super confused by ex aries mans email

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So my ex aries male and I broke up a few months ago, stayed friends, then we decided to not talk for a while and give each other space. So I could accept he didn't want to date anymore and get over my feelings for him and such. Last night I emailed him a message saying I missed our talks, missed having him as a friend. And I mentioned I still really care about him and hope he's doing well. It had been a few weeks since we wrote eachother so I figured we would catch up and just talk briefly. About two minutes after I send it I get a response from him saying "I love you too" , and since I hadn't said I love you in the message I found this off but also thought maybe the fact I said I missed him and still care for him he could have confused my words as saying I loved him. So I went to sleep and responded when I woke up "Do you really still feel that way??" and he said "feel what way?" and I said "the love you message" and he just proceeded to question what I was talking about and acted confused. He said he didn't send it to me and unless his friend took his phone when he was asleep (a mutual friend of ours I would never see doing something like this) that he doesn't know how it got sent. At first I thought it was him sending it to me on accident, assuming he has a new girlfriend or something but when I said that he denied that too. Because of our status I don't think he would lie about dating someone new and in the past he has always been one of those brutally honest and sometimes cold when it comes to saying how he feels and what not. But I also think if he felt this way he wouldn't be afraid to say it. I don't know what to think, also this was the only aries I ever dated so I don't have experience with other aries men.

Is it my ex hiding the fact he has moved on or some mind games??

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So you basically write that he's possibly lying and then you go on and find inconsistencies? You're trying to find positive affirmations that are possibly not there.

It doesn't matter if he's dating someone else. He didn't contact you, you did. It's been a few months and he has yet to try and get back together. So he has possibly moved on.

Whatever the case is, whether he met someone else or is playing games, why do you want him in your life? He's clearly not a good friend is he's playing games and if he's moved on and wanted space, why do you wish to be friends when clearly YOU havent?
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So my ex aries male and I broke up a few months ago, stayed friends, then we decided to not talk for a while and give each other space. So I could accept he didn't want to date anymore and get over my feelings for him and such. Last night I emailed him a message saying I missed our talks, missed having him as a friend. And I mentioned I still really care about him and hope he's doing well. It had been a few weeks since we wrote eachother so I figured we would catch up and just talk briefly. About two minutes after I send it I get a response from him saying "I love you too" , and since I hadn't said I love you in the message I found this off but also thought maybe the fact I said I missed him and still care for him he could have confused my words as saying I loved him. So I went to sleep and responded when I woke up "Do you really still feel that way??" and he said "feel what way?" and I said "the love you message" and he just proceeded to question what I was talking about and acted confused. He said he didn't send it to me and unless his friend took his phone when he was asleep (a mutual friend of ours I would never see doing something like this) that he doesn't know how it got sent. At first I thought it was him sending it to me on accident, assuming he has a new girlfriend or something but when I said that he denied that too. Because of our status I don't think he would lie about dating someone new and in the past he has always been one of those brutally honest and sometimes cold when it comes to saying how he feels and what not. But I also think if he felt this way he wouldn't be afraid to say it. I don't know what to think, also this was the only aries I ever dated so I don't have experience with other aries men.

Is it my ex hiding the fact he has moved on or some mind games??


It doesn't matter...none of it.

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Yeah he meant to send it to someone else. He denies the text because he's not done with you yet.

But if he loves someone doesn't that make him done with me?
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It does.

But you're not at the stage yet to accept this. The other posters are right. It doesn't matter, none of it matters but I know it matters to you. The pain. The hurt. The longing to be with him. First of all, most Aries only care about 1 thing. Themselves and their reflection.

So, he will keep you around for SELFISH purposes if you don't make that final decision to LET HIM GO. The choice is yours, weep now and be happy later, or be happy and content for his "friendship" now but when it all comes crashing down, your heart will be crushed and you'll cry a river full of tears for months until you heal from it thoroughly, which inevitably will impact how successful your next relationship will be, because of being damaged from this one.

Your choice.
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Yeah he meant to send it to someone else. He denies the text because he's not done with you yet.

But if he loves someone doesn't that make him done with me?
Not necessarily.
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For whatever reason he texted me this morning saying he isn't seeing someone but sent the message just to see my reaction. Don't really see how that is positive so I told him to leave me alone. Just seems really childish.
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Yeah he meant to send it to someone else. He denies the text because he's not done with you yet.

But if he loves someone doesn't that make him done with me?
Not necessarily.

For whatever reason he texted me this morning saying he isn't seeing someone but sent the message just to see my reaction. Don't really see how that is positive so I told him to leave me alone. Just seems really childish.

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Ewww....head games

He sounds very immature

Stay away
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Yeah he meant to send it to someone else. He denies the text because he's not done with you yet.

But if he loves someone doesn't that make him done with me?
Not necessarily.

For whatever reason he texted me this morning saying he isn't seeing someone but sent the message just to see my reaction. Don't really see how that is positive so I told him to leave me alone. Just seems really childish.

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So he lied about sending it at first. It always makes me wonder, if your willing to lie about small bullshit things what else are you lying about??