Split Personality

Not as an official diagnosis but do any other Aries feel like they go from kind to psycho if their efforts are belittled when doing a favor to someone? I was noticing a bit of a trend in unappreciative people Aries have dealt with in other treads.

When Aries season comes in I feel a little more aggressive then usual; however because of it I also feel like I am having the best days ever (maybe cause I tell more people where to go, how to get their and to not let their mom bite them on the descent down there).

Yes, I've noticed this with my mother. She's a very generous person, and she always seems to be doing something for somebody else- but whether she likes to admit it or not, she likes recognition for her good deeds. When someone acts like her efforts have been miniscule or like she hasn't really tried very hard all hell breaks loose. Aries likes a bit of appreciation- and it can really hurt them if all they receive is criticism from my personal experience.

However, I wouldn't say it's a split personality- just a very sudden and extreme reaction to disappointment. One which generally contrasts their normal behavior.

Aw thank you @xdimplez !

I've found that everything you post is really on point aswell 🙂

Sounds like me. It makes me so upset when I do things for people and they turn around and shit on me, as if I wasn't always there for them and like I didn't just give them the world and more. But that's normal, right? Who wouldn't be upset over things like that?

Apr 7 Aries here...Oh my gosh Flavia yes this is true, I do this all the time and it's what meow says....disappointment, for me its "why aren't they as enthusiastic as I am"?

Not that I want acknowledgement for my wonderfulness, but more like "their" lack of enthusiasism...not sure if I spelled that right!

No ariesintrovert, everyone is not like we Aries, people look at me like I have two heads when I get the disappointed attitude.....like they are thinking "what's the big deal"?

Posted by MeowScorpii
Aries likes a bit of appreciation- and it can really hurt them if all they receive is criticism from my personal experience.

It is not even about that appreciation nor the criticism in some cases, though I can see this. It is about the lack of decency some have when you go out of the way for them. I think everyone likes a little appreciation.🙂

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Sounds like me. It makes me so upset when I do things for people and they turn around and shit on me, as if I wasn't always there for them and like I didn't just give them the world and more. But that's normal, right? Who wouldn't be upset over things like that?

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A lot of people experience it differently. I have noticed that people can see Aries as docile until that explosion and think them irrational or out of context, but there is usually a few layers behind the blow up that led to the extreme reaction in us. Every time I have had the fuse lite I knew the person did so with intent and had understanding of their actions. Don't know if that is a lot of us..

"It is not even about that appreciation nor the criticism in some cases, though I can see this. It is about the lack of decency some have when you go out of the way for them. I think everyone likes a little appreciation."

This...yes yes yes!!!!!!

Yup. Sinking such efforts into some unappreciative asshole who just takes advantage of your kindness and in turn shows you mean nothing to them would make anyone angry.

I blame society for being entitled, selfish and apathetic. People expect all sorts of things and in turn, feel that they can put forth zero effort in doing so.

Then you hear "your expectations are too high of others." Really? Expecting a common level of decency of others is a high expectation? Merely expecting someone to be a friend in return is a high expectation?

If that's the case, then by all means, asteroid strike us down!

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Yup. Sinking such efforts into some unappreciative asshole who just takes advantage of your kindness and in turn shows you mean nothing to them would make anyone angry.

I blame society for being entitled, selfish and apathetic. People expect all sorts of things and in turn, feel that they can put forth zero effort in doing so.

Then you hear "your expectations are too high of others." Really? Expecting a common level of decency of others is a high expectation? Merely expecting someone to be a friend in return is a high expectation?

If that's the case, then by all means, asteroid strike us down!

Yes, come on!!

A simple thank you would suffice too... what ever happened to manners??

yesss i agree completely i cant help it though im very generous and i hat when no one appreciates it bjut sadly i cant hold a grudge so and everyone knows that so they just come back around me and butter me up and im right back to helping them again

OMG!! Yes, agree with what everyone has said. I can't stand it when I go out of my way to help, offer advice when it's asked, truly be there for a friend or work hard on a relationship when in love and then WHAM!!!! - nothing in return...no thanks, no "gee you're insightful"...or even worse: THEY DON'T LISTEN!! Whether it's a day later or a month later and they're bringing the same stuff up again that you already addressed...THAT is frustrating and then when I blow up or my expectations are called in to question...that just adds to the frustration.

I'm venting as well...in a relationship right now and I'm making all kind of efforts to keep it afloat, his cancer moon is a B(&!ch to deal with (Sag sun)...I love the guy and we've been together for 6 years, but damn he's got some baggage that I think just can't be overcome as much as I try to help.