libra's neighbor after all, so they also have problems with FOMO. Their sense of self preservation usually clears this away though.
Remember that Aries moves A LOT faster than Virgo. Aries and Virgos can love truly, but Virgos have a lot more to consider than the Aries' "devil may care" mindest will allow. Aries' hearts can rule their heads while Virgos are the opposite. This means a Virgo can move a lot slower and appear more cautious than an Aries in a relationship.
Your Virgo's analytical mind is weighing the details or your relaitonship. He's 27 and you're 30. You have a child and he doesn't. He's still young, so he may not be entirely ready to settle down and have a family yet. With you he may feel a bit trapped because he's still trying to figure out his career and his goals, which are very important to earth signs (especially Virgos).
A man who does not feel secure in his goals and purpose in life will have hard time being 100% present emotionally. As a guy his libido is very much tied into his purpose in life. As long as he feels internally fulfilled, he can present the best version of himself. However if he feels shaky, he may have a hard time maintaining a romantic relationship.
So what do you in this case? Well my Aries friend remained consistent in her love for my Virgo friend, but she lightened up a bit on her expectations. She focused on her education goals while supporting his career goals. In fact she literally supported him for a little bit while he got his act together. Once he did, the roles switched and he supported her. They've been dating for a long time now and only recently reached a place where they are both comfortable talking about marriage. This worked well for the Virgo guy's practical mindset.
Basically you can't rush a Virgo into anything. All you can do is be consistent and voice your needs as they arise. Understand that a Virgo also wants to be 100% for a person who is 100% with them. They are VERY critical of themselves in this manner. So don't nag or criticize him (unless it's constructive) too much, but instead offer encouraging words of support. Virgos may refuse help/compliments, but love being acknowledged for their efforts.
Also know that Virgos may have a hard time with PDA and outward displays of affection in public. Even in private, they may not be as showy as you'd life. This will take time for them to be comfortable doing. Don't take it as an insult if he doesn't feel comfortable being sentimental or gushy.click to expand
Posted by hazyFloI would say that not all Virgos are super uptight, but the ones I've known have definitely run hot/cold on the women in their lives.Posted by ChuckcemIt just seems exhausting to be in a relationship with a man who’s standards do not exist, it’s an illusion, especially with Virgo being the opposite sign of Pisces, the dreamers. It’s like walking on constant eggshells, I’d prefer someone who makes me feel comfortable not constantly judged. It’s like you don’t necessarily know where you stand, and that makes me uneasy. I believe it’s the mutable energy compared to my fixed.Posted by hazyFloWhy's that?Posted by ChuckcemI’m honestly glad you posted on the psyche of a Virgo man but it definitely made me cringe reading this lol
He's still trying to figure out what he wants for himself. Two of my good friends are in a relationship, an Areis woman and Virgo guy. The Aries woman by has been the driving emotional force behind the relationship,while the Virgo man has figured out what he truly wants. It sounds as if you're in a similar situation.
One thing to know is that Virgo guys are looking for the ideal woman for them, the person who loves them unconditionally. It's funny that you brought up his mother because generally speaking Virgo guys will hold their mothers as a template for the ideal woman. This is not done in a creepy way, but know that your accomplishments need to match/outshine hers.
The Virgo guy is probably torn between his head and his heart. He obviously feels affection towards you and his logical mind KNOWS that he will not find someone who loves him as hard as you do. However he's nervous that he may make a hasty decision my settling with you. Virgo is Libra's neighbor after all, so they also have problems with FOMO. Their sense of self preservation usually clears this away though.
Remember that Aries moves A LOT faster than Virgo. Aries and Virgos can love truly, but Virgos have a lot more to consider than the Aries' "devil may care" mindest will allow. Aries' hearts can rule their heads while Virgos are the opposite. This means a Virgo can move a lot slower and appear more cautious than an Aries in a relationship.
Your Virgo's analytical mind is weighing the details or your relaitonship. He's 27 and you're 30. You have a child and he doesn't. He's still young, so he may not be entirely ready to settle down and have a family yet. With you he may feel a bit trapped because he's still trying to figure out his career and his goals, which are very important to earth signs (especially Virgos).
A man who does not feel secure in his goals and purpose in life will have hard time being 100% present emotionally. As a guy his libido is very much tied into his purpose in life. As long as he feels internally fulfilled, he can present the best version of himself. However if he feels shaky, he may have a hard time maintaining a romantic relationship.
So what do you in this case? Well my Aries friend remained consistent in her love for my Virgo friend, but she lightened up a bit on her expectations. She focused on her education goals while supporting his career goals. In fact she literally supported him for a little bit while he got his act together. Once he did, the roles switched and he supported her. They've been dating for a long time now and only recently reached a place where they are both comfortable talking about marriage. This worked well for the Virgo guy's practical mindset.
Basically you can't rush a Virgo into anything. All you can do is be consistent and voice your needs as they arise. Understand that a Virgo also wants to be 100% for a person who is 100% with them. They are VERY critical of themselves in this manner. So don't nag or criticize him (unless it's constructive) too much, but instead offer encouraging words of support. Virgos may refuse help/compliments, but love being acknowledged for their efforts.
Also know that Virgos may have a hard time with PDA and outward displays of affection in public. Even in private, they may not be as showy as you'd life. This will take time for them to be comfortable doing. Don't take it as an insult if he doesn't feel comfortable being sentimental or gushy.
I really enjoy earth men but this is why I’m completely down for a bull guy. I find them a lot more laid back compared to Virgo or cap.click to expand
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